If there was advice that I wish I’d received two years ago when my relationship with my long-term live-in partner began dissolving and I eventually became homeless, cat-less, best friend-less, broke, and the mortified new owner of a single bed crammed into my 76-year-old great aunt’s home study, it would be to give myself plenty of time and space to mourn before charging ahead into the future. Even though in my case, losing it all was voluntary; it was The Right Thing To Do and The Best For All Involved. You can still grieve something that you don’t want back.

So you might be lost and weepy for some time yet, and I think it’s fine. Be sad about losing the best parts of what you had because they meant something, they helped shape who you are right now. But also give yourself a deadline. Pick a date in the not-so-distant future where you’ll make every effort to stop grieving what you’ve lost and start focusing on everything you have to gain. Which is so much! There’s a whole new world waiting for you and it’s filled with rad people and adventures.

anonymous asked:

Hey to the people in break ups, don't worry, when I got broken up with for the first time I thought it was the end of the world and I thought the person was the one for me it really really felt like it but honestly if someone treats you bad they aren't the one! There is someone out there for you that will always treat you good and never be flaky and make you feel like the best person in the world! Just take time to pamper yourself and don't try and rush it! I hope everyone has a great day


I stayed up until 4:30AM reading my old diaries. And now I’m reading old texts. And all I wanna know is why the fuck did I put up with that for so long? Why did I let you treat me like an option? Like yeah there were moments when you pretended pretty well. But most of the time you couldn’t have given less of a shit. Why the fuck did I do that to myself? And why the fuck do you think it’s okay to keep coming back??

Breakup advice from HIMYM
  • Ted:Everyone has an opinion on how long it takes to recover from a breakup.
  • Lily:Half the length of the relationship.
  • Marshall:One week for every month you were together.
  • Robin:Exactly 10,000 drinks, however long that takes.
  • Barney:You can’t measure something like this in time; there’s a series of steps—from her bed to the front door. Bam! Out of there. Neeeeext!
I never understood why you left me, but now I understand it was the best thing to ever happen to me.
—  Pain told me everything. (c.g.)

Mad at an ex for cheating? Have their facebook password? Don’t post things so that they obviously know you’ve been messing with it and change their password. Just casually and slowly start liking all the Minion pages on Facebook. they’ll figure it out sooner or later, but it will be hell before that.