Not all toxic people are cruel and uncaring. Some of them love us dearly. Many of them have good intentions. Most are toxic to our being simply because their needs and way of existing in the world force us to compromise ourselves and our happiness. They aren’t inherently bad people, but they aren’t the right people for us. And as hard as it is, we have to let them go. Life is hard enough without being around people who bring you down, and as much as you care, you can’t destroy yourself for the sake of someone else. You have to make your wellbeing a priority. Whether that means breaking up with someone you care about, loving a family member from a distance, letting go of a friend, or removing yourself from a situation that feels painful — you have every right to leave and create a safer space for yourself.

It’s okay to miss someone that meant a lot to you, but be confident with where you are and who you’ll become.

Why Breaking Up With a Friend is One of the Most Difficult Things to Do

Originally posted by myfavoritecolourblack

My Friend, I Still Wish You Well, But I Need To Say Goodbye To You

If life has taught me one thing, it’s that the relationships you have are the most precious things you can possess. When life has a habit of turning upside down it’s the close relationships that are there to support you and drag you back out again.

I’m not perfect. I can be a bit stubborn, a bit ignorant and I’ve made my fair amount of mistakes in the past. I’ve hurt people I never meant to hurt through my own selfishness. Some friendships have lasted and some haven’t. I always expected you to be in my life because you’re my oldest friend but you’ve taught me that some people are just not destined to stay in my life.

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I have waited a long time to love someone who isn’t him
and I don’t know what this is yet
but it’s getting easier to see myself every morning
without spitting in the mirror
the only body I find in my bed anymore is my own
and the breeze that comes in is just from an open window
it is no longer his absence that haunts me
and the blanket is just something to keep me warm
it is no longer his arms that I reach for
my mouth chews its food like it’s routine
but sometimes I surprise myself by enjoying it
and with that everything else follows
I can find solace in books because their words are not his
I can breathe in the open air because this space is not his
I can smile without permission because my happiness is not his
and I don’t know what this is yet
but I think I just caught myself healing.
—  Heartbreaks aren’t canyons, you won’t erode into nothing
How To Get Over Your Ex

1. Take them down from that pedestal – even if they were great, they still had lots of flaws and were less than perfect.

2. Recognise that it is over – and actively decide to leave the past behind and move on with your life.

3. Don’t contact them at all. It is hard to move on, and to start again, if you keep them in your life.

4. Avoid the places you know they tend to be; and only see mutual friends when they are not around.

5. Go out with your friends, don’t stay at home on your own. If you’re out having fun you will think of them less often.

Okay, we didn’t work, and all memories to tell you the truth aren’t good. But sometimes there were good times. Love was good. I loved your crooked sleep beside me and never dreamed afraid. There should be stars for great wars like ours.
—  Sandra CisnerosOne Last Poem for Richard
Scientists Asked 5,500 Americans To Reveal Their 'Relationship Deal Breakers' — Here's What They Learned

Originally posted by thisismedating-blog

A series of studies on “relationship deal breakers” was released last year, which exposes what are the top three deal breakers for both men and women. Anything from lazy to needy to distance plays a role. Where do you land?

See the table chart below.

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there’s a piece of my heart that still belongs to you, and I think it will always belong to you. as the days, weeks and months go by that piece of my heart only beats when I think about you, all the memories we have together, all the days we spent tangled in each others arms, the times we laughed so hard neither one of us could breathe. one day someone else might take over that piece of my heart, but for now it beats for you, and only for you.
—  12am thoughts
Do you know what it means to belong to someone? It means even if I walk away and get lost, Iife will always find a way for me to come back to you. I’m not your property, but I do belong to you.


Things I want to say to a preborn love.