Every once in a while we stop and think about the routines we have fallen into, the lives we have become comfortable with, and the surrounding we are accustomed to. Sometimes we feel a little lost in the direction we are headed. Sometimes we feel a little stuck. Sometimes we feel like we are not being honest with ourselves and are not living the life we actually want to live if money was not an object. 

There are so many things we wish we could do but we haven’t come around to doing it. We feel like there is more to life. We feel like we might be wasting our time if we don’t do it, yet, we feel stuck. There are so many reasons that we seem to be telling ourselves why we haven’t come around to doing it. We may feel like we don’t have enough time, but if we don’t make time for it, when will we ever make it happen? We may say that we don’t have enough money, but do we really need so much capital to begin with or can we take a leap of faith in ourselves and let life lead the way? We may feel like the time is not right, but if we keep waiting around, when will it ever be right? We may feel like we’re not ready, but we will never feel ready until we have already done it once.  

When these doubts or feelings occur, ask yourself these questions to help you determine what you really want out of life, where you are headed, and what you should do. 

1. If not now, then when?

2. What would you do if nobody would judge you? 

3. Have you done something worth remembering lately?

4. Time or money?

5. What is the one thing you are proud of but would never put on your resume?

6. In 20 years from now, what do you want to remember?

7. What is something that you have always wanted to do since you were a kid?

8. When did you first realize life is short?

9. What memory from the past makes you smile the most?

10. Are you proud of what you are doing or what have you done?

11. In one year from today, how do you want to be different?

12. Are you doing what you believe in or settling for what you are doing?

13. What do you need to do to make it happen?

14. What do you absolutely love in life?

15. Has your greatest fear come true?

16. What is success for you?

17. What makes you feel great about yourself?

18. What do you admire most in the world?

19. If life is so short, why do we do so many things we don’t like doing?

20. When was the last time you started something new?

21. In order of importance, how would you rank happiness, money, love, health, fame?

22. What was the thing that didn’t last forever, but was still worth a while?

23. What has fear or failure stopped you from doing?

24. In one word, how would you spend the last month of your life?

25. What do you want to be known for?

26. What are you thankful for?

27. What do you need to let go of?

28. If you haven’t achieved it yet, what do you have to lose?

    To actually sit down and answer all of these questions might be harder than you think. But I hope that after doing this self-discovery exercise, you now have a clear direction of what you want out of life and what you should do. 


    We are constantly on the look out for ways to improve our lives, ourselves, our bodies, and our minds. No matter how many hacks there are to implement, things to learn and to ponder upon, there are a few simple things that if we learn to start doing now and everyday, they will become valuable habits for a lifetime.

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    There is only one success - to be able to spend your life in your own way.

    -  Christopher Morley

    If people ask me what success means, this is what I’d say. But time has proven to me now, that I would not be able to achieve the kind of success I define as success without this one thing - ‘purpose’.

    Purpose is knowing the meaning of your life, knowing your core values, knowing what makes your heart sing and live your life according to that every single day.

    Now, I have created a company of purpose. As it’s America’s Independence Day today, I’d like to ponder upon the word ‘freedom. To me, the feeling of freedom is when you live life in flow. When there’s no resistance, no emotional blockages, when we’re occupied with things that make our heart sing because we’re in flow. But how can we create the feeling of flow when we have to live and have bills to pay? We do this by living a life of purpose. Because if we don’t know our purpose in life, a purpose will be given to you by others. You give up your freedom in exchange for purpose. Sure, you still maintain the illusion of freedom. You can decide the low level actions you take each day. But you’ve lost the greatest freedom - the ability to choose your own answer to the question, “What is the meaning of my life?”

    When you know your purpose and live it consciously every day, you’re free. Even if you work for someone else, you are still a leader who leads your life in flow. When you know for sure the answer to the question, “What is the meaning of my life?”, you will be able to stay calm amidst the storm. You will be able to live on a deeper level where surface happenings can’t knock you around. Your purpose provides unshakable stability and security.

    - Steve Pavlina

    We often debate whether we’d want to trade our physical freedom for financial freedom, or, trade financial freedom for physical freedom. But what a lot of people forget to mention is that what we truly crave is having the mental and emotional freedom.

    True freedom, to me, is when one has the ability to remain free - mentally and emotionally - even there’s chaos outside.

    True freedom is when one can stay calm amidst the storm and can adjust their sail according to the wind.

    True freedom does not come from having the resources to change one’s external circumstances, but having the ability to manage their inner self.

    True freedom is when one is not scared of change, of getting out of one’s comfort zone, of taking actions in the face of fear.

    True freedom is having the resilience to bounce back from setbacks and disappointments in life and having the patience to wait for the right moment to come.

    True freedom is living your life in your own terms and achieving the kind of success defined by no one else but you.

    True freedom is when you feel truly free - emotionally, mentally, and spiritually - because you’re living life in alignment with who you truly are.

    As I am now in the position to create positive change in the world, I’d like to inspire you to find your life’s purpose because only when you live a life of purpose, you can feel free mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. When you learn to become the master of your mind - knowing that you’re in charge of your attitude, thoughts, beliefs, and fears; knowing that you don’t need to feel trapped and become a victim of the rules you create for your own self - you will experience true freedom. And that freedom starts with you and within you.

    Sometimes it’s hard to break free from our own patterns and get rid of our own fears in order to experience and create freedom. One of the key things that can help put you on the path towards true freedom is confidence. We need to have confidence in order to have enough courage to make change and face our own fears. As it’s America’s Independence day today, I’d like to encourage you to build up your confidence level, so that you have the courage to get out there, find your purpose, and create a life of true freedom.


    One thing I’ve learned up to this point in life is that the mind has a memory. And it’s damn smart; it “subconsciously” recognizes patterns.

    Once the pattern become a habit, it’s hard for you to stop doing it. It requires extra mental strength to break the habit.

    “Starting from a small act, but if you do it repeatedly, one day it will become big." 

    • Starting with white lies, repeatedly, you become a compulsive liar.
    • Starting with shoplifting a lipstick, repeatedly, you become a thief.
    • Starting with faking documents, repeatedly, you can become a white collar criminal.
    • Starting with being dishonest, repeatedly, you become a cheater.

    At the same time…

    • Starting with exercising at least 3 times a week, repeatedly, you become fit.
    • Starting with eating healthy everyday, repeatedly, you become well and healthy.
    • Starting with walking with your back straight, repeatedly, you have an elegant posture.
    • Starting with smiling and being positive, you become a happy person to be around inside and out and attract people with the same energy to you.
    • Starting with giving unused clothes and loose change to the homeless, repeatedly, you become empathetic and giving.
    • Starting with sharing things with others, repeatedly, you become generous.
    • Starting with only doing things that align with your core values, repeatedly, you are a person of meaningful values.
    • Starting with reading, repeatedly, you become addicted to learning.
    • Starting with making sure you get what you need done for the day, repeatedly, you are always on top of everything.
    • Starting with being focused, each task at a time, repeatedly, you can easily get into the flow and be productive.
    • Starting with thinking outside the box, repeatedly, you become extremely creative.
    • Starting with getting out of your comfort zone, repeatedly, you become confident and fearless.
    • Starting with telling yourself what you want to achieve in life, repeatedly, you will get there.
    • Starting with just getting it started, repeatedly, anything you want to be and do, you can be and do.

    Whatever it is you’re trying to change - a habit, a mindset, or an attitude - take it one day at a time. Focus on making each day a great day. Over and over, you will have a great life.

    Only once in your life, I truly believe, you find someone who can completely turn your world around. You tell them things that you’ve never shared with another soul and they absorb everything you say and actually want to hear more. You share hopes for the future, dreams that will never come true, goals that were never achieved and the many disappointments life has thrown at you. When something wonderful happens, you can’t wait to tell them about it, knowing they will share in your excitement. They are not embarrassed to cry with you when you are hurting or laugh with you when you make a fool of yourself. Never do they hurt your feelings or make you feel like you are not good enough, but rather they build you up and show you the things about yourself that make you special and even beautiful. There is never any pressure, jealousy or competition but only a quiet calmness when they are around. You can be yourself and not worry about what they will think of you because they love you for who you are. The things that seem insignificant to most people such as a note, song or walk become invaluable treasures kept safe in your heart to cherish forever. Memories of your childhood come back and are so clear and vivid it’s like being young again. Colours seem brighter and more brilliant. Laughter seems part of daily life where before it was infrequent or didn’t exist at all. A phone call or two during the day helps to get you through a long day’s work and always brings a smile to your face. In their presence, there’s no need for continuous conversation, but you find you’re quite content in just having them nearby. Things that never interested you before become fascinating because you know they are important to this person who is so special to you. You think of this person on every occasion and in everything you do. Simple things bring them to mind like a pale blue sky, gentle wind or even a storm cloud on the horizon. You open your heart knowing that there’s a chance it may be broken one day and in opening your heart, you experience a love and joy that you never dreamed possible. You find that being vulnerable is the only way to allow your heart to feel true pleasure that’s so real it scares you. You find strength in knowing you have a true friend and possibly a soul mate who will remain loyal to the end. Life seems completely different, exciting and worthwhile. Your only hope and security is in knowing that they are a part of your life.

    Bob Marley

    Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone! 



    • “Your time is limited, so don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma - which is living with the results of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other’s opinions drown out your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition. They somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.”  -   Steve Jobs
    • “If you don’t build your dreams, someone will hire you to help build theirs.”  -  Tony Gaskin
    • “If you do follow your bliss you put yourself on a kind of track that has been there all the while, waiting for you, and the life that you ought to be living is the one you are living. Follow your bliss and don’t be afraid, and doors will open where you didn’t know they were going to be.”   -   Joseph Campbell


    • “Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.”  -  Dalai Lama
    • “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together.”  -   Marilyn Monroe

    Get the pain and the disappointment out of the way within one day max. Then think about what went wrong, what you did wrong, turn that into a lesson, and move on. Do it better. Make the next one great. Never repeat the same mistake. Accept that you’ve made mistake. Forgive yourself. Don’t waste your time and energy dwelling on things you can’t fix. You can’t turn back time, neither can you extend time in your life. We only have 24 hours in a day. 8 hours on sleep. The number of years in your life is not going to increase. It will only decrease if you waste it on a negative energy by being pessimistic, stressed, depressed, and sad. Move on. The sooner you can get back up and be optimistic again, the more you can make efficiency out of time. 

    Also, sometimes you don’t get something because you’re meant to get something else, something better, something more suitable. Things didn’t work out with your ex whom you loved dearly because you’re meant to be with someone more compatible with you. You didn’t get the job you wanted because you’re destined to get a job somewhere else that is more suitable to your skills and passion. You didn’t get into school X, because you’re meant to get into school Y and meet these other amazing people and opportunities. 


    • “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.” - Steve Jobs
    • “You must give up the life you planned in order to have the life that is waiting for you.”  -  Joseph Campbell

    The only way to really embrace life is to believe in it. Believe in yourself, your heart, your destiny. Don’t limit your future by limiting yourself to a fixed plan. You never know what will happen. Opportunities might knock on your door. Trust that life will lead you well. Live positively. Follow what feels right. Because when you look back, it will all make sense. If you’re scared you might do something you’ll regret, refer back to Rule 2 - Don’t waste time feeling disappointed on something. 


    The more you get out of your comfort zone, the easier it gets. When your mind becomes fearless, when you look at competition and challenges as a fun game to tackle, your life changes completely. Nothing is stronger than a person’s mind and willpower. Your mind and your attitudes are the biggest weapons you have and you are in complete control of them. 


    • “Treat others the way you want to be treated.”

    There are always times that you don’t want to do something for others because you have to go out of your way, it’s out of your comfort zone, you can’t be bothered. But remember the law of attraction. If you send out positive energy, you will receive the same in return from people. If you go to all of your friends’ birthdays, they will make an effort to come to yours. If you treat others with respect, they will treat you with respect. If you don’t care about others, they won’t care about you. If you take advantage of others, people will run away.

    Energy can be felt. It is much more transferable than we might think. Even though some of the negative thinking is in our own head, it comes out. Try to suppress it, you’ll feel suffocated. Try to change your attitudes to be more positive, you will eventually become so. The law of attraction works. And karma, not being superstitious or anything, but it works in the same way of the law of attraction. 

    Sometimes we have to force ourselves to do things when we don’t feel like - to pick up your best friend’s phone call when you feel like shit, to reply to people’s messages, to make an effort to attend people’s farewell parties, to say hi and be friendly to work colleagues and the baristas at your local cafe, to ask for permission from your friend before using their stuff at their house, to make your friend’s place tidy even though you were told to make yourself at home, and to not be pessimistic and whine all the time. Because this is how you are going to be treated. If you treat others right, you will be treated right. And for those who don’t treat you right, remember, they are not worth your time. 


    • “Other things may change us, but we start and end with family.”

    No matter what happens in life, family is always there. When we’re young, friends come first, boyfriend comes first, other things come first. But no matter what happens in life, family is always there. Not always the case for everyone, but for most of us, remember, that when you’re sick, when you’re broke to the point that you can’t afford any food or shelter, you always have family. Never ever forget where you’re from and who you are. Never let the burden of the upbringing become your weakness. Embrace it because even the tough upbringing makes you who you are, makes you stronger, and shapes your attitudes towards life. Don’t forget to tell your parents you love them. They aren’t going to be with you forever. 


    This is one of my favorite Buddhist quotes.

    Embrace change. It’s a part of life. By being rigid and resistant to change, you’re hurting yourself. Live life with an open mind and open arms. One little event in one’s life can totally change their whole life plan. Plan as a springboard to wide imagination. Don’t be mad if plans change. The less stigma you have in life, the more free you feel spiritually, the happier you feel. 


    Should’ve, Could’ve, Would’ve…

    You never know unless you try. We regret things we didn’t do more than the things we did. You’ve got nothing to lose. Don’t be afraid of rejection. It’s better to be rejected and move on than wondering ‘What If’ because What If’s could haunt you for the rest of your life. 

    Trust your instinct. Trust your heart. If something is meant to be, it will work out. If not, then it’s better to know and move on. When you present life with honesty, life responds back to you honestly. 


    A human’s deepest, most sensitive desire is to feel appreciated. It’s what makes us feel alive. It’s what gives us, our lives, meaning. When you show others how appreciative you are of their work or what they’ve done for you, it makes them feel valued and meaningful. It affects one’s self-esteem and self-worth. Naturally, we want to do something that increases our self-esteem and our self-worth. When you show appreciation, the person will be even more likely to help you and do great work for you because when they feel appreciated, they feel good. And who doesn’t want to feel good? It’s how we are after all.  


    • ““The most important relationship is with yourself. Because no matter what happens, you will always be with yourself.” -  Diane Von Furstenberg

    The more you understand yourself, the more in touch you are with yourself, the happier you become. Just like any business strategy, the better you understand the root of the business problem, the more likely you are able to solve it. That’s why self-reflection is so important. It leads to understanding yourself, life, and people around you. Self-reflection helps you understand why you are the way you are, why you like/dislike something, what causes you to feel unhappy, and what you can do to become a better, happier person.

    When you start doing self-reflection on a regular basis, you will start to notice how happier you become - on your own. You won’t need someone or something to complete you. You will feel complete within you. And that is much more sustainable in the long run. Because no matter what happens, years to come, you are going to be with yourself. Nothing ain’t going to be with you forever but yourself.


    1. Life is about trial and error.

    When you’re a teenager, you feel like searching for who you are is the key psychological change that’s going on in your life. You seek to establish your identity and find out what you like and dislike doing. You think that as you get older you will be more sure about who you are, what you do, and what you should do. But as you get older, you realize that you’re still trying and not feeling certain about the outcome of what you do. You change jobs. You move countries. Your relationships fall apart only to start blossoming again with someone new. You give something a go, you try your best, it may fail, and you move on.

    Everyone is trying to figure out their sh*t just like you. Even ones that seem most assured are as confused, dazed, and unsure deep down inside as you are. They just pretend that everything is okay. Some people feel ashamed of displaying their feeling of uncertainty, thinking that it’s showing vulnerabilities and a sign of weakness. Some people are open about their trial-and-error path, believing that it leads them to finding themselves more and more as they go.

    Whatever your path might be like, you realize that as you get older, you still have to keep figuring things out and don’t really know where you’re actually going. You might think “No, this is bullshit. I know exactly what I want to do and what I’m doing.” But no, deep down you still feel uncertain and unsure - you just suppress the feeling.You may have thought that as you get older, you will become more assured and know exactly what you’re doing, but it doesn’t seem that way. Your parents who you thought were the most assured when you’re growing up are probably as confused as you are. They’re still figuring out what to do with their retirements and when they should retire. They get more and more scared of illnesses that are creeping up to them. Some are also looking for new love to replace the old one that has died and are probably more confused than you are about relationships, love, and life.

    When you realize that life is trial and error and that it will continue to be that way, you feel more acceptant of life and circumstances that life throws at you. No matter what comes into your life, it will go. No matter what you decide to do, it will either make your heart grow fonder or languish - you live and learn. No matter what risk you take, you will be okay.

    Instead of trying to feel certain about life, you learn to embrace uncertainty. Because once you do, you will feel the most certain about yourself and life. After all, that is the only constant in life.

    So take risks…. because it’s not a big deal if you fail. It’s just another error. You can try again.

    2. Life has its own flow.

    Have you heard of the saying that timing is everything? Well, that’s what I’m talking about here. As you get older, you realize that you can’t force time. Life has a way of unfolding at its own pace. Life has its own natural rhythms.

    Every little thing in life is building you up for something bigger. Those achievements you had at school built your self-confidence and self-esteem. The junior roles you had when you first graduated prepared you for the bigger roles even though you felt like you were doing minor tasks most of the time. Those people you dated led you to knowing more about yourself, what you want and don’t want, and what you’re compatible with.

    Life has its own pace. You can have it all but not all at once. And if you don’t keep your focus right, you might not achieve anything.

    3. Life has its own energy.

    Everyone wants to be happy. In the path to happiness, you seek to understand who you are, where you stand, what your nature is, and what your interests and passions are. When you get to do what comes naturally to you - whether it be handy tasks, creative hobbies, or adventurous activities - you feel most alive.

    Unfortunately, many people don’t allow themselves to flow with life. They fight life. These people may be working hard towards some goal - maybe academic or professional success. They put aside their flowing, their natural love, and their passions in life in order to reach this goal. They haven’t let life run at its own pace and fuelled by its own energy. As a result, they feel stressed, tired, worn out, and drained which leads them to find something that could help bring them back to a normal state of energy. Some rely on sports, meditation, yoga, and a moderate amount of alcohol consumption. Some have lost their souls to overindulgence in alcohol, gambling, cigarettes, and drugs.

    Life has its own energy and when the energy flow is blocked or abused, you feel stressed and lost - you feel like you need control. Turning to bad influences for emotional uplifts, you feel like you’re in control once again - that you can control how you feel. However, regardless of how good the emotional assistance makes you feel, relying your emotions and energy on them only leads you to losing control of yourself and your life even more.

    4. Life gets easier when you can manage your emotions better.

    In the early years of your life as an adult, you might feel like you’re still finding your feet and that life will get easier as you get older. However, as you get older you realize that life doesn’t get easier. In fact, what gets easier is managing your own emotions as your mental strength develops. 

    My Dad always said to me …

    Everyone was born with the ability to become successful. But on the path to that, the obstacles and challenges everyone has to face are their own emotions. The ability to manage one’s emotions and develop self-discipline is what determines whether they will be successful.

    On another note, if you have signed up to my mailing list, you would have gotten a prompt email asking you for topic suggestions. I have received quite a few responses and most of them are related to how to deal with stress and negative emotions and thoughts.

    Life gets easier when you become more positive and more resilient - when you know how to bounce back from setbacks in life, combat negative thoughts, stay calm in irritating situations, and let go of bad people whom you may have loved.

    Being self-disciplined is not easy. It requires a lot of self-control. However, I believe that when you live life in flow - when you do the things you love and are naturally good at and move at your own natural pace - you don’t feel like you need to heavily rely on something that can instantly fix your energy. You just flow. You feel energized. You feel passionate - and in this case, you work hard towards your goal because your passion intrinsically motivates you. You feel happy.

    5. Life’s end goal is not to find happiness.

    The goal in life is not to search for happiness. In fact, all you have to do is to stop trying to find happiness and just be happy. When you feel like the current state is not good enough, you’re not happy enough, you start looking else where. This is when the search for happiness keeps going on forever and you wonder why you never feel happy.

    It all starts with acceptance - the acceptance of self, of circumstances, and of situations.

    Life will never be perfect. But life seems perfect when you’ve accepted that life is not perfect. Happiness comes when you accept the imperfection, the flaws, the ups and downs, and enjoy the moments in life. Realize that everything is fleeting - the good thing will pass, the bad thing will pass - just accept life as it is. Adjust and adapt yourself to situations as much as you can - if you’re tight on money this month, then spend less; if you hate your job, then quit or plan to quit; if your partner is abusive, then break up with him/her; if you’re prone to sickness, then start exercising and eat well. 

    Life is not meant to be perfect, nor is it meant to be easy.

    Life is a game. You are the player. And the players pride themselves in their ability to beat challenges.

    You may not realize this but we seem to constantly find challenges for ourselves to get through - whether it be getting to the top of our career, buying a car, owning a house, moving to another country, having a kid and then another kid, starting our own business, investing in businesses, learning another language, or doing triathlon. 

    Life has its own flow. Find your natural self. Do what you’re good at. And let life take its course. 


    1. You feel proud of yourself.

    Regardless of where you are in life, you feel proud of yourself for your achievements and your actions  - whether it’s good or bad. Because life is not about going from one point to the next. Life is about the journey - and the key to loving life is to enjoy the journey.

    You’re proud of yourself and for everything you’ve been through, because every turning point in life leads you to another. Every change leads to a new destiny. When one door closes, another door opens. No matter what happened in the past, you are who you are because of everything that’s happened and you’re proud of who you’ve become.

    “Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
    - Charles R. Swindoll

    2. You feel happy with where you are and where you’re headed.

    You know that you’ve done well in life when you’re happy with where you are and where you’re headed. You might not be exactly where you dream of ending up, but you’re happy that you’re on the right path. You know who you are and you’re making decisions that align with your values. You don’t do things that go against who you are at the core. You are in touch with your soul, with yourself, and you know that no matter what happens, you will be okay. Life will lead you down the right path.

    3. You are better than you were yesterday, last week, and last year.

    You might not be the best you could be yet, but you’re better than you were yesterday and the day before. Sometimes we do stupid things. Sometimes we make decisions we should not have.. But as long as we realize this and aim to become a better person each day - mentally, emotionally, physically, and intellectually — then we are  further along in life than many  people.

    “The minute you stop improving yourself is the minute your life becomes stale. Never stop challenging yourself to become the best you can be.”

    - Mo Seetubtim

    4. Your relationship with your family has improved.

    Not everyone grows up having the perfect relationship with their family. Most of the time we don’t. Personality clashes are common occurrences, let alone if you have controlling parents or abusive parents, who don’t seem to have it all together. While growing up, sometimes we need to push our family members away in order to grow and become mentally strong and well. Sometimes we have to ignore them in order to discard the pain and the burden inside of our hearts. But as we get older, we realize that no matter how bad our parents might seem, they’re still our parents. They might not be amazing at parenting. They might not be as selfless and caring as other parents. But often, they have our best interest at heart. And even if they don’t, we learn to accept it and understand why they are the way they are. We learn to understand their circumstances and how their upbringing shaped them as people. We are now mature and wise enough to manage our emotions and handle conflicts with the only people in our life we can never completely detach from - our parents.

    As we get older, we realize that there’s not much time left for us to be with them. So instead of feeling bad about the hurtful past, we re-create the bond with our parents and make sure they know how thankful we are for the love and care they’ve given us. Because after all, we wouldn’t be here today without them.

    5. You’re passionate about your job, your hobbies, and your life.

    After all, what is there to enjoy if we don’t enjoy life? You know you’ve done well in life when you love your job, have hobbies that you enjoy, and just love waking up everyday. You feel excited about what the day will bring and who you will meet. Isn’t life just wonderful?

    “Your work is going to fill a large part of your life, and the only way to be truly satisfied is to do what you believe is great work. And the only way to do great work is to love what you do. If you haven’t found it yet, keep looking. Don’t settle. As with all matters of the heart, you’ll know when you find it.”

    - Steve Jobs

    6. You live in the present.

    Instead of focusing on the past and wishing things were different or worrying too much about the future, you focus on the present. You realize that everything is fleeting and that life is uncertain. The only thing you have control over is the present moment. You know you’ve done well when you focus on making each moment the best moment it can  be. You are mindful and you know that our wandering thoughts can create illusional emotions that shouldn’t be there to start with. The only way for us to truly enjoy life is to live in the present.

    “Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans.”
    - John Lennon 

    7. You know who your true friends are.

    One of the most beautiful things in life is true friendship. Your true friends are the people who accept you for who you are and no matter what happens, they’re there by your side. True friends are the rarest gifts, and we should show our appreciation to them more often. You know you’ve done well in life when you know you have a group of people you can turn to celebrate your success and to be your shoulder to cry on. They are the people you can trust wholeheartedly. Having these people in life means that you’re a true friend to them as well. Being a true friend is a reciprocal process. You just don’t form a strong friendship if you only take and take - you have to give as well. If you have a group of people who are there by your side for years to come, you know you’ve done well in life.

    8. You realize that you’ve become less judgmental and open-minded over the years.

    One of the things that can show our maturity is how we care for others. Over the past years, have your eyes become more open? Has your horizon been broadened? Have you become more open-minded, less judgemental, and more understanding of the world and of people around you?

    No matter who you are as a person, no matter what you do - if you have no sympathy for others and no understanding of the world, then you might be missing out on something good in life. Life is more than just about work and play. Life is about experiencing and understanding other human beings and other cultures. Life is about experiencing love, joy, happiness, tears, and sadness. Life is about escaping from suffering, as much as it is about pleasure.

    You know you’ve done well in life when you no longer judge people for what they’re wearing or for what they’re doing. Rather, you try to understand. After all, everyone’s story is different. You never know what they’ve been through and what happens behind closed doors.

    9. You know how to manage your emotional well-being as well as your mental well-being.

    As good as it sounds to be smart and successful, it is never a true success if your home is a mess, your family life is in chaos, and your emotional health is declining . Your emotional intelligence is even more important than your intellectual intelligence. It doesn’t matter if you are a successful businessperson who can close any deal if you are aggressive and abusive to your employees.   It doesn’t matter if you are the breadwinner of the family if you abuse your wife and scream at her under pressure.You know you’ve done well in life when you have your emotional well-being under control and when you no longer feel like you’re falling apart inside because you’re breaking down. Stress is inevitable. However, learning to manage it is crucial and essential to a happy and healthy living.

    10. You do things that are good for yourself, body, and mind.

    Some people work so hard that they forget to take care of the most important things in their life - their health, body, and mind. Without good health, life is not enjoyable. What’s the point of being wealthy if you don’t have time to enjoy life with the people you love? You know you’ve done well in life if you make your health and well-being your priority. You make sure you eat well, exercise, and take some time off to relax and recharge. You meditate. You read. You do things that revitalize your soul. At the end of the day, no matter how big your home is, your body is your true home.

    11. You don’t regret anything you’ve done because life is about moving forward, not backward.

    There are always things we have done in the past that we are not proud of. If we could turn back time, we might have acted differently. However, there is no point thinking about it this way. If you’re smart, you learn from your past and become a stronger and better person because of it. There’s no point in looking back and regretting, because everything happens for a reason and leads you to where you are today.

    You know you’ve done well in life if all you look forward to is moving forward. You focus on making today and tomorrow better. That’s the only outlook on life that one should have.

    12. You feel thankful and are excited about life and the future. 

    Your life can be truly amazing and wonderful. However, if you don’t appreciate what you have, then you will never feel truly happy. You know you’ve done well in life if you feel thankful for being alive and appreciate what you have, rather than focusing on what you don’t have. Life is a gift in itself. The key to this is to view it with gratitude. After all, it is what it is. Everything and every person has come into your life to teach you something. See it as a passing experience and learn from it. Be thankful for whatever has happened because without it you would not have grown and be as equipped as you are today.

    “You can’t connect the dots looking forward; you can only connect them looking backwards. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something - your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever. This approach has never let me down, and it has made all the difference in my life.”

    - Steve Jobs

    Business, Sales, and Persuasion Tips from The Wolf of Wall Street

    Business Success

    “The only thing standing between you and your goal is the bullshit story you keep telling yourself as to why you can’t achieve it.”

    “Successful people are 100% convinced that they are masters of their own destiny , they’re not creatures of circumstance, they create circumstance, if the circumstances around them suck they change them.”

    “No matter what happened to you in your past, you are not your past, you are the resources and the capabilities you glean from it. And that is the basis for all change.”

    Act as if! Act as if you’re a wealthy man, rich already, and then you’ll surely become rich. Act as if you have unmatched confidence and then people will surely have confidence in you. Act as if you have unmatched experience and then people will follow your advice. And act as if you are already a tremendous success, and as sure as I stand here today – you will become successful.” 

    “The easiest way to make money is - create something of such value that everybody wants and go out and give and create value, the money comes automatically.”

    The Art of Persuasion

    “There’s the truth about what you do and your level of expertise and then there’s also how you’re able to communicate what you do to other people. In the end it always comes down to your ability to communicate your product, your ideas and you vision for the future and to get someone to buy into that with either their time or their money.”

    "It’s your tonality and your body language which allows you to be established as someone worth listening to. Certain tones are pleasing to the ear and imply certainty about what you’re saying.”

    "The thing with great sales people, top level entrepreneurs and business people is that they’re experts in asking questions and based on that they know how to offer a solution. What do they value? What are their beliefs about buying and making decisions? What’s causing them the most discomfort right now?

    "At a certain point one of the questions I always ask is ‘What is your greatest headache right now?” I wouldn’t ask it first but as I get into deeper and tighter rapport it opens me up to ask those more invasive, troubling questions and if they already sense I’m an expert and a figure of authority they’ll reveal their pain to you.”

    “There are certain elements of influence that you have to line up before someone says yes. At the highest level, sales is the transference of emotion. And the primary emotion you’re transferring is certainty.”