Dear White Jews Who Believe They Are Oppressed,
This is a public service announcement to acknowledge that if no one can tell that you’re Jewish and you (intentionally and admittedly) get by on privilege, don’t attempt to relate to people of color with a “we’re in the same boat” attitude. We’re not in the same boat.
Also, know that I’m an educated black woman. Do not ever think that it’s appropriate for you to say to me, “you’re a smart girl!” Especially when you already know how many college degrees I have. Your language is degrading and yet reflecting your ignorance (or triflingness) on what you think is appropriate treatment towards women of color.
Your acknowledgement of my brain matter solidifies that you didn’t expect me to be intelligent in the first place.
What you say and what you mean are two different things. Please be mindful before you speak. It’s not your job to acknowledge my intelligence. It’s your job to treat me like an adult human being–the way you would like to be treated.
Reconsider your approach the next time you want to coo and say something so ironically degrading. Because my reply is, “Ooooh, you’re such a smart Jew for realizing that I’m an educated black woman. That’s why I went to school to be intelligent enough to call you out.”