boy role

sorry for the spam but I’m crying thinking about this potentially beautiful father-daughter story in star wars

Ok but can we talk about how emo, as a genre, defied gender roles in a big way? Like, everything about the culture, from the guys wearing makeup and womens’ skinny jeans, to the way they got unabashedly emotional in spite of the “men aren’t supposed to cry” narrative they’d obviously been socialized with, was just this complete “fuck you” to the idea that there’s a certain way to be a “man”. 

And a lot of their detractors called them “girly” or “gay”. And they didn’t give a fuck! Fall Out Boy has a whole song entitled “Gay Is Not A Synonym for Shitty”, which referenced a famous Pete Wentz quote, where he basically said that if you thought his band sucked, to just say it sucked, and not be a “homophobic asshole” about it. 

And, then, geez, My Chemical Romance took it a step further, and Gerard Way outright kissed one of his bandmates at concerts purely to infuriate homophobes who were at his shows.

 A lot of these bands were openly for LGBT rights, for womens’ rights. I remember one instance where some band MCR was touring with asked women to flash their tits in exchange for backstage passes. And Gerard was so horrified by this, and told his female fans to “spit in the faces” of misogynists in the rock scene. 

Like, god, these bands were so progressive. And they still are. Right after the Pulse tragedy, Brendon Urie literally danced around in a pride flag and told his queer fans what they meant to him. Pete Wentz said that “Uma Thurman” was meant to show his female fans that they could be “badass”, too. And Gerard pretty much admitted in an interview to somewhat identifying with the label “nonbinary”. 

That’s the most lasting impact that emo is going to have. Showing fans of all genders that there’s nothing wrong with being whoever the fuck you are, that there’s no specific way to be a man or woman. And, god, I just fucking love that. 

I’ve heard a lot of things about being “trans enough” lately and its been making me mad, so i made a comic. 

Remember my inbox is always open, so feel free to message me! I hope you are all doing well <3

Disclaimer: This comic is intended for ftm trans guys or anyone identifying as masculine

Masculinity can be soft. Masculinity can be gentle. Masculinity can be whispers and shyness and pastel colours and flowers and all those things can be masculine if someone wants them to call them that. Masculinity and femininity are constructs - you don’t have to describe yourself or anything you like as either if you don’t want to. 

To anyone needing it:

You are trans enough. You are nonbinary enough. There’s no “right” way to be trans/nonbinary. 

It’s okay to be nonbinary/transmasculine and to have a feminine gender expression at the same time. 

It’s okay to be nonbinary/transfeminine and to have a masculine gender expression. 

You are valid!

If boys want...

* to wear makeup
* wear dresses and skirts
* wear pink/ have pink anything
* play with dolls
* wear flower crowns
* hang out with just girls

LET THEM ! DONT FORCE THEM INTO GENDER STEREOTYPES!!

not-so-fun fact

ben platt has to go to physical therapy twice a week to keep him from physicalizing evan too much and adopting more of evan’s mannerisms (since he already started biting his nails and developing hunched posture because of the role).

I was in Sephora the other day and a woman was there with her young son. When I say young, I mean probably 5 years old. She was looking at the makeup so he was running around looking at it too. He wasn’t being obnoxious or anything though, just excited. So he runs past me and I hear his mom go “No! Hey! Don’t put that on!” I turn around and see that he has one of the tester lipsticks in his hand. She snatches it away and says “You can’t wear lipstick. First of all, you’re a BOY. Boys DON’T wear lipstick.” and then she went on about how she told him not to touch anything.

It broke my heart honestly.
I understand not wanting your little one to mess of the testers but really? “You’re a boy so you can’t wear lipstick.” I mean, come on. You took him to a makeup store and he tried to put on some lipstick so I’m guessing he gets the interest from YOU.

On the flip side, when I worked in childcare, I knew a little girl whos little brother looked up to her so much that he liked to dress like her. The dad didn’t even bat an eye when his son and daughter both came in wearing skirts. I also knew many rather “punk rock” kind of families who would paint their sons nails all kinds of colors for no other reason than the children requested it.

SUPPORT YOUR BOYS IN WHAT THEY LIKE.
SUPPORT YOUR CHILDREN.
GENDER SHOULD NEVER LIMIT ANYONE FROM SELF EXPRESSION.

  • me: wow, it's a real shame that we didn't get to see much of will byers in the first season of stranger things, he seems to be such a sweet kid. i'd love to see him take a bigger role on the next season!!!
  • netflix: :) :) okay
  • netflix: *drops trailer showing will crying and suffering with his struggle to readjust to his normal life*
  • me: wait no