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Cracked this Tinder thing

Okay so I think I have actually cracked Tinder for sugar babies. My profile reads “I enjoy the company of classy older men who love to spoil me. I’m intelligent, curvy, vibrant and would love to get to know you over cocktails next to the waterfront.”

Then I match with guys with signs they’re wealthy in their profiles, then they message and always mention something about spoiling me. So I say okay let’s go out for lunch, take a walk then do a bit of shopping. And they’re so down. Then on the shopping trip you can test their generosity and get a sense for whether they’re worth seeing again.

Salts will just unmatch and disappear because they know they will have to buy you things from the start. It also sets it up so that it is clear to them I do not come for free and my tastes are expensive.

Ok so here is my updated list of SD sites.

Happy Hunting Sugar Plums

SB/SD Dating Sites:


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First of all, it has been a WHILE since I have done a personal post in these tags and there is a lot to catch y'all up on but I did have a special tip.

We’re always trying to figure out ways to accept money while keeping anonymity. Of course, CASH IS KING but sometimes your SD wants to send you money fast so you can get whatever you need. So after money, what is the best way to receive funds?

I have heard many people like Ca$h , Venmo, PayPal. But one of the biggest issues I have found is that despite using an alias, each of these methods DOES IN FACT reveal your real name in one way another.

So my personal favorite(and this was a tip another SB had told me about a while ago ) is Google Wallet. What’s really nice about Google Wallet is that it is attached to the name on your google account. So you can set up an alias for your new Gmail account, and when you verify your real bank account, that information is left private. Your SD will not be able to call and try and solicit that info (mine and I just tested this out) and vice versa. His name is protected despite his bank account or debit card (with his real name ) is attached. So when he sends you money, the only name that you will see will be whatever name he put when he signed up (and yes, this can be fake and not match up to your real bank account info and there won’t be an issue), and his email(again if he’s smart this will be a secondary email solely for this).

There are monthly limits, which are fairly generous given its online:
1.Bank account transfer: Limit of $10,000 USD per single transaction and $50,000 USD per 5-day period.
2.Debit card transfer: Limit of $2,500 USD per transaction and $10,000 USD per 30-day period.

If you live in Florida: You can withdraw up to $3,000 USD every 24 hours. Debit card limits still apply.

As with all things, be cautious of the terms of service. And be mindful of how often you use it. But for a means to accept smaller deposits for plane tickets or gifts, this is definitely an option to consider!

Happy Sugaring, everyone!


I think there’d be some initial confusion on the concept of a pet not being something you eat for dinner, but this was too cute of an idea not to do some quick doodles for. <3

Seriously though, the number of grown adults who pitch a WHINY HISSY FIT when I tell them that they can’t take an animal home is astounding.

My favorite one from this holiday season was a man with a young girl (about 5 or 6 years old) and a teenage boy.  The man approaches me and, without me even asking what I can help them with, says:

Man: So we had a goldfish in a bowl and my son changed the food and it died!
Son: (clearly offended, yet texting) It wasn’t MY fault!
Me: Actually the reason it more than likely died is because goldfish REALLY shouldn’t be kept in bowls.
Man: Well it’s a big bowl, like this! (mimes about a gallon-sized bowl shape)
Me: Yeah, that’s actually pretty darn tiny.
Man: Well anyway, we want to get another one.
Girl: I want three!
Me: Unfortunately I can’t sell you a fish today– your setup really isn’t going to work for a goldfish.  You’re going to need at least 10 gallons for just ONE and even then you’re going to have to upgrade within a month or so.  Goldfish really aren’t a beginner fish…

As I say that I brace myself knowing what’s coming up.  Almost every time I refuse sale of a fish, I get the same reaction: outrage and demanding to talk to the manager, etc.

Man: Well I HAVE a tank.
Me: …I really don’t feel comfortable selling you the fish since I really feel like you’re not going to give it the proper care it needs for a long and healthy life.
Man: What?! I said I have a tank!  Why won’t you sell me the fish?!
Me: How big is the tank?
Man: 10 gallons!
Me: I still don’t feel comfortable selling you the fish.  I’m going to have to refuse the sale, I’m very sorry.
Man: What do you mean?!
Me: I’m not going to sell you fish today, I’m very sorry.
Man: I demand to talk to your manager!!!
Me: -points to nametag- Sir, I AM the manager.
Man: -takes a full pause, not expecting this-
Man: So you’re not going to sell me a fish, really?  These 15-cent fish that you feed to turtles, you’d sell it for that but not to me??
Me: If you had the setup for it, I would be more than happy to.
Man: I told you I have a tank!
Me: You told me you had your fish in a bowl.  I honestly believe you are just saying this to get the fish at this point, sir, I’m sorry.
Man: What do you I have to do, bring in a picture to prove I have it??
Me: -calling his bluff in a cheerful tone-  Absolutely!  I would love to see pictures of your tank and I would be more than happy to help you stock it after seeing your setup!
Man: (He takes another full pause) I’m going to call the company and COMPLAIN about you!  This is ridiculous, what’s the number to complain??
Me: I’m afraid I don’t know that off the top of my head sir.
Man: You don’t know the company number???
Me: No sir, but I believe it’s on our website.

While this was going on, the teenage boy was in the reptiles aisle texting and the girl was watching the turtles swim around in our tank nearby.  The man then grabs his daughter by the hand and does this in front of other customers:

Man: Let’s go– the lady’s not going to sell us fish.  She’s a MEAN LADY. (he’s staring directly at me as I stand there with no expression on my face)
Girl: Oh we’re not getting fish?  -not even upset-
Man: Yeah because she’s a MEAN LADY. (he says these words at a higher volume and with more emphasis)

He continues to repeat that phrase as he exits down the reptile aisle, making customers uncomfortable and I just shrug and go back to what I was doing before this scene.

An hour later I get a call from corporate.

NC: Hi, this is the national center, we just wanted to ask about the conditions surrounding a complaint we received about you.  A customer has complained that you wouldn’t sell him a fish even after stating he had the correct setup.  We just would like to hear your side of the story.
Me: (I tell him about the fact the guy had a goldfish in a bowl and then changed his story saying he had a tank and that I refused sale because I didn’t feel he was being honest or would care for the animal)
Me: And then he left the store, calling me a “mean lady” several times in a loud voice and said he would call you guys.
NC: Ok Christina, I just wanted to let you know that we agree with you 100% and that you did everything you were supposed to.  We wish you a very happy holiday season and I hope your shift goes well!
Me: Thank you!  You too!

I did a little happy dance and told the other manager on duty, who didn’t believe me when I said the company would have my back on the issue (he thought the company would bend over backwards for the guy and it would bite me in the butt)


The next day I come in for work at 2PM to find out from my general manager that the guy had called the store (after the nat center told him I was correct, mind you) to complain about me and saying that my behavior was “irresponsible” and that I was “unprofessional” and that I should be reprimanded or fired.

My general manager just said “Well I’m sorry to hear that sir but you see, she has NEVER gotten a complaint as long as she has worked for the company and the national center has already stated that she has done everything according to policy.  Sorry you feel that way, man, but there’s nothing I’m going to do against her in this situation.”

Made my week.

So, yeah, my company defended the life of a 15-cent “feeder” goldfish.

I’m pretty damn happy about that.

Spirited Away Herbal Soak Bath Spell

Used for relaxation and banishing the emotional “sludge”


  1. Sea Salt
  2. Lavender
  3. Basil
  4. A bit of Coconut Oil
  5. Orange Essential oil

>In a small or medium sized bowl, mix the sea salt and about ½ - 1 teaspoon of coconut oil.

>Add your lavender, basil, and 5 drops of orange essential oil

>Pour your herbal bath salts into a warm/hot bath.

>Soak in the bath and let the “sludge” melt away.

Plus Size Sb’s and Fashion :)

Where are my beautiful and fabulous plus size sugar babies?!?? I know you lovely ladies are out there. Well, ladies as the weather is warming up and Spring is upon us and (very soon summer too) it is time to update that wardrobe. Just because you have extra curves does not mean you cannot look sexy and chic. With that said, I have comprised a list of plus size clothing stores, boutiques, and online websites. Each site/store varies in style, price, and fit. 

I wanted to cater to the needs of all my plus size babies out there regardless of your bank account. You do not have to spend a lot of money to look nice, just make sure that you are wear clothing that fits your body appropriately. One size DOES NOT fit all. Don’t be discouraged by the size on that tag, the goal is to feel absolutely sexy in whatever you put on (regardless of how many x’s are accompanied on the tag of the clothing item).

I stand about 6ft and my dress/pant size is about a 16/18 depending on the brand or material of the clothing. Yes, I am plus size. Yes, I am a woman of color. Yes, I am tall. And YES I am a successful sugar baby. It is all in the way you carry yourself ladies!! Confidence and class speaks volumes. Below is a list in no particular order of some of the websites I use frequently; (OVER 40 OPTIONS!! :D . Please do not hesitate to add more websites and/or boutiques to the list. I am always on the prowl for nice pieces for my wardrobe. I pair reasonable priced clothing items with designer jewelry, shoes, handbags etc to add a high class, polished look. Let’s be honest ladies plus size designer clothing is damn there none existent.

You can’t say I did not help you ladies out. I took into consideration age, price, style, and shipping location (most ship within in the US and internationally).  (**Hint: Copy and paste the list and save it for a go to reference list). No excuses now! Go slay the bowl, until it hurts!! Werk hunties!!

-Asos Curve

-Simply Be

-Forever 21+

-H&M +

-Charlotte Russe Plus

-Old Navy

-Target (plus size)

-Rue 21

-Lane Bryant

-TJ Maxx/Marshall’s

-Gwynnie Bee

-Ashley Stewart


-Jessica London

-Nordstrom Rack


-Avenue Plus (rent pieces for more lavish events)

-Fashion to Figure

-Mod Cloth Plus (swim wear) (lingerie/intimates)

-Hipsandcurves (lingerie/intimates)

-Monif C. 

-Joni Marie Ross


My date with Scott went really well last night, we had alot of fun. We went bowling and afterward went to Cold Stone for ice cream. He told me he enjoyed being with me and would like to go out again- so I’m hopeful. I just know that I really, really like him alot. He’s really sweet and is nice to be around. I’m glad I took the risk and put myself out there plus I’m glad my shifts were changed to mornings because if they wouldn’t have been I don’t know if I’d ever get to meet him. Funny how things have kinda fallen into place. :)

Get Things Moving Spell

If something in your life is taking longer than you’d like then grab your cauldron (or a big bowl) a rock the size of your fist, and some water.

Fill the cauldron with water and stir three (3) times with your rock. Then drop the rock into the cauldron (the rock represents the things that are holding you back). Then once again stir the water and say three (3) times:

Things are moving,

Things are flowing,

The wait is over,

My wish is here

Take your cauldron outside. Hold your cauldron with both hands, and swirl the water and rock around. Visualize the spell coming to fruition. End by pouring the rock and water on the ground. Then walk away.

Southwest Rainbow Salad ✨

This is one of my faaaavorite salads to make. It has so much good flavor and I always feel so satisfied after I eat it. But I’ll let you be the judge. 😉

Southwest Rainbow Salad

4-6 romaine leaves, chopped
¼ cup shredded red cabbage
½ orange bell pepper, chopped
½ cup black beans, canned or fresh
6-8 cherry tomatoes, halved
½ cup baked tofu (recipe follows)
¼ avocado, diced
Few sprigs of cilantro, chopped
Southwest sauce (recipe follows)

Combine all ingredients in a medium sized bowl and toss with southwest sauce.

Baked Tofu

½ block extra firm tofu, drained and cubed
1 tbsp. gluten free low sodium tamari
Preheat oven to 375 degrees Fahrenheit. Lightly grease a baking sheet with cooking spray or use a non-stick baking pan. Toss the cubed tofu with the tamari then place marinated tofu on baking sheet and bake for 45, flipping tofu once halfway. Remove from oven and allow tofu to cool.

Southwest Sauce

3 tbsp. veganaise or vegan mayo
2 tsp. lemon juice
2 tsp. chipotle powder or adobo sauce
½ tsp. rice vinegar
½ tsp. smoked paprika
½ tsp. garlic powder
¼ tsp. salt

Combine all the ingredients and mix until smooth. Any leftover sauce can be kept in refrigerator for up to a week in an airtight container.


Ari Invades Alabama Part Deux

I meant to post this much earlier this week, but I was very busy catching up on stuff after flying home and had some social fun to take part in too :) Anyway, here it is..

Alabama Work Trip Day Two: I was in for an all day meeting followed by a night of fun with my team. The plan was to take us all out for bowling and to a Japanese restaurant afterwards. I was not exactly looking forward to asking for my larger than average size bowling shoes, but I was looking forward to playing again. It has been several years since I have bowled. I also looked up the place and they have gluten free hard cider on tap so.. BONUS ;-)

Today was a day I was going to see many more co-workers and people I that our team occasionally does work for, so I was going all out with my work outfit. I wanted to make a great “first” impression even on those people who met me when I was there four years ago looking VERY different. I was finally going to be able to go to “the office” in a dress. Alabama being the conservative state that it is, I was of course a little nervous, but it was basically now or never. I was fairly confident that enough time had passed since my email announcement in April (6 months already!) that people should already be used to the name change and knowing how to address me (pro-nouns, etc). I was also confident in the people that I typically work with, they are good people. However, I still wanted there to be no visual doubt that they were dealing with Ariana and not their former co-worker ;) 

As explained in earlier posts, even though I have been able to be myself full time since late march, I work from home all day every day and this was the home office I was visiting far from my home state of Illinois. 

My co-worker from California who picked me up at the airport was staying in the same hotel as me. We decided to meet for breakfast before heading in. I ate very carefully because I did not want to mess up my outfit. 

We showed up on time and found the planning room that we would be spending the day in. It was huge with white boards and smart boards galore. We were planning out several months of development work so by the end of the day all of those boards were actually going to be filled. As people made their way in I said hello to them and was again greeted warmly. Most of the group that would be in the meeting had seen me the day before. The few that did not came in later and were already engaged in a deep conversation as they walked in. One gentleman in particular, did not even look up at my co-worker and I sitting at a table until he was right next to us. He was someone who I have worked with on a regular basis for quite a few years. He knew of my transition and I consult him periodically on our system architecture. There was finally a break in their conversation and he finally looked over at our table. He immediately broke into a big smile and walked the few steps over to me as I stood up. He spoke first and said, “I don’t believe that we have met, I am ______ _____.” I smiled a mile wide and said, “Ariana ______.” He turned immediately red and laughed and smacked his head muttering, “Oh, well..” I said, “so, we have actually met before sort of!” It was kind of a great moment for me, I have to be honest. Talk about boosting your confidence when someone that knows you pretty well does not even see the old you anymore :)

Anyway, the all day meeting took well.. all day (with lunch in the same room). By the time we were done the travel was starting to catch up with me so I was very glad to head out for some fun. 

My co-worker and I both wanted to stop back at the hotel. I was not about to go bowling in my work dress ;)  Before leaving though, she and I walked to some different cubes to say hello to a few more people before heading out. With my confidence so high I was talking with people like I saw them everyday (at least it felt that way to me), the nerves were gone. Before long, I was back at the hotel changing for our night out. 

I decided to not play it conservative dressing for the night out either. I wanted to look good ;) (see the second-to-last pic with the green top above). By the time we were driving away from the hotel my co-worker got a text from our boss saying that the bowling alley was over-run with pre-teens having a league event and the bar was closed. He told us to just go straight to the Japanese restaurant so our plans were altered, but it was still a lot of fun. It was an authentic Japanese restaurant (owned and staffed as such). Our waitress was incredibly nice. I ordered 4 rolls of various sushi and ended up having two glasses of wine because everyone enjoyed more than one drink. We stayed there longer than planned because the bowling plans were cancelled. It was great though. It was a mix of some work discussions and also just a lot of joking around. It was the kind of camaraderie I do typically miss out on by working from home. The director of our group (the boss of my boss) also showed up and it is always good to spend time with him.

After finally getting back from the restaurant, I felt really beat, but once again kind of euphoric and happy (see the last pic). I could not imagine the day going much better than it did. 

Day 3 of my trip would be a short day, but I would get to meet with someone who was instrumental in my ability to successfully come out at work. More on that in my next post!


p.s. (fellow trans/non-binary people) You CAN get through difficult/scary things and help make them work out by being your best self and just looking people square in the eye while smiling and in a sense daring them to still have an issue with you. You are wonderful and you are worthy of being treated with respect. Never expect anything else and go out there and give everyone reason to respect you! Be daring!

My goal in sharing my transition is to represent transgender people in the positive light that we all deserve. Re-blogs are always okay if they are for this purpose, but if you are a fetish blog or fetish website then I want nothing to do with you and you do not have my permission to use my images.


Happy’s Fish from Fairy Tail

Gosh I can remember when Fairy Tail was all the rage. Is it still? I just don’t know anymore. But whether or not I can remember the names of secondary characters or their respective dragons, one just cant forget Happy. The cat with wings for no apparent reason. 

This recipe requires a Taiyaki mold, which one can order relatively cheaply online. If you don’t want one, I suppose you could always make waffles or pancakes and put the custard on top. But that defeats the purpose of them being Taiyaki. 

Hold on to your butts, because we’re going metric.

-MJ & K

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When you can’t decide if you want a cupcake or a donut. 🐥
You have both.
Matcha green tea donut cupcakes.
These babies are stuffed with a sweet matcha cream cheese. Mm. Who wants one?

Mini Baked Vegan Donuts
Makes about 16 mini donuts

1 ½ cups all-purpose flour
¼ tsp. baking soda
6 tbsp. vegan sugar
Pinch of salt
½ cup unsweetened almond milk
¼ cup vegan margarine, melted
3 tbsp. aquafaba
½ tbsp. pure vanilla extract

Matcha Icing

1 cup confectioner’s sugar
1 tbsp. vegan margarine, melted
1 tbsp. unsweetened almond milk
1 tsp. matcha powder

Preheat oven to 425 degrees Fahrenheit. Lightly grease a donut pan.

Combine dry ingredients in a medium sized mixing bowl. In a separate bowl, combine wet ingredients. Pour the wet ingredients into the dry and mix until just combined. Transfer mix to a Ziploc bag and cut a tip off one of the corners and pipe into the donut pan. Bake for 7-9 minutes or until they are firm and spring back when you touch them. Pop them out of the donut pan and onto a cooling rack to cool until warm to the touch.

Combine the icing ingredients in a bowl and mix until creamy. Dip each mini donut into icing and place on cooling rack to allow icing to set in.

Matcha Green Tea Cupcakes
Makes 1 dozen

For the cupcakes
1½ cups all-purpose unbleached flour
1 cup vegan sugar
1 tsp. baking soda
3 tsp. matcha green tea powder
½ tsp. salt
1 cup water
½ cup canola oil
2 tsp. vanilla
2 tbsp. apple cider vinegar

For the frosting
¼ cup vegan margarine
¼ cup non-hydrogenated shortening
2 cups powdered sugar
1 ½ tbsp. non-dairy milk
1 tsp. pure vanilla extract
1-2 tsp. matcha powder

For cream cheese filling
½ cup vegan cream cheese
1 tbsp. powdered sugar
1 tsp. matcha powder

Preheat oven to 350 degrees Fahrenheit. Line a 12-cup muffin pan with cupcake papers.

Combine dry ingredients (except sugar) in a medium sized mixing bowl. In a separate bowl combine sugar, oil and vanilla and mix until combined. Add the dry ingredients to the wet in two separate batches and mix until just combined (do not over mix). Finally, add the ACV and mix until just combined. Divide batter evenly among muffin pan and bake for 18-20 minutes or until a toothpick inserted in the center of a cupcake comes out clean. Remove from oven and allow cupcakes to cool before transferring to a cooling rack. Once cooled, remove a piece of the center of each cupcake using an apple corer or a cupcake corer. Set aside.

With a hand mixer beat butter and shortening on high for 1 minute or until fluffy. Next, add powdered sugar and beat for a minute or until crumbly. Then, add non-dairy milk and vanilla and beat until frosting is light and fluffy. Add 1-2 teaspoons of matcha powder so that you get a light green frosting. Add frosting to a Ziplock or piping bag with tip or you can use a butter knife to frost the cupcakes.

Using a hand mixer beat the cream cheese, powdered sugar and matcha powder until creamy. Transfer mix to a Ziploc bag and cut a tip off one of the corners and pipe into the center of the cupcake. Top with matcha frosting and a mini vegan donut.