Things Hearing People Need To Know

1. Yelling wont make a Deaf person hear you

2. Not all Deaf people read lips well

3. Speaking extremely slow is not only offensive, it makes it harder for Deaf people to read your lips

4. Deaf people can listen to and enjoy music

5. Deaf people can drive

6. Sign language is not universal

Moxie’s Moving Out: Part 2

Moxie’s Being Kicked Out

As of today, I only have 30 days left to live in my current location. And this is partially my fault. I wanted out of this state, out from under my parents’ roof, and I wanted some agency back in my life.

Unfortunately, the moment I made arrangements and got my plane ticket, I was told I could never come back. That I could not stay here, or sleep here, or expect any form of accommodation here, past the 28th of May, if I ever were to come back.

There’s nothing for me in North Carolina, so I don’t really have a reason to come back, but this also means that I have no safe place to land. As soon as I get on the airplane, I’m officially in the gray area between homeless and not, and I’ll be headed to Boise, Idaho to start a new life.

I do have a friend in Boise, but I’ve taken it upon myself to use what savings I have not to burden her badly with my needs. Everyone’s life is already complicated enough, you know?

But now that the pressure is on with such a severity, I’m calling out for help. From anyone. I need assistance figuring out where I’m going to live, where I’m going to work. I’m not trying to raise money, but the money I do have is going to disappear in a hurry if I’m not living indoors, and I don’t want that.

I’m a capable person, but I’m sorely lacking for life experience. Living 20+ miles away from local civilization for most of my life, without access to a car, has kept me kind of holed up in my room and relying on other people. When I’m separated from that life, I’m highly independent and, for lack of a better way to put it, my brains start working again.

If you have a room I can rent in Boise, Idaho, or you can direct me to a place you know locally that has openings and will work with someone who doesn’t have any credit and is trying to build some, then please, let me know. If you work at a local business that’s hiring, please, let me know.

I’m just looking to 1) live somewhere, and 2) make important connections so that when I make land in Boise, I won’t be stranded, and I won’t be a sudden, complicated burden to people I care about.

I pack light. Most of my stuff is going into a large plastic lockbox to be mailed to me at another time. I’ll only have three bags, tops, I think. A bigger one for clothes, a small one for tech, and another small one full of things that have sentimental value. I doubt I or they would take up a lot of space, and the shipment of the lockbox can be postponed until I have a permanent residence.

I’m trying to look at this reasonably, despite how scary the situation is. As soon as I had my flight itinerary, my parents were so excited to break the news to me that I wouldn’t be able to call this place home ever again. I was happy about leaving, but they’ve turned it into a stressful thing where I have no support network underneath me or behind me- the only support I’ll have left when I leave are my friends, who I will (thank goodness) be closer to, on that side of the country.

I’ve already done a good deal of legwork, talking to realtors in Boise, talking to the landlords of apartments, but the grand majority of my reaching out has come up against walls that I don’t know how to get through.

In summary, I’m about to risk homelessness, have limited life experience, and have a reasonable amount of savings that can only get me so far while I try to start building credit. And because of these converging issues, I need your help. Anyone’s help.