bodygainer

Benefits of not being around abusive people:
  • Not having to listen to them
  • Not having to exhaust yourself making them feel good about themselves
  • Not having to listen to lies and twisted re-telling of events
  • Not getting shut down, insulted and humiliated when you try to speak
  • Not having your emotions invalidated and ridiculed
  • Not having everything about you used against you
  • Not being treated like an object or a property
  • Not being yelled and screamed at when you try to stand up for yourself
  • Not having to second guess your every thought and opinion
  • Not having everything you know to be true denied to you constantly
  • Not having to imagine worst case scenarios constantly
  • Not having to bottle up all the fear, pain, and anger
  • Not being self-conscious about your appearance
  • Not having to worry about being degraded, called out or insulted based on your appearance
  • Not being stared at and feeling like you’re being watched and judged no matter what you’re doing
  • Not being glared at and addressed with hatred and scorn
  • Not being forced to compete for attention
  • Not being denied attention
  • Not feeling pathetic and horrible about your needs
  • Not feeling like everyone hates you and you’re unnecessary
  • Liking yourself
  • Loving your body
  • Gaining confidence in yourself
  • Knowing what you can do and how capable you are
  • Being aware of your talents and virtues and feeling proud and content
  • Being able to point out what’s wrong without getting shut down
  • Being able to call anyone out on their shit without getting attacked
  • Being able to express your pain, fear, anger, without getting abused
  • Being accepted
  • Being good enough as you are
  • Being important to yourself and other people
  • Having your feelings and opinions matter
  • Having your point of view matter
  • Having your work and care valued and reciprocated
  • Talking about whatever you feel like talking about
  • Being heard and listened and validated
  • Being allowed to complain and rant and cry 
  • Feeling comfortable asking for what ever you need
  • Feeling entitled to what you need to be alive, healthy, and content
  • Having a clear mind and knowing exactly what is the truth and what isn’t
  • Feeling safe and knowing that nobody is about to attack you

I AM JUST AS POWERFUL AS YOU

MY POLISHED NAILS CAN SLICE YOU RIGHT THROUGH

“NOT ALL MEN” YOU SCOFF AND SIGH

WELL FUCK YOU

YOU’RE JUST ANOTHER GUY

I AM NO LESS A PERSON THAN YOU

I WON’T HIDE MYSELF AWAY

SO YOU WON’T PUT YOUR FILTHY PAWS

ON MY BEAUTIFUL BODY

GAIN SOME FUCKING SELF CONTROL

IF A DOG CAN

YOU CAN RESPOND TO NO

IT’S MY BODY AND MY FUCKING CHOICE

TELL ME TO SILENCE I’LL RAISE MY VOICE

HOW DARE YOU MOCK THE SHAPE OF MY BODY

THE WIDTH OF MY HIPS OR MY FAT OR MY BONE

BEFORE YOU MOCK ME

THINK OF YOUR MOTHER

AND THE HIPS SHE USED TO CARRY

YOUR FAT ASS IN HER WOMB

FOR NINE WHOLE MONTHS

YOU CAN BET THAT PORN STASH OF YOURS

THAT SHE DID NOT SUFFER THAT TIME

TO WANT YOU TO MOCK THE BODY THAT’S MINE

I’VE BEEN TO THE DOCTOR

MULTIPLE TIMES IN ROARING PAIN

THAT I’VE TO DEAL WITH

FOR 6 DAYS A MONTH

THAT’S 72 DAYS A YEAR

WITH BLOOD POURING OUT OF MY BODY

BUT I’LL TRY NOT TO COMPLAIN

CAUSE I’M A WOMAN

AND I’VE “JUST GOT TO GET ON WITH IT”

DO NOT COMPARE YOUR PAIN TO MINE

I DON’T CARE HOW PAINFUL IT IS

WHEN YOU’RE KICKED IN THE BALLS