anonymous asked:

How do I deal with department store employees who snicker when I'm picking out bras? Not like I don't already feel self-conscious looking for a 30A bra...

Honestly, just find somewhere else to shop. You don’t deserve that treatment and that store definitely doesn’t deserve your business. There are plenty of places to shop for bras, even cheap bras, where employees will not harass you. If it keeps up, you can always report them to a manager. Making fun of someone for their body is uncalled for, rude, and absolutely terrible customer service, and you don’t need to put up with that.

Representation doesn’t make a story good.

Lack of representation doesn’t make a story bad.

Authors don’t owe you, or the rest of the world, a story with a diverse cast.

There is no difference between changing characters’ race from white to X and from X to white. Both are racist and disrespectful to the author’s vision.

If you want more representation, create new stories with diverse characters, don’t change what already exists.

So… when the kiddo got out of bed we talked about the situation some more, and she kind of backpedaled on the details. Said maybe she might have experienced things a little more intensely than they actually happened. I let her know that’s a normal emotional reaction, but that she doesn’t have to protect anyone else either, so if it did happen the way she first described, I was going to talk about it with Daddy today. She told me she wanted to be there, that she wanted to say how she feels to him. 

He picked her up from her orthodontist appointment and while she waited for me to get off work, she told him that she felt his girlfriend was trying to be an authority over her and made her feel insecure about her weight. Said she didn’t want them to be together because she wants her parents to get back together. When I got there he let me know that if I wanted to speak with him about it too, that was just fine, but that Lila had expressed her feelings very clearly and that he intends to speak with his gf about it immediately. 

He said in front of Lila that he thinks her perception of what happened isn’t quite accurate, that nobody was portioning less on purpose, and that she isn’t trying to mother Lila, just to be an adult, which is where I interjected that any messaging of a parenting nature should only come from her parents, period and ended. That we are not at the step parent stage, nobody is living under the same roof and needing to form that relationship yet. And I said that I will not under any circumstances tolerate negative body messaging being delivered to our kid. Ever. He nodded and said he knows and that he will speak with her about it right away. Said that Lila is his number one priority. 

On the way home I told Lila she should be so incredibly proud of herself for speaking her truth and doing it so gracefully. Told her what a gift she is to her father asking him to meet her where she lives in the world. She’s a very wise child and very brave. 

I also said that if it ever happens again and she doesn’t feel like she can speak up in that moment and wants to get away she can call me and just say come get me, and I will be there in a heartbeat. So, we shall see. 

I do in fact believe that non-binary genders, including genderfluidity, exist. I’m genderfluid myself. However, I hate images like this picture.

Implying that dress = girl, suit = boy, and other clothing = neither or both is quite honestly a crock load of shit. You should be ashamed of yourself, because like it or not, you are now officially misgendering every single person who doesn’t conform to their expected gender roles, regardless of whether they are cis or trans. (And it’s not like feminine trans men and unfeminine trans women in particular needed any more help being invalidated.)

I won’t pretend like society hasn’t gendered clothing. It has. Dresses are seen as women’s clothing and suits are seen as men’s clothing, so it makes sense that someone who wants to be read as female would wear clothing deemed as feminine and vice versa. However, when your entire identity can’t be defined outside of whatever outfit you’re wearing, then there’s a problem.

I realize many people haven’t realized that it’s possible to be genderfluid without reducing it to outfits (it’s somewhat difficult to explain, however, so I’ll try to avoid making this any longer, but I’m sure there are genderfluid people out there willing to explain), and that it’s possible to wear clothes deemed for a different gender without identifying as said gender. However, once you do realize this, there’s no excuse for reducing something as major as gender identity down to something as trivial as a fashion choice. The two can go hand in hand, but the two can’t and shouldn’t be inseparably tied together.

Sometimes I am SHOCKED when I see myself in a photo….

Are those my leg muscles?!?!

Are those my arm muscles?!?!

Where are my love handles & mommy pooch?!?!

Who is this girl?!?!?

I need to remember that I am fit & strong…

and it is photo’s such as this that remind me that fitness is waaaaaay more than a number on the scale!!!!

This is a response to the post about white girls cosplaying as Amethyst.

What is so wrong about that? Amethyst is technically a PoC, but since when is purple a normal and healthy human skin tone for ANYONE? And what’s with the hostility aimed primarily at white people? Yes they have a plethora of characters to cosplay of, but they are shamed for cosplaying as Garnet for example. (Who may I add is actually dark red when you look at her closely). And what’s with the unfair insults aimed at “ugly” people?

Yes people will complain about how some characters are “ruined” because of different skin tones, but those types of people are immature regardless of whether they are ‘neckbeards’ or not.