body talk

skinny ppl: *see their body type represented in every form of media as an ideal, are statistically paid and treated better than fat ppl, have nearly all clothes catered to their body types and the freedom to put considerably less time into presentation to still be deemed conventionally attractive*
fat person: i can think of maybe 3 fat characters painted in a positive light and none of them are intended to be understood as attractive. i cant eat in public without being harassed. my doctor refuses to give me actual medical care for weight unrelated issues because all they will tell me is to lose weight. i get attacked for being confident in my appearance.  
skinny ppl: UM EVERYONE IS BODY SHAMED ?????????? IVE BEEN CALLED UGLY?????????????

Dancing On My Own
Dancing On My Own


1. Robyn - Dancing on My Own

There wasn’t really any competition though. This is two friends dancing around their bedroom together. This is two drag queens facing their friend leaving the competition. This is standing in the corner of a club, all too often, watching the guy you fancy on someone else. This is a simple desolate electro bassline with great verses over it. This is the best build-up to a last chorus that exists. This is Dancing on My Own by Robyn and it is the most relevant, greatest fucking song that ever happened

Negative talk is like a language, and a primary way we learn this language throughout our lives is from others. Young girls will hear their mothers, aunts, grandmothers, cousins, and other women in their lives say negative things about themselves—about their bodies, habits, capabilities, the list goes on—and they’ll adopt that language as their own vernacular. We’re taught that negativity is an easy bonding tactic.
—  Katie Horwitch

to all my fat babes out there: don’t ever settle for a partner who makes you feel like your fatness is a burden to them or a badge of merit to show off – dont settle for “i love you even though youre fat” or someone who fetishizes your body and fails to see you as the whole and wonderful person you are. i promise a love out there that will make you feel normal and beautiful and adored, i promise there is someone out there who won’t make comments that make you feel uncomfortable in the skin you inhabit. don’t settle for anything less than the wholesome and healing love u deserve <3 

anonymous asked:

Hey! So, I'm really skinny and I've gotten so many comments about my body, I developed an eating disorder around 11 or 12. I understand fat people have it so, so much worse than I can imagine, but I don't appreciate you trivializing body issues just because they aren't your own, especially making fun of people who are telling you their experiences. It's rude.

what’s rude is derailing conversations fat people have about discrimination against fat people – which is what you’re doing now, by the way – to continue to put the spotlight back on skinny people and act as if our plights are on equal grounds. i understand body shaming occurs all across the spectrum in our hyper capitalist misogynist society. i’m truly sorry you struggle with disordered eating. i have too. here’s the thing though: in said hyper capitalist misogynist society, fat people are shamed on a systematic level – more frequently, more severely, every day, all the time, by most people and media we encounter. 

what i need for you to really understand here is that you are “trivializing body issues because they aren’t your own” now. i need for thin people who have been bullied about their weight to understand that despite your personalized struggles you carry a privilege due to your thinness. when a fat person highlights an aspect of their struggle, it’s simply not the time to talk about being made fun of for being thin. i literally can never talk about this without hordes of skinny people sprouting up from the ground and falling from the sky to invalidate my points via their own experiences with body issues, as if your body issues means that mine aren’t as relevant. 

for once, this isn’t about you.