It’s okay not to have the latest Nike app/sportswear.
It’s okay to go without the FitBit.
It’s okay to not eat clean if you can’t afford the produce.
It’s okay to not be able to afford quinoa or almond flower.
It’s okay to order a pizza if it’s all you can afford.
It’s okay not to have a gym membership.
It’s okay for your workout to be push-ups and sit-ups because you don’t have equipment.
It’s okay to miss a workout because you worked an eight hour shift and just need to collapse on your bed.
It’s great if you have the resources to get these things. It’s great if you are able to eat clean and go running every day and track everything on your FitBit. I know I do. But if your lifestyle doesn’t give you the time or the money to do those things, it. is. okay. You’re putting in your best effort and you care about your body. That’s the most you can ask of yourself. Remember, you need to love your body. Don’t break it in the process.
It makes me happier than anything to see you constantly drawing plus size figures, because so many only work with the "perfect figure" so thank you
Thank you! 😊❤❤❤
I think bodies are so beautiful and so interesting. If I’m honest I do need to branch out further, but it’s a process of learning and scribbling. One day I’ll be able to genuinly say that I draw many types of diverse bodies and people. But my perspective will always be a bias one (I’m not a perfect human, I make mistakes), and I’m also a skinny 5'2" cis white girl, I do not have the first hand perspective of alot of the people I try to draw/represent.
All I can do is spread body positivity and also be open to any constructive criticism.
I am so sick of this. The black community has worshipped dick and centered black men in everything since day 1. Now silly handmaidens and black men who ‘identify’ as black women want to speak over actual black women to prop themselves up. How dare you disrespect our existence and use patriarchy in a dress to make yourselves the focal point of female oppression. It’s called SEXISM not genderism for a reason. Being female has been the sole basis of our abuse and you have the nerve to pretend all of that can be redirected to being about your “mentality”.
Get the hell outta here.
You don’t get to redefine things to suit your agenda. Now you’re out here peddling the lie that “black trans women” face the highest level of violence. Bull fucking shit. Black women have experienced more violence than ANYONE ever, especially if we are dark skinned. Black people have been enslaved by other black people, whites, arabs and Natives, all of whom raped black women . Some even forced us to breed in astronomical numbers and take care of all the children regardless of color because all we were good for was production. Black women have suffered FGM, have been forced into marriages as children, our bodies have been placed in human zoos for people to gawk at our 'unusual’ figures, our bodies have been used against our will to advance science. Present day black women carry those scars with us because trauma against our humanity for daring to exist while black and female is generational.
Not only are we missing and trafficked at ridiculous rates but we are also raped, assaulted and killed under the radar. We have become the punchline for black 'entertainers’ and black men everywhere from our skin tone to our character to our mannerisms to our genitalia to our diction. We get cervical cancer more than anyone but we better not say it because “not all women have a cervix.” 😑
We are the poster children for everything wrong in society.
When society talks about welfare queens and single motherhood, they’re not thinking of 'trans’ black women.
When we get blamed for “destroying the black community with our feminism”, they’re not thinking of 'trans’ black women.
When society talks about black women being ugly and ghetto they’re not thinking of 'trans’ black women.
When people approriate our culture and style to give themselves an edge, they’re not taking it from 'trans’ black women.
Black women have attitude.
Black women are fat.
Black women are raising thugs.
They’re not talking about 'trans’ black women.
Day in and out, black women are society’s scapegoat while all you care about is being able to use the bathroom you prefer and being able to date straight men without opposition. That is what we call a First World Problem. Your identity crisis and the elective surgeries you get to appease it do not take precedent over the global and never ending disrespect of black women. We didn’t have to alter ourselves and go out of our way to be oppressed like you. Just by existing as is, the world has told us that is enough reason to take endless craps on us.
Stop acting like black men haven’t always found it ok to fight black women like men because our blackness allegedly discounts our womanhood.
Stop acting like black men haven’t embedded it in their mind that black women are not human but their mules to take care of them when life is hard, only to be discarded when they become successful.
Stop acting like black girls aren’t constantly robbed of our innocence with assault and dubbed 'fast’ so our pain is overlooked and our fault.
Stop acting like people haven’t always called black women, men because we are the antithesis of white beauty standards.
Stop acting like every woman doesn’t get an ego boost on our backs.
We are woman enough to be raped, trafficked, called bitches and hoes but too 'manly’ to reap the finances, protection and reverence patriarchal society’s claim to give women.
Stop acting like black women are not abused physically, psychologically, emotionally and financially and haven’t always been by white society, black society and everyone in between.
Acting like you have it so hard when we have always been treated like an other just for being born.
“The most disrespected and least protected person on the planet is the black woman.” - Malcolm X
He said black woman. Not black 'trans’ woman.
Cis privilege my ass. You think because you’ve been feeling for the last year what black women have been feeling since FOREVER, that you have it worse? You are only experiencing a sliver of what we get anyway. It’s just that typical fragile masculinity you were born into that has you thinking you are the peak of oppression. You went your whole lives ignoring and/or capitalizing on the degradation of black women because your maleness allowed you to put it on the back burner. Your internal issues with gender did not negate the external privilege you received. But now that you 'identify’ as one of us, we need to make you a priority or you slander us with poor reverse psychology. How narcissistic can you get? Womens rights are only worthy of attention when you are involved?
“TERF” is not a thing btw. Stop using racism, sexism and homophobia to make yourself valid. You cannot compare white privilege, male privilege and straight privilege to this nonsense. Women have never had privilege. Or do you just wanna ignore the last thousands of years? You were born on the side of privilege and into the dominant oppressing class. Now you want access to a marginalized group with no questions and throw tantrums when we say no. It’s almost like your male privilege conditioned you to force yourself onto women at any cost and taught you how to play victim when women don’t fall for your shit.
You want equal footing in womanhood but won’t hesitate to remind us you “have it worse”.
You want to call lesbians bigots if they exclusively like women and vagina… because hey, how dare some women not want penis in any way, shape or form. Blasphemy!
You have no concern for women in shelters fleeing abusive men. You invade their spaces and tell them to suck it up if they don’t like your dick and masculine energy.
You say nothing when born males use their advantages to dominate female sports.
But you’re the victim, right?
I will say it again. It’s called SEXISM, not genderism for a reason. You don’t get to keep playing the “being born in the wrong body is not a privilege” card to ignore your advantages and complicity at our expense.
Gender identity issues are low priority in comparison to everything else.
Every day black women leave our homes, we are subjected to antiblackness and misogyny just for being ourselves. Doesn’t matter how we dress or speak, it is hurled our way just for being in a female body via a black package.
It will be a cold day in hell before those born male and their delusions get to define womanhood but those of us born female and our realities that came with it don’t.
Yes, we are the arbiters and gatekeepers of womanhood and it pisses you off there’s nothing you can do about it except rally your naive liberal handmaidens and scream TERF.
Interestingly enough, there are countless instances of 'trans women’ raping, assaulting and killing women but not ONE woman has done that to you. Yet here you all come… into our spaces IRL and on the internet to force yourselves onto us. Why don’t you go after the men who fuck you in private but don’t want to publicly be seen with you and take your lives with the same gusto? Is it because you have no privilege over them and instead, it’s easier to gang up on the 'weaker sex’? It’s almost like you devalue women so much, you wanna speak over, redefine and attack us all while blaming our words for violence against you… well what do you know, patriarchy strikes again.
We will not give into your demands. We don’t negotiate with terrorists.
(If misgendering you is 'violence’, well propagating existent violence against us is indeed terrorism.) 😊
Content note: Swearing. And when I start swearing, you know shit’s bad.
So which one comes first? Are you black or fat first? Are you LGBT+ or fat first? These are questions that need to piss off and die immediately. I cannot seperate myself into palatable components for your digestion. I could draw a Venn diagram of how they all overlap, but sadly the people who ask these sort of things don’t want to learn - they want you prove yourself. Spoiler alert: you will never be worthy to them.
If you discuss fatphobia, but never mention how race affects how you are treated, then what the everlasting fuck are you doing? Fat liberation is blindingly white, cisgender and heterosexual. These are the voices who get heard, whose articles appear in popular media. These are the people who can afford to attend Fat/Body positivity conferences and know they will receive a warm welcome. They will never be the only one of their ethnicity in a group of fat folks.
If you discuss fatphobia, but never mention how fat LGBT+ people (with a few Bear-shaped exceptions) are subject to punishing drives of fat hate; how poverty affects fat LGBT+ people of colour differently than their white counterparts, then take the first exit out of here, you useless cumstain.
I am thoroughly sick of the white, able-bodied cisfemale gaze being the only thing I see in fat liberation. I am tired of their voices as the only ones amplified. And I could happily live the rest of my life without reading another piece on fatphobia that only concentrates of American white women who are at the smaller end of the fatness scale.
I want to read about experiences of disabled fats, LGBT+ fats who are black or brown, fat folks who are elderly and/or poor. Because we are the ones who face multiple oppressions, who can’t afford to shop the latest fat celebrity lines (I’m looking at you, Beth Ditto) to look incredible. We are the ones who get written out of conversations time and again, even though we have been speaking out for decades.
So all you gusset-tickling, wankers can just shut your mouths for one shit-stained minute. The rest of us would like a chance to be heard.
I am speechless. The days feel like skeins of yarn slowly unraveling themselves around the spool of the sun, dying quietly with the early winter sunset. Every morning brings fresh cuts into the fabric of our democracy—strikes against the environment, the land, women’s bodies, education, immigration, scientific research, the list is endless. Last week, I vowed to keep tabs of all the changes via Amy Siskind’s weekly lists (“Experts in authoritarianism advise to keep a list of things subtly changing around you, so you’ll remember”), but I find myself so beaten down by each single strike I’m not sure I can handle them en masse. Am I weak? Am I cowardly? Am I overly pessimistic? Or am I just a privileged white woman who’s never been called on to fight like this before because it never felt so personal?
As I write, an email zings in from The New Yorker with the subject “A Very Bad Day for the Planet”. Whatever I am, at least I can rest assured I am not alone.
I hate when there’s an infomercial product that seems “lazy” (snuggies, this new snap on magnetic phone charger, etc) and everyone makes fun of it and people for being super lazy but its like
Think of the uses these things could have for people with disabilities. I know the snuggie was originally made for people in wheelchairs, and now its become a big joke if you have one
These new magnet chargers…I have no idea if they work, but think how easy it would be for people missing an upper limb to use, people whose hands constantly shake or people who are blind and have a hard time finding the charging port
Maybe next time you see a seemingly dumb product, take a step back and consider how it can be used from all walks of life, not just your point of able-bodied privilege.
now feels like a good time to remind everyone not to be afraid about confronting me if i say/do something offensive or insensitive! i promise that in almost all cases, it was unintentional and i want to fix it/change my behavior so i can continue to grow into a better person!
While not the most quality of television shows, Cristela tackles racism, sexism, generationalism, class, body image and privilege in an honest way. If it doesn’t get better after the pilot, Cristela will at least do amazing things. And it’s a show with a Hispanic woman as a lead!
You know what? I am so fucking tired of the idea that conventionally attractive people don’t have a privilege. While the whole ‘everyone is awesome and beautiful’ thing is completely true, the entire world disagrees. never being without a dance partner is a privilege. being represented in media is a privilege. Being someones body goal is a privilege. Looking good without makeup is a privilege. Looking good with makeup is a privilege. Looking skinny and beautiful growing up is a goddamn privilege. Having thin, pale features makes you attractive in a way that is so unattainable for those who don’t already fit a profile. Not being good looking doesn’t even become competitive, its just a desperation to seem socially acceptable. I’m so done with being side eyed by white girls and their boyfriends because my face isn’t the right shape. These people can get away with being ‘quirky’ and ‘playful’ and not be trying to hard. Wouldn’t it nice to be desirable for 5 fucking seconds?
i think alot of times we forget that privilege isnt black and white. it isnt like either youre completely privileged or completely oppressed
though im black, queer and neurodivergent.. which are oppressed groups
i still have able-bodied privilege, thin privilege, hearing privilege, western privilege etc… and some other privileges im probably not even aware of
privilege doesnt mean that you face no kind of oppression. it doesnt mean that your life is perfect. it basically means that one or more aspects of your life are tremendously easier(?) than alot of other peoples. theres things that are automatically a given for you that arent for some other people
having privilege doesnt mean youre an awful person. but it means you do have to work harder to be more inclusive and mindful of the people youre privileged over
my mother’s got two bottles of dieting pills on sitting on the counter for all to see. just because we all grow olde doesn’t mean our demons fade away. it just means falling into the habit of awarding them masks and disguises like trophy prizes, like the way my mother uses healthy weight loss to mask eating disorders and a need to hate and change her body to please privileged and unworthy men.
stop telling kids that their mental issues are a phase when all you do is give your own elaborate disguises
So I'm a white masc. trans male. Would you be against helping me out with my transition or do you only seek to help minorities in the trans community? Iv noticed you're against other companies that mainly help masc. trans men so I was curious your stance on this.
I haven’t ever said at any point that I would be against helping white trans men. In fact, I’ve aided many in the last couple of years. I’ve sent out countless binders and clothing packages, raised nearly $2k for someone with my team, and have helped comfort, share information, etc w other people. In general, I’ve done a lot in the form of reaching out to the community as a whole.
I’m not against companies that mainly help trans masc people. I’m against companies that advertise themselves as being for the whole community when their spaces aren’t safe for trans feminine people or POC.
I’ll even break it down. Here’s a short list off the top of my head of things that make so called “inclusive” companies/spaces unsafe:
-language tailored solely towards masc people(guys, dudes, bros, brothers, etc)
-services tailored solely towards masc people(only doing top surgery or binder fundraisers)
-lack of intersectional commentary/dialogue(not recognizing trans masc privilege, passing privilege, white privilege, class privilege, able bodied privilege, access to resources, etc)
-products made solely for masc people(only having the usual “unisex”(usually men’s) shirts available, not using language inclusive of nonbinary identities)
-failure to have representation of POC, trans fem ppl, ppl w disabilities(only having white trans guy after white trans guy on your feed and only choosing popular white trans people to promo for you)
-culturally appropriative products/models(white models with “dreads”(mats), taking cultural items that aren’t yours and using them for gain of profit or for profit that doesn’t benefit that culture directly, etc)
-appropriating AAVE(being non black and using: fam, my guy, lit, gang, crew, bitter/salty/thirsty, and other terms popularized by the black community)
Not the shortest list but a good start.
I don’t /only/ seek to help minorities within the community. But, as you have also recognized, most companies do not give a shit about POC or trans fem people. Not to mention how that intersects with ableism, classism, misogyny, patriarchy, sexism, etc.
My goal is to create spaces and aid organizations that are safe for the entirety of the community. My goal is to ensure that those who see companies that don’t give a shit about them, that actively prove day in and day out that they don’t care about POC or trans feminine people, know that there’s at least someone who sees it and cares that it’s happening.
My goal is to be an ally and to be a leader. And sometimes being a leader means doing uncomfortable things–like the countless conversations I have had with white trans men to tell them why what they are doing is harmful. Or like all the personal growth I have had to do and still have to do to be a better ally. Or being thoughtful and understanding when I’m called out and working at being better.
My question to you then, is how do you see all of these companies solely catering to white masc people and you don’t care? Doesn’t that seem unfair? You feel like I won’t help you because I create dialogue on intersectionality, but how do more marginalized members of the community feel when they have zero representation, zero help, and all of these people keep trying to pretend they are aiding them? Have you ever thought critically about that?