It’s absolutely impossible to please everybody.
It really is.
With there being so many desires, opinions, and expectations being flung at us within a single moment, it’s just not possible. We are only one person. One human. There is only so much we can do when it comes to satisfying everyone around us.
However, we must do everything in our power to make sure that we ourselves are taken care of. That our needs are satisfied. That we are loved and nurtured. That we are genuinely happy.
We are only one person. One human. And that, my friend, is the perfect amount to be able to manage ourselves. So make sure to do so; with unconditional love and care.
There’s nothing ugly about me. Anyone trying to convince me that I am — and it’s usually me — is wasting her time. I was in a war with my body for a long time. If I’d started treating it better sooner, I wouldn’t have spent so many years hating myself. But I love my body now.
Hair removal, at its core, is a form of gendered social control. It’s not a coincidence that the pressure for women to modify their body hair has risen in tandem with their liberties, Herzig argues. She writes that the effect of this hairlessness norm is to “produce feelings of inadequacy and vulnerability, the sense that women’s bodies are problematic the way they naturally are.”