Today’s healing meditation was really interesting.
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It’s like my body and I were having a conversation.
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During the meditation I saw how my entire life, I LEARNED to try.
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So many rules came with that.
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I was told what to eat and what not to eat, when to eat, how to eat, blah, blah, blah.
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I was always trying to do something to lose weight. Healthy or unhealthy methods, I didn’t care. I just wanted to be skinny.
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All of a sudden I heard my younger mes ( #healingtheyoungermes) say:
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“You couldn’t relax? You couldn’t just be?
We wanted to play and be free”.
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I was always controlling.
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I didn’t allow.
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Words of advice:
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Do what YOU want!
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Do what feels good for YOU!
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NOT what others want you to do.
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How are you going to let somebody else come and tell u what your body likes and dislikes!?
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Nobody knows you like YOU.
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Plug into that! Tune IN!
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Your body is trying to communicate with you.
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Along with my process of healing, comes the process of unlearning.
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Unlearning everything that doesn’t serve me.
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Although I needed those beliefs at some point to shape me into the person I am today, I now release them.
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What do you need to unlearn?
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What are the younger yous trying to communicate to you?

19-year-old Jacinda made a meme to remind black children that their features are beautiful. Now it’s viral.

  • If you scroll through 19-year-old Jacinda’s Instagram account, where she has more than 11,000 followers, you’ll see flawless selfies and outfit appreciations, but interspersed among them are honest revelations she’s had on her own journey to loving every part of herself.
  • “I love how now I’m slowly discovering every flaw I once disliked and slowly loving it,” she wrote in May.
  • Indeed, for years she struggled to love various parts of her — from her body to her lips — partly because she simply never saw black beauty being celebrated.
  • Now she wants to ensure that no other black children go through what she went through, thinking they aren’t worthy or beautiful. 
  • And since it’s 2017, Jacinda’s using Instagram – and memes. Read more (6/6/17)

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How to talk to your daughter about her body, step one: Don’t talk to your daughter about her body, except to teach her how it works.

Don’t say anything if she’s lost weight. Don’t say anything if she’s gained weight.

If you think your daughter’s body looks amazing, don’t say that. Here are some things you can say instead:

“You look so healthy!” is a great one.

Or how about, “You’re looking so strong.”

“I can see how happy you are – you’re glowing.”

Better yet, compliment her on something that has nothing to do with her body.

Don’t comment on other women’s bodies either. Nope. Not a single comment, not a nice one or a mean one.

Teach her about kindness towards others, but also kindness towards yourself.

Don’t you dare talk about how much you hate your body in front of your daughter, or talk about your new diet. In fact, don’t go on a diet in front of your daughter. Buy healthy food. Cook healthy meals. But don’t say, “I’m not eating carbs right now.” Your daughter should never think that carbs are evil, because shame over what you eat only leads to shame about yourself.

Encourage your daughter to run because it makes her feel less stressed. Encourage your daughter to climb mountains because there is nowhere better to explore your spirituality than the peak of the universe. Encourage your daughter to surf, or rock climb, or mountain bike because it scares her and that’s a good thing sometimes.

Help your daughter love soccer or rowing or hockey because sports make her a better leader and a more confident woman. Explain that no matter how old you get, you’ll never stop needing good teamwork. Never make her play a sport she isn’t absolutely in love with.

Prove to your daughter that women don’t need men to move their furniture.

Teach your daughter how to cook kale.

Teach your daughter how to bake chocolate cake made with six sticks of butter.

Pass on your own mom’s recipe for Christmas morning coffee cake. Pass on your love of being outside.

Maybe you and your daughter both have thick thighs or wide ribcages. It’s easy to hate these non-size zero body parts. Don’t. Tell your daughter that with her legs she can run a marathon if she wants to, and her ribcage is nothing but a carrying case for strong lungs. She can scream and she can sing and she can lift up the world, if she wants.

Remind your daughter that the best thing she can do with her body is to use it to mobilize her beautiful soul.

—  Sarah Koppelkam