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20/10/18

I have been super busy of late taking care of a 6 months old and a 3-year-old and making products it’s hard to keep up with my blog posts at this moment but she’s doing well though she’s doing good on solids she’s not been as picky as Jake was at the start but  honestly I’m just happy with life and learning to take it all in and not take life for granted I’m happy with life right now in fairness on that note I did sit down and do some drawing with Jake while Raine was down for a nap, we did lay out newspaper this was more after we finished up drawing together.

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10.20.18 // Family Camping


This morning, Lance and I randomly thought we should go camping this weekend. We told the kids when they woke up this morning that we were going camping and they were totally down for it. Once we packed up and got ready, went to our local camp site and been there every since lol.

We’ve pretty much been playing around outside and going on hikes. As a family, we love being outside and it’s always so much fun to be outside together. Just a little quality time outdoors lol.

If you have to re-take a class, because you didn’t do so well it’s okay. if you have to spend an extra year in school because of current struggles it’s okay. These are only parts of your life, this isn’t your entire life. Only a small scene part of the bigger movie. A grade doesn’t define your worth. You are still a human being with value. Do your best. Grind as hard as you can, reach out to your professor and network with other students to study together. Don’t give up. There are so many more options out there for you. 

This is only a low point, this isn’t the end for you. 

Peace. 

15 Beyoncé Quotes That Promote Self-Love and Positive Mental Health

The multi talented 36-year-old has undoubtedly taken the world by storm ever since Destiny’s Child was introduced in 1997. She may be well-known for her kick-ass feminist anthems but Queen Bey is one smart cookie when it comes to true happiness, personal growth and self-love.

Here are some of my favourite Beyoncé quotes that have encouraged me through my own recovery journey :

“Women have to take the time to focus on our mental health - take time for self, for the spiritual, without feeling guilty or selfish.”

“Your self-worth is determined by you. You don’t have to depend on someone telling you who you are.”

“If everything was perfect you would never learn and you would never grow.”

“If there’s one thing I’m willing to bet on, it’s myself.”

“When I’m not feeling my best I ask myself, “What are you gonna do about it?” I use the negativity to fuel the transformation into a better me.”

“It is so liberating to really know what I want, what truly makes me happy, what I will not tolerate. I have learned that it is no one else’s job to take care of me but me.”

“The reality is: sometimes you lose, and you’re never too good to lose. You’re never too big to lose. You’re never too smart to lose. It happens.”

“My biggest thing is to teach not to focus on the aesthetic. It’s really about who you are, and the human being, that makes you beautiful.”

“We need to reshape our own perception of how we view ourselves. We have to step up as women and take the lead.”

“Now that I was famous, I was afraid I’d never find somebody again to love me for me. I was afraid of making new friends. Then one day my mom said, “Why do you think a person wouldn’t love you? Don’t you know how smart and sweet and beautiful you are?” That’s when I decided I only have two choices: I can give up, or I can go on.”

“When you love and accept yourself, when you know who really cares about you, and when you learn from your mistakes, then you stop caring about what people who don’t know you think.”

“We all have our imperfections, but I’m human and you know, it’s important to concentrate on other qualities besides outer beauty.”

“I don’t feel like I have to please anyone. I feel free. I feel like I’m an adult. I’m grown. I can do what I want. I can say what I want. I can retire if I want. That’s why I’ve worked hard.”

“Over time, I have learned to focus on the things I want to focus on in the time frame that I set. I no longer have to work based on someone else’s expectations or pressure.”

“I don’t have to prove anything to anyone. I only have to follow my heart and concentrate on what I want to say to the world. I run my world.”

So next time you’re feeling like …

… just remember that Beyoncé was not built in a day, and you are the Beyoncé of your own life.

Take care and stay strong,
Sarah Lee  ♡

5 things I’ve learned from difficult seasons

I think we’ve all had a season of our lives where we felt like we were in the valley and it was challenging to see what God could possibly have planned for us. Seasons like that can cause us to doubt and sometimes even fear for the future. We can lose sight of God’s promise whenever life takes a painfully unexpected turn. But I believe that, even if it’s hard to see from time to time, God knows what He‘s doing. I believe He’s looking out for each one of us (maybe even in ways we never could’ve imagined). I know I’ve been through the valley before. Here are 5 lessons I’ve learned. I hope they give you peace and assurance no matter where in your life you happen to be.

1. There’s a purpose

Nearly every trial I’ve faced during a dry season of my life has benefited me in one way or another. Now, it wasn’t always easy to see how it was benefiting me at the time, but that was where I had to really put my trust in God. I won’t lie. It was hard sometimes. But now, looking back, I can see that He was with me every step of the way, molding me, cultivating my character, making me holy just as He is holy.

The struggles I faced grew me in ways I never thought possible. They made me resilient and seriously strengthened my faith. But, more than anything I think, they taught me that we serve a God who will never give up on us even when we want to give up on ourselves. That made a huge impact on me.

2. God knows what we really need

Life can feel out of control sometimes. And I know there were moments when I felt completely overwhelmed and, truthfully, just kind of exhausted even thinking about the direction my life was going. I was letting my anxieties over the present state of things get the best of me and because of that, I wasn’t able to clearly see what God was doing through them—what He had in mind.

Often, we may be tempted to doubt how God could possibly use our circumstances to better us and make us into the people we were meant to be. We may even start to question His provision when things get dark and it’s difficult to make out the road ahead. But it’s my firm belief that just as God cares about the world as a whole, He also cares about you and I as individuals. He knows what we need even when we may not and He’s leading us ever onward towards the ultimate goal.

Sometimes, that means enduring tribulation. Sometimes, that will hurt. But that’s why it’s so important to constantly lean into Him and trust Him with our whole hearts. He has our best interests in mind, and we can be fully confident of that regardless of what the future may hold.

3. Trials teach dependence

Often, we have to come to the end of ourselves to learn to fully depend on God. And when it seemed confusion and doubt had taken the reigns in my life, I was left with no other choice than to turn everything over to the Lord and believe that He would do what was right and take care of things in His own way and time.

I‘m strongly inclined to believe that sometimes, God will allow us to go through trying times in order to bring us back to Him. He is truly all we need. He loves us with such an amazing love and His continual pursuit of us even when we’ve lost our way proves that.

4. We’re developing empathy

Not only has difficulty helped me become the person I am today, but it’s also equipped me with the ability to help others who are facing similar situations. Because of the things I’ve been through on a personal level, I’m able to really empathize with people who are dealing with the same things and offer advice based on my own experiences.

It’s such a blessing to be able to help others through my past struggles and I’d never be able to connect with them in that way had I never gone through some of these things. Our greatest trials can become life-changing testimonies that ultimately draw people closer to God (how incredible is that?).

5. It will pass

God may not always allow us to avoid the storms of life, but He’ll always be there with us so that we‘re strong enough to brave them. When the waters rise, He is our strength and our portion.

The Bible says to fix our eyes on what is unseen, because all the things that we can see are temporary, but what‘s unseen is eternal. I’ve learned to fix my eyes on God no matter the circumstance, because troubles will pass. Confusion will pass. Pain will pass. But God remains.

My prayer is that we’ll always remember how fleeting the things of this world are and choose to glorify God no matter whether life seems perfect or everything seems to be falling apart. He has promised to work all things together for the good of those who love Him and who have been called according to His purpose. That’s an amazing promise! And thankfully, it’s a promise we can always hold fast to.

Gratitude changes everything

A series of events like getting shingles half a year ago to seeing a scribbled poem I wrote last month on the train home describing how I feel lighter and more hopeful–to cleaning my bed shelves and reading old birthday and holiday cards three days ago – allowed me to come up with this quick blog post topic: gratitude.

Holidays aren’t the jolliest or easiest of times for everyone. For some, it can be about Christmas lights, huge family get-togethers, gifts and shopping, while for others, it may include anxiety, depression, loss, and stress. We can get caught up with certain circumstances and forget to think, reflect and be thankful for all that we do have, which isn’t always guaranteed. Despite broken relationships, unfulfilled dreams and longings, and turbulent situations, gratitude comes in and has the ability to change the perspective through which we view these happenings.

I believe I am a positive, appreciative person most of the time, however, I do get caught up with life and sometimes catch myself complaining about something (a lot more this past year than ever). “I’m so tired, I didn’t get enough sleep”, “My room is such a mess…”, “I want to take off and go on a trip”, “I’m so busy and have talked all eight hours at work”. What I forget is that it is exactly in those moments that I need to take time to be extra grateful for all my blessings. I’m alive. And every second I am alive, I have the ability to change and morph into someone better and do better. There are opportunities out there waiting for me to take, if I am willing. And so for the remainder of 2017 and coming 2018, I am striving to complain no more.

In times when I’m feeling distressed, swamped, tiny, sorrowful, exhausted, or distraught, I am reminding myself that I am extremely grateful for all that I have right here and now. My health, supportive and giving parents, selfless and loving sister, an amiable and understanding partner, encouraging readers and believers of my blog and it’s future to come and wonderful friends who still want to hang out with me when I have bailed 10 times over.

I really couldn’t ask for more.

Gratitude isn’t always the easiest to be conscious of when so many other thoughts occupy the mind, but it truly transforms the way we interact with our relationships. Gratitude itself is a mindset and an outlook. It is an attitude, and attitudes are the center of our lives. Treat yourself with kindness and love that you treat your loved ones and spread that to the rest of the universe. Being grateful leads to a tremendous amount of great things. Great things take time. But that’s just with anything, including time itself.

I’ve realized that life becomes brighter when I expect nothing and view life as a gift filled with opportunities. Gratitude changes everything.

What are you grateful for? 

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12.17.17

I slept most of Friday and most of Saturday (catching up for all the all nighters I pulled during finals week), so today was my first day taking advantage of being on break. I went grocery shopping with my dad and got a bunch of great food! I’m so excited. Last week was horrible, I ate one meal on Monday and didn’t have another meal until Thursday when I got a pizza. I was too stressed and lazy to cook, plus I was on deadlines for my finals and didn’t want to pull myself away to make food. But, as part of my winter break recovery, I now have all of the supplies to be super healthy. I almost always take a grocery haul picture, whether I share it or keep it for myself, because after I’ve used everything I like to look back at all of the healthy things I ate. It just gives me this sense of accomplishment, especially considering where I came from (my eating habits in high school). 

On top of the food, I got a few self care items. I got a mud mask to clean my face because stress made me break out and - let’s be honest - if I wasn’t pulling myself away from work to eat food I wasn’t pulling myself away from work to wash my face either (oops). I also got a hair masque just to add a little extra moisture to my hair since the cold air outside tends to dry it out a little extra. The coconut oil isn’t something new, I’ve had the jar for a while now. I use it in my hair and in a homemade body scrub that I have. I mix the oil with coffee grounds to make a natural exfoliant. (I got the idea from a friend, just saying. I don’t want to take credit for an idea that isn’t mine!)

But yeah, I took a shower, washed my hair, and put on the hair masque and the mud mask. Then I made a butternut squash soup that tasted great, and I have a lot left over to eat throughout this upcoming week :) 

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2.12.18 (Printables Below!!!)

It’s Anthony’s birthday! And he was still at home with his family so I didn’t get to tell him to his face, but I sent him a snapchat bitmoji collage of a bunch of cute bitmojis of us getting into trouble and looking weird. 

Today wasn’t super busy class-wise. I had work this morning and spent most of it scrambling to figure out what to do for my paper that’s due on Thursday. In this class we are allowed to email the professor two days ahead of time to ask for an extension, no excuse needed. So, I sent the email and went straight to his office hours after work. We ended up having a really good discussion about my topic and I took notes on everything that was said. I have a better sense of direction for my thesis, and with the extension, I can put the paper on my backburner to focus on my Greek Art midterm tomorrow. 

I spent the afternoon doing work; mainly catching up on some assignments and reading a manuscript for my internship. My professor for my night class was sick so the TA was in charge. I shamefully admit that instead of paying attention to her I continued reading the manuscript during the class discussion. I made a lot of headway and somehow managed not to get called on. 

Since Anthony isn’t here there was no racquetball tonight. I did a quick upper body workout in my room using my resistance bands and 10lb weights. Then I showered and curled up in bed to continue reading the manuscript. I have 100 pages left that I’m hoping to finish tomorrow morning so I can send my report in the afternoon. Now I’m camping out at my kitchen table to study for my Greek Art exam!

I was recently asked about the homework planners that I post a lot. I actually put that and my weekly timetable together myself. Here are the links:

Homework Planner

Weekly Timetable

Uni Tips - First Year

So I’ve just finished my first year at uni and there were a lot of things I either wasn’t told or didn’t really think about, so I thought I’d make this to help anyone going into theirs this year.

1. You probably won’t have the same friends at the end of the year that you did at the beginning - and that’s ok. If you think about freshers week logically, it’s just a bunch of young people in an unfamiliar place with people they don’t know trying to make ‘fast friends’ so they don’t feel so nervous. So it’s natural once classes and assignments start up that you’ll meet new people again who might share more of your interests. Basically, you’ll keep meeting new people so if you lose friends you made in freshers that’s ok - don’t feel bad about it.

2. Dorms are cold - stock up on warm stuff! Nobody mentions how cold dorms can be in winter. Yeah, they put the heating on, but at 2pm when you’re in classes so it’s cold again by the time you get back. I know a lot of students will be on a really tight budget (I was, too) but even blankets and jumpers from cheaper shops like Primark do the trick (although if you can afford it electric blankets are super popular!). 

3. Having even a rough timetable can totally save your backside. It’s easy to get distracted when you live in the same flat/block as your friends, and you’ll probably be invited out at a moments notice - but it’s important that work gets done too. The easiest way I found was to have 1 - 2 hours scheduled out per weekday at times I knew my friends were busy with lectures. 

4. Living with strangers will either be awesome or suck, but there are ways to get by if you don’t get along. It’s impossible to tell what it’s going to be like living with strangers and whether you’ll even like each other. But it’s important to make sure everyone helps with cleaning and picking up after themselves. If all else fails you can ask to be moved or spend as much time out with friends or in your own room as you can. 

5. University is completely different from school. If you’re anything like me you might have had a tough time in school, and although it sounds cliche uni is the perfect chance for a new start. You could be in a completely new place meeting new people, don’t let your bad experience from school stop you from making the most of it!

These are just from my experience, I’m in no way saying this is gospel! Good luck to anyone who reads this and have a great first year!

Feel free to follow 💫 @loveisinthedetails for more!

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5.12.18

Today’s victory was finally getting my dad to purchase something from the Muji stationary store. We had a great day walking around southern Manhattan. I bought some pens, got two books, and finally found the Tarte lipsticks I’ve been looking for. We walked a total of four miles, through Washington Square to Union Square, to a four-story Barnes & Noble, and a couple of apartment buildings. 

Fingers crossed for good news to come next week, maybe possibly, if the universe loves me :D 

Give to yourself.

Stop sacrificing yourself for others all the time. Stop letting yourself be drained to where you feel empty. Stop giving more than you have. Be nice to yourself the way you are to others. Love yourself the way you love others. Give to yourself the way you give to others. Find the balance. Give and allow yourself to receive. It’s not selfish to think about yourself. It’s not selfish to plan for your future. You aren’t a bad friend/person because you can’t give all of the time. The people that love you will understand. 

Practice some self care by giving to yourself. Treat yourself to a healthy meal, buy yourself a new outfit, gift yourself something that you’ve wanted for a while, go explore the beauty of the world, just do something for yourself. Recharge and feel good about being you. Give yourself some love. 

Thank you for reading. Peace. 

Happy Shark Week everyone!
Shark week day 1

So in honor of shark week, I am going to do my best and post a shark fact each day of the week! So starting off, is the largest fish in the sea, the whale shark! Did you know these massive sharks can get as long as 18-33 feet. (ignore the misspelled weigh I just noticed that)

-flux and -fluid gender identities...what’s the difference?

Here’s the short answer: 

“-flux” suffixed genders (examples include genderflux, girlflux, etc.) are based on the intensity of the feeling of your gender(s).

“-fluid” suffixed genders (examples include genderfluid, femfluid, etc.) are based on feeling different genders that change over time.

Here’s the long answer:

-flux

Gender identity labels that use the “-flux” suffix means that you are using a specific gender label, and modifying it to clarify that the intensity of your gender changes. You “slide on a scale” in a way from whatever your original identity is (female, androgyne, male, anything besides agender) and the feeling of having no gender, otherwise known as agender. The genderflux label is the most simple way to describe it:

Genderflux: the feeling of your gender fluctuating in intensity; like genderfluid but between one gender and agender

Here’s an example: Maria identifies as a demigirl. Maria uses she/they pronouns. Some days she feels very female, other days she feels less female, and some days they feel like they have no gender at all. The intensity of Maria’s “female” gender varies from day to day. Her week, for example, could look like this:

(I made this super late at night on MS paint don’t hate me)

-fluid

Gender identity labels that use the “-fluid” suffix generally mean you experience two or more genders and change between them, though it is possible to feel them simultaneously sometimes. It can be any number of genders and any label (agender, male, female, nonbinary, polygender, bigender, androgyne, etc.), but they change over time. The genderfluid label is the most simple way to describe it: 

Genderfluid: the feeling of fluidity within your gender identity; feeling a different gender as time passes or as situations change; not restricted to any number of genders

Here’s an example: Kai identifies as genderfluid. Kai uses any pronouns. Kai has experienced feeling male, androgyne, agender, and egogender, and their label changes on a daily basis depending on how they feel at that time. Their Monday, for example, could look like this:

(I also made this graphic super late yikes) I hope this helped! 

~ Wren

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3.18.18 Moving In A Forward Direction 

My weekend was interesting. I spent all of last week inside of my head reliving some painful experiences. I didn’t go to class, and I nonchalantly walked into work late every day - silently wishing I’d get fired. But I’m still stressed-out-painfully-organized me, so by late I mean I walked in three minutes late silently pleading to be challenged even though I knew nothing was going to happen. And nothing did, for an entire week. There were a few people I wanted to call, to cry to, but I couldn’t. It’s unfair to reach out to some, and unrealistic to reach out to others, and what’s left are people too far away to actually feel comfortable confiding in. So, I was alone and inside my head accomplishing nothing in silence. 

The one thing I did do was drag myself up to the gym to workout with Anthony. I needed to be doing something because living on chocolate Oreos is definitely not the path to ultimate health. I made myself sore all over so that I wouldn’t feel as pitiful on the inside. 

On Friday I conducted my editorial meetings with the writers I’m working with for Forbes & Fifth this semester. The meetings went really well, and for one of them, it was more of a brainstorming session to help inspire the writer. I felt in my element and we were able to figure out a solution for some of the content issues in his lyric essay. After the meetings, I went to my favorite cafe. Sometimes I like going to Big Dog because even though it’s two feet away from campus, once I’m inside I feel far away from Pitt and from my life. I get to be this student who does work, a writer who drinks lattes while mastering the plot of her novel, a girl making eyes at other girls. This week I was a girl who did not recently realize she’s been struggling with PTSD for a few years now, and those were the most productive hours of my week. 

After the cafe, one of my friends came over. She’s someone whose company I enjoy a lot, but not someone I consider a close or best friend. She’s the perfect distance to be someone to confide in the hard truths that I’m not ready to have permeated my life. So I told her everything. Actually, I wrote it on a piece of paper that I tore up after she read and then she made us go on a walk to a field where she pushed me to tell her everything. For the first time, I recounted all of the details of my assault. I laughed nervously until my shaking body shook with sobs. It was the worst pain but a great feeling. 

On Saturday we studied together, and being around her was nice because now she knows the truth. We did homework for seven hours, said our goodbyes, and then I went to Anthony’s 21st birthday party (his incredibly late 21st birthday party). It was fun.

Keep creating. Keep sharing. Keep giving. When people are ready for your art, they will embrace you. Be Patient. Don’t get discouraged because you aren’t getting the love right away. Don’t be discouraged you aren’t winning the way you want to yet. Give it time and have faith. Your art is still great, give people time and they will appreciate it. No matter what though, don’t stop creating. If you stop creating, you lose your chance at victory. The key to win is to continue. Just keep going. 

Peace.