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Anti-ace/aro shit on this site, an actual problem

Somehow people keep claiming there is no problem with anyone hating aces and aros on this site and particularly in what they call “ace discourse” (but what could often be more accurately renamed to “plain shitting on aces and aros”). So I’ve made another list of some of the shit that’s gone down, except this time with links because apparently that’s the only way to not get dismissed out of hand.

I’ve talked a lot about racism in this mess but I’ve stuck to mostly other stuff this time, because I don’t have the energy to drag up certain shit again (or in other cases don’t want to bring in posts ppl apologized for, or dig through my blog for a long time, or or. Maybe I will add some more shit later. [Though looking over it one more time, there’s actually some considerable stuff here already.])

So, crap the anti-ace/aro crowd on this site has pulled includes but sadly is not at all limited to:

Comparing aces and aros to Trump  (and pretending this is funny)

Comparing aces to Pence 

Comparing aces to Ronald Reagan (and pretending this is funny)

Comparing aces to a literal slave owner

Making fun of aces not being accepted by their parents and of aces finding this upsetting (making it into a crytyping “joke”)

Making aces feel shitty/shaming them for telling their parents they’re ace because it’s supposedly “unnecessary”

Saying if we tell family about being ace, it’s no wonder if they send us to therapy

Doing their best to sexualize the orientations of aces, in so many cases. The link before these two is also connected to that. They treat our orientations like (graphic) details about “our sex lives”, frequently acting like if we want to talk about them ever we’re gross/creepy

This one is also “nice” re sexualizing aces (one of many examples of ppl also engaging in sex-shaming while they’re at it, saying only one’s partner should know anything about one’s “relationships with sex”. Except this person goes kinda even further)

More sexualization, when I say this freaks me out as a WoC, I’m told this white person gives no fucks and wants me to be miserable

Another person who says the identities of aces but also of aros need to stay between them and their Partners because they’re “TMI” and inherently sex-shaming somehow

Oh yeah did I mention, much the same with sexualizing aros and ppl frequently link our identities to misogyny and to using people while they’re at it

Making light and fun of ace WoC asking to not be sexualized because don’t we know aces have done Bad things and so we deserve it/don’t get to complain

One of many examples of white people who hate aces+aros talking over PoC and trying to erase us from our communities (+usually when we call that shit out they don’t care. This is actually one of the more cordial responses I’ve come across despite the lack of apology lol. [Eta: my wording here was misleading before, they weren’t talking to me - I’d also called them on this but they ignored me. Sorry for the confusion!] Also, I have a tag somewhere with several non-black/white ppl who made Rachel Dolezal comparisons to shit on aces/aros). Another example of talking over us here complete with condescendingly lecturing a PoC about racism

People like this saying outright they hate aces

Saying sex ed shouldn’t teach about asexuality

Outright stating they think being ace/aro gives people privilege (because supposedly aces+aros both benefit from conservatives pushing for abstinence)

Outright invalidating the identities of aces (who don’t have the attitude towards sex they think they should have)

Calling asexuals demons

Outright calling aces and aros a “plague” and saying aces/aros regardless of other identities all need to be kicked out of the LGBT+ community.

Erasing the identities of people who speak out against anti-ace/aro shit to declare them “straight” or “cishet” …or saying that treatment is what they get for being “traitors to their own community”

Ignoring the boundaries of aces/aros who have them blocked and don’t want to be vagued to make fun of them

…or even to continue sexualizing them after they have made it very clear that shit freaks them out (cheerfully doing this to a WoC)

Someone saying asexuality does not exist and “encourages slut shaming”

Spamming the ace positivity tag with vile hate (ppl have talked a lot about how this harms and endangers especially mentally ill ppl)

“aces are embarassing“ in the positivity tag

Posting nsfw content in the ace positivity tag and being completely unapologetic, apparently using the reasoning that our identities are inherently nsfw anyway (see the “TMI discourse” aka people sexualizing our identities)

Calling aces and aros a “sexuality fandom” while pretending we’re a group full of people with every privilege imaginable, bored of being accepted by everyone and of having no Actual Problems in our lives. This kind of nasty erasure constantly goes on and is a big tactic in this mess tbh

Wanting aces to be “exterminated”. For good measure putting this in the ace positivity tag

This disgusting vile shit that I don’t even know how to sum up but it includes wishing death on someone

Talking about wanting aces/aros dead after somehow misunderstanding(?) a post that was very clearly not about asexuality or aromanticism

Graphically telling aces to die

Specifically telling ace kids to kill themselves

Did I mention that many people in this mess have wished death on aces and aros and that they often put it in positivity tags. Some of the most messed up shit I’ve seen is missing because I didn’t reblog/respond to it at the time or can’t find it right now

And I know anons don’t count as hard “proof” for anything but have the less graphic one of the death/rape threats I got  in my inbox for speaking out against anti-ace/aro shit (still kinda eerily detailed though. Not linking the other one because it is extremely graphic)

And the really sad thing is that these are all just examples that I could find relatively quickly. I also left out posts for various reasons, and tried to focus on just really blatant shit and not anything where you need a ton of context, or something “just” on the level of the many people who’ve invalidated asexuality/aromanticism as orientations (declaring them to only ever “modifiers”)

But yeah, a lot of people here? Hate aces and aros a lot and what’s going on is incredibly harmful and toxic and it needs to stop. This is serious shit

anonymous asked:

Stop being a fucking pissbaby and just post the content. Your blackout is completely illogical and counter-productive - people who repost stuff will continue reposting, since they don't care. While those that care about reblogs, will not reblog, because you won't post art for two weeks. Brilliant strategy. it's the typical tumblr mindset: "I want to change the world. I know, I will sign a bullshit petition!". God, you are stupid.

….oh man, this is about to become very embarrassing for you. 

first of all, i’m not even participating in the blackout nor am i organizing it so i don’t even know why the hell you’re coming to me with this. if you’ll notice i’m still reblogging art and still posting writing. which tells me that what you’re doing is going through the tag, finding anyone who’s posted about the blackout, and sending them useless asks because it’s how you get your rocks off. because apparently a harmless tumblr protest upsets you so fucking much that you have to go and insult people over it. you must have a lot of time on your hands. 

if you don’t like the protest, don’t participate in it. if you think it’s not going to do any good, fine. don’t participate in it. i don’t understand why you’re so angry about people participating in a protest that doesn’t affect you. the fact that you are angry shows me that you’re entitled. either you’re a content creator who thinks that you’re entitled to the notes that the people currently protesting aren’t going to give you for two lousy weeks (which, grow up) or you’re a consumer who thinks you’re entitled to the fanart and fanfiction that people on this site post for fucking free that you will be without for two lousy weeks (which, again, grow up). there are plenty of users not participating who are still posting and still reblogging, so the fact that you feel the need to send messages like this to complain about people who are protesting for personal reasons is about the most childish thing i’ve seen all week. 

and here’s another tip, hot off the press. since you’re apparently so offended by a harmless protest that doesn’t affect you, why don’t you do something that you do think will help with art theft instead of insulting people about this protest. why don’t you spread information about proper etiquette around reposting? why don’t you hold an event where people can report any stolen art they see? why don’t you write up guides for new artists/writers who don’t know how to report their stolen content?

bet that didn’t occur to you. because you’re too busy complaining about what other people are doing rather than trying to do something positive for once. because you don’t really care about art theft and you don’t really care about remedying it. you just want an excuse to insult people on anon for doing something that you don’t particularly care for. again, that is childish, entitled, rude, and proof that you really must have a lot of time on your hands. 

please entertain yourself with something else. and if i see you in my inbox again, i’m blocking and reporting your ass. 

The Futility of the Faction Fracas

The new areas we’ll visit in “Battle For Azeroth” seem cool and I’m looking forward to exploring them.  The subraces are a welcome addition.  I like the idea of the older zones scaling to a level bracket instead of a set level range.  Dynamic island scenarios sound intriguing.  I’m not trying to rain on the BFA parade, because I think some fun gameplay will come out of it.  The lore premise, however, leaves me wincing a bit.

There’s so much division, hostility, resentment, and “Us vs. Them” mentality in the real world (especially my own country) right now that I’m having trouble mustering enthusiasm for a resurgence of it in my favorite fantasy world, too.

I don’t want to deal with the same old arguments about which made-up faction in a video game is better.  Horde or Alliance, Sylvanas or Anduin, red or blue, whatever.  I’m not looking forward to a few years of increased debate about which is more justified in their actions, as if they were real people making decisions and not fictional characters being written by a company who wants to make fun video games.

Blizzard tries so hard to make me hate the other faction.  “Look, they destroyed one of your cities!  They killed this character!”  No.  The writers did that to make the story and game more interesting.  The people who want to play a pink elf instead of a purple one, or a talking cow instead of a talking wolf, had nothing to do with it.  We’re all playing the same game.  A lot of people, myself included, play characters of both factions.  I just don’t get where the attitude of “those other guys are the absolute worst and I want to bash their skulls in” comes from.  Granted, I don’t PVP, so that might be skewing my viewpoint.  Still, the faction rift is just not that compelling to me.

Furthermore, neither side can win or lose in any meaningful way.  When the dust settles at the end of the plot arc, we’ll be right back where we started.  Certain characters may be killed off, territory may be gained or lost, but at the end of the day we’ll be back to the same stalemate.

I much prefer facing threats on a global or cosmic scale, rather than Alliance vs. Horde.  Those stories can have a decisive ending with lasting consequences.

So I eagerly await news of what other plots will be going on in the next expansion, because the faction war feels really futile and stale to me.

anonymous asked:

Please tell me you have parent klance hcs (or team voltron with kids in general)

oh bicth get ur body ready

  • After the war is over and they return home, in a few years time things on Earth have changed, aliens have integrated with earth’s population and shit so it’s not too uncommon to find refugees and all that jazz.
    • Lance goes home to his family and they say he has a new niece and he’s all excited to meet her because!!!!! a new girl!!!!! a new family member he can spoil!!!!!! and love!!!!!!!
    • He meets her and finds out she’s adopted and a mixed galra and very shy around everyone (She stands out in a room of humans ofc)
    • He calls Keith to come over since he’s half galra.
    • Keith at first is all like “Shit fuck what the fuck do I do?!?!?!?!?!”
    • An hour later him and Lance’s niece are sleeping together with her laid up snug on his chest with his arms wrapped around her to keep her from falling.
  • Keith would spoil the fuck out of his kids okay, don’t even try to tell me otherwise.
    • Shiro: Ok let me get this straight-
    • Lance: Sounds fake but okay
    • Shiro: Lance no.
    • Shiro: So your daughter wants to ride in a ship, a certain specific ship, so you steal it for her and now that ship is next to the house just for her?
    • Keith: Yes that about sums it up
    • Shiro: She’s three Keith
    • Keith: She’ll grow into it
    • Shiro: Oh my god that’s not the poi- Lance aren’t you going to say anything???
    • Lance: Well I mean, he’s not wrong.
    • Shiro: Oh my god I’m too old for this
  • Ready to kill someone if they ever laid a hand on a child? It’s more likely than you think
    • Lance: Keith where are you going?
    • Keith, hand on the doorknob and dressed to go out: …nowhere
    • Lance: Keith?
    • Keith: Vadna’s friend came over today and she had bruises, she said she fell but I know she didn’t. She look scared Lance.
    • Lance: I’ll call Hunk and ask if he can watch Vadna for a bit, let me get my jacket.
    • Keith: Bu-
    • Lance: No buts, I’m kicking their ass with you.
    • And that’s how they got their second daughter
  • Keith has no idea how to talk to kids but with his daughters it’s really easy?
    • They both picked on using the word dude in their vocabulary more often so it’s kinda just whole conversations with dude.
    • Keith also finds out you just compliment kids on stuff they show you they get really happy??? He loves seeing them both smile????? So much????
    • Keith: Hey Lance…I think I’d kill multiple men each to se eour daughters smile.
    • Lance: That’s really nice but please don’t
    • Keith: Why not?
    • Lance: Because if you’re in prison I’m going to have to listen to sad “dudes” for months and maybe even years and I am not emotionally equipped to handle that.
    • Keith: …That implies I’ll get caught
    • Lance, thoughtfully: …That’s true

doctor-tennant09  asked:

Not trying to be rude I love your blog but could you make another blog where you talk about all the controversial stuff like the "black Hermione" thing I feel like maybe your followers are split into 2 groups: 1. Want to see all the cool or funny things you put on here but don't like to see all the controversial arguing (me) 2. Those who love everything you put on here including the arguing I'm not trying to tell you how to run your blog just giving ideas

We have a tag. “#discourse”. If you don’t want to see it, you can block it. Also, we’re physically incapable of pleasing all of our 100,000 followers.

Also, no offence, this isn’t a service; it’s a blog run by two friends.

So, no, sorry, we won’t be changing that.

hmtaniwha  asked:

HI there! I'm unsure if this is where I submit imagines and stuff but I really love your Werewolf!Dadsona one! It's so cool! I was wondering if you could write a imagine where dadsona is a YouTuber (you can pick what he does) and the dad's finding out. :3 you don't gotta do it if you don't wanna.

Hi, and yes this is where you can submits the asks. And Dadsona actually being a youtuber would explain so much. Btw I got too inspired.

You didn´t want to tell him. You were not ashamed, you loved what you did. But he went outside and worked hard to pay his bills and you stayed inside, in front of a camera and sometimes earned more than he did. But you knew secrets are best said in a relationship… Unless he comes and finds out by himself. That´s good too.

Robert Smalls

-You are a vlogger

-Amanda is a highly aclaimed invited star in your channel too

-You also add some reaction videos and challenges here and there

-Recently you´ve been considering doing a special video on the hunt of the Dover Ghost

“Heeeey guys! You good? ´Cause I am” You energetically greeted the camera planted in front of the couch. “So, I know I´ve been sort of absent and there haven´t been much videos recently, but, I have an excuse. Today I´ll be doing a QnA” You took out your phone and began searching for questions send from fans. Bless Amanda for showing you how to use Twitter.

Around half an hour passed with you trying to answer as many questions as possible, alternating from silly ones to more serious ones. The creativity from some questions astounded you. Sadly, you were having so much fun that you forgot that your sweet Bobert was coming over.

“Alright, last question. What is your favorite conspiracy theory? Well-”

“The existence of the Dover Ghost” A scruffy voice said and you let out a manly shriek. Your gaze shot to the doorway to see Robert looking confused yet grinning. “Uh… what are you doing?

“You know… My… job?”

-You explain the whole concept of Youtube and what you did

-Inmediately wants to join in on the vlogs, but he would act all cool and grumpy ´cause he´s Robert.

-He loves it

-Also makes you record all your cryptid hunts

Craig Cahn

-You do entertainment

-Like… I don´t really know how to put it

-I inmediately thought of Shane Dawson so idk

“Wow bro, what´s all this?” Craig had just come home to see you surrounded by papaer bags with random objects inside.

“Hey, I´m just working on a new video. I went to the dollar store and…” You shrugged while letting out a nervous chuckle. Craig smiled and joined in on the fun.

“Nice” He fished out a can then procceded to spray it around without knowing what would later happen, a catastrophe. You both groaned and waved at the air in front of you.

“What have you done, bro?” Craig turned to you with an offended look.

“Me? It was you who bought it!” You would later thank Smashley for taking care of baby River and the twins staying over with a friend so they couldn´t witness the disaster that were you two.

-You started your Youtube channel since college so… he knew

-When you began, Craig would do constant appearances in your videos

-He still does

-Fans love when you do boyfriend tag/couple challenges

-They also go crazy when River or Amanda do appearances

Brian Harding

-You do enterteinment

-Mostly skits tho

-You try to be funny and spontaneous, but not go crazy like some of the younger members of the community

-Your dad bod isn´t up for that

-You never mentioned this beacuse you couldn´t let Brian beat you at the job game

-Brian nor Daisy are into the internet so you´re not afraid of them finding out

You and Brian were watching some random movie that was on and, most importatly, cuddling on the couch. Brian had had a long day at work and wanted some relaxing time. You had just uploaded a new video and wanted to give some love to the cuddly bear. Amanda walked in by the middle of the movie nibbling on a waffle.

“Hey dad, there´s this guy that´s badmouthing you over on Twitter, want me to block him or you wanna say something?”

“Someone is insulting you?” Brian frowned as you began shaking your head. “I can go on… uh that thing and show them not to mess with you”

“No-It´s normal-”

“It´s normal? What do you mean by ´it´s normal´?”

-You end up having to come clean about yur career

-Brian dosn´t get it, but doesn´t think less of you because of it

-Before being a Rival Dad he is a Supporting Man

Mat Sella

-You are an animator

-You love to put up vlogs or if the creativity is high, then create your own little short

-And living with an aesthetically pleasing, beautiful, artistic boyfriend helps with that

-He had seen you drawing a couple of times and complimented your art, but always thought it was just a hobby

-He has also thought about posting some of your art at the Coffee Spoon

-Recently you´ve considered improving your content by adding original music and, who better to complete the job than your talented boyfriend?

You and Mat sat in front of your computer. He was watching your most recent work with a fond smile . You glanced every second to see his reaction everytime the frame changed. This was just so exciting. Once it ended he complimented the work.

“This is really neat (dadsona), I don´t know how you do it” You smiled and waved dismissively. “I bet people would love to see this”

“It´s nothing and actually they already do” He raised an eyebrow. You procceded to log in Youtube and search for your channel. You scrolled down your videos. “This is sort of what I do. For a living. And I´ve been meaning to ask if you could help me”

“But I don´t draw”

-You explained your plan and Mat started getting nervous about putting his music alongside your kickass animations

-Does it in the end and loves knowing he contributed

Hugo Vega

-You´re a gamer

-Oh yes, the highest status in Youtube

-You have a below average yet faithful community of fans

-It was actually Ernest who recognized you

He didn´t move once he saw you. He just stood still, frozen. Hugo didn´t understand, Ernest was everything but quiet. And he had already seen you, so why was he speechless?

“(Youtuber name)” His voice was barely audible, but you listened right and clear. ´He knows me!´ A smile started stretching your lips and you didn´t try to hide it.

“Woops, I guess I´ve been discovered” You step closer to him and hold out your hand. He moves his stare from you to your hand and numbly shake it. “Nice to offiicially meet you Ernest”

He stammers out a greeting that seems to wake him up from his daze, and then he hides his hands inside his sweater and looks away grumpily. Hugo looks from you to Ernest and back. “Am I missing something?”

-You tried to vaguely state what you did for a living

-Hugo wasn´t satisfied but decided on researching after you went home

-After all that, he was glad that your relationship with Ernest wouldn´t be so horrible.

Joseph Christiansen

-You are an arts and crafts/ cook youtuber

-And a good one at that

-Scarily good at it

-You quickly became a must in his bake sales. You just know how to make sweets that not only look great, but taste great.

-You never thought much of it so you didn´t mention it.

One day Christie invited you to bake some cookies with her and Joseph. She wanted to do the same chocolate chip cookies they always did. To change their pace a bit, you offered doing a recipe you had done already but didn´t quite remember. So, you checked the video for reference. Just then, Joseph happened to come in the kitchen to see you watching… yourself?

“Sweetie? Is that you?” You send him a charming smile and made way for him to see. You scribbled down all the ingredients and instructions while Joseph enjoyed the video. Once he ended he turned to look at you with shinning eyes. “Is there more?”

You softly chuckled and nodded, opening your channel´s main page. “Now you know the secret to my baking success”

“I guess. Wow, this is amazing. (dadsona), you could come to church and teach the youths some of this, right?”

-Opens a space at church just for you

-The twins love your channel after they found out

Damien Bloodmarch

-You are a beauty guru

-And it´s been tough

-At first no one took you seriously, being a guy and all, but with a lot of perserverance you managed to create a name for yourself

-Needless to say, you´ve mastered nail painting, make up, hair stylying, DIYs and costume making.

-And also make a certain young goth that just happened to live in your cul-de-sac, your fan

-You surprise Damien by helping him do his make up and helping him with his hair

-He becomes even more surprised when Lucien suddenly becomes a pro at doing his make up

Father and son were in the master bedroom, the oldest sitting down in front of a mirrior with his hair down and the youngest stood behind him. “Pass me a bobbypin” Damien did a asked and admired as his son started pulling braiding his hair into a crown.

“Where did you learn to do this wonderful hair style?” Lucien throws him this sort of confused face, but answers.

“From your (dadsona)´s Youtube channel?”


-He is bothered you didn´t tell him, but is super supportive and even lets you show him in some of your videos to try out whatever new idea you´ve come up with.

friendly PSA from your tired neighborhood klancer

I will not answer asks or messages about how certain content I reblog is ‘not okay because it wouldn’t be healthy in real life.’ Fanworks do not have any obligation to be a model for healthy relationships. Fanworks are not designed to be a guide for how to live your life. If you have a problem with someone’s art or fic, keep scrolling, unfollow, and/or block – do what you need to keep yourself safe. Please note that keeping yourself safe does not mean policing what other people draw or write.

Fanmade content can mean building off of characters’ canon interactions or it can mean ignoring canon characterizations entirely; or it can mean something in between. Let fandom be a safe space for people to engage with fictional content in a harmless way.

We need to stop being so reactionary when it comes to fan-made fiction. Depicting people being violent toward each other does not mean the creator is romanticizing violence. I have seen works that do romanticize abuse and/or violence; I hate them and find it unfortunate that young minds may see and be influenced by them. But not every depiction of violence between a ship is meant to be romanticized. Take a moment to analyze and interpret something before you decide it’s problematic. Imagine if the only relationships ever depicted in fiction were perfect and idealized. How boring and unrealistic would that be? BUT, that said:

Saw a comic of two characters punching each other and that’s not your thing? I respect that. However, someone else may appreciate it because of how those characters interact in canon, or for whatever other reason; this does not automatically make them a bad person. It does not mean they would go around punching people in real life. So, I’ll say this again, keep scrolling, unfollow, and/or block.

Necessary disclaimer: Non-fanmade fiction is a whole other story. Media content that romanticizes or excuses inexcusable things like senseless violence, sexism, racism, rape culture etc. most certainly is problematic. And as people who pay to consume that content, we have every right to publicly criticize it and voice our opinions. What sets that situation apart from fanworks is that when we consume free fanwork, have no right to police other people’s creative interpretations. Even with media content though, my earlier point still applies: depicting does not equal condoning. Just because I write my OC’s in a toxic relationship does not automatically mean I’m romanticizing that.

I can’t believe I felt the need to write this shit instead of working on nanowrimo stuff or all the other fandom event deadlines I have. To the anon who sent the ask that brought this on: I’m not mad at you; I’m just salty.

This will be the first and last time I address something of this sort. If you want to send me hate over this opinion, save your energy. Instead hit the big unfollow button available on the top right hand of your screen and/or utilize the block feature. That is all.

anonymous asked:

I'm really sad about something I don't understand and was hoping you could explain. Why do people block without giving a reason to? I don't why it first seems like it's all going so well then the next you're blocked and you don't know why or what you did or said wrong? It's happened twice now and to say it hurts is an understatement.

Oh, my precious Kabby babies.  Circle up, it’s time for some firm but gentle life advice from Mom. 

First of all, unless I personally am the person who blocked you (which I’m obviously not since we’re having this conversation!), in a very real sense the short answer to this question is that you know I can’t actually answer this question.  You’re asking me to tell you why a person I don’t know did a thing for which I have no context, and for which there could be a thousand reasons. So in a concrete, specific sense, my answer is: I do not know.


(You knew there was going to be a however.)

Social media is a deeply personal avenue for self-expression and it’s also a world where many of us spend a great deal of our time, which means that we have the full and free right to customize it into exactly what we want it to be.  The things that you post are personal reflections of you, which is  why it bums you out when someone mutes or blocks or doesn’t follow back; it feels on some level like a personal rejection.  But the space you curate is also a personal reflection of you.  You have the right to post anything you want and other people have the right to choose not to see it.  Both of those rights are equal, even though you’re only on one side so naturally the other one feels like it’s in some way “wrong.”  

I’m speaking with zero context for what your preexisting relationship with these people was beforehand (like obviously if it was a close friend and they blocked you out of nowhere, you’re going to have to sort that out with them directly, I can’t advise you there), but it’s important to remember that there may be no “right” and wrong” in this scenario.  It’s fully possible for both of these things to peacefully coexist at the same time:

1) your absolute right to feel a little bit rejected and hurt that a stranger on the internet made the choice that they didn’t want your social media sphere to overlap with their social media sphere,


2) that other person’s absolute right to say “if something or someone makes me feel even the tiniest bit ‘nope’ I am purging it out of this space so it is exactly what I want and need it to be.” 

They don’t need to have a reason.  That sucks, when you’re on the receiving end of it, which all of us have been - it truly and genuinely sucks - but it’s also reality.  One of the hard truths that incidents like this make us sometimes have to face - and we don’t want to face these things, because they can feel really icky and vulnerable and ping all the little gremlins in our brain  - is this:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention for anything you do or say.

This sounds mean and brutal, and I don’t mean it to be, because you know mom loves you, but it’s incredibly important, so I’m going to say it again to make sure that if nothing else, this gets through:

nobody on the internet owes you their time or attention for anything you do or say.

The celebs you stan don’t owe you a response to your tweet, just because you want one.  The people you tag in meta don’t owe you reblogging it to continue having that conversation with you forever, just because you want to prove you’re right.  The fans of the fic you write for your most popular ship don’t owe you crossing over to give you hits on your rare-pair fic if they don’t feel like it.  Nobody owes you a certain number of followers, nobody owes you a response to every anon you send them, nobody owes you finishing that fic you like in time for them to read it when they feel like reading it.  We owe each other one thing and one thing only: basic human decency.  That’s it.  Everything else is freely offered to the world, and freely taken by the people who want it.  It’s not a transactional exchange.  If you make art or write fic and you put it out there into the world, you’ve done a cool thing, and whether it gets ten hits or thousands it was still worth doing.  There will be people who aren’t interested, but if you get hung up on feeling rejected by that, it will paralyze you.

Social media is personal. That’s unavoidable.  It’s an extension of ourselves.  When someone is cruel to you or to one of your friends on the internet, even if it’s an anonymous stranger, it feels shitty.  When you express an opinion about something and a ton of people reblog it and the tags are full of “OMG YES THISSSSS”, it feels great.  We all experience that in different ways.  Society has always selected arbitrary measures for young girls and women to live up to in order to feel like they’re popular or they’re approved by the cool kids, and right now it’s things like “how many followers do you have” and “did you get an RT from a celebrity” and “how many likes on your posts”.  So on a primal level, maybe having someone you thought was a friend block you on Twitter or Tumblr hits you in the same deep core place as having the cool kids not come to your birthday party.  That feeling is super real!  It brings up alllllll that deep stuff we try to hide and pretend that we’re above experiencing, but we all have those squishy vulnerable inner selves that just need the cool kids to like us and we feel bad when they don’t.  

I had this exact conversation with my therapist a few weeks ago when she was giving me a hard time because my book has 60 reviews on Amazon, of which like the majority are 5 stars with two negative ones, and I have both the negative ones like memorized.  And she was like “CLAIRE.  WHAT THE HELL.  WHY DO YOU DO THIS?  58 POSITIVE AND YOU CANNOT QUOTE A SINGLE ONE.  TWO SHITTY ONES AND YOU KNOW THEM VERBATIM.  THAT IS NOT HEALTHY BEHAVIOR.”  And I was like “… . okay fine when you put it that way, yes I do sound like a crazy person.”  So like my advice to you – advice which I have just proven I am absolute garbage at taking myself, so like I may have just eroded my own credibility in my efforts to help – is to remember that you probably have a lot more than two followers so honestly this is probably not a bad collective ratio, and there may be lots of people who are very interested in what you have to say but you’ve focused a lot of your energy on these two people and it’s worth giving some thought as to why that is.

My question for you is this: what is the net negative impact of having these two people block you on social media? Like in an actual, concrete way, separate from those sort of core gut “I feel unloved in this moment” feelings, what is the effect on your life?  You might be surprised.  It might be zero.  In which case, let yourself feel those feelings, experience them as valid, and then breathe through them and move on and keep on doin’ you. 

I’m pushing back on you a little bit here very gently because it feels, reading this anon, like you’ve made a determination of hurtful intent on the part of the person who blocked you, or at the very least a certainty that this choice that made was about you and not about them.  That the fact that things seemed to be going fine and then they blocked you means you were somehow intentionally misled or mistreated.  Be really, really, really careful about deciding the cool girl didn’t come to your birthday party because she’s a bitch who wanted to make you feel terrible and is sitting somewhere cackling at the thought of your sad lil’ face waiting by the front door; maybe she didn’t come to your birthday party because she has depression and it’s hard for her to leave the house sometimes and she knew your party would be loud and wild and crazy and too much for her brain to handle right now. Be careful about presuming negative intent with no proof it exists.  The internet makes this so easy, the internet conditions us for this, and it conditions us to respond in kind. The worst thing you could do here is to, like, make a callout post or subtweet in the hopes that it will get back to them and they’ll feel bad, or to sic your other followers onto them, because that turns this into a situation that really does have a right and wrong; and since you don’t know if they were trying to make you feel shitty, or just went on a big block/mute purge to whittle their list down for mental health reasons that are totally their own, once things escalate you can’t put the horse back in the barn. It’s too late.  Now it’s A Thing, when maybe it never really needed to be A Thing.  And in almost all situations for almost all people in almost all ways, Kabby Mom’s advice is going to be, “please think carefully before you make this A Thing.”

This got long, I’ve been having a lot of thoughts lately about the conversations I’m always having with fandom folks the way we let social media permeate and shape our sense of self, in good ways and bad, so I apologize for my verbosity but also not really because that’s how things roll over in Kabby Mom’s Advice Corner.  But I will sum up in bullet points for those of you who have been skimming, to bring you up to speed:

  1. Everyone has the right to curate their own social media space however they see fit, and they don’t have to explain their reasons.
  2. They aren’t obligated to include you in that space even if you want them to.
  3. None of that is an objective measure of your worth as a person or a sign that you should stop being you on the internet.
  4. Your feelings of rejection come from a real place and you get to feel them, as long as
  5. You are striving to move through them without permitting them to paralyze you, and finally
  6. You never use someone else’s choice to curate their social media sphere as a justification for treating them like crap.

Focus on your positive interactions instead of negative ones – your friends, creating stuff and putting it out into the universe – whether it be art, fic, opinions, a podcast, gifsets, crackposts, whatever – and your social media world will be a better place.

In the immortal words of the great Michael J. Fox, “What other people think of me is none of my business.”

anonymous asked:

I don't mind about the non-hp stuff you post, but can't you guys use a specific tag for the non-hp post? Than all the people who don't want the non-hp stuff are able to block te tag so they don't see those posts. (And I hope all the grammar in my message was understandable since I'm not English and half asleep. Whoops.)

we already do that actually o: also, don’t apologise, hon - it’s not your fault that english isn’t your first language - i only speak one language so you’re doing miles better than me, love!!

tom dating a photographer

okay so i’ve had this head canon thing brewing in my head for a while and i sent a lil snippet to @tbholland​ but idk if meg got it but heRE (ps apologies in advance that it’s so freaking long wow bear with me bc its my first writing thing in a really long time):

warning: fluff and swearing

  • you met tom at a party of one of your mutual friends
  • it was your friends housewarming party
    • you really didn’t wanna go bc you honestly hate parties bc sweaty people, everyones drunk and gross and sticky, and they’re really not that much fun?? canyoutelliveneverbeentoaparty
    • also social settings aren’t really ur thing everythings really awkward especially when you like only know ONE person so u just usually end up standing by the food being awkward
    • but then she freaking convinces you by saying she needs a photographer and she obviously knows that you need some inspiration for your photography class portfolio dang it what a manipulator she is why are we friends with her

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anonymous asked:

Do you really think that George Martin isn't writing Jaime's story with Brienne in mind? It seems like you're not reading the books correctly. He's attracted to her and loves her AND BURNED CERSEI'S LETTER, preferring to follow Brienne than going to KL for the walk of shame, what more do you need? It points to an obvious conclusion

I don’t think GRRM is writing Jaime’s story with the Jaime x Brienne ship in mind,no. Obviously he has written Jaime’s story with Brienne in mind, or else they wouldn’t have interacted.

And you don’t get to come into my ask box and tell me I’m not reading the books correctly when I have plenty of canon text to back me up. 

Where does it say he’s attracted to her? You mean how he admires her eyes. (You know I believe Catelyn does the same thing.) Or his single erection over her that wasn’t even as sexually related as the two he gets for Pia? (An erection he got mind you while he was comparing her to Cersei.) 

I forget where he asks Brienne to marry him. Oh wait, that was Cersei he asks to marry him. I forget where he still thinks about kissing Brienne. Oh wait that’s Cersei. 

Yes, he defends her. But I’ll be completely honest if someone was talking to my friend the way Connington was, I would have beaten the shit out of them with my golden hand too. How is it impossible for someone to read friendship there instead of romance? (Spoiler alert: it isn’t impossible. plenty of people do it. Stop being an asshole.) 

How am I the one who isn’t reading the books properly?

Once it yielded, his work along the Trident would be done, and he would be free to return to King’s Landing. To the king, he told himself, but another part of him whispered, to Cersei - Jaime I; A Dance with Dragons

“Do you have a little wife, ser?”
No, I have a sister. - Jaime I; A Dance with Dragons

That is just his thoughts in A Dance with Dragons. Should I keep going? Should I go through AFFC and ASOS? He only thinks of Brienne when the Stark girls are brought up. (Wondering if she’s found Sansa yet.) 

And yes, Jaime did leave with Brienne. But god you seem to have eft out why he left with her. It wasn’t because he wanted to be swept off his dainty feet and romanced. He left with Brienne because she lied to him about the safety of Sansa Stark. 

“My lord, you gave me a quest." 

"The girl. Have you found her?”

“I have,” said Brienne, Maid of Tarth.

“Where is she?”

“A day’s ride. I can take you to her, ser… but you will need to come alone. Elsewise, the Hound will kill her." - Jaime I, A Dance with Dragons.

Mmm, sounds like he definitely left with Brienne for Brienne. And not at all because he’s worried about Sansa Stark (and the vow he made to Catelyn mind you). It definitely seems like Brienne has stayed super loyal to Jaime, and isn’t walking him to a lynch mob at all. (Yes she has valid reasons, but she still has lied to him. And she is using that lie to walk him straight to lady stoneheart. And since Jaime takes betrayal so well, I’m sure he’ll just forgive her. forget that he wants to be a good lord commander, and cast off his white cloak and marry her.) 

I don’t understand what this obsession is with needing Jaime x Brienne to be canon. So many of my ships won’t be canon, ask me if I care. Now ask me if I have ever gone into a J x B shippers ask box and told them they clearly haven’t read the books. 

God, do Robb x Margaery shippers need their ship to be canon to make graphics? Or fanfic? Or ship it? No! You can fucking ship something that is not canon! You can even argue this ship would happen from evidence with canon! but that doesn’t mean that Jaime and Brienne are getting together in the books. It doesn’t. (Fun fact using prophecy I can make an argument that Jaime will wind up with Dany. I ship it. But I don’t actually believe that will happen. There is roughly five thousand words of text here. People believe the text says Meera Reed is a secret Targaryen. That doesn’t make it true.) 

Jesus Christ were you fucking cursed by a witch? You can only ship things that are canon, and so if your OTP doesn’t kiss by the end of the story you’ll never actually be able to ship it? 

Stop being a fucking embarrassment. I don’t think Jaime and Brienne are going to get together in the books. boo-fucking-hoo. I think Jaime’s life ends where it began. With Cersei. And if I’m right, guess what! YOU CAN STILL SHIP BRIENNE WITH JAIME. OH MY GOD! WHO FUCKING KNEW IT. IT’S ENTIRELY POSSIBLE TO SHIP NON-CANON THINGS.

And guess what if I’m wrong (it’s possible. It’s happened. Heath Ledger made a decent Joker. I was wrong there) and Jaime and Brienne get married, and he makes her Lady Lannister - I still won’t ship Jaime and Brienne!! The same way I won’t ship Dany and Jon if it becomes canon. OH MY GOD. YOU DON’T HAVE TO SHIP THINGS THAT ARE CANON. WHO FUCKING KNEW????

Grow the fuck up and act like a goddamn adult. You’re embarrassing the decent people who ship this. 

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry, I have no clue who you're calling out with the drawing black people post, but honestly? Have you heard of the same face syndrome? It has nothing to do with racism, some people just aren't good enough at drawing to correctly represent a real life person and all the variation a face can have. And that's because drawing is fucking hard. I might be able to draw a photorealistic eye but only In one shape cause I only practiced that one shape. Please don't just scream racism w/out reason

Why is it that people who have an issue with my posts about representation in fandom always hop into my inbox in order to condescend to me about how fandom, writing, and (now) art works?

Also Congrats! You’ve helped prove my point that when people read the word “racism” they just… stop paying attention to the rest of the content. Accusing me of “screaming racism without reason” despite the fact that I didn’t say who was failing at drawing Black features (like did you see me single out a specific group, or nah?) is kind of ridiculous. 

Like I am actually super embarrassed for you because of your art-splaining and general point-missing.

I put “fandom racism” in the tags because I need to pretend that I care about keeping my blog organized and you respond like it’s a personal attack on your favorite artist… Please chill out. It’s not actually that serious. 

Don’t worry. I just want people to learn how to draw Black features and for them to put the same effort into references and accuracy as they do the white characters in their same shows/books/comics. It’s not that deep… As a Black person in fandom, it’s kind of something I get to do. I get to ask for fandom to be better and use the resources that they gladly use for other characters on Black ones.

I mean… that’s basically the lowest bar ever? And yet a post easily boiled down to “Hey can you draw Black characters with their Black features” has you all up in my inbox lecturing me about sameface syndrome like I’m not a DC comics fan?

Wow. Rude.

And hey:

Instead of assuming that I’m specifically calling anyone out for racism (and then rushing to scold me for it because I’m clearly an uneducated pleb that doesn’t get how art works), maybe you could’ve put yourself into my shoes and thought about what it feels like for me as a Black woman (because to send me an ask, chances are you had to see my face in my sidebar or profile pic) to constantly see artists fail at drawing people with MY features.

Empathy is everything, kid.

And if you were so intent on refusing to extend some to me, you could’ve ignored the post when it came across your dashboard. 

You could’ve blocked me when you saw the post since it bugged you enough that you had to bug me. But you didn’t and now I’m mildly annoyed

Please think hard about any messages that you want to send me in the future because I don’t really feel like further dealing with someone who came to my inbox ready to lecture me about something they themselves don’t understand or experience. 

Thanks and have a blessed day.



anonymous asked:

Not hating on the ship, but sometimes I get annoyed at how much Eruri I see around the fandom. Cute fanart and stuff is alright, but then there are those people who shove it down your throats and say ERURI IS CANON!1!1!1 YOU HAVE TO SHIP IT!1!1!1!1 Almost as if you're OBLIGED to ship it. I don't really ship anything in SNK, but it honestly annoys the hell out of me and made me hate the ship a bit. Do you think this is a stupid reason to hate a ship? I just can't seem to like Eruri bc of this

I confess that I’m struggling to take your ask in good faith Anon.  It seems a little disingenuous to begin by saying that you’re “not hating on the ship” and end by saying that the ship “annoys the hell out of you” and that you “hate it a bit”.  Given that this is quite clearly an Eruri blog, there’s a danger of your intentions being misconstrued. However, I’ll give you the benefit of the doubt and answer your ask as reasonably as I can.

I’m sorry that you’ve had such a negative experience of the SnK fandom Anon. The whole beauty of fandom should be that you can ship whomsoever you want, regardless of whether or not they’re canon. Similarly, you can ignore canon ships, or disregard shipping altogether if that’s what floats your boat, it’s entirely your prerogative.    Of course that doesn’t make certain ships any less canon, but you’re still free to ignore them as you choose.  So although Eruri is canon, and nothing will change that, you’re entirely entitled to ignore it if you wish and no one has any right to tell you otherwise.  Though I confess, I’m surprised that people are telling you that you have to ship Eruri.  Really?  If people ask, and believe me they do, I’ll patiently refer them to the canon evidence, but I can’t imagine demanding that people ship them if their interests lie elsewhere.  That just seems like a waste of energy.

Having said all that, ultimately we’re all responsible for our own fandom experiences. If you dislike a ship, canon or not, then block it.  Block the tag, block the people who ship it, stay out of their lane, and if they stray into yours, then don’t engage.  It’s not hard to do.  There are characters in SnK I dislike and canon ships in the series I have little interest in, so I just ignore them.  I suggest you do the same with Eruri.  SnK is a huge fandom and there should be space enough for everyone to enjoy their own experience of it.

I hope that answers you question Anon. 

anonymous asked:

hi arc can i ask a question that seems a bit silly even as i write it? how do you keep being so brave about your fanwork? i used to post a lot of fic when i was younger before all the like holier than thou purity politics stuff happened. but the purity politics stuff sort of... made me scared to interact with fandom? like i want to write and post the fics i have ideas for but i'm SCARED and i don't really know how to?? stop being scared i guess? idk i can't really get my thoughts down now sorry

(scared anon) i just guess i was wondering if you had any advice on like pushing past that fear and just doing fanwork without being scared of how people might react?

Oh, honey.

Christ, lemme think about it….

1. I flat out do not follow any “main” tags. In RT, I never followed #ragehappy. In Borderlands, I never followed #rhack or anything. In HS, I don’t follow any ship tag. So I literally do not see most negativity. This is helpful because people like being dicks in tags and to put their shitty vagueblogging in there, but are often too fucking cowardly to come at you personally.

90% of the time, my awareness that people resent me for having “””impure””” popular fics comes from friends giving me a heads up that someone is talking shit. And when they do, I block that person.

2. Relevant to the above: It took me a long time to understand that people resent my fics being popular, not their actual subject matter. It’s a jealousy thing. I have written some filth that never got really popular, and no one gave a shit. It’s only when I start getting a lot of comments and kudos that suddenly I’m the Great Satan. Keeping in mind that bitches be jealous super helps.

Most recent example: people didn’t start to talk shit about ASAFAF until I started to see fanart based on the story. C’mon.

3. I genuinely believe in the diversity of stories we tell. Like, gushing gold is a great example of a fic I deeply enjoyed writing and sharing, but that I also knew was not for everyone. But it was for some people.

When you are writing a subject matter that you are passionate about, understand that other people are going to be passionate about it too. There are people who need difficult or uncomfortable stories told to affirm they aren’t alone, to help work through rare subject matter, to just enjoy in a world that doesn’t offer them much media.

No story is for everyone, but every story is for someone. Take pride in that.

4. No, really. Block people. Block anyone who makes you uncomfortable, and never look back.

I know it’s apparently a Thing, to block someone, then check in on them? I don’t do this. Once someone is blocked, they no longer exist in my universe.

5. Avoid younger fans. This obviously applies to older fen like me, but broadly speaking, this purity politics culture comes from younger fans attacking older fans, and a lack of understanding that Fandom is a place for a wide group of people with disparate experiences and interests.

Not all young fans are part of that, obviously, but… if someone young enjoys my stuff, I’m glad. I hope they like it. But I avoid deep discussion and interaction and attempts to befriend me, because I am 27 years old and write porn on the internet and shouldn’t be talking to young folks. If anyone doesn’t understand the logic of that, for my protection and for theirs, that is genuinely not my problem and I’m sure they’ll figure it out later.

Boundaries: they are important for adults as much as kids. Enforce them.

6. …

A lot of it is that I’ve been in fandom for over half my life now. I’ve seen a lot of shit. I’ve been through a lot of shit. (Anyone remember that pissant who tried to report me to the government because I told them to stop harassing me after +6 months of bullshit? lol) I’ve had great fandom experiences and I’ve had ones I would love to hit Undo on.

There are amazing people in fandom and there are fucking hilariously awful shitheads in fandom. The majority of people are decent, and they enjoy what I do, and if you start making content and sharing it, you will find people who enjoy what you do. There are people who follow me who shoot me out of the blue supportive Asks on bad days, who read my fic even when they don’t know the source material, who encouraged me to write my book and then bought the damn thing.

The purity police are scary, abusive fuckers. But they are not the majority, and the less you interact with them, the less they can affect you. They want an opponent, they want someone to fight so they can play victim, they want to be the Valiant Warrior Of Purity.

Ignore ‘em. Make them take their boring pedantic morality play elsewhere.

ETA: 7. Don’t fight the purity police and don’t try to convince them or win them over. It literally never works. These are people who are in a bad place and you cannot move them from that place. Only they can, when they grow the fuck up. Don’t do it. You will not win, you will expend energy on people who gobble it up to fuel their shitstirring and vagueblogging, and they will just know they can successfully antagonize you.

Take that annoyance and frustration. Channel it into writing more rad shit. 


I hope this helps at all, anon. Remember, also, that the AO3 is your friend, and you can keep your tumblr and your AO3 a little bit separated. That can help.

Batboys Reaction To Parents Attacking Artist!Reader [HCs]


A/N: I didn’t know if it was for one Batboy or all so I just did them all! I hope this is what you meant! I hope you guys like it!

Tags: @just-a-girl-maybe @ms-crxne and @annabellesonfiresoshekeptrunning

Dick Grayson

  • At first, he would watch you paint the butterfly on the little boy and smile
  • Would find it so sweet of you and chuckles
  • “That’s adorable.”
  • “Aww thanks, it was the little boy’s idea.”
  • That’s when the parents will barge in and see their son having a butterfly on his arm
  • Starts to attack you with rude and sexist comments
  • “How dare you draw that on my son’s arm. Did you force him into this? This isn’t for boys! It’s for girls!”
  • Dick shakes his head and stops them while raising his hand
  • Tells them that what they are saying is wrong
  • “Your son wanted it. Let him”
  • They’ll look at you and at him as if you are crazy
  • Dick would give them a small glare and tell them to accept it and leave
  • They shut up and leave while holding their son’s hand
  • You thank him for backing you up
  • “No worries it had to be done.” 

Jason Todd

  • Just catches a peak of you drawing on the boy and gets curious
  • Smiles as he does then turns to find angry parents
  • He growls when he hears them scolding and attacking you with rude comments
  • Stands up and in front of you to block them
  • “Leave her alone.”
  • He’ll start to tell them how wrong and stupid they are
  • “Your son liked it.”
  • He will give them a glare and tell them that they should let their son do whatever he wants
  • “Go.”
  • They’ll leave because they are scared of what Jason would do
  • Turns to you and sighs, “You ok?”
  • You nod and smile as you thank him
  • He just shakes his head and smirks, “No problem.”

Tim Drake

  • Will just walk up to you and wave awkwardly as you draw on the boy
  • “That’s really nice.”
  • You look up smiling and blushing a bit, “Thank you.”
  • Tim would just smile back and watch you draw
  • Gets interrupted by the parents
  • Frowns when they say rude things to you
  • Finally, has enough and interrupts them.
  • “Butterflies are insects. They can’t be gendered.”
  • Starts educating their lousy asses
  • Just look at you then at him and walk away
  • Tim nods and looks at you
  • You thank him and he just shrugs
  • “It was common sense and they were really rude.”

Damian Wayne

  • Watches you drawing on the boy with curiosity
  • “What are you drawing on his arm?”
  • You chuckle an show him that it’s a butterfly
  • He would just watch
  • TT you drew the wing wrong.”
  • “Fix the antenna.”
  • You just chuckle and do what he says until the parents come
  • Damian immediately flips and makes them stop
  • “How stupid are you both? Because both of your stupidity combined gives people headaches.”
  • Becomes a savage little shit
  • Parents get burned badly and leave
  • Damian snarls and shakes his head
  • “You’re welcome. Also, they needed to know how idiotic they sounded.”

Since I apparently can’t avoid this shit no matter how many tags I block, I guess I’m gonna say a thing about it.

TFA in and of itself was a bad enough experience for me, but tbh the fandom made it ten times worse.

When you’re still coming to terms with the fact that you were basically brainwashed as a kid and it’s all starting to hit you now, seeing endless reams of commentary on your dash about brainwashed people being morally culpable, completely and solely, for all of their actions and deserving only of punishment is…not exactly helpful.

Especially when “you are to blame for everything” is…literally what you heard constantly from your abusers.

starkyen  asked:

do you have any advice for us that can't stand any more hate from the antis? They're being extra horrible than usual. They're treating us like some antichrist or something because "we like incest". I don't think I've ever shipped a couple that got so much hate like jonerys... It makes me really sad to be honest, I try to ignore them, but It's really hard sometimes.

It is really hard. Last night during the episode I received about 30 hate asks, all from the same anon. They apparently went to my personal tag and read everything they could about me. I’m not a shy person. I share a lot about myself on here because I’m extroverted, I love talking, and I’m proud of my awesome life. 

But this person really used that to attack every aspect of who I am from my appearance, to my career, to my partner, to my writing ability. It was by far the most vicious attack I’ve ever seen here and was so long and in-depth it must have taken this person the entirety of the episode to write it. Like a coward, they also made sure to do all of this during the episode so that I wouldn’t see it to block them until they had enough time to send it all.

I blocked them which automatically deleted all of their asks and I am grateful for that. 

But it was disturbing to me. They didn’t succeed at getting to me personally. I’m confident in myself and my life. But it disturbs me that someone went to these lengths over shipping. And yes, that’s what it was about. I mean, this is basically a Jonerys blog. And one or two of their asks did focus on Jonerys and what it must say about me as a person that I ship it. 

What if they had sent this to someone younger and more impressionable? What if they had sent this to someone suffering from mental illness? The hate from the antis is reaching a fever pitch and it’s honestly disturbing. The people doing this are unhinged themselves. No normal, functioning human behaves this way. They’re sociopaths. 

I’m with you–I’ve never seen a ship receive so much vitriol. What confuses me about it most is that we didn’t write this. We didn’t make it. We simply enjoy it.

But for some reason we are the recipients of relentless hatred and ugliness simply for liking it. And it isn’t hurting anyone. 

I only share this story to let anyone else on here who is receiving a lot of hate or negativity know that you’re not alone. My blog really exploded this season and unfortunately that opens me up to a lot more negativity than some. It is VASTLY outweighed by positivity, though. And for that I am SO grateful. I literally get over 100 positive asks to every negative :D 

But I just want you guys to know that if you are seeing this stuff you aren’t the only one seeing it. It’s everywhere and it’s crazy. 

As for advice, just block people as soon as you see them. I now rarely see anti arguments at all and it’s even rarer that I engage. Blocking is the best thing you can do. Just ignore it.

I think the reason they’re so mad is that they are now seeing that we were right. After a year of calling us all delusional and stupid about Jonerys, they are now forced to face the reality that it is actually canon and that most of the viewership loves it and supports it. 

So they are going crazy realizing that they have dedicated the last year of their lives to critiquing and disproving analysis of a fictional relationship (which in itself is crazy) only for that relationship to go ahead and happen anyway in front of millions on the biggest television show in the world. They’ve simply snapped.

There’s nothing we can do about them really. Just block them and unless you’re someone who receives a lot of anon asks, you probably won’t be exposed to their nonsense very much. 

But most importantly, just be happy! Enjoy this time. Our ship is canon. It’s here and it’s beautiful and we can watch our awesome episodes of them falling in love as much as we want. It’s a dream come true. Don’t let them get what they want by allowing them to ruin it for you <3




But first, a little backstory.

A bunch of asian pentaholics were absolutely ansty about On My Way Home tour dates for Asia (one of them me). So I took to Twitter…

It was all in good fun, a harmless joke. I just laughed it off, until…

The memory of my tweet to Esther just flooded back to me. I tweeted my sentiments about it.

Now, FAST FORWARD TO THE ACTUAL CONCERT DAY. Since she follows me on Twitter, I messaged Esther about it (non-verbatim).

oooooooooh my goooooooood 

But I really did want to give ‘em something on their first concert in Manila. So I went on ahead with the silly thing.

I got to the venue with my brother (around 5PM) & had to meet up with Casey OoOo’ (probablysomehow on tumblr/twitter) and Shawn (OHSHITSHAWN on twitter).

squad goals amirite

Aaanyway, being the nervous wreck that I am, I asked them if they could tag along with me to see Esther. And thus begins the chase. (nv)

All I remember was a lot of running. And panicking.

WE’VE BEEN SAVED HALLELUJAH. We followed the nice lady to the actual south entrance…


We flocked into this leveled parking.

There were some people walking around but I’m just gonna put emphasis on these two.

We all marched to the door to follow the nice lady but then blocked by the guard. Nice lady took to the counter (nv)…

Nice lady leaves us, goes in the building, comes back with passes.

why won’t this lady let us pass pls lady-at-the-table

The nice lady defended that we were requested by the PTX Team themselves, but lady-at-the-table just wouldn’t budge. Nice lady also said that their tour manager is gonna pick us up anyway.

And then, like a flash of lightning, accompanied by the harmonious singing of a thousand angels, bursting through the door was…


first of all let me tell you that i was just awestruck by esther because WOW she is absolutely beautiful in person i don’t understanD (a certain shih tzu would also agree with me on this one)

She greeted us by the doOR. She spoke to the lady-at-the-tabLE. She led us iNSIDE. And everyone was probably going nuts now.

Oh hey yeah, remember that weird bag of stuff? I was about to hand it to her & then leave, but apparently she had other plans…


I had forgotten what to do, what to think, or even what to say. Everything happened way too quickly. The next panel was the last thing I saw before going mindblank.

are they real

they look like moving mannequins

why am i so small

my thoughts in one tweet:

It took me a few minutes to register what was happening.


Everything happened too quickly.

my entire life flashed before my tiny eyes

 i don’t even remember half of what i saiD to theM

I proBabLY SaiD SOmething stuPid bUt i don’T REMemBER

(((more or less all four of us might be peeing our pants)))

((maybe it’s just me))

I gave them that weird bag of things, hugs went around again, & then Esther led us into the concert grounds, hugged & thanked her to no end like shaky little puppies.

Too quick. Everything went by too quick. All four of us were dead quiet walking to our seats. Then our silence was broken by just one phrase:

And oh yeah, the concert was amazing.

What a wild ride. This entire post is a wild ride. If you made it to the bottom of this post, congratulations.

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’m going to cry all over again, thank you for your time.