i have three things to say
1) fucking listen to disabled people and people who have different disabilities from you. if they tell you youre ableist, youre ableist, dont fucking argue with them, or youre even fucking worse. they/we know what the fuck were talking about.
2) if a disabled person says they get a feeling from a certain person and its not a good one, trust them, because more often than not were going off of microaggressions we cant name because we dont really notice them and we just call it a gut feeling. trust and listen to them.
3) if someone is ableist, dont interact with them, dont interact with their shit, whatever or youre an asshole and a bad ally. its the same as if someones transphobic, homophobic, etc.