When I was 16, another young trans woman told me to avoid wearing anything too flashy, otherwise people would know that I’m transgender (as if it were a bad thing). We should be encouraging trans people to express ourselves and wear whatever we want, not policing each other. Of course, she learned this from media and therapists who don’t want us to exist. I spent years after that worrying that something might make me “look like a drag queen” or draw unnecessary attention to myself. Little did I know, I would be mostly wearing clothes designed for men just a few years later. So, this sequin blazer selfie goes out to her and her own struggles with internalized transmisogyny. Trans people are not a monolith. We each have our own aesthetics and fashion senses. But one thing holds true for all of us: we deserve to be respected.