blacksheepboy- said:Monogamous people aren’t necessarily jealous people. :/ And poly people aren’t necessarily always perfect and communicative partners either. ://///
Nah that’s not what I meant by it. In fact someone I dated who was poly ended up being super bad at communicating (and I’m not poly, not really). Poly people get jealous as well.
For some background, this guy decided he wanted to officially date her after he became jealous that she was messing around with other guys. And then I enter the picture and he decides that it’s ok because I’m automatically not threatening because I’m not a cis guy. But then he decides it’s not ok once she actually was going to act on her feelings. Poly relationships can of course be possessive and have super problematic ground rules, but in general a situation like this could be avoided. A genuinely monogamous relationship also would avoid the problem all together. But I don’t think she’s interested in a monogamous relationship at all, so if there wasn’t that societal expectation that all relationships be monogamous this would have played out very differently.