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Don’t date someone based on sexual sterotypes.
Don’t date people to seem more progressive.
Don’t date women of a race you think guarantees they’ll be more timid, submissive, subservient,etc.
Don’t date a woman of a race you think based on racial sterotypes means they’ll be more sexually open.
Don’t avoid women of any race based on sterotypes that they are hard to handle, too “masculine”, mean,etc.
Don’t assume the race of the woman you date will mean she will be more feminine, less masculine, or vice versa.
Don’t date women who have mental disabilities because of stupid sexual sterotypes.
Don’t date a man you assume is bigger or smaller based on his race.
Don’t date men of any race that you think will piss off your parents.
Don’t assume the race of the man you date guarantees he will be more or less masculine.
Don’t date a man because you think his race will automatically mean he’s more sexually aggressive or hypersexual.
Don’t assume his race will guarantee he’s a gentleman.
Dont date a man based on the belief his race means he’ll be a better provider.
Don’t avoid dating men of certain race you think based on a sterotypes they’ll abandon you or cheat, if a he wants to do it his race won’t stop him.
Don’t date a man based on a racial sterotype that they’ll treat you better.
Don’t avoid a man because you think his race means he won’t be a good provider.
Don’t assume the race of the man you date will mean he is automatically good in bed and don’t avoid certain races because you think their race guarantees they’re bad in bed.

The race of the person you date guarantees you almost nothing besides maybe cultural understanding. When you date someone based off sterotypical beliefs you are fetishizing them, no matter the race you are fetishizing them and it is wrong. You got a preference? Fine, that’s you and no one can stop you from having it because only you can choose your partner. Just make sure you’re dating them for the right reasons (personality, shared interests, attraction,etc).

C: I hope the same black men and women calling Serena Williams a traitor do the same thing to black men who date white/non-black women, because these double standards make no sense. I thought Serena was “too manly”(😒) for y'all but suddenly she gets with a white man and now it’s “but the white man is bad!” She was tired of waiting around for black men to like her, if anything I’m proud!

Black dudes have their own sets of issues this is ever present and kinda always will be until misogyny and colorism is washed out of our souls, but when black women date white men, why is the reasoning behind that by every super woke™ is that black dudes just have to be ain’t shit and every black dude she was with ain’t shit and that’s why she jumped ship like that’s the reason why, like maybe she just like white dudes bruh

Yeah niggas do trash things every day but like let her enjoy that white dick unfettered without having to bring a non factor into the convo just to get some melaninotes

White Men who date Black Women

When white men tell Black people that they’ve dated or date Black women and you look at the types of Black women that they date/dated and they are biracial women or very light Black women then they honestly do not get kudos. I’m not discrediting a woman for being Black because of her skin color, hair texture or her ethnicity percentage. It just irritates me because white men who do this want to be able to say they aren’t prejudice and be socially accepted by being able to say, “Yeah, my girlfriend is Black.” but she is honestly the Black that is accepted by society.

You do not get an award or a round of applause or acceptance for dating what is “acceptable” to society.

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I’m willing to bet he doesn’t say this about the countless Black Men who date White Women and have the nerve to run their mouths about Black Women on the daily? Nothing about her is contradictory.

Let Black Women live. Having an interracial relationship doesn’t make you any less of who you are. Her culture is her culture. So someone tell him that the answer to his question is a hard “No”.

Confession: I’ve never had a boyfriend or kissed a boy. Boys are never interested in me. I complain to my mom about it sometimes and she says it’s because I’m attracted to white guys and if I went after black guys I’d find someone. I don’t specifically go out of my way to exclude black guys or only like white guys it’s just that most of the guys I tend to like or be attracted to are white. I wish I was normal and liked mostly black guys, but I tend to lean towards whites guys and I feel so shitty.

If Black Women Are So Ugly...Why Are We The Most Imitated?

 As a young girl, I’ve always been exposed to white women and white dolls. At an early age, I understood who was perceived as more beautiful. If you had long hair, pale skin and blue/green eyes, you were set to have friends or dates. So naturally I bought white dolls and designed white Sims from the ages 4 to 11. I would buy magazines that most white girls received their beauty tips from and watch shows where white girls were the protagonist. Although some of those show still remain in my heart like Lizzie McGuire and Hannah Montana, it is imperative to note that we have always had a problematic representation for young girls in media.

 I thought I was just “crazy” for imagining that white girls were regarded as the “prettiest.” I couldn’t articulate my feelings as a young black girl, but I knew what was going on. All the popular girls in school were white or had features that resembled a Eurocentric ideal of beauty. I was never asked out as a child, and when I did crush on people, it was not reciprocal. And the foreboding thought pulsated in my head: “If I were white or had long hair, boys would like me. It’d be easier for me to make friends and boyfriends.” It took me until I was nineteen to realize what misogynoir and colorism was. I used to be someone who would deny racism was a modern thing if you were to ask me in 2012. If you were to tell me white privilege was real, I would have called you racist. Now that I know better, I can now articulate how I feel about being an African-American woman in a society that tells me I am not pretty.

 As childish as the term “pretty” is, it is something most black women wanted to be when they were young. However, they were denied that feeling because they were not the standard of beauty. If you were born with dark skin, full lips, 4C hair, a big butt and 4C hair, you were considered ugly. In the media, all the attractive women were thin and blonde. If there were other women in the media, they either had long hair or were very light-skinned to the point you couldn’t instantly tell what race they were. Whenever we were represented, it was in a way where we were either sexualized or vilified. We had to be perfect and portrayed as a “wholesome lady” who attends church every Sunday. And we most certainly couldn’t uplift let alone like other black women that didn’t fit black patriarchal social norms. 

 Now today in 2016, there is a little more diversity in the media with shows like Empire, Insecure, Scandal, and How To Get Away With Murder. All shows star black women who are very nuanced and don’t fall under the “respectable black woman” gaze so many people projected onto us for years. But with the revolution and revelation of black beauty is the surge of cultural appropriation. Earlier in the year, Beyonce Knowles released her 6th album, Lemonade. The album was a composite of African-Americanism and a range of emotions that only black women in America could relate to. Afterwards, Knowles’ younger sister, Solange, released her third studio album, A Seat At A Table. Both albums represent black womanhood and let’s the listener know that neither albums are for anyone else but black women. However, that doesn’t stop white and non-black women from infiltrating something that is rightfully ours.

 It’s not a new concept that white and non-black women appropriate our features and mannerisms. It has been happening for over 25 years. Women like Jennifer Lopez and Angelina Jolie are known for having features traditionally seen on a visibly black woman. Lopez is known for her large buttocks whilst Jolie is known for her large lips. If they were on a mundane black woman with brown or dark skin, she’d be seen as “average” or even “ugly.” It’s not “special” to have those features as a black girl because we’re “supposed” to have them. Nowadays, more non-black women are opting to get lip surgery and butt injections to be perceived as more beautiful. Which brings me to this question: If black women are so ugly for having full lips, dark skin, wide noses, and kinky hair, why do non-black women need to have those features to be seen as more beautiful?

 The reason for that is cognitive dissonance, envy and misogynoir. The cognitive dissonance is the idea that something only applies to a particular situation but changes for the convenience of the person who applied the idea. Black women are “ugly” for having big butts, full lips, dark skin, and kinky hair, but on any other woman, those are the “markers” of beauty and “womanhood.” So I always came up with two theories as to why that is: Either people are lying about black women being ugly or they believe non-black women “look better” with our features and characteristics. I think it’s a little bit of both. I think most people today realize that black women aren’t inherently ugly, and neither are the features that represent the majority of black women. But instead of acknowledging the erroneous beauty standards of white supremacy and how wrong it was, they just pretend we’re “imagining” things and “black features” is not an actual thing. I’ve been pressed with the, “Who called you ugly?” question by my mom. As if to say if I’ve never personally been called ugly (I have), then what the media tells me does not matter. Unfortunately, the media let’s us know that we are “ugly.” It doesn’t let us forget.

  Envy is when someone wants something that another person has. I feel that many non-black women are truly envy of features associated on black women and will do anything to compete with us for the same attention we get. However, the attention we get is hypersexualization and abuse. We get people fetishizing us and only seeing us for our bodies instead of us as a whole. Our sexualization is the prime reason as to why our ancestors were raped during American Slavery. But instead of realizing the atrocities of their husbands’ crimes, white women took it out on us. White women took their husbands’ raping us out on us either by killing us, beaten us or joining in on their husbands’ rape upon us. Yes, white women raped us too. They even set us up to be raped, which is quite accurately depicted in the flawed Tarantino film, Django Unchained. Which was why Jamie Foxx’s character killed Miss Lara, his wife’s mistress,” as well. White women have always been envious or jealous of black women to the point that they would kill us and our children in order to stop their husbands from “wanting” us. Today, many racist white women believe that if they can’t “satisfy” their men like black women apparently did and do, then they should “be more like us.”

 This is especially a thing for white women who exclusively date black men. Black men swear we are so ugly and have the “worst” attitudes, but will settle for emotionally and even physically abusive women of a lighter hue or another race. Kevin Hart said it best, if she’s dark-skinned and pretending she’s going to swing on you, punch the bitch because she’s clearly “stronger” than a light-skinned girl of presumably the same anatomy and biological characteristics. Let a light-skinned or non-black Latina (the proxies black men use to not seem enthralled by Eurocentrism) swing at a man, and it’s adorable because there is no way in hell they can be actually violent. They aren’t dark-skinned or black, so they are inherently more “delicate.” So white women who exclusively date black men are aware they can “act like a black girl” without the consequences of being treated like one. However, they seem to not stay away from the box braids, protective hairstyles and “hoodrat” attire so many young black girls from lower-income neighborhoods wear for survival. It’s as if they know most black men are still PHYSICALLY attracted to black women and can’t reconcile that pale skin, thin lips, and thinner body-types is something not all black men are inherently attracted to. Most are just conditioned to. And it’s not to say those features are considered less attractive, but we’ve been told they were so attractive for years, it’s hard not to see how average and uninspiring those features really are. They aren’t special and no better than anyone else. But because society tells us features associated with whiteness is beautiful, we believe it. Therefore, everyone else who looks otherwise is “ugly.” 

 Unfortunately for a lot of white women who are born with average looks, they realize their whiteness is not enough. They have to get plastic surgery with black women as the standard to look to even be seen as appealing to certain men. This is especially a phenomenon for non-black women who are attracted to black men. This is even a factor for racially ambiguous and white-passing women of mixed race ancestry who aren’t always associated with blackness. They are deemed so “prettier” and better than everyone else but always mimic the mannerisms of the “hoodrats” and “ghetto” black girls. They tan to be closer to the complexion of a “dark bitch.” They plump their lips or use lip-fuller to get “nigger lips.” They even crimp their hair to make it look like a limp afro. Some have even went as far to glorify “button” noses on women like Amina Blue, as in, a nose wide as shit! Yet let a black girl have all of those features, and no one wants her unless she’s really thin or has something “different” about her like green eyes or hair that isn’t 4C. So why are black girls considered so ugly if people are clearly attracted to our features on everyone else?

 That’s because in this universe, black women aren’t valued and considered pretty. We’re at the bottom of the food chain, and it’s just the way it is. Actually, it’s not, but that’s how we’re supposed to look at it. It may seem like a reverse psychological effect, however. Either we’ve always been seen as beautiful or people believe our features can only be beautiful on someone else. I believe it’s the former because whenever I ask someone why I’m so ugly or why black women who look like me or more visibly black are seen as such, no one can give me a proper answer. They’re so damn flustered as if my assessment on my own body dysmorphia doesn’t make any sense. I’m made to feel cr*zy and insecure, which is code for, “Your self-image issues is all in your head and not really there.” Well, duh. It most certainly is. That’s why it’s called Body Dysmoprhia. It’s a fucking mental illness! Anxiety Disorders aren’t supposed to be rational nor making any sense, even to the ones inflicted by it. But it’s still there, and it’s often developed because of classical conditioning by society. But because you can’t think of any rational reason as to why black women are seen as “ugly” because you KNOW it’s bullshit, you just blame it on us and say we’re “insecure” and made ourselves feel that way. Not because you over-glorify girls with light skin or features considered closer to white supremacist standards. You can’t admit you’re the cause of a mental illness, so you pretend it’s not actually a thing. 

 Now it’s, “You should know you’re pretty.” I mean, I’ve had eating disorders and have been told, “You know you’re not fat.” That doesn’t make any lick of sense to someone with an eating disorder. A person with body dysmoprhia can’t possibly KNOW they’re not ugly. The point of Body Dysmorphia is that they think there is something wrong or flawed with their appearance when there’s no visible evidence to support that. But of course, gaslighting and victim-blaming is a thing towards black girls and black women, so why am I even debating this? 

 Anyway, people are so quick to uplift a conventionally attractive light-skinned girl or skinny white girl who FEELS “ugly,” but Body-Dysmorphia in black girls goes unnoticed and unattended to. It’s as if they want black girls to feel like shit at the advantage of other girls in this world. This is like that movie Flatland I watched where it was a movie about shapes and the world was divided in classes. This was based off the Victorian Era, so of course misogynistic elements were thrown in for social commentary. The shapes consisted of lines, triangles, squares, pentagons, hexagons, and other polygons all the way to a circle, the most “superior” of the shapes. The lines were depicted as women, and the problem with them was that they were so thin and sharp, they could stab people even by accident. All the lines were women, so the rest of the shapes were men. The women were subjugated and told to scream in a high-pitch tone because it would the men know they were of no threat. If they didn’t, they were promptly arrested and executed. The justification was that it was due to “safety” and because the women were inherently dangerous, but the underlying commentary was that the more “powerful” women appeared to men, the more necessary their subjugation is. Don’t you get it? We live in a world where we’re supposed to be sad and insecure for women who aren’t like us to be compensated because we’re so “beautiful” and the “best.” We’re clearly hated, but often imitated. Which means the justification for misogynoir and/or colorism is that the more “beautiful” and “cultured” we are, the more necessary it is for people to subjugate us and tell black women aren’t “supposed” to be “liberated” or “sexual” because that’s how we always were. We’re the “standard.” We’re “queens,” so everyone else has to be compensated for it. Jesus, this is like a loose novel of Harrison Bergenson.  

White women’s opinion of black women & a brother’s response Please take a moment and read this. Pretty Deep!

It seems that an article was written to Sister 2 Sister magazine by a Caucasian woman who requested a response from black men. I’m so glad she got what she asked for (and more) !!!

Dear Jamie:
I’m sorry but I would like to challenge some of your Black male readers. I am a White female who is engaged to a Black male-good-looking, educated and loving. I just don’t understand a lot of Black female’s attitudes about our relationship. My man decided he wanted me because the pickings amongst Black women were slim to none. As he said they were either too fat, too loud, too mean, too argumentative, too needy, too materialistic or carrying too much excess baggage. Before I became engaged, whenever I went out I was constantly approached by Black men, willing to wine and dine me and give me the world. If Black women are so up in arms about us being with their men, why don’t they look at themselves and make some changes. I am tired of the dirty looks I get and snide remarks when we’re out in public. I would like to hear from some Black men about why we are so appealing and coveted by them. Bryant Gumbel just left his wife of 26 years for one of us Charles Barkley, Scottie Pippen, the model Tyson Beckford, Montell Williams, Quincy Jones, James Earl Jones, Harry Belafonte, Sydney Poitier, Kofi Anan, Cuba Gooding Jr., Don Cornelius, Berry Gordy, Billy Blanks, Larry Fishburne, Wesley Snipes… I could go on and on. But, right now, I’m a little angry and that is why I wrote this so hurriedly. Don’t be mad with us White women because so many of your men want us. Get your acts together and learn from us and we may lead you to treat your men better. If I’m wrong, Black men, let me know. 

Disgusted White Girl, Somewhere in VA.


RESPONSE

Dear Jamie:
I would like to respond to the letter written by A Disgusted White Girl. Let me start by saying that I am a 28-year old black man. I graduated from one of the most prestigious universities in Atlanta, Georgia with a Bachelor of Arts Degree in Business Management. I have a good job at a major corporation and have recently purchased a house. So, I consider myself to be among the ranks of successful black men. I will not use my precious time to slander white people. I just want to set the record straight of why black men date white women. Back in the day, one of the biggest reasons why black men dated white women was because they were considered easy. The black girls in my neighborhood were raised in the church. They were very strict about when they lost their virginity and who they lost it to. Because of our impatience to wait, brothers would look for someone who would give it up easy without too much hassle. So, they turned to the white girls. Nowadays, in my opinion, a lot of brothers date white women because they are docile and easy to control. A lot of black men, because of insecurities, fears, and overall weaknesses, have become intimidated by the strength of our black women. We are afraid that our woman will be more successful than us, make more money than us, drive nicer cars and own bigger houses.

Because of this fear, many black men look for a more docile woman. Someone we can control. I have talked to numerous black men and they continuously comment on how easy it is to control and walk over their white women. I just want to set the record straight. I want A Disgusted White Girl to know that not all successful black men date white women. Brothers like Ahmad Rashad, Denzel Washington, Michael Jordan, Morris Chestnut, Will Smith, Blair Underwood, Kenneth “Babyface” Edmonds, Samuel L. Jackson, and Chris Rock all married strong black women And, to flip the script, there are numerous white men, in and out of the spot light, who openly or secretly desire black women over white women. Ted Danson, Robert DeNiro, and David Bowie to name a few. I just don’t want a disgusted white girl to be misinformed Stop thinking that because you are white that you are some type of goddess. Remember, when black Egyptian Queens like Hatsepshut and Nitorcris were ruling Dynasties and armies of men in Egypt, you were over in the caves of Europe eating raw meat and beating each other over the head with clubs.

Read your history! It was the black woman that taught you how to cook and season your food. It was the black woman that taught you how to raise your children. It was black women who were breast feeding and raising your babies during slavery. It is the black woman that had to endure watching their fathers, husbands, and children beaten, killed, and thrown in jail. Black women were born with two strikes against them: being black and being a woman. And, through all this, Still They Rise! It is because of the black women’s strength, elegance, power, love and beauty that I could> never> date anyone except my black Queen. It is not just the outer beauty that captivates and draws me to them. It is not the fact that they come in all shapes, sizes, colors and shades that I love them. Their inner beauty is what I find most appealing about black women. Their strong spirit, loving and nurturing souls, their integrity, their ability to overcome great obstacles, their willingness to stand for what they believe in, and their determination to succeed and reach their highest potential while enduring great pain and suffering is why I have fallen in love with black women. I honestly believe that your anger is geared more toward jealousy and envy more so than snotty looks. If this were not so, then why do you continuously go to tanning salons to darken your skin? If you are so proud to be white, then why don’t you just be happy with your pale skin? Why do you continue to inject your lips, hips, and breasts with unnatural and dangerous substances so you can look fuller and more voluptuous? I think that your anger is really a result of you wanting to have what the black woman has.

BOTTOM LINE:
If I were looking for a docile woman, someone I can walk over and control, I would give you a call. But, unfortunately, I am looking for a Virtuous Woman. Someone that can be a good wife and mother to my children. Someone who can be my best friend and understands my struggles. I am looking for a soul mate. I am looking for a sister and; unfortunately, you do not and CANNOT fit the bill. No offense taken, none given. 

Signed, Black Royalty

Alt-right racists put up ‘white women shouldn’t date black men’ posters at this college campus

The Detroit Free Press has the story of these brazen racists gallivanting about Ann Arbor, posting fliers in various lecture halls. The flyers are emblazoned with a logo labeled “Alt Right,” a symbol appearing to be associated with the National Policy Institute, a white nationalist think tank.

The flier titled, “Why White Women Shouldn’t Date Black Men,” features sections labeled, “He’s much more likely to abuse you,” “Your kids probably wouldn’t be smart,” and “Starts with brutal rape; gets much worse,” among others.

The fliers are the latest in a string of racist incidents on college campuses in recent weeks. There was the blackface Snapchat at Kansas State two weeks ago; last week brought racist Snaps from students at Belmont and Quinnipiac.

This is so ridiculous! This looks like Jim Crow’s list of laws about racial segregation, that institutionalized a number of economic, educational, and social disadvantages!

It is 2016! Not 1965, when these laws have ceased to have effect! And not even 1830, when the laws were created!

Someone at the University of Michigan must take some actions against these scoundrels!

anonymous asked:

I was thinking of making anti sjw comics kind of like how pleb comics did, got any idea for the first few ones ?

Hypocrisy. Hypocrisy everywhere. I would probably highlight how many statements SJW’s make sound exactly like statements racist groups make. Like that thing I rebloged just yesterday about comparing black men to dogs for dating white women.

Confession. I’m 22, I’ve been dating a white male since 2011. I love him although he is flawed like any man. Our relationship has been rocky for most of the years (because we were kids) and now things are steading but I can’t stop thinking about  “the black" love of my life. I think about his brown skin and endowment to call my own. I think about making black babies, no cream or cut. I’ve evolved to this pro-black women with the white boyfriend. I feel like a “walking contradiction.” It sucks.

C: A huge number of black men do not chase after black women the way they pursue non black women. And many women enjoy being pursued and courted seriously. It makes one feel desirable and valuable. They engage in lazy “dating” when it comes to black women and the further away you are from the Eurocentirc look, the worse you have it and are expected to settle. Sometimes you won’t even get an actual date but they will rudely ask for ass in a heartbeat. It’s like deep down they don’t believe black women are worthy and deserving of good things or they are embarrassed of being associated with us unless it’s in the dark on a frameless mattress where they bust a nut and keep it moving. Almost all my friends and relatives have told me that the men who really actually courted and pursued them were non black. And for me the two men in my past who did the whole driving to my house to pick me up and take me on a date and wine and dine me and introduce me to their parents were white. But when I hear stories of non black women talking about their black boyfriends, it’s a WHOLE different narrative. Black men in general put more effort and consideration to non black women to the point where our stories with them sound made up and unreal.