black girl fights

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Taylor Rooks appreciation post.

At 23, Taylor is making a name for herself as a talented journalist/host/correspondent on the rise.

And she’s our own Big Ten reppin’, STL and Chicago reppin’, Illinois alumna.

I'm so tired - A Black Girls Ode

I’m tired of the stereotypes
Black girls are
“Loud”
“Angry”
“Violent”
“Too dark”
“Ugly”
“Not desirable”
“Inferior”

I’m tired of the hair hate
“Nappy”
“Crunchy”
“Dry”
“Short”
“Afro”
“Natural”
“Braids”
“Weaves”
“Wannabe white”

I’m tired of the skin hate
“#TeamLightSkin”
“#TeamDarkSkin”
Like we’re on opposing teams…

I’m tired of the hate for liking out of race
“Black guys”(Who sometimes don’t even want us)
“White guys”
“Asian guys”
“Hispanic guys”
ANY GUY
And forever wondering if said guy will even like us back

I’m tired of being told I can’t be
“Nerdy”
“Quiet”
“Shy”
“ A geek”
“A nerdy”
“A gamer”
“Good at school”
“A princess”
“Or a Queen”

Or can’t have
“A stable family”
“Good grades”
“Drama free love life”
“Normalcy of any sort”

Or I can’t like
“Comic books”
“Reading”
“Video games”
“Indie music”
“Pop music”
“Rock music”
Anything other than Rap/R&B

I’m tired of the names and things said
“Oreo”
“Sassy”
“Fake”
“Uppity”
“Ghetto”
“White girl in a black girls body”
“I don’t date black girls”
“You’re pretty for a black girl”
“You talk/act white”
“You’re not like the rest”
“I like chocolate”
“You’re my Nubian princess” (Like we are food or a prize to be won)

I’m so tired
…. Of constantly trying to prove myself
….. Always explaining myself
….. Trying to keep my voice down
….. Being too dark
…… Or too light
…… Steering away from stereotypes
….. Being treated like less than
….. “No I don’t have kids” “Nit currently or planning to be pregnant”
….. “No you cannot touch my hair”
….. Yes I live with both my mom and dad
…… “Nubian princess”
….. Keeping my hands to myself in a store so I don’t get accused of stealing
…… Social media and News representation
…… Being a fetish
…… Being wary of cops when I’ve done nothing wrong
…… Knuckling under
…… Black on black hate
……. EVERY THING ELSE

I’m so tired of fighting

My skin color and hair does not, has not, and will not ever represent me.
I am in touch with my black and Haitian roots but none of it defines me unless I say it does.
No matter I do or say people will still see me that way. I’m so tired of people not even seeing who I am but what they perceive me to be solely based on my skin.

I’m so very tired, BUT, too many people (men, women, and people of every race) have fought too long, prayed too hard, and died too often for us to GIVE UP because we’re TIRED! No, this is when we push even harder, because if we’re tired so are they, but now we have one foot in the door ^3^

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The notion that I should be fine with the status quo even if I am not wholly affected by the status quo is repulsive.


To write is to be heard, and we hear Roxane Gay loud and clear. Roxane Gay is an associate professor of English at Purdue and a writer. Her writing has been described as wry, witty, non-polarizing, and accessible with a strong focus on the real human experience: flawed, complex and multifaceted. 

Gay was born to Haitian immigrants in Omaha, Nebraska, the oldest of 3 siblings. Growing up, her parents were very strict. Although that meant no sleepovers, she and her siblings came out of it with strong bonds. She first started writing when she was 4 years old, but it picked up in her mid-teens; she used it as an outlet after an assault that left her feeling traumatized and isolated. Her teacher saw the cries for help in her writing and reached out. And although he encouraged counseling, he also encouraged her to write every day, and helped her hone her craft.

As a black bi woman, she once felt feminism wasn’t for her. She felt its primary focus was on straight white women to the detriment of others. Now, she is passionate about feminist issues like body image, assault, intersectionality, representation, reproductive rights, and pop culture. Although she agrees very much with feminism’s aims, she has also criticized it for requiring perfection and shunning the messy complexities of being human. Her unique perspectives and straightforward honesty make her a must read not just for feminists, but for anyone.

Gay speaks her truth without fear and has educated and enthralled leagues of feminists; for that, we are proud to honor this “bad feminist” and queer woman of color as our Moxie Monthly on Pride Month. Thanks, Roxane! And now, here are 5 facts about the amazing Roxane Gay:


  1. She’s one of the first black female lead writers at Marvel. She and Yona Harvey write for World of Wakanda, a spinoff of Black Panther.
  2. She’s a competitive Scrabble player. Her advice? Study your word lists, learn your threes, and treat the game like chess, not checkers.
  3. She loves The Bachelor. Does that make her a bad feminist? She embraces the label, but still notes the show is “very, very damaging”.
  4. Her favorite singer is Beyonce. Because, obviously.
  5. Her new book Hunger comes out June 13th! In it, she explores food, weight, self-image and self-care through her own experiences.
I want to know the you that not everyone has the chance to know. I want to listen to your favourite song until I know it off by heart so I can sing along with you. I want to snuggle on a rainy day and watch your favourite movie. I want to stay up all night with you talking about your childhood, your dreams, Harry Potter, the origins of the universe. I want to travel the world with you, skinny dipping in the sea at midnight and making bonfires on the beach. I want to know your fears and your flaws, but I also want to know your strengths and your passions. I want to know your weird fetishes. I want to hear about your worst memories, the last time you cried yourself to sleep, and your heartbreaks, but I also want to hear about the good times, and what makes you laugh. I want to know if you’re ticklish. I want to hear about your family until I know them almost as well as I know my own, who you get on best with, who pisses you off, the stories you grandparents have told you about the ‘old days’, what perfume your mother wears, any family traditions. I want to know your ambitions and where you see yourself in 10 years time. I want to hear you try speaking a foreign language. I want to know who inspires you and motivates you most. I want to know which side of the bed you sleep on, and how many pillows you like to sleep with. I want to know what your favourite meal is, and which foods you hate, and how many pancakes you can eat in one sitting. I want to see you when your happy, or out in public, but I also want to see what you’re like at home, or when you’re sad and I want to be there to comfort you. I want to know how competitive you get when it comes to fighting for what you believe in. I want to know what you think of politics, abortion, climate change, genetically modified foods. Are you a cat or a dog person? What do you like doing in your spare time? I want to find out what your dream job as a child was, and argue about what super power would be best to have. Do you prefer showers or baths? Can you solve a Rubik’s cube? I want to know if you’re a morning person, or if you prefer to sleep in until lunchtime. I want to be able to make your perfect cup of tea or coffee. What would you do with £1,000,000? I want to listen to the songs you listen to when you’re sad and read your favourite book. I want to know the sound of your voice and your laugh, the taste of your lips, the feel of your body against mine, the warmth and comfort of your hugs. I want to know your personality, your mind and the way you think. I want to know and love the real you, more completely than anyone has ever done before