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99 Questions, ASK MEEE
  • 1: 6 of the songs you listen to most?
  • 2: If you could meet anyone on this earth, who would it be?
  • 3: Grab the book nearest to you, turn to page 23, give me line 17.
  • 4: What do you think about most?
  • 5: What does your latest text message from someone else say?
  • 6: Do you sleep with or without clothes on?
  • 7: What’s your strangest talent?
  • 8: Girls… (finish the sentence); Boys… (finish the sentence)
  • 9: Ever had a poem or song written about you?
  • 10: When is the last time you played the air guitar?
  • 11: Do you have any strange phobias?
  • 12: Ever stuck a foreign object up your nose?
  • 13: What’s your religion?
  • 14: If you are outside, what are you most likely doing?
  • 15: Do you prefer to be behind the camera or in front of it?
  • 16: Simple but extremely complex. Favorite band?
  • 17: What was the last lie you told?
  • 18: Do you believe in karma?
  • 19: What does your URL mean?
  • 20: What is your greatest weakness; your greatest strength?
  • 21: Who is your celebrity crush?
  • 22: Have you ever gone skinny dipping?
  • 23: How do you vent your anger?
  • 24: Do you have a collection of anything?
  • 25: Do you prefer talking on the phone or video chatting online?
  • 26: Are you happy with the person you’ve become?
  • 27: What’s a sound you hate; sound you love?
  • 28: What’s your biggest “what if”?
  • 29: Do you believe in ghosts? How about aliens?
  • 30: Stick your right arm out; what do you touch first? Do the same with your left arm.
  • 31: Smell the air. What do you smell?
  • 32: What’s the worst place you have ever been to?
  • 33: Choose: East Coast or West Coast?
  • 34: Most attractive singer of your opposite gender?
  • 35: To you, what is the meaning of life?
  • 36: Define Art.
  • 37: Do you believe in luck?
  • 38: What’s the weather like right now?
  • 39: What time is it?
  • 40: Do you drive? If so, have you ever crashed?
  • 41: What was the last book you read?
  • 42: Do you like the smell of gasoline?
  • 43: Do you have any nicknames?
  • 44: What was the last film you saw?
  • 45: What’s the worst injury you’ve ever had?
  • 46: Have you ever caught a butterfly?
  • 47: Do you have any obsessions right now?
  • 48: What’s your sexual orientation?
  • 49: Ever had a rumour spread about you?
  • 50: Do you believe in magic?
  • 51: Do you tend to hold grudges against people who have done you wrong?
  • 52: What is your astrological sign?
  • 53: Do you save money or spend it?
  • 54: What’s the last thing you purchased?
  • 55: Love or lust?
  • 56: In a relationship?
  • 57: How many relationships have you had?
  • 58: Can you touch your nose with your tongue?
  • 59: Where were you yesterday?
  • 60: Is there anything pink within 10 feet of you?
  • 61: Are you wearing socks right now?
  • 62: What’s your favourite animal?
  • 63: What is your secret weapon to get someone to like you?
  • 64: Where is your best friend?
  • 65: Give me your top 5 favourite blogs on Tumblr.
  • 66: What is your heritage?
  • 67: What were you doing last night at 12AM?
  • 68: What do you think is Satan’s last name?
  • 69: Be honest. Ever gotten yourself off?
  • 70: Are you the kind of friend you would want to have as a friend?
  • 71: You are walking down the street on your way to work. There is a dog drowning in the canal on the side of the street. Your boss has told you if you are late one more time you get fired. What do you do?
  • 72: You are at the doctor’s office and she has just informed you that you have approximately one month to live. a) Do you tell anyone/everyone you are going to die? b) What do you do with your remaining days? c) Would you be afraid?
  • 73: You can only have one of these things; trust or love.
  • 74: What’s a song that always makes you happy when you hear it?
  • 75: What are the last four digits in your cell phone number?
  • 76: In your opinion, what makes a great relationship?
  • 77: How can I win your heart?
  • 78: Can insanity bring on more creativity?
  • 79: What is the single best decision you have made in your life so far?
  • 80: What size shoes do you wear?
  • 81: What would you want to be written on your tombstone?
  • 82: What is your favourite word?
  • 83: Give me the first thing that comes to mind when you hear the word; heart.
  • 84: What is a saying you say a lot?
  • 85: What’s the last song you listened to?
  • 86: Basic question; what’s your favourite colour/colours?
  • 87: What is your current desktop picture?
  • 88: If you could press a button and make anyone in the world instantaneously explode, who would it be?
  • 89: What would be a question you’d be afraid to tell the truth on?
  • 90: One night you wake up because you heard a noise. You turn on the light to find that you are surrounded by MUMMIES. The mummies aren’t really doing anything, they’re just standing around your bed. What do you do?
  • 91: You accidentally eat some radioactive vegetables. They were good, and what’s even cooler is that they endow you with the super-power of your choice! What is that power?
  • 92: You can re-live any point of time in your life. The time-span can only be a half-hour, though. What half-hour of your past would you like to experience again?
  • 93: You can erase any horrible experience from your past. What will it be?
  • 94: You have the opportunity to sleep with the music-celebrity of your choice. Who would it be?
  • 95: You just got a free plane ticket to anywhere. You have to depart right now. Where are you gonna go?
  • 96: Do you have any relatives in jail?
  • 97: Have you ever thrown up in the car?
  • 98: Ever been on a plane?
  • 99: If the whole world were listening to you right now, what would you say?

goggles-and-gears  asked:

(1/2)So, my main character identifies as African American, but I am worried that I might have accidentally made it seem like only lighter/mixed African Americans would be of value? I tried to subvert the 'black men can't/shouldn't be fathers' trope, and so her biological father is a white man who abandoned her mother when he realized she was pregnant. Her mother and father are both rather dark-skinned, very smart (they both work at Harvard, or used to - her mother may have moved on), and happy.

(2/2)My main character would only know the second man her mother ended up loving, and it would have been most of her life - they met right after her mother was left, and although they didn’t start dating until my MC was about a year old, it’s been so long that she wouldn’t remember a time without him. But I’m worried - would people be more likely to see it as saying that white men can be less reliable than AA men, or would it seem like I would only ever write someone who’s lighter?

Subverted Absent Black Father + Single Black Mother

Mixed-Race Light-skinned MC

I’m not too concerned with the mixed race light-skinned Black MC. It’s always great to portray dark-skinned monoracial Black women, yeah, and when folks (who aren’t of the identity) constantly/only create mixed race characters, particularly light skinned, that’s when I feel weird. Otherwise, it’s never a problem in itself.

 However, mixed race B+W doesn’t equal light-skinned. Genetics work how they want. Mixed race people come in all shades and hair textures. There are mixed b&w people with light skin and 4c afro hair, medium brown skin and straighter hair, dark brown skin and loose curly hair, etc. So your concern about writing someone lighter is erased if you just make her not so light.

 My issue is the absent father aspect of your question.

 Absent Father - Abandoned Black Woman

 If you have the missing parent for essential plot reasons, then I won’t encourage you to write that out. I will tell you that making the deadbeat father into a white man doesn’t erase all harm. The Absent Black Father not only demonizes Black men, but, when one’s involved, devalues Black women.

 Trace your logic. Why do we need to keep placing Black women in situations where they’re discarded and devalued? Subversion isn’t always desired in terms of representation. Personally, I feel that not perpetuating the harmful piece of representation in the first place is preferred to putting a “twist” to a trope.

 Let me emphasize what Elaney said in the mod wishlist regarding the representation we (as mods) want to see: 

 Lastly, I personally do not want these tropes to be explored and subverted by people, I want them to be avoided entirely because I feel that normalizing positive representation rather than commenting on negative representation is far more beneficial and validating to the people these works are supposed to help and represent. We don’t need sympathy, we need empathy!

Your ask works under the impression that there has to be an abandoning parent element in the first place.  Does there, truly, for significant plot reasons? There wouldn’t be a need to subvert anything if there was no abandoning parent in the first place. Honestly it seems more “revolutionary” to have two parents together these days. What’s cliche is there always needing to be an abandoning/missing/dead + single parent element going on.

Black women are often deemed as perpetually single, good for sex but not a relationship, and as the least attractive. Media conveniently considers romance overplayed when it comes to Black women, while white women in the same books and shows are given relationships. Tons of sh**ty articles and “stats” are published that serve only to call Black women ugly and unworthy and essentially just put us down.

 By having this white man abandon the Black woman, it’s going down that same path of portraying Black women as less desirable and worthy of support.

 Of course, these things happen, whether it’s a father devaluing a Black woman as the underlying reason or their separating under common differences. Such stories can still be written, and there’s indeed a place for them…in the right hands. It’s always best left to those who have the experience or those willing to dedicate themselves to research, fact and nuance-checking with appropriate beta-readers.

Giving the mother a new, loving relationship does help amend the Black woman/devalued aspect well, though. The new father being a Black man is also a positive touch. Giving the mother a support group (people who love and support her platonically) always helps too, especially during the time of abandonment, as would most suggestions in the Strong Black Woman tag.

 ~Mod Colette

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