We now talk about LGBT+ issues constantly but how often do we really consider the B in there? Have you ever doubted someone who tells you they are bi — “sure, Jan” — or debated the validity of that claim behind their back? Do you have a preconceived idea of what bi “really” looks like based on what TV and movies have told you? Do you think of it just as a sexual kink or as a true identity? When I encounter ignorance about my identity, I always try to approach it from a place of warmth and education, so this is not me lecturing the monosexuals out there. I’m inviting you this week to think about your own feelings towards bisexuals and ask yourself if there is any lingering doubt or prejudice there. If you think you could be bi, ask yourself what is holding you back from accepting it — is it your own developing feelings or your fear of society around you?
—  In honor of Bisexual Awareness Week, actor Andy Mientus published a long Instagram post about being bisexual and figuring out if and how to correct people who “lump him in as gay.” This is why it’s so important to have bisexual possibility models; I’m grateful that with each Bi Week, more and more speak out. (via the Huffington Post)
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queen of never brushing her hair and queen of not posting bisexuality visibility day selfies until the next day❤️💗💜💙
i just want to say a quick thank you to all the amazing bi people who i’ve met on here and who have helped me come into my sexuality. you all amaze me every day and this community is so incredibly kind to me. to everyone who has ever supported me on here about my sexual and romantic orientation and to anyone who has ever made strides towards destigmatizing bisexuality thank you thank you thank you thank you ❤️💗💜💙
being bi is such a beautiful thing and your bisexuality is beautiful and valid and i love you so keep on being bi

Like, that post on bisexuality visibility day isn’t really meant in this way to act like bi/queer women don’t have issues, or that their issues aren’t serious. The studies seem to show the opposite of that. 

However! I think that it’s not just a matter of convenience that we basically end up seeing the same exact article over and over again. You know the one I’m talking about, the article that is abt how the Primary issue that bi people face is that of Erasure  and Invisibility in the Gay Community when they are just there with their boyfriend, and why do fags keep having to hit on him or why do people think that their relationship is straight (even tho one half of the relationship… thinks its straight).

I’ve seen this article no fewer than maybe 10 times by different authors in the past week on facebook (where a large share of my friends belong to this demo, seemingly), and I just think that there has to be a more important article to be written abt being Bi or Queer or whatever in this world; something that is… if I can be a little callous, actually worth talking about.

I think why this article is so appealing to so many people is that it has a very liberal approach to sexuality. What I mean here is that if you can locate the problem of homophobia (or biphobia in these articles) on like… ignorance or erasure or somewhat standoffish behavior, then you 1) get to say “hey things aren’t really *that* bad for gay people” and 2) position accepting queer/bi/even gay people as ‘changing hearts’ as opposed to very real systems of oppression and harm.

To a certain extent, I think this is partially why these articles are so focused on bi women (that and like the way that bi women are generally fetishized by society), because like any discussion of bi men’s experience actually has to grapple w the fact that Straight People are like causing the primary issues that bi people face, not queer people. 

I don’t disagree that these attitudes exist, and they can be really harmful. But the examples always given really make me mad because they are so abstracted from anything that is actually an issue. Like, we’re not talking abt poor bi women who are isolated by homophobia but also not integrated into women’s communities and suffer for it.  We’re not talking abt bi trans people, or abt the bi butch/gnc women navigating that life, and we’re not even talking abt how that lack of community isolates bi women who face homophobic violence from their male partners for being bi. We’re not talking abt the ways that that lack of True Belonging actually materially affects anyone and how we survive this Homophobic Hellscape engineered by heteronormativity. 

It’s always abt the middle class, relatively feminine presenting cis women who sometimes have rude things said to them, and that’s the extent that they experience ‘violence’ for their sexuality… from the Gays. Do you see how that seems to be a niche article market to appeal to assuaging Straight People’s consciences and doesn’t challenge us the way our writings on bi/queer issues maybe could? 

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we’re Really Quite Poor and also we can put this shit on our CVs and pose as sartorial entrepreneurs so do us a favour and REBLOG & TELL YOUR FRIENDS!

P.S. our Liberté Égalité Bisexualité t-shirt is still our proudest achievement (including our degrees). 

We get a lot of asks where people list feelings of attraction and then ask if they are bi. The truth is no one can tell you that but you - however, if you’re feeling bi, then that’s all it takes to be bi. You don’t need to pass any test, just feel attraction to at least two genders and you can choose this label if it feels right.

[image description: a background of pink, purple and blue streaks with dark purple lettering overlaid saying, “If you think you’re bi, then you’re probably bi.”]

anonymous asked:

Oh... Great... You think Mercy is straight.... Ugh I'm so fucking sick of you straight shoving your heteronormative bullshit down our throats. I hope you fucking die you worthless straight jfc...

Tumblr on September 23rd: Omggg bi visibilty dayyyy!!!! your sexuality matters and you are valid!!!!!! you exist and bi characters exist!!!!! luv u!!!

Tumblr every other day: *sees a woman who is with a man* Okay literally what is this het bullshit. This person is obviously 100% a straight and their sexuality doesn’t exist unless they are gay enough for me.

*walks in late*

Oh. Right. Bi Visibility Day was yesterday. 

It feels a bit like the start of a self-help meeting to make a post saying “Hi, my name is Jez and I’m a bisexual.” But I am. So is my fiance.

In a lot of ways, I wish days like this had been more widely recognized and talked about when I was younger. Maybe then I would have come to terms with my own identity a lot sooner. Hell, the moment everything started to “click” for me was when I was in college and went to a presentation hosted in my dorm. Sitting a few feet away from a woman who was open about her bisexuality, who talked about feeling ashamed at first, who discussed the initial years of confusion, the pressure to choose one and deny the other, and messages of rejection from those around her - it’s like a light went off. The very first step on that journey of self-acceptance for me began with something as simple as listening to a woman who was comfortable telling a room full of people that she was bisexual. 

Fast forward to now, and you can see entire communities online where people are making the same kind of public proclamation in digital form. While I’ve reached an age where I am comfortable and confident about who and what I am, I’m reassured by the thought that maybe events like this will help someone else who needs that kind of support and validation that they don’t often see. To know that they are not alone, that they don’t have anything to be ashamed of, and they shouldn’t feel like they need to deny a part of who they are and who they love.

So, much love to my fellow bisexuals. To those who are out. To those who are in the closet. To those who cringe whenever someone jokes that the person they are currently dating has “cured” them. To anyone who identifies with an identity that “doesn’t exist,” who are told they’re “just selfish” or “confused” because of the nature of their feelings. 

I love you. And a lot of people out there do too. 

Bi Visibility Week: You Don’t Have to Choose

by @caramelkru

In honor of this year’s Bi Visibility Week (September 19-26), Loud and Alive will be publishing pieces on different experiences of different people, all of whom identify as bisexual. Stay tuned!



‘You can’t like both,’ I told myself countless times. ‘You have to choose. You can’t play for both teams.’

Because that’s what it feels like sometimes, doesn’t it? Like not having a singular preference means that you fail at life — you are a Bad Human. Game over.

We’ve been fortunate enough to see bisexuality edge its way into a mainstream spotlight over the last few years. Celebs like Evan Rachel Wood, Michelle Rodriguez, and Halsey are paving the way for more and more people to feel comfortable in their own bisexuality.

But this hasn’t always been the case.


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One of my biggest peeves about bisexual treatment & representation is the idea that bisexuals stop being bisexual once we’re in a relationship, especially if it’s a relationship with someone who’s a man or a woman. As in, someone sees a bisexual girl dating a guy and says, “Oh, so you’re straight now?” Or they see her dating a girl and say, “I knew you were really a lesbian!”

The confusion makes absolutely no sense to me, because in people’s everyday lives, the difference between attraction and romantic/sexual behavior is pretty darn obvious. Think about it: have you ever had a crush on someone you didn’t end up dating or hooking up with? The fact that you never had sexual contact or romantic involvement with the person didn’t make your crush any less real, right? Your attraction had nothing to do with your relationship status. Neither does being in a relationship mean that you are somehow physiologically prevented from ever feeling attraction toward anyone else ever again.

See - all common sense, right?

Being in a relationship does not erase bisexuality, any more than being single erases a gay, lesbian, or straight identity.