“Life is grand. You know that. The more experienced a person is, the deeper they go into life, the less black and white it is. And that incredibly interesting shade of grey gets to be played. But within that shade, there are infinite varieties, right? So I think that’s just her. The black is the bad guy, white is the good guy. But we all know the true parameters of life lie in between those two. And Flemeth is the absolute exploration thereof.”
Kate Mulgrew, in “A Shade of Flemeth”

By the Horns: My Beef With the Iron Bull Romance

Sometime in my early teens I set the background on my mobile phone to a picture of handcuffs with the phrase “naughty but nice” written underneath. It was pink, it was cute, and I liked it. My mother was horrified when she saw it. I couldn’t understand why. For me, I felt the phrase “naughty but nice” represented the duality of human nature, how we are neither wholly good nor bad. She told me it had something to do with sex. I didn’t understand. What in the world did handcuffs have to do with sex?

These days, in popular culture, awareness of BDSM is pretty high, but the public perception of it is still characterized by the same kind of confusion and bafflement that I felt when I discovered it was a thing. For some people, the practice is seen as dangerous or shameful. Others see it as a punchline. God help the people who find it hot.

In such a world where Fifty Shades of Grey is a major talking point, portrayals of consensual BDSM relationships come like rain in a desert. The writing on Iron Bull of Dragon Age: Inquisition has received huge amounts of praise from some quarters because, in the romance, Iron Bull gives you a safe-word and plenty of chances to back out. The potential romantic relationship with him and the Inquisitor or with him and Dorian is definitely and refreshingly consensual.

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saidtaylor asked:

I wasn't sure where to ask this question, but your blog seems as good a place as any: In your personal opinion, what games would you recommend to a person who really enjoyed Mass Effect and Dragon Age? I had a 5+ year hiatus from video games (also known as university) and those were the 1st I've played since my return. Now I have no idea what to play next! (Preferably answers for Playstation or PC games but not picky) Thanks for your time!

Well, you can start with some great Bioware classics.  All of these games are like 5 - 15 years old, but still amazing in their own rights.  All of these are available for PC and should be able to be found on Steam and/or GOG.com

  • Knights of the Old Republic (and it’s Obsidian sequel, KotOR 2)
  • Neverwinter Nights (And it’s Obsidian sequel, NWN2) - also note that NWN games are known for their modding and amazing modules that other fans create
  • Baldur’s Gate 1 & 2 
  • Also in the Baldur’s Gate genre, try Icewind Dale 1 & 2 and Planescape: Torment. 
  • Jade Empire

Outside of Bioware, here’s a few suggestions:

  • The Witcher series
  • Pillars of Eternity
  • The Saint’s Row series, though they’re more modern, the 4th one goes Sci-Fi (you may want to start with SR2 or 3)
  • The Elder Scrolls games!  Morrowind, Oblivion and Skyrim are the newest 3 and easier to jump into the newer they get.
  • The Fallout series!  All of them are great, but FO3, and Fallout: New Vegas are the newer ones and might be easier to jump into.  Fallout 4 is coming in November!

This is just a quick list, but literally hundreds and hundreds of hours of quality gaming.  Hope this helps!

Feel free to reblog and add more suggestions, too!

babywarrior5’s lovely Shepard, Jillian!

Turns out I actually got her done sooner than expected, haha. One of my requests isn’t going very well, so in my defeated frustration I loaded up refs, started scribbling and out came this xD

Apologies that her appearance is off. Whenever I draw on whim I tend to get carried away with stylizing…

Favorite Things About Dragon Age

Humans: average, healthy weight, not unrealistically skinny or overly muscular

Elves: small in stature, skinny and fair without much muscle

Dwarves: short, a lil’ chubby, with plump features and muscles

Qunari: thick, tall, and muscular, very masculine and rigid

Not to mention this is not just for the females, but for the males as well. Also, nothing is overly sexualized, no sleezy armor selections for the girls that show off their tits or waists that would be impractical to fight in, and no one hardly ever questions a woman fighting or leading an army (usually all the douchebags or jerks in the games are the ones who do that).

Sexualities are respected and not questioned by anyone, no matter how rude they are (hell, I danced with a duchess in front of an entire royal court and gained approval from the court) and characters with flaws such as recovering from drugs, autism, insecurity, unapproving parents, loneliness, fear of losing their faith and ptsd make the game and its characters so real and believable.

If you have ever been looking for a game that is so real and progressive and beautiful and so well written, Dragon Age is the absolute best game I have ever played. Origins, 2, and Inquisition are all satisfyingly long and doesn’t drag on and get boring. The companions and people you meet are so real they will feel like your actual friends, and you get such a connection with these pixelated people and feel for them.

Buy Dragon Age. Play it. Your welcome in advance.


Before and after playing #dragonage…😐 #bioware #games #gaming