Of wanting to be a mother. Of wanting to carry a child. To give birth. To dream of it. To wake up crying. To know you can never bring a child into this world. The pain of being a transgender woman.
Don’t ever fucking tell me I’m lucky i don’t have to deal with periods…
PTSD is a chronic illness and depending on your history, it might never be gone completely. Especially if that trauma was ongoing and happened young, before your brain is fully formed. And thats pretty much any age under 25.
25!? Yeah. So the reason the shit that happened when you were a pre-teen or a teenager? That’s why it’s still not ok. That’s why you might not be experiencing your expected results from therapy, because it’s not enough to treat your trauma as though you are/were an adult.
Popular theory states that it’s only in early childhood development that ongoing trauma or abuse* forces physical and permanent changes in the brain, because it’s still forming.
But the fact is that human brains aren’t fully formed until adulthood (which can be between 18 and 25 - the same reason you can’t get car insurance till then and why they say you shouldn’t drink) and this extreme trauma forces the brain into what is essentially a ‘reset’ state, where it then adapts to the environment of constant abuse and is harmed in exactly the same way. (*Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, mental, or environmental (neglect, emotional neglect etc), and/or being witness to extreme ongoing abuse of someone else.)
So what’s the damage?
Well there is a few things that happen.
Trauma affects what children anticipate and focus on (y’all are children till you’re adults in terms of brains remember), and how you can view and understand the information that you receive.
Changes in how you perceive threats because of trauma end up being expressed in how you think, feel, behave and even how you regulate your biological systems.
This presents in problems with
self regulation (being able to start or stop doing something when you think you should, overeating or over-doing anything really is a good example of this)
aggression against themselves and others
problems with attention and dissociation
physical problems (I will expand upon this later)
difficulties in self concept (who am I, what am I, believing you have worth, believing you are a person, etc)
and the capacity to negotiate satisfactory interpersonal relationships. (Why do I keep ending up in abusive relationships, why can’t I make friends or connect with people etc)
Trauma is so powerful because the amygdala starts functioning almost immediately after birth; children rapidly are able to experience fear and assess danger. Babies get scared even when they can’t think properly because of this.
Basically, early abuse and neglect can affect the development of the limbic system which makes individuals with traumatic histories to become highly sensitive to sensory input, which is known as hypervigilance.
Your amigdala is part of the limbic system that controls instinct, your “lizard brain” that keeps you safe and controls your “fight, flight, freeze, or feign” instinct. (The amigdala and the limbic system are so heavily affected by this hypervigilance that I am going to write a whole nother post just on it’s effects on the body.)
SO. We now know PTSD from your developmental years is more damaging than if the same abuse occured later in life.
That’s why regular therapy focusing only on CBT might not be enough, that’s why you might not be fully recovered when you feel like you should be. And there are heaps of us with this shit. So you’re not alone, and now that we know why, we’re going to get through it.
Alright friends, it’s headcanon time again! This time going right for the feels.
This will go in the “Headcanon” category. If you want to take this idea and expand upon it, please do! Tag me so I can see what you create! And HERE are my other headcanons!
When all’s said and done, Zarkon is defeated and the universe is saved, the paladins would return home.
And there are questions. ESPECIALLY from the World Space Government (which I’m sure there must be?). We see in Episode 1 that humans haven’t discovered alien life yet, and they just brought back two sentient, very intelligent, human-like creatures with super advanced technology. Not to mention a successful human-galra hybrid (seemingly) without huge biological problems.
(And aliens have a concept of a mall? And what on Earth is ‘Quintessence’? It’s a castle and a ship?)
So there is a long period of time before Team Voltron is actually free to do what they want. And once they’re free, the questions start to come from within the group.
What’s going to happen with Coran and Allura? Where are they going to go? If anywhere? There’s no Altea to return to. Is Allura still considered the princess if she only rules over one person, who’s her caretaker? What if the universe needs Voltron again?
What about Keith’s relationship with the Blade of Marmora? Would he go back to be a part of them? Would he pursue his mother?
Now that the Holts are back, will they complete the Kerberos Mission? Would Shiro dare go back there, considering what a traumatic experience that was? Would Pidge join them?
Could Lance and Hunk go back to the Garrison to actually get pilot’s licenses? Even though they’re pro lion pilots? Where does being a paladin rank in the military? What about their families? How would they explain any of this?
No one really wants to think about any of that. So in the meantime, the paladins decide they should show the Alteans Earth, both in terms of natural wonders and the culture of humans. They take turns deciding where to go and make a long road trip out of it.
Statistics thrives in the grey zone between perfect knowledge and complete uncertainty. Research in this area rewards those who enjoy mathematical and computational thinking, who recognize the primacy of the biological problems, and who are keen to address these problems in order to advance the state of knowledge.
The current ruling ontology denies any possibility of a social causation of mental illness. The chemico-biologization of mental illness is of course strictly commensurate with its depoliticization. Considering mental illness an individual chemico-biological problem has enormous benefits for capitalism. First, it reinforces Capital’s drive towards atomistic individualization (you are sick because of your brain chemistry). Second, it provides an enormously lucrative market in which multinational pharmaceutical companies can peddle their pharmaceuticals (we can cure you with our SSRIs). It goes without saying that all mental illnesses are neurologically instantiated, but this says nothing about their causation. If it is true, for instance, that depression is constituted by low serotonin levels, what still needs to be explained is why particular individuals have low levels of serotonin. This requires a social and political explanation; and the task of repoliticizing mental illness is an urgent one if the left wants to challenge capitalist realism.
Summary: One of
them will ask the other to teach them something, and during the teaching
process the instructor in question will assist the learner by taking their
hands and demonstrating proper technique, and the contact combined with the
sharing of an important passion will lead to a ‘Moment,’ finally.
Step 1: Figure out a
skill to be taught
Dipper hadn’t always had the most confidence in himself and the
things he’d defined himself by, and while he’d gotten better about it,
code-breaking, physics problems, and biological anomalies weren’t skills you taught
by sidling up behind someone and grabbing their hands. Even if they were, if
Mabel had asked to know more about those things he’d likely start a full on
lesson plan and forget the romance entirely.
So he had to learn from Mabel, and luckily most of Mabel’s
proficiencies were craft related. He figured pottery was too on the nose, and
she probably didn’t have a clay wheel in her dorm room anyway, but he had an in
with his earlier agreement. Since he had promised to ‘help’ her with her clothing
design, there was plenty opportunity to ask to learn some beginner knitting
techniques. Frankly, it was a bit embarrassing that he was completely clueless
about the practice when he had a sister who’d been making her own clothing
since she was 8.
So, all he had to do was ask her how to knit, and then
learn. Sounded simple enough.
The current ruling ontology denies any possibility of a social causation of mental illness. The chemico-biologization of mental illness is of course strictly commensurate with its depoliticization. Considering mental illness and individual chemicl-biological problem has enormous benefits for capitalism. First, it reinforces Capital’s drive towards atomistic individualization (you are sick because of your brain chemistry). Second, it provides an enormous lucrative market in which multinational pharmaceutical companies can peddle their pharmaceuticals (we can cure you with our SSRIs). It goes without saying that all mental illnesses are neurologically instantiated, but this says nothing about their causation. If it is true, for instance, that depression is constituted by low serotonin levels, what still needs to be explained is why particular individuals have low levels of serotonin. This requires a social and political explanation; and the task of repoliticizing mental illness is an urgent one if the left wants to challenge capitalist realism.
It does not seem fanciful to see parallels between the rising incidence of mental distress and new patterns of assessing workers’ performance.
Mark Fisher - Capitalist Realism: Is There No Alternative?
Can you write me up some general Sebastian headcanons?
-Seb is a huge pothead. See: his bong that he casually leaves out in the open in his room. Even when you’re married he loves to smoke weed and he’s not going to quit (although he’ll ditch the cigs for you)
-He’s a programmer so obviously he’s really good at math and science stuff, but fun fact: he’s really good at drawing and painting! Ask him to do you a portrait sometime and you shan’t be disappointed~
-Back when he was like 16 he got a crazy body piercing, either an eyebrow, lip, or septum, something like that. He still has it but keeps pretty subtle jewelry in it so it’s not entirely noticeable. He’s the type to own his mistakes (although he doesn’t really consider it a mistake as much as Robin and Demetrius do)
-He hates any alcohol gift you give him, and unfortunately there’s a sad reason for this: his biological father had problems with alcohol, hence why he lives full-time with Robin. He has never had a drink in his life and never wants to.
-Surprisingly, his favorite kind of music isn’t rock or alternative or metal: he likes country! He grew up listening to it being played around the house so he’s got a special connection to it.
-If Seb isn’t a natural ginger like we all suspect, I have an alternative idea about his origins: he’s part Asian, perhaps Japanese or Korean.
-His favorite video game of all time is Minecraft. but you’ll never hear him admit it.
You know what I think about this a lot, but am I the only one that’s actually made pretty uncomfortable by the idea that romantic/sexual attraction is what gender you’re attracted to?
I understand why that was changed from sex, because that was problematic in itself
But I don’t feel like gender is a better term either because that’s presuming that you can somehow see and determine gender when?? It’s one of the most volatile, indistinguishable and intangible things on the planet?? How in the hell are you attracted to gender?? What is gender?? Where is it???
idk maybe it’s just cause i’m non-binary (and quite clearly straight men and non-straight women arent attracted to me bc of my gender) so I suppose it affects me more directly, or rather I have more reason to question it…. who knows
1) My disorder is real. There’s no weird conspiracy theory behind it. Stop telling me that it doesn’t exist because of whatever you read on some soccer mom’s blog. I went without meds for the first 24 years of my life, and no one tried to convince me to take medicine as part of some agenda. I went to a physician because I was finally done with pretending I didn’t have it due to social stigma.
2) ADHD does not make someone dumb. I graduated from undergrad with honors as a biology major with a double minor in biochemistry and psychology and a premedicine concentration with no medication. Telling me that forgetting basic words makes me stupid when it’s simply a symptom of a real disorder is ironically one of the most stupid things I’ve ever heard. Someone’s inability to produce insulin does not make them stupid, and neither does ADHD. It’s biological just like any other biological disorder.
3) Concentration problems is only one small symptom, and it varies among those who have the disorder. I get that basic bitch code involves having to explain to everyone that you’re “omg like so ADD,” when all you’re contributing to is the wrong assumptions people have about it. And as a petite blonde woman myself, every time I have to embarrassingly explain to people how I didn’t physically see a “push” sign on a door, I’m simply categorized as a “dumb blonde,” instead. So thanks. Without meds, each day consists of constant mental checklists and anger as I still managed to forget something. I sulk while trying to explain to my husband how I literally didn’t see the milk on the counter that sat out for ten hours, have wicked road rage, and have awful insomnia. Each day is full of self-hatred due to an obscene amount of small errors, I can’t small talk with anyone to save my life due to anomic aphasia, and due to misunderstanding practically everything audibly, I’m ridiculed to my face for “not listening” or being an idiot when I’m trying so fucking hard to hear.
4) ADHD sucks ass. Just because it’s not the worst medical disorder out there doesn’t mean I’m ignorant of other people’s problems or saying it to you to sound cute. I realized over time that my fear of telling people my disorder was indicative of a huge problem we have in the U.S. with mental health. And I really really hurt for people who have more severe and controversial disorders. If someone can say why they can’t have certain food because of IBS or have to use a bathroom immediately like my husband has to do with ulcerative colitis, then I can tell you that I’m having trouble speaking because of ADHD. I’m not making it up, and I’m not using it as a crutch. It sucks.
Consider mental illnesses an individual chemico-biological problem has enormous benefits for capitalism. First, it reinforces Capital’s drive towards atomistic individualisation (you are sick because of your brain chemistry). Second, it provides an enormously lucrative market in which multinational pharmaceutical can peddle their pharmaceuticals (we can cure you with our SSRI’s). It goes without saying that all mental illnesses are neurologically instantiated, but this says nothing about their causation. If it is true, for instance, that depression is constituted by low serotonin levels, what still needs to be explained is why particular individuals have low levels of serotonin. This requires a social and political explanation; and the task of repoliticalising mental illness is an urgent one if the left wants to challenge capitalist realism.
Just a quick reminder that if you’re struggling with mental illness or neuroatypicality, it’s most likely a biological problem.. You do not have a mental illness because the gods are punishing you. You do not have a mental illness because of karma from a past life. I sincerely hope you can understood that you do not “deserve” your mental illness.Take care and be kind to yourself!
As a future psychologist I have learned a lot about the complexities of mental illnesses. What the majority of us do not understand is that mental disorders are not only caused by external situations we all go through, but it can also be caused by biological and physiological problems such as: brain defects, prenatal damage, affected nerve circuits, brain injury, chemical imbalances, genetics and much more.
It saddens my heart, that there is a lack of empathy towards those who battle with mental illnesses. Just as the heart, lungs or kidney problems can cause lethal damage, then why can’t society accept that the brain just like any other organ can also cause problems as well.
Telling those you love with mental disorders to “just snap out of it” or “you need to be more organized, I mean like come on just grow up” or “how can you help others if you can’t get you shit straight ” is completely unacceptable. There needs to be understanding, compassion and patience.
Ignorant comments will only aggravate the situation.
Will you change it in create to Lotte or Emma can get each other pregnant?(because I know that is a thing) Or maybe make their kid in create? Or will they adopt..
i was actually just thinking about that. there’s no in vitro option in the sims yet, but like you said, i could still make their kid in create-a-sim and it would be both of their biologically. the only problem is we would miss the baby stage and skip right to kid, and i really want to see them with an infant. adoption is still an option, but we’ll have to see how i feel when the time comes!
biology is basically a strand of chemistry, and less useful than chemistry in the "real world'
I could argue that chemistry is just a strand of physics married to a strand of biology that we have decided to call a single field. Or I could argue that biology is just a strand of physics because chemistry is just a strand of physics. Neither would be completely wrong but neither is helpful, much like your statement on the matter.
Splitting science into different fields is somewhat arbitrary because we’re all looking at nature, which means there will be a lot of overlap. But ultimately, the difference between fields is not necessarily what you are studying but how you are approaching the problem. Biologists think in different terms than chemists who think differently than physicists. They are all useful and valid approaches, but they will focus on different aspects of a problem and give you different (usually non-contradictory) answers.
As someone who has spent time in chemistry, engineering, and biology labs, all working on biological problems, it is very clear to me that we need all of those different viewpoints to productively do science, especially concerning how complicated and intricate the questions being asked are. To reduce biology to just chemistry erases that fact, because our differences are what make us better scientists.
Yes, Linus Pauling solved the structure of the alpha helix in part because he was a chemist and could think about biological problems from a chemical point of view. But I challenge any physical or organic chemist to do what Thomas Hunt Morgan did and map a chromosome, because genetic thinking is completely different than chemical thinking. But we need both to make coherent scientific progress.
As for your second point, I’m curious about what “read world” you are talking about? Because I am genuinely curious in what world any science was more useful than any other?
Radical feminism is the single most transphobic movement I’ve ever had the misfortune to encounter.
They claim to be “gender abolitionists”, but what, exactly, are radfems doing to take down this system they despise so much? They speak out about the issues gender has, but the only thing they seem to want to do about it is post nasty, offensive things about trans people. They preach about a genderless world, and refuse to recognize that while they fantasize about this, they are harming real people.
“I’m not harming anybody, men are doing that! I’m simply part of an unapologetic, empowering movement!”
When you call me a female, you are harming me. When you exclude trans women from your precious female spaces, you are harming them. When you call for corrective therapy of dysphoric trans children, you. Are. Harming. Them. When the presence of a vagina is more important to you than anything else, there is a problem.
Yes, biological sex and gender are different things—of fucking course they are. However, you can’t use this to back up your twisted ideas about gender without looking at the flip side: biological sex has no relation to who a person is. Sociology and psychology both agree that transgender people are valid—why are they any less important than the coveted argument of “but biology says!!”?
Radfems would tell you that since people are socialized as a certain gender from birth, then it’s impossible for them to be anything else. That is ridiculously wrong. People are diagnosed with gender identity disorder. People are prescribed hormones by their psychologists and psychiatrists. The medical community recognizes transgender people, and I’d rather listen to them than anyone else. If my doctor, someone who has studied this for years, says that, despite my female socialization, my identity is valid, I’m going to fucking believe them.
And then you have the argument that trans women don’t understand female experiences, so they can’t be women. This applies to the above paragraph. Trans women are not “appropriating your identity”, they are simply trying to live their lives in peace.
Speaking of, don’t get me started on their ideas of dysphoria. Anyone who truly believes that liking sports or cars or short hair would drive me to get a sex change is either willfully ignorant or incredibly dense. Dysphoria is the all-encompassing, inescapable idea that my body is wrong. It has led me, and many other people, to self harm and suicidal thoughts. I can hardly stand to look in the mirror on a good day.
Tell yourself you aren’t hurting anyone when thirteen year olds break mirrors in fits of tears, just because they caught a glimpse of their bodies. Remember that gender is a social structure when they hate themselves enough to carve words like “freak” and “girl” into themselves, because the idea of being trans is so terrifying that they’d rather be miserable than admit that something isn’t right. Comfort yourself with your ideas of what a woman really is while they cry themselves to sleep almost every night.
I understand that being a cis woman is hard—I had to live it, after all. But don’t you dare tell me that trans people have a choice. Don’t fucking tell me what gender really means, when you’ve never been misgendered, never felt the agony of dysphoria.
If you’re so obsessed with anatomy that my very existence is misogynistic, then you need to straighten out your priorities.
Wait, didn't Alphys' dads adopt? Because in the beginning sans explains even with monsters you have to have a female.
He said they’d need to employ a surrogate. He never said the baby of said union wouldn’t have two biological dads. The problem can also be bypassed if the monster in question happens to have the ability to switch sexes, which was the case with Alphys’ dads.
~~~~~~~~~~~~~ Additionally monster bodies are able to physically change on a more fundamental level compared to human bodies. Monsters are made of dust and magic so their physical forms are able to change depending on the circumstances. Ice Cap for example will transform into a block of ice if you remove their cap. ~CK