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i want to talk about the word “jew” for a hot second, because i don’t think gentiles understand why some jewish people don’t like being called that. this year, cnn had a banner that said “Alt-right founder questions if Jews are people.” now, they’ve gotten a lot of backlash for it, and apologized, but here’s the point: the sentence “Are Jews People?” is very different from “Are Jewish people people?” See, in the second sentence, the absolute ridiculousness of the question is even more clear, because of course a jewish person is a person, it’s right in the name. But by calling jewish people “jews,” it allows certain groups to dehumanize us, remove our personhood. I’m not suggesting we get rid of the term “jew” entirely, but the full word is something to keep in mind when using it. 

Honestly, LGBT+ people want allies, BUT we don’t want them so much that we’ll settle for people:

  • who call us f*ggots
  • think misgendering is funny
  • still use “gay” as a slur
  • think “you need us, we don’t need you.”

We’re not desperate, deary. We just want respect.

You know what I dont get?

People who hate on those who are genderqueer, genderfluid, nonbinary, trans, etc etc.

Like…. How exactly is it affecting you and your life so much that you just HAVE to take out your frustrations on us and invalidate us?
Are you really that sad and insecure?

“muhh nonbinary isn’t real only 2 genders”
So what. So fucking what.
My identity is none of your god damn concern, fucking rando bigot on the internet.

“its fun to trigger u sensitive snowflakes”
If thats the only way you can bring yourself joy, is by harassing, berating and degrading kids on the internet like spineless vermin;
I honestly feel sorry for you.

Some of us identify how we do for our own comfort. Some of us identify the way we do because it helps us function.

Me personally; its become significantly easier for me to be confident and to make it through every day being able to call myself nonbinary and know exactly who I am.
To others, their identity might be significantly more or less important to them.
Who are YOU to judge?

And honestly, at the end of the day; we’re all human.
So really:
Why do you spend so much time trying to bring those down who might have spent their entire lives trying to bring themselves up.

Thats just fucking pathetic.

  • Bigots: Why are you people just moaning on the Internet? Slacktivism is just entitled whining and won't solve anything, why don't you actually take to the streets instead of being lazy?
  • Bigots: Why are all these people protesting? It's just an inconvenience and entitled whining that won't solve anything.
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People who are valid: trans women, trans men, lesbians, gay men, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, demisexuals, queer people, nonbinary folks.
People who aren’t valid: terfs and other bigots

The critical examination of religion should be encouraged, and asking questions about religions should be encouraged. 

What should stop is people yelling at other people who don’t know, who are asking questions, who just want to explore and know more.  

The Simpsons, “Lisa’s Wedding”, 1995

Steven Universe, “On the Run”, 2015

  • “But Lisa, you’re better than this place. You’re like a flower that grew out of a pot of dirt.”
  • “That’s a horrible thing to say!” 

vs.

  • “You’re the one good thing that came out of this mess. I always thought you were proud of that.”
  • *hug time*

I recall only catching the last half when I first saw “Lisa’s Wedding” ages ago, but this particular scene anchored itself (or I wouldn’t have recalled it upon seeing “On the Run”). It’s a lesson that I consider valuable because no one who trashtalks your origins and family means you well, even if they think they do. They don’t respect you if they do. They don’t want you as you if they do. They don’t want to wait for you if they do. The only time I can maybe imagine it might have some merit is if you have to cut yourself off emotionally for your own wellbeing and need the help in redefining your identity from someone close on your own terms.

That’s not what Pearl’s doing. The thing with Amethyst is that she came out of the ground with no one around to tell her anything but RPG. They control who she is even if Amethyst senses something isn’t right and acts out as a result. This particular line, while presented as for Amethyst’s sake and as a nice thing to say, is objectively something that further separates her from essential self-understanding and unlike Lisa she lacks the knowledge to fight back. Heck, there’s even an element of Amethyst needing to be grateful for having been accepted by the CGs in there. Exceptionalism never is pretty. As the show’s gone on, the message’s only become worse because we now know for certain (as opposed to it being extremely likely with as many holes there are and the nature of the war) Amethyst is not the only good thing to come out of this mess. (That remark in “Bismuth” about “we could always use more amethysts” also has my attention, but that can go a number of ways including shit writing.)

How the frickles the crewniverse thought that line should be answered by a hug instead of strangulation I don’t even want to know.

That’s Alabama Governor Kay Ivey smiling proudly after signing into law a bill that allows religious adoption agencies to refuse gay couples. Because according to the supporters, who unanimously voted for the bill 87-0, there is no holier institution in need of vigorous religious protection than child adoption services.

The reason I brought up Tom Hardy’s photo before (other than it being glorious) is that it spells a warning for all those living in today’s civilization: The internet never forgets. We are in a new era of unforgiving permanent records, one that even our politicians are not immune to. So I have a really simple question for Gov. Ivey and the many people who supported this bill: How do you suppose this moment is going to be remembered? Years from today, will the day a rich straight lady prevented a chunk of the population from having equal rights be praised as a victory for America? Will the words “No gay couples allowed” be etched in granite in front of a city hall?

It’s the South … so maybe, I guess?

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