biggest-insecurity

anonymous asked:

How to learn to love yourself for who you are ?? Love you girl xxx

For me it had a lot to do with surrounding myself with friends that boosted my confidence! For quite a while I felt like the way I was naturally with no fake tan, no makeup, etc was ugly, and while I like to think I was overall quite a confident person, it was these things that were my biggest insecurities e.g. the colour of my skin and my bare face (acne scars, very blonde eyelashes and eyebrows). I often had these “imperfections” pointed out to me in a negative manner by some, and that made me insecure about them.

But then friends came into my life who told me I didn’t need to wear tan all the time, that I was beautiful without it… that I even looked better without it… and that helped me overcome those insecurities. It took a while (@bonnyrebecca and Tim probably spent a good year telling me to stop wearing fake tan before I actually did it, and it was one of the first things @mangomargaux said to me when we met). So yeah! That might not be the most inspiring answer… I didn’t have some magical epiphany within myself that told me to love myself for how I was or anything haha, but meeting people who loved me for everything that I am naturally helped me see that my flaws aren’t necessarily negative!

the signs as three feelings
  • aries: the minute you finish something you've been working on for ages with confidence that it is perfect. when the person you couldn't admit you wanted to call finally calls. running after someone, exhilerated.
  • taurus: falling asleep early. the lull of a city at night. the sun hitting your shoulders after being in a freezing building.
  • gemini: booking plane tickets. buying something you've wanted without looking at the price tag. driving all night with someone, talking so much that your throat is sore.
  • cancer: breakfast at 2am. standing in the ocean on a chilly day. throwing a punch that you've imagined for years.
  • leo: the second your favorite band steps onto the stage. all of your friends laughing at once, none of you able to contain yourselves for several minutes. getting complimented on your biggest insecurity.
  • virgo: the line in that book that makes you understand life better. eye contact with a newborn baby. holding your best friend while you both sob.
  • libra: taking in a view that you will never be able to remember. falling asleep next to someone, breathing on each other's faces. a cry that consumes your entire body, draining you from all of the bad things that happened.
  • scorpio: driving down a highway in summer, windows down. a lover pressing a kiss to the back of your neck. a cup of tea at the end of a busy day.
  • sagittarius: staring at the sky and forgetting where you are. the stomach-lurch after you grab someone's hand for the first time. knowing that you're kissing someone for the last time.
  • capricorn: reminiscing with your family. chasing your best friend through a department store. standing at the top of a mountain with no noise but your own breathing.
  • aquarius: the first time you hear the song that feels like where you belong. waving goodbye to the house you grew up in. dying your hair in the sink--a split decision you made with your best friend.
  • pisces: someone telling you "it's going to be okay", and actually believing them. meeting someone with the exact same sense of humour as you. the breathless smile on their face after you've surprised someone with a gift.
Canon Alec Lightwood things (book edition)

*Before meeting Magnus Bane he didn’t comb his hair and wore frumpy clothes and intentionally tried to make himself less attractive
*Believes himself to be generally inferior to Jace in pretty much all ways including or maybe especially attractiveness
*Was scouted by a modeling agent while on his first date with Magnus
*Even after meeting Magnus continued to wear clothes that were once black but have since become brown because they’re so worn
*Wore said once-black-now-brown sweater to a DRESS PARTY WHERE MAGNUS WAS DRESSED LIKE A VICTORIAN GENTLEMEN SDLJFS:
*Has twice come across abandoned children and his reaction was, “This is my son now.”
*Told Jace that he got a hickey by falling down. ON HIS NECK.
*Has read Magnus’ stash of comic books ‘cuz he’s a nerd
*Once left a rambling, heart-broken message on Magnus’ voicemail and then woke up Jace to ask him how to delete a message off of someone else’s voicemail
*After securing a second date with Magnus he was so happy he backed out of Magnus’ apartment so he could keep looking at him and he FELL DOWN THE STAIRS
*At the start of the series Alec had never killed a demon because his role was protecting Izzy and Jace

Original Character ask meme - Psychology edition~

1: What’s your OC’s biggest insecurity and how would they react if someone pointed it out to them?

2: If your OC wants to buy a firearm, what it might be for?

3: Does your OC behave differently around different people, if so with whom and how?

4: Would your OC want to involve themselves in humanitarian work ? If yes, then for what? If not, then why not?

5: How would your OC generally react to someone being verbally abusive towards them for no apparent reason?

6: Does your OC have a realistic image of their own intelligence?

7: Does your OC have any irrational phobias?

8: How is/was your OC’s relationship with their parents?

9: Does your OC feel a pressure to achieve or are they content and calm with doing what they can at the moment?

10: Does your OC guard their emotions by being tough? If not how would they?

11: How would your OC react to hearing they’re adopted?

12: What is one of the most primary things your OC feels that is missing from their life?

13: What kind of situations does your OC avoid the most?

14: If your OC gets into a fight with their best friend, would they wait for their friend to make up with them, or would they try to make up with their friend?

15: Does your OC consider themselves a good person?

16: Is your OC good at giving others validation of their feelings and making them feel understood?

17: Does your OC suffer from any mental health issues?

18: What kind of intrapersonal values does your OC have? (values about their self, what makes them feel like a valid person)

19: What boosts your OC’s confidence the most?

20: Does your OC hurt others often unintentionally? If yes, how?

21: Does your OC hurt others often intentionally? If yes, how?

22: How does your OC usually show affection? Are they openly romantic or more restricted with their affectionate emotions?

23: Does your OC tend to hide something about their personality/essence when meeting new people? If yes, what?

24: How would your OC react if they got humiliated by someone in a group of people?

25: How would your OC process the grief caused by the death of a loved one?

26: What is the most intense thing your OC has been battling with?

27: Does your OC practise any kind of escapism? If yes, what kind?

28: How would your OC react if a bully stole their lunch money in high school?

29: How does your OC behave on the face of a conflict?

30: What makes your OC defensive quickest?

101 curious questions. Let’s talk.
  1. What’s your biggest insecurity?
  2. What’s your biggest physical insecurity?
  3. Do you like the person you feel like you’re becoming?
  4. What’s the one thing you feel like everyone knows how to do except you?
  5. Do you suffer from anxiety/depression/PTSD/other?
  6. Where were you born?
  7. What do you think people say about you when you’re not around?
  8. Do you look up to anyone in your life?
  9. What makes you feel guilty? How do you resolve it?
  10. What’s your boring hobby (that you still enjoy anyway)?
  11. Do you like who you are around people?
  12. Do you know what your plans for the future are? Do you like them?
  13. Tell a secret.
  14. What petty event are you still embarrassed about?
  15. Do you get wanderlust? Where do you want to go?
  16. Romantically, do you prefer men, women, both, any/don’t care, or are you aromantic?
  17. How many parents do you have?
  18. Do they get along?
  19. Do you swear?
  20. How many siblings do you have? Where are you in relation to them?
  21. Have you ever had to hurt anyone emotionally?
  22. Has anyone ever hurt you emotionally?
  23. Do you believe in an afterlife?
  24. What lies do you believe anyways?
  25. Would you consider yourself poor, average, or wealthy?
  26. What does your favorite tattoo mean to you? Or if you had to get a tattoo, what would it be? Why?
  27. How many groups of friends do you have? How do they vary?
  28. Do you work? If so, what do you do? Do you like your job?
  29. Do you want to have a partner for life?
  30. Who have you never forgiven? Why?
  31. What are you looking forward to right now?
  32. If you could change one thing about your past, what would it be?
  33. What’s your favorite color in context?
  34. What unpopular opinion do you have?
  35. What’s the last good book you’ve read?
  36. What’s your favorite book?
  37. Favorite poem?
  38. Favorite movie?
  39. Favorite song?
  40. Favorite food/type of food?
  41. What kind of food activates your gag reflex?
  42. What do you feel like you’re missing from your life right now?
  43. If you could choose your own name, what would it be? Why?
  44. What’s the earliest dream you can remember having?
  45. What’s the most recent dream you can remember having?
  46. What’s the most beautiful dream you can remember having?
  47. Do you have a car? What kind is it?
  48. Are you afraid of death?
  49. Have you ever attempted to take your own life?
  50. Describe your dream job?
  51. Are you religious/spiritual?
  52. What do you do to calm yourself down?
  53. What’s the most annoying thing that happens to you on a regular basis?
  54. Do you live in an urban, suburban, or rural area?
  55. What’s the one talent you wish you had?
  56. Do you do well or struggle in school?
  57. Do you have a speech impediment?
  58. What’s the most terrifying thing that’s ever happened to you?
  59. What’s the happiest day of your life you’ve ever had?
  60. Early, on time, or late?
  61. What quirks do you have?
  62. Do you wish you could start tomorrow with a clean slate? Why/why not?
  63. Do you ever get paranoid?
  64. Do you believe in human souls? Where do you think they come from?
  65. What’s one mistake that you’ll never make again?
  66. What fandoms do you belong to?
  67. What are your old URLs?
  68. How often would you say you lie? Why?
  69. Do you like the kind of attention you get from other people?
  70. Are you in a relationship? What’s your favorite thing about your partner?
  71. Are you concerned about the environment?
  72. What stresses you out more than anything else?
  73. Credit, debit, EBT, or cash?
  74. Who’s your favorite historical figure?
  75. What’s that movie you know is bad but enjoy anyways?
  76. Do you masturbate (be honest)?
  77. What’s your kink?
  78. What’s one thing you don’t feel comfortable doing around your friends?
  79. What’s your most prized possession?
  80. Are you ever proud of yourself?
  81. Do you ever tear yourself down?
  82. Do you ever tell people how you’re feeling?
  83. Do you like when people guess how you’re feeling?
  84. Are you worried about someone close to you? Why?
  85. What kind of interview questions do you answer to yourself?
  86. If you could meet anyone, living, dead, or unborn, who would it be?
  87. If you had a clone of yourself and the two of you didn’t have enough resources, would you get along?
  88. What kinds of things confuse you?
  89. Do you feel too hot or too cold more often?
  90. If you had to live in any past time period, which would it be?
  91. What’s your sign? you feel like it matches your personality?
  92. Do you believe in astrology?
  93. Do you like extreme activities, like white water rafting, surfing, roller coasters, etc.?
  94. Are you waiting for someone to save you?
  95. Can you remember the last time you made a deep personal connection with someone?
  96. Do you like where you grew up?
  97. What’s your favorite word?
  98. Would you consider yourself an interesting person?
  99. Which people in your life do you wish knew you better?
  100. Are you okay?
  101. What’s been going through your mind lately?
Haikyuu!! Ask Meme
  • Hinata: Have you ever become friends with someone you initially disliked?
  • Kageyama: Favorite kind of juice box?
  • Tsukishima: What kind of music do you enjoy?
  • Yamaguchi: What is your biggest insecurity?
  • Tanaka: Are you overprotective of your friends?
  • Noya: Do you like school uniforms? If so what kind?
  • Ennoshita: Have you ever quit something and gone back to it?
  • Azumane: Are you a sensitive person?
  • Sugawara: Tell me about a time where you didn't give up.
  • Sawamura: Have you ever broken up a fight between friends?
  • Kiyoko: Do you get a lot of unwanted attention?
  • Yachi: Do you enjoy graphic design?
  • Haiba: Where are your parents from?
  • Kenma: Have you ever dyed your hair? If so, what color? If not, what colors would you dye it?
  • Kuroo: Are you misunderstood?
  • Iwaizumi: Do you have someone in your life that constantly annoys you?
  • Oikawa: Do you put a lot of pressure on yourself?

i think one of the biggest sources of insecurity that comes with mental illness is the knowledge that your emotions aren’t always representative of where you’re at. of course they’re still valid, but you still know like, hey, i would’ve reacted to this totally differently had i not been depressed/manic/in a mixed mood/psychotic ep or my perception of the event itself wasn’t totally realistic etc. and it’s so much harder to build a self concept because… well which part is me? which part is the illness? people say “you’re not your illness!” but who am i then?

What breaks my heart about the KageHina fight is that neither of them understands that they’re stomping on each other’s biggest insecurities.

Hinata is afraid that the freak quick will become useless and he won’t have any place on the court.

Kageyama is afraid that Hinata doesn’t need him anymore, and is about to abandon him like his Kitagawa Daiichi team did.

These idiot babies need to talk before they break each other’s hearts even more.

10 Things I Learned From Taylor Swift Songs

1) Even individuals that seem to have strong, confident exteriors can possibly have the biggest insecurities. (Tied Together With a Smile)

2) People will have blunt opinions and snide comments about a relationship of yours. You will need to learn to dismiss them. (Ours)

3) Individuality can sometimes lead to loneliness. (The Outside)

4) Memories have such an emotional depth, that they can be recalled vividly and without expectation. (All Too Well)

5) If they don’t know you personally, don’t take it as personal. (Shake it Off)

6) Admitting your mistakes with the knowledge that an apology may not follow is brave. (Back to December)

7) No relationship should ever feel one-sided. The toxicity of someone who demands the upper hand is boundless. (Dear John)

8) Knowing what you deserve is more important than getting what you always wanted. (White Horse)

9) Everything is temporary. (Never Grow Up)

10) No storm lasts forever. Pain is inevitable, but it makes us stronger. (Clean)

—  I love you Tay
the signs as shit ichimatsu has done
  • aries: spontaneously combust into flames after seeing a happy couple on christmas
  • taurus: dress like a slasher film killer during a murder mystery and not actually killing anyone
  • gemini: burst into tears because his christmas present was from karamatsu
  • cancer: face his biggest insecurities because a psychic cat pissed him off
  • leo: turn into an actual fucking cat and scale a building
  • virgo: lock two con artists in a tiger cage and demand an impossibly expensive fee for the keys
  • libra: do a celebratory dance upon hearing karamatsu was kidnapped
  • scorpio: fashion himself into a human baseball bat for jyushimatsu because he expected to be used as one
  • sagittarius: successfully convince his mother to list him as a financial dependent because she was afraid he’d turn out to be a criminal otherwise
  • capricorn: sit at the furthest possible table away from his rental date so he wouldn’t have to pay for close-contact fees
  • aquarius: repeatedly get kidnapped because he was mistaken for one of his sextuplets by jiguzo three times
  • pisces: take off his pants [and underwear] on the table at a fancy cafe
Why INFPs think of themselves as “frauds.”

When you’re an INFP, your biggest insecurity is that you have nothing to say.

You perceive most people as insightful, intelligent and interesting, while you are a dullard who can’t even string three words together. It’s not just that you’re shy — you feel like there’s something mentally WRONG with you.

I felt this way for decades, but I got over it by thinking about it this way. The reason everyone else’s stories are so fascinating is because YOU are the one processing them. YOU are connecting dots in your brain that make what you hear much more “involving” than the same story processed through a non-infp mind. In other words, you’re too imaginative for your own good.

Conversely, you have incredibly high standards for what constitutes a worthy conversation and what doesn’t. Comments about yourself, for example, seem egotistical and pointless. How you day is going? Who cares!!

So you LIMIT your options SEVERELY when communicating with another person, and tend to choose the words that end the conversation because you don’t want people to find out you’re an imposter.

Yeah, that’s the main thought that goes through your head, right? You’re stupid and incapable (handicapped, maybe?) and nobody has found out yet. But oddly enough, nobody seems to notice. Nobody has EVER told you that you are dumb. Weird, isn’t it?

That’s because you’re not dumb. You simply have impossibly high standards. You’re an INFP, remember.

Like I said, I struggled with this for decades. I was an “imposter” for decades, yet I STILL manage to be “successful,” despite judging myself as a “fraud” all those years ago.

That’s because I’m NOT a fraud, and neither are you. Once I realized this, I also realized that I DID have useful things to say. This post, hopefully, is one of them.

So don’t harsh on yourself, and please let me know if this helps. You see, I still appreciate verification that I’m not a fraud, even when I know it’s not true.

Have a great day, INFP.

It’s No Fucking Problem.

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Space Monkey