imo a good thing to start doing is to not discredit your accomplishments? like that is a process and it takes time to get into the habit of not constantly throwing away anything you’ve done by waving it aside as something insignificant like “haha sure i did that but it’s not a big deal and means absolutely nothing” because an accomplishment… is an accomplishment you cannot and will not ever get anywhere comparing what you do to everyone and everything else and there ARE varying levels of what you do/the steps you take to get where you want to be but. you gotta be happy with you and what you’re doing. and doing it for you. AND small steps are still steps, big steps are great, any steps forward you take are good and deserve you recognizing that you’ve done well, steps backwards will happen and don’t make you a failure or what you’ve done ruined, and just… i don’t know, you need to be PROUD and saying “need” feels weird but? that’s what it is? you need to do that? for you? that’s it. it’s for you.

Ciara romulan-star-babe ,who is made of dusted gold, gave me multiple gorgeous prompts I could never possibly hope to live up to. Including this one: “comfort in an unexpected place” So here’s a sort-of comic about how last February i was on the bus and someone smelt like cigarettes and cider and I nearly cried.

anonymous asked:

Hey Andrew I was wondering if you could give a young trans guy some help? My mum is letting me cut my hair short, but now I'm having second thoughts because I've always had long hair and it makes me feel funny, is it possible I'm just mourning the person I was and that cutting my hair will be a big step in changing who I am(appearance)? I have super bad social anxiety and I think I'm also worried about what people will think or say. I'm only out to five people so far. Should I do it? Thanks -M

I think cutting your hair will be a big and good step. Whenever I was in deep mourning throughout the last year or very stressed, I shaved my head. Doing so helped me reaffirm my identity both gender wise and culturally. Change is really hard, especially when you have so much anxiety, and it might take you a couple of weeks to get used to the hair cut. But it has the potential to be a bigger confidence booster than not, so I think you should do it. 

People will think or say really anything. Half the time most people don’t know what they are even talking about, to be honest. I know that doesn’t clear your anxiety, but I just want you to know that you’re more important than anyone else in this situation. 

If it helps, I think cutting your hair is brave. I think you’re courageous. Whatever you do, I think you’re the best. 

U.S. Takes Big Step Forward to Protect Elephants From Poachers

In an effort to protect elephants in Africa, during a visit to Kenya this past weekend President Obama announced sweeping regulations that will hopefully wipe out the market for ivory in the U.S.

It’s estimated that 100,000 elephants were killed by poachers for their ivory between 2010 and 2012, or one every 15 minutes, while headlines continue to spread devastating news about the ongoing losses of entire families, beloved individuals and orphans who are left behind.

The rate at which they are being slaughtered for nothing more than their tusks has raised concerns that these iconic animals could disappear within our lifetime.

As the second largest market for ivory behind China, the U.S. has been called on by wildlife advocates to step up its efforts to tackle wildlife trafficking with meaningful action. In 2013, President Obama issued an Executive Order addressing wildlife trafficking, and now a proposed rule, which was just formally announced by the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service (FWS), aims to build on that and further crack down on the trade of ivory.

According to the FWS, in addition to adding further restrictions on commercial exports, the proposed rule will ban the sale of ivory across state lines, although it will allow for exceptions of certain pre-existing manufactured items that meet specific criteria.

Now it’s hoped that these new restrictions will close existing loopholes that have allowed the illegal trade to flourish and be another valuable step to protect elephants.

International sales of ivory were banned under CITES in 1989, but the loopholes in question still allow people to own and sell ivory that was imported before that, which is known as ‘pre-ban’ ivory, and they allow exemptions for antiques.

Unfortunately, it’s hard to tell the difference and allowing legalized ivory sales on the market has continued to offer a cover for the illegal trade. The issue is made more confusing by a patchwork of state and federal laws concerning ivory that make it difficult to determine what’s legal and makes it harder for law enforcement to act.

“If our children – and their grandchildren – are to grow up in a world where they appreciate their natural heritage and can see elephants in the wild and not just in the history books, then we owe it to them to shut down avenues that motivate poachers to go after these iconic animals,” said Interior Secretary Sally Jewell, who serves as co-chair of the President’s Task Force on Wildlife Trafficking. “As we work to put the brakes on poaching and prevent elephants from going extinct in the wild, we need to take the lead in a global effort to shut down domestic markets for illegal ivory. Today, we are making it harder for criminals by further shutting the door to the American market.”

While officials are working to address the poaching crisis, conservationists are also working to increase protection for elephants who are also threatened by habitat loss and climate change. In June, the Center for Biological Diversity filed a petition to have them declared as two separate species – forest elephants and savannah elephants – and upgraded from threatened to endangered under the Endangered Species Act, which would add even more strength to laws intended to protect them.

Hopefully the latest efforts from the U.S. will help send a strong message that the future survival of elephants far outweighs the value of items made from ivory.


The proposed rule will be published on July 29 and will be open for a 60-day public comment period. If you would like to make one in support of tougher regulations for the ivory trade, you can submit one at the Federal Register.

Please also sign and share the petition urging the U.S. Fish and Wildlife Service to reclassify elephants and upgrade their status to endangered.

He tells you he wants to try for a baby (INFINITE)

Sunggyu: -it was one of the scariest moments of his life as he watched you debate it in your head, but when you said that you thought you two were ready for the challenge he couldn’t contain himself- “YES A LITTLE US! LETS START NOW”

Originally posted by chandoo

Dongwoo: -it was a common thought in both of your heads as you, so him asking was the next big step. You said you would like to try almost right away- “so we’re seriously going to do this, no turning back after this baby”

Originally posted by 167--cm

Woohyun: -you guys have had more than one pregnancy scare within your relationship. The last one got him think of what it actually be like to have a baby in your lives and he when he told you he actually wanted one you said it’s worth a try- “alright whenever you’re ready then baby I’ll be ready”

Originally posted by ninichu

Hoya: -you had actually asked before and he said he wasn’t ready. But after seeing you with a close friends child, he started picturing yours and was overcome with joy with the idea. So he asked you if you still wanted to have a child and almost said it before his sentence was over that you did- “lets get started then”

Originally posted by namwooo

Sungyeol: -he saw the way you’d look at children, the thought of a small version of him running around scared and excited him. But he didn’t want one unless you would want one. So when he asked ‘do you think we’re actually ready to take our relationship to the next stage like that?’ got you thinking. And you said you could try but if it didn’t happen it wouldn’t destroy you either at the moment- “alright whenever you’re ready to try we can try”

Originally posted by sungyyeol

L: -he could see a nursery almost the second he saw one of the rooms within the recently purchased home. He asked you if you wanted children and if you did how many. He got a yes of course and as many as he wanted. He took a leap asking if you wanted to start once the two of you were settled completely in the home and got a passionate kiss plus a loving smile as his answer before you went to bed- “can’t wait”

Originally posted by bemineinseoul

Sungjong: -he told the boys before he talked to you, telling them he always wanted a daughter they all saw the light in his eyes when he talked and told him to go for it. The second he got home he asked you, after a few moments of processing you grabbed his arm and began pulling him towards your shared room- “this is actually happening”

Originally posted by hoyaan


So. In light of how I’ve been feeling, I thought I’d share this in the middle of the night. This woman, She makes me a very happy soul. She helps me with my lows, stays by my side, and keeps me grounded. We will begin our lives together this fine Friday night. Our own place together. The nerves could be what’s getting to me but…to have her here and us growing together, really lightens up my days. This is it. Setting the mood for our future is the big step that we took and to go on this journey with the love of my life, I could not be more honored. hellasophisticated

“…and this year’s prom king is.. Pearl Liaison!”

Pearl wasn’t even surprised. What really surprised him was the fact, that they had crowned Matilda as the queen. Each and every single person in that room knew Matilda was dark and twisted in reality, but they all still pretended to like her. It was safer to pretend liking Matilda than saying what you really thought of her. 

As Pearl walked to the stage to get his crown, he knew this was the right moment. His last chance to fix everything and convince Violet that he was still madly in love with him. But was Pearl ready to take a big step like that? Did he really want to sacrifice everything for Violet, even when there was a good chance that things wouldn’t go according to his plan? He took one look at Violet and he knew what he had to do. He had to come clean.

“I don’t want to have this crown.”


the final chapter will be posted on sunday!! 

edit was made by the lovely f-frick

laederach said: You just gave them (homophobics) what they ultimately want to achieve…pls don’t give up easily. Showing a TV series at primetime with lesbians as leads is big step forward. It was a big gamble on the networks part but they did it.

I’m not giving up on TRMD, I’m still going to find out how TRMD will redeem itself. I still want to know how they will resolve all these issues and how will JaThea have their happy ending. I know it is a big step and it is why I am so disappointed as well. This was the supposedly BIG STEP towards equality but they didn’t fully make use of it. And the content of the post I made was my feelings from all the recent heartbreaking & painful episodes of TRMD. I can’t say that I am happy about it when I’m not right? So I was just being honest about what I am currently feeling. And I’m not giving up easily, if I were I would’ve probably dropped the show already and stopped updating this blog, but I’m still here right?

anonymous asked:

I fell in love with my best friend last summer and I haven't told him which I kind of am grateful for because we've gotten so much more closer especially just recently but it's killing me because when he does cute things like hug me or says he loves me or whatever I know he's doing these things just as a friend and if I tell him how I feel it could ruin everything and I just don't know what to do

well i mean, at least he likes you at a friend which is a big step forward towards a relationship. just try being yourself and make a big effort in talking to him and be as friendly as possible. if you show you have an interest in him, he’ll catch on and show attraction to you too. if it doesn’t work out, move on. it’s not worth running after a guy who will constantly friend zone you.

Inside Boxers: Notes From A Week Under Cover

Last week, I took a big step sideways. I put on my first pair of boxers.

There are changes you make in life, and then there are changes you make in life. You can change your job, you can change your home, change your country, change the very continent you live upon, but nothing is more deeply personal than changing one’s style of underwear.

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as mentioned previously, the boys met yesterday. [!!!]

my guy and i had a long conversation after the cope concert last week about our relationship & where things were going, and by the end of our talk he made it clear he was ready to take the next step and meet rhyan.

[back-story on the basketball: after seeing rhyan’s old/worn out one in my car, he commented on how he needed a new/legit/official one]

so i shouldn’t have been surprised when he showed up at our door yesterday with a shiny new ball in hand. introductions were made, we settled in to watch the acc championship and made small talk during the commercials. it was apparent from the start, there’d be no issue with their getting along … they immediately bonded over all things manly & guy-related.

after the game, we hit the basketball court to break in the new ball & show off our skills with the old one. we laughed, we poked fun at one another, and quickly eased into the groove. at one point, rhyan gave me a quick thumbs-up and whispered ‘he’s alright!’ [and yes, i melted]

we returned home to the smell of corn beef roasting in the oven, i put the meal together and we dove in. rhyan later commented on how strange it was to have a third person at the table, which was true … it’s always just been him and i. after dinner we stuffed ourselves with cheesecake and caught up on some dvr’d shows before saying our goodbyes.

i walked him to the car and thanked him for such an incredible day, and he quickly turned the tables – saying it was his absolute pleasure.

and in that moment, all was right in the world.

When your big/little sibling comes into the room while you’re drawing