1 ) “One is never over-dressed or under-dressed with a Little Black Dress.” —Karl Lagerfeld
2) “Before you leave the house, look in the mirror and remove one accessory.” —Coco Chanel
3) “I firmly believe that with the right footwear one can rule the world.” —Bette Midler
4) “I loathe narcissism, but I approve of vanity.” —Diana Vreeland
5) “A woman’s dress should be a like a barbed-wire fence: serving its purpose without obstructing the view.” —Sophia Loren
6) “I like my money right where I can see it…hanging in my closet.” —Carrie Bradshaw
7) “Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels.” —Kate Moss
8) “I can’t concentrate in flats!” —Victoria Beckham
9) “I don’t do fashion. I am fashion.” —Coco Chanel
10) “Walk like you have three men walking behind you.” —Oscar de la Renta
11) “You can have anything you want in life if you dress for it.” —Edith Head
12) “Fashion is the armor to survive the reality of everyday life.” —Bill Cunningham
13) “When in doubt, wear red.” —Bill Blass
14) “I don’t design clothes. I design dreams.” —Ralph Lauren
15) “Clothes mean nothing until someone lives in them.” —Marc Jacobs
16) “Fashions fade, style is eternal.” —Yves Saint Laurent
17) “Anyone can get dressed up and glamorous, but it is how people dress in their days off that are the most intriguing.” —Alexander Wang
18) “How can you live the high life if you do not wear the high heels?” —Sonia Rykiel
19) “Don’t be into trends. Don’t make fashion own you, but you decide what you are, what you want to express by the way you dress and the way to live.” —Gianni Versace
20) “In difficult times, fashion is always outrageous.” —Elsa Schiaparelli
21) “You can never take too much care over the choice of your shoes. Too many women think that they are unimportant, but the real proof of an elegant woman is what is on her feet.” —Christian Dior
22) “Fashion is what you’re offered four times a year by designers. And style is what you choose.” —Lauren Hutton
23) “The dress must follow the body of a woman, not the body following the shape of the dress.” —Hubert de Givenchy
24) “I know what women want. They want to be beautiful.” —Valentino Garavani
25) “A woman who doesn’t wear perfume has no future.” —Coco Chanel
26) “People will stare. Make it worth their while.” —Harry Winston
27) “Luxury is the ease of a t-shirt in a very expensive dress.” ―Karl Lagerfeld
28) “And now, I’m just trying to change the world, one sequin at a time.” —Lady Gaga
29) “My look is attainable. Women can look like Audrey Hepburn by flipping out their hair, buying the large sunglasses, and the little sleeveless dresses.” —Audrey Hepburn
30) “A little bad taste is like a nice splash of paprika. We all need a splash of bad taste—it’s hearty, it’s healthy, it’s physical. I think we could use more of it. No taste is what I’m against.” —Diana Vreeland
31) “Elegance is elimination.” —Cristóbal Balenciaga
32) “Style is a way to say who you are without having to speak.” —Rachel Zoe
33) “Men tell me that I’ve saved their marriages. It costs them a fortune in shoes, but it’s cheaper than a divorce. So I’m still useful, you see” —Manolo Blahnik
34) “What you wear is how you present yourself to the world, especially today, when human contacts are so quick. Fashion is instant language.” —Miuccia Prada
35) “In order to be irreplaceable one must always be different.” —Coco Chanel
36) “Attitude is everything.” —Diane von Furstenberg
37) “We must never confuse elegance with snobbery.” —Yves Saint Laurent
38) “Playing dress-up begins at age five and never truly ends.” —Kate Spade
39) “Elegance is not standing out, but being remembered.” —Giorgio Armani
40) “Your dresses should be tight enough to show you’re a woman and loose enough to show you’re a lady.” —Edith Head
41) “The hardest thing in fashion is not to be known for a logo, but to be known for a silhouette.” —Giambattista Valli
43) “We have this saying, Christy and I. We don’t wake up for less than $10,000 a day.” —Linda Evangelista
44) “My look is a cocktail. I’m not as nicely turned out as the french, but I don’t care like the English.” —Jane Birkin
45) “More is more and less is a bore.” —Iris Apfel
46) “Clothes are like a good meal, a good movie, great pieces of music.” —Michael Kors
47) “I wish I had invented blue jeans: the most spectacular, the most practical, the most relaxed and nonchalant. They have expression, modesty, sex appeal, simplicity—all I hope for in my clothes. —Yves Saint Laurent
48) "Whoever said that money can’t buy happiness, simply didn’t know where to go shopping.” —Bo Derek
49) “Big girls need big diamonds.” —Elizabeth Taylor
50) “Sweatpants are a sign of defeat. You lost control of your life so you bought some sweatpants.” —Karl Lagerfeld
Maybe it’s because it’s 5:23 on my day off, but I want to talk to you all about being fat in Japan.
It’s gonna be a bit of a ramble.
So I see fat people on a daily basis in Fukushima City. I wondered, at first, if it was because I wasn’t in Tokyo, and therefore was removed from a standard of fashion and body look, but I realized that no, no matter where you go in Japan, there is an expectation about your body and relation to space, and that weight loss, body policing, size, and the like are national, not just a Tokyo thing. Still, I see a lot of big bodies, particularly big women: women who are Watanabe Naomi size, twice the size of what a Japanese woman is supposed to be based on a desired average of no more than 110 pounds. I’d dare say that like America, most women deviate from that on either side.
Certainly, they don’t escape the critical eye of body policing in Japanese culture: they’re constantly under the scope, are likely to receive horribly invasive comments from Doctors, and like me, struggle to find clothing that doesn’t have a hideous floral print to hide our wide stomachs, thighs, and backsides.
However, they exist and inspire me.
Big girls here are stylish: they wear ankle pants, skants -wide legged pants, essentially- wear vibrant prints, pair layers, wear long cardigans that don’t hit right at the hip, don’t hide their bellies, and do everything I was told not to do so much of my life. Like I said, they’re not mythical: bigger bodies in Japan are heavily policed, are made comical and a joke, and are still not a positive thing overall, though certainly, La Farfa and Nissen’s Smileland line are changing my life at the very least.
There’s something so powerful about seeing that: about seeing big women break rules. I can’t wait to break them myself, especially in my new ankle pants.
As I start to turn my future towards one with costumes again, I think about what I’m saying about bodies in Japan: that we have a right to the same look. the same aesthetic and style, as thin bodies, as average bodies: that we want to be proud of our form, work hard to be healthy, but still want to dress and enjoy the skin we’re in.
In fact, I’ve never felt healthy than living here: certainly I’ve lost weight, but anyone would if they walk 1,5 km -,9 miles, so basically, a mile by the time I cross to the East Exit at the central station- at least three times a week and rode a bicycle -roundtrip- half a km each day too. I also eat a lot of cabbage and veggies now: more than I did during grad school where my only veggies were the french fries at Wendy’s half the time, and I was a lot more depressed.
Fact is, I’m still big though, but I honestly… like it.
I feel energetic and healthy and proudly plump, wear clothes that work for my body now instead of hiding beneath layers. When it’s hot, I wear shorts and short sleeves and ankle socks that I get from the 100en store: when it’s cold, asymmetrical jackets and skinny jeans with leggings beneath for warmth. Skirts and tights, leggings beneath cute dresses in Spring. Tennis shoes always because I’m a teacher. And now, ankle pants that show my wide thighs and strengthed, 4th floor climbing calves. Pants that would be a big no-bo as a big person because they’re a bit more fitted.
Pants that make me happy.
My body is really nice now, basically. It’s fat and brown, has stretch marks, but it’s healthy and plus-sized and carries me through my day. Certainly, the kids know I’m big, but if it matters, it hasn’t come up yet. If anything, they tell me I’m a cute teacher and listen more for help with language, not watch to see if my hips can’t fit.
Certainly, Japan is not a fantasy for the fat person, but you have a right here too. No one should be denied a right to be feelin’ themselves because of body policing and shame: I’m not going to let anyone bar me from being happy here.
tl;dr: I’m a fat black person in Japan, with a big belly, big thighs, and a big backside, and I’m very, very beautiful. Especially in those ankle pants!
Hey there! I just wanted to say that I am a huuuuge shipper of Bo and Rafael, also, I live for Raf's family speaking private things spanish to each other. His hermanito having a nightmare was one of my favorite posts of yours! Anyways, just want to say that I am a big fan!
hey love!! bo & rafael are one of my all time fave couplings of my sims, so im so glad you ship them too!! we need a ship name though! ro? bafael? bof? omg they’re tragic names but we’ll make one of them work 😂
and i’m super happy you enjoy the little spanish parts - i was worried they might come across as annoying but i really like including them!!
thank you so much for staying tuned and leaving me such a lovely message!! it makes me so happy that you enjoy what i post!! ❤