“So do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring worries of it’s own. Today’s trouble is enough for today” Matthew 8:34
—  The Harper Collins Study Bible

Day 6 of 7: How to overcome peer pressure + temptation

Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God? Or am I trying to please people? If I were still trying to please people, I would not be a servant of Christ. - Galatians 1:10

My dear sister,

1. You don’t have to look a certain way…and neither does he

There is nothing wrong with physical attraction, but know that looks are not what sustain a relationship. When we look at it from human’s perspective, we tend to focus on looks because it means positive approval from others. It means “aw, you’re so cute together” or “wow, y'all are going to have cute kids someday” or “oh wow you got yourself a cute one!” As innocent as these phrases may be, we cannot allow these things to pressure us into trying to find the hottest guy, or the guy with money, or the guy who everyone else wanted. It’s not about that. In the same way the Apostle Paul encouraged the Galatians to focus on God approval, we must do the same! And God looks at a man’s heart..and so should we.

2. You don’t have to give yourself away to a guy just to get him to desire you

Far too many women think that unless they give themselves away to a guy that they won’t be desirable. There’s also the other end where women think that because of a bad past relationship or the fact that they’re no longer a virgin that they cannot be redeemed and marry a godly man someday. Neither of these extremes are true! When you seek God approval, you will find His grace. You will find His comforting arms that you can lean on when you’re feeling insecure about your body, your looks, or your past relationship experiences (or lack thereof). Don’t feel like you have to do a certain list of things to “get a man.” Focus on getting closer to God and when He prepares your heart for that next step, you will know! And in the meantime, don’t give yourself away to a guy who isn’t prepared for an intentional relationship. If he can’t state his intentions, he doesn’t get to just text you constantly and consume your time. You’re not after that guy’s approval. You’re after GOD’s approval.

Biblical context + further reading: Galatians 1