that sad glint in Spock’s kind eyes when,
with all the remaining control he has, he chokes out‘it is not in the Vulcan custom to receive back that which is given as a gift’…. and you just know he isn’t only talking about the necklace, but his brokenheart too..
and Uhura makes that face and you know she knows that too and that’s why she has to walk away before it’s too hard to.
So in hype and
celebration for Turf wars. I wanted to take the moment, years later and finally
talk about my opinions on Korrasami. Given the blog, I imagine you can figure
out what I think lol. But I don’t think I’ve actually ever talked about it all
that much, since this blog usually just focuses on Asami. But I like talking about this show and I’ve been sitting on this aspect for while. So many people, more
intuitive or smarter have offered their reasoning’s, and I don’t really think I’m
about to add anything earth shattering. But I’ve been mulling it all over in my
head for years now, and I’ve come to a lot of different points with a lot of
different emotions, as I really tried to understand why it struck me the way it
did, and why I still care about it which is something I can’t say for like any
other fictional romance. And I think I’ve figured it out, at least for me. It
hit me, that it resonated so strongly, cause it was the most like real
relationships I’ve, and I think many other people have had. Minus walking into a spirit portal, lol.
To start off, I think I should
tell my shipping story. Never had I shipped before, well maybe a little but I didn’t
know it was called that. Haven’t really shipped all that much since either. I
enjoy romance but it’s not the major factor for me liking pretty much anything.
But I’m getting ahead of myself. So I can’t claim I was on this boat since day
one. Like I said, it was just something I rarely think about when watching a
show. The moment that made me think about it, and start this crazy ship
obsession was in the beginning of season 3.
I can tell you my exact
thoughts when watching this scene. “Huh, they actually have really good
chemistry.” Like they seemed to talk really easily to each other, the dialogue
felt very natural and their laughter felt genuine to me. That’s when I got my
boarding ticket. Cause watching that, I realized how utterly rare it was for me
to think that. This is by no means a brag lol, but I have wasted a stupid
amount of my waking life taking in stories. And I mean a lot of them. And I can
think of precious few, if anyway, where I thought there was any chemistry. It’s
why I was so disinterested in romance. Cause I’d seen hundreds of movies and
shows where the leads had no connection whatsoever. No bonding moment, no
casual conversation, no mutual interest or similar senses of humor. No REAL
moments. Most of the time, they fall in live cause both are attractive and both
are lead characters, and there’s usually little else there. And, most noticeable
of all, is that it’s usually a pair of characters who’ve known each other for a
day. A week at most. There’s no bonding usually cause there’s no time to. And that’s why I think chemistry is a major failing in many things. There’s no time to form it. And if you don’t believe the characters really like each other on personal level then why care?
So when I see people say
Korrasami was rushed? I couldn’t disagree more. In fact to me it’s basically
the least rushed romance I’ve ever watched. And to me, it doesn’t matter what “lens”
your watching from. How can it be rushed? It’s two good friends, realizing they
have had feelings grow for each other over the course of three years. Rushed?
That’s more realistic than almost any romance I’ve ever seen. Cause it didn’t
start right away. And so now we go into the personal talk. Almost every date,
and romance I personally have had, has been with someone I was friends with for
years before. We grew to like each other. We didn’t just lock eyes in a
carnival one day and realize love was in the air. There was no whacky circumstance or embarrassing meet cute. It was hey, I know I like
you. But wow I think I might realllly like you. The romance came from how well I knew
them, how at ease I was with them, how we knew each other well enough that we
could almost always make the other one laugh, and that we could talk to each other about whatever in our lives was difficult or painful. Someone to trust enough to confide our rawest emotions in. That is something I think most media is sorely lacking. It is for this reason, I think
korrasami hit me so hard. And it’s why I think it’s brilliant, and one of the
best romances I’ve ever watched. And it doesn’t hurt that they’re adorkable.
I can’t speak for
everyone. But I get the sense there’s at least many relationships that start
the same way, and they’re really unrepresented in media. (Not the only
unrepresented thing that korrasami represents) Through the series, the two grow
closer and closer. Korra was stand offish at first, but Asami basically tried her
best to make friends right from the start. And then the rest of season one,
they’re friends, if not the closest kind. By season two, it’s clear the gang
has spent more time together. And it’s also clear there’s not that much
weirdness between them cause of the whole love triangle thing. Asami helps the
southern water tribe, and by extension supports Korra, basically the whole
season. Going through dangerous situations and dark times is a quick way to
form trust with those around you. And it’s clear that they do trust each other
by then. One never questioning the capabilities of the other. Then season 3
happens, and it’s clear, they’re close friends by now. They spend time
together, just between them. They confide in each other, they offer
encouragement, and joke around with each other. In fact one of my favorite moments is after the press conference, when Korra is feeling powerless and Asami says she’ll work out a solution. Moving on, they have to put their trust in
each other when they’re captured by the earth kingdom, and both observe the
strengths of the other, protect each other. Everything becomes a stepping stone
the two used to get closer and closer. Every experience is working to build a stronger
bond. That’s life isn’t it?
The ending of season 3 hit it home. Showing how the two’s relationship was changing. Asami offering support, that she’d always be there. She grew to care for Korra more than just in a friendly way by then. By the time we get to
season four, we know Korra only felt comfortable confiding in Asami, and we
know Asami was willing to drop a lot in her own life to go with Korra to help
her heal. And the rest is history. When
the two sit together at the end, just to talk and catch their breaths. They’ve
know each other for a long time. Been through a lot together as friends. Then
both reach the point where they open up completely, and admit their feelings
for each other. Feelings they didn’t have right away, cause that’s not how intimacy
works. At least in my mind. Rushed? Even if by accident, this to me was one of
the most methodically set up romances I’ve seen.
They had to work through
misgivings, and trials. Get to know each other, realize they cared enough to
support the other. Korrasami is one of the most real pairings I’ve ever
experienced. They didn’t meet in a bar, and hit it off. They didn’t get struck
by love at first sight. And they didn’t get intimate first, then work out the relationship afterwards like it was an afterthought. They both grew, both figuring out themselves along the
way. And at some point, friendship blossomed into something else. We as the audience
were allowed to watch them grow, follow their struggles and softer moments.
Instead of asking us to care about the characters because of romance, we got to
care about the romance because of the characters.
And this is all before we
even touch on the issue of bisexual representation, or woc representation. In that regard, this show is leagues beyond hollywood or mainstream tv. The representation is utterly important today as it was when the
show ended. Getting to see that in a show so many cared about, with characters
they loved, is one of the most amazing things that’s happened in the world of
fiction. And the impact that had for so many, can never be diminished. You can
watch reaction videos to the finale, or read the millions of words written
about the paring to see that. Some days I still can’t get over the fact that the show existed. In a way I kind of now hold it as the standard in this regard, and it is not a standard that is just not met. I know I’m not the only one who can say it helped
through difficult times. It helped with my own relationships, and showed me
that it’s not weird to not fall in love right away. That it’s okay to grow your
connections, and that if feelings do arise, that it’s okay to talk about it. That sometimes the pace of love is slower, and that there is absolutely nothing wrong with that. And if I can throw some shade, that is not a message or sentiment that’s thrown around nearly enough.
Another quick point, is that both Korra and Asami are characters who have suffered and been through a lot. More than life’s fair share, and both carry those wounds with them. But now, they don’t have to carry them alone. That’s another essay though, so I’ll just leave it at this. It’s a hopeful message to show that you can get through trauma on your own, but that you don’t have to.
Korra and Asami grow to
be so incredibly at ease with each other. They never once belittle the other
for actions or feelings. They never asked the other push themselves to where
they were uncomfortable. They supported each other almost implicitly, had each other’s
backs at great risk to themselves no matter the odds or threats. It would be
hard to think that two women as passionate and empathetic as they are wouldn’t start falling in love. Their bond of respect and
trust is a foundation any relationship would be better off for having. That’s
why I think Korrasami works. Trust and respect, and those are two things many
romances don’t have nearly often enough. Healthy, and supportive and mutual relationships
like this are to me the peak of what a relationship should be in any work of
fiction, and it is why I have been affected far more by this than I have any other romance. I am so glad, that it helped and impacted the lives of so many people, and that so many in
general saw it. I hope it can impact the next generation too, to look back and
remember it. And I can’t wait to see these two incredible women’s love continue
to be expanded and to grow in turf wars. Hopefully in the next few weeks we can
all cry tears of joy together! Keep on loving these two dorks! And never forget together, Korra and Asami are happy.
In this charming animated film, Ponyo is a goldfish princess befriended by Sosuke, a five-year-old boy who rescues Ponyo when she is trapped in a bottle. Sosuke and Ponyo become close friends, but her father, a Poseidon-like figure, uses all his powers to get her back. However, she doesn’t want to return to the sea; instead, she wants to become human. Ponyo is one of Miyazaki’s most magical works, which is really saying something as he has directed so many marvelous films. Many sequences and images are so beautiful to look at that I wanted to watch them over and over again (which, of course, a DVD and a pause button made possible). Though the story is aimed at young children, Ponyo’s visual inventiveness will captivate audiences of any age. The movie is indeed great for kids, but if one is not around, don’t let that prevent you from watching it anyway. Ponyo will be among the loveliest films that you will ever see.
Joan Bennett in a Travis Banton gown, 1947, publicity photo for Secret Beyond the Door
Bennett had only a middling early career, overshadowed by her older sister Constance Bennett who was one of the most glamorous stars of the 1930′s. But Joan Bennett came into her own in her late thirties with a series of film noirs for Fritz Lang in the late 1940′s: The Woman in the Window, Scarlet Street and Secret Beyond the Door as well as 2 films for French refugee directors Jean Renoir (Woman on the Beach) and Max Ophüls (The Reckless Moment)
Oprah, Reese Witherspoon, Nicole
Kidman, Jessica Lange, Elisabeth Moss and Chrissy Metz gather for the
drama actresses roundtable to debate the power and pain of strong
females (onscreen and off) amid a culture of discrimination in the
industry and beyond
- The Hollywood Reporter, June 2017
Hey, whay would you do if Luke, Finn or Rey or anyone would kill Kylo? What about Leia?
Leia is not killing her son. Like. Period, lol. THIS IS AN INSULT TO LEIA. I AM INSULTED FOR CARRIE. SPACE MOM DOES NOT DESERVE THIS.
ugh. the nerve. I’m seriously not even entertaining that point, so you can forget about it. I actually legitimately believe that’s an insult to Carrie and the character of Leia.
Anyway… guess I’lll… answer this now? But I’m going to expand on this because I smell ANTI all over this ask. And I’m gonna actually talk about why I think this question is messed up in the context of Star Wars.
I guess to answer this… I think the most likely to legitimatelytry and kill Kylo would be Luke at this point.
I think Rey will be tested and ultimately will not want to kill him, nor will she be able to. This lines up with spoilers we’ve heard from Making Star Wars and Bothan-Spy (reliable source) on Reddit. They’ve mentioned Kylo and Rey talking amicably and Rey running away/disappearing mid-fight with Kylo.
Finn might HATE Kylo, but he is also the most compassionate of the three new main characters - even moreso than Rey in my opinion. He is the first to show immediate, unquestioning compassion in the entire movie - he just refuses to follow orders in the face of moral dilemma. I refuse to believe that good writers would ruin that part of Finn by making him kill a main character - a main antagonist who is in fact being shown in a sympathetic light.
And I do think Kylo - even though he is currently a villain - is being shown as a sympathetic character. We see his whole family… we see his conflict and pain. We see him struggle with his legacy and the “pull to the light.” We see him not tattle on Finn at the beginning. We see him not kill Rey on the edge of a cliff.
That’s not how you set up your ultimate villain. So yeah. He’s a total asshole 100%. He fucked up. But he can still be a sympathetic character - and he clearly is being set up that way.
Hux and Phasma are clearfoilsto Kylo - showcasing two people who are more obedient and deliberate in their aims with the FO. They believe in the FO. They agree with Starkiller Base (to which Kylo CANONICALLY objects), they are present at its firing.
Kylo is a Knight Templar character archetype (for now) though - one who follows a warped moral code, but a moral code that he believes is just and good. I believe he will also follow the Atoner archetype starting in TLJ - prompted by meeting his mother and forming a partnership with Rey.
Rey and Finn both have arcs informed by Kylo’s influence, too - Kylo is the reason both of them are out of their shitty former situations - and YES. I KNOW he did shitty things to them ALSO. I am aware. He is a still a VILLAIN. But Rey and Finn - to satisfy their character arcs and growth, as well as tell a halfway decently structured story - need to resolve their conflict with Kylo in a HEALTHY way that informs their characters. Just killing him doesn’t really teach anything. It’s very flat, one-dimensional BLOCKBUSTER bullshit.
Star Wars may be pop culture, but it also sets itself apart in its richness and depth in storytelling. That includes challenging character stereotypes and challenging audience expectations. That includes rich, morally ambiguous characters that surprise us. That’s why Star Wars is so iconic - it is fresh, and it follows a set of standards beyond cardboard, simplistic, Hollywood-typical storytelling.
Also, I have a feeling you’re an anti because ain’t no Reylo goin’ around sayin’ Leia gonna kill her child.
Anyway, I guess to DIRECTLY answer your silly question…
If Luke, Finn, or Rey killed Kylo I guess I’d… be disappointed? I mean, what else could I do? There isn’t really anything I can do lol. I’m not sure what you even mean. I suppose I could… complain at the bad storywriting? The missed opportunity in character exploration? But outside of that… I dunno.
At the end of the day, it’s really just a fictional story so I’d probably be like, “Well, that was shitty story writing/ character development. Too bad, Star Wars.”
And then I’d move on with my life, but probably with a bit of disappointment in SW - which is probably my most beloved story.