its been said before but this is a daily reminder that mental illness does not excuse toxic behavior

it can offer an explanation, but you cannot treat someone with cruelty and then just like “well sorry it’s my mental illness i can’t help it”

i don’t have a solution, because i know that mental illness by nature can be difficult or impossible to control, but do not let a friend or partner or parent or anyone be a dick to you and say that you have to put up with it because that’s just how they are

or even worse, guilt trip you about being upset with them

i am saying this as someone with a diagnosed mental illness that im on medication for:

mental illness does NOT give anyone the right to treat you badly

and if someone tries to excuse their toxic behavior by claiming it’s mental illness and they cannot help it, that’s a red fucking flag

“It’s just a phase.” All right, let’s go with that fucked up logic for a minute. You know what good parents do when their children go through phases? They do everything they can to support them and make them happy. You know what Leelah’s parents did? Isolated her from everyone and made her miserable. 

So even if you believe that Leelah was just “going through a phase” (which she wasn’t), don’t you dare try to defend her abusive, pathetic excuse for parents. 

Nico scowled. “It’s none of your business, but I don’t belong. That’s obvious. No one wants me. I’m a child of—”

“Oh please.” Will sounded unusually angry. “Nobody at Camp Half-Blood ever pushed you away. You have friends— or at least, people who would like to be your friend. You pushed people away. If you’d get your head out your brooding cloud for once—”

—  Blood of Olympus, page 429