best piece of advice ever

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What is a story you have been dying to tell?

When I was 15 years old, I ran away from home because I was pissed off at my parents for a reason I cant remember. I didnt have much money, so I decided to hop onto the skytrain(public transport train in British Columbia) and ride it as far as it would go. I reached the end of the line in less then an hour, and decided I wanted to ride it all the way back again, while trying to formulate some kind of plan of how I wanted to live the rest of my life without my parents or anyone. At the last stop, or the first stop depending on your perspective of it, a girl came on and sat in the row right behind me. I didnt pay much attention to her at first, as I was busy writing my life plan on a napkin. It was a few minutes later that she got up and came sat next to me, curious as to what I was writing. I told her the story, and after a few laughs, we began talking about everything and anything. Her name was Amanda, 17 years old, and absolutely wonderful. She told me she was getting off at the last stop, which was also the first stop, depending on how you look at it. It was also the stop I had gotten on originally, and I told her we would ride to it together. The train ride took less then an hour, and what a wonderful hour indeed.

When the last stop did come, we both knew we probably wouldnt see each other ever again(this was before the days of cellphones, and I was a shy little kid afraid to make moves). As we got to the end of the sidewalk which split in two different directions, she went right and I went left. Before saying goodbye she turned to me and asked me a question that has become a wonderful part of my life; she asked me, “Tell me something you have done, or want to do, that you think I should do? It can be anything, as challenging as you want it to be, or as easy. As long as you give me the rest of my life to complete it, I promise I will do it..” I was confused as to why, but I thought about it, and told her, “Sing a song acapella in a room full of strangers.” She said perfect and asked me if I would like a challenge as well. I told her I did, and she told me, “read, from start to finish, “Ulysses” by James Joyce.” I had never heard of it at the time, but I agreed, and we said our goodbyes.

I have a awful memory, and cant remember most conversations I have with most people. But I remember all of that clearly. You know why? Because of the challenge she gave me. In the 12 years that have past since, I have tried to read that book in over 150 different sittings. Everytime I open my copy of the 780 page monster of a book, I always think of her, and I always think of that day. Ive never been sure if it was her intent or not, but she left her lasting memory on me with that challenge. I soon after learned what she did, was a completey wonderful and amazing thing for me. So I decided to keep it going. Ive met a lot of strangers in my life; some that have become friends, and some, due to living in different time zones and whatnot, didnt. I dont want to just have experiences and then let them go. I want to remember these meetings, and embrace the fact that they happened. So whenever I leave someone who has left an amazing impact of my life, I always make sure to add them to my Ulysses Bucket List. I ask them to give me a challenge, as difficult or as easy as they want it to be, and regardless of the fact that they have done it or not; simply something their heart has had wanted to do.

Some have been easy and fun; I met a man in India 9 years ago who told me to, for a week or a month, cook/buy twice as much food as I intend on eating, and give the other half to a stranger in need. I completed that mission 8 years ago, and thought about that man and the time we had all the way through. I met a girl on a cruise 6 years ago, who told me to jump into a body of water on a slightly cold day, without touching or feeling the temperature of the water first. I did that the very same year. I met a couple at an outdoor music festival a few years ago that told me to wear the most bizarre outfit imaginable and walk through a public place, completely oblivious to the fact that you arent looking normal. I did that task the very next day, at the same festival. Some have been difficult, to say the least: three guys I met in Amsterdam and smoked all night with, told me to go to a mall and give 10 strangers 10 presents. That one took a lot of courage, but I did it a year or so after I met them. It was nerve racking, but at the same time exhilerating leaving my comfort zone. A girl I met on a plane told me to sky dive; Im still in the process of getting that done. A couple I met in Cali on the beach told me to tell the 5 people I hated the most, that I love them and respect them. That one was very difficult because of my stubborness, but ive come close to completing that list many a times(still in the process, 2 more people to go).

And some things, have had an everlasting impact on my daily life. I met a girl at a music festival, who told me that whenever I get mad at someone, walk away, sing my happy song in my head for 5 minutes, go back to the person im mad at with a clam heart and mind, and work things out. Ive made this my way of life. I once met a man at a gym in a hotel I was staying at, that told me “whenever your body and brain tells your that you are exhausted and done…use your heart instead and push out 2 more reps.” Ive made this my motto when working out or working on any kind of extrenuating exercise in which my body demands me to quit. I also use it while working on anything, and while studying. One of the best pieces of advice ive ever received.

There are many others that each brought joy to my life. There are still many tasks I have yet to accomplish, and everytime I think of these tasks, I think of the people that gave them to me. It amazes me how well I remember all these people, while I cant remember so many aspects of even yesterday. These experiences, not only do I take from them a “mission” or a “challenge”, I also take from them a memory of them that never fails to appear inside of my mind. I opened my Ulysses book for probably the 300th time yesterday, and read a few pages, which prompted me to share this story with you today. Im in the final 30 pages of the book, also known as the most dreaded of the read(in the last 40 pages or so, James Joyce doesnt use a single punctuation mark; no periods, no commas, no nothing; a straight 50 page run-on sentence).

I never saw Amanda after that day, nor do I know if she ever did get a chance to sing a song to a room full of strangers. But what I do know, is that she gave me a gift that has never once stopped giving. So wherever you may be, thank you for giving me the Ulysses Bucket List. And I swear i’ll finish it one day. My life advice? Simple: Create your own Ulysses bucket list.

I think the best piece of advice I have got ever was in my third year of CS, in an algorithms and complexity class. I remember when we went up to the blackboard and someone was stuck in some part of a problem, the professor always told us to take a step back. Literally. So I remember people took a step back (even, sometimes some people returned to their seats to see the whole blackboard) and it seemed, they magically got the answer. In those times I questioned that. How someone who has been stuck in the same problem for a long time, take a step back and then see what’s the problem?

Then, one day, I was in the blackboard and was stuck somewhere, the professor gave me that advice. One step back and I saw the blackboard in a different way. I was able to keep on writing a solution for the problem.

After that, I found it doesn’t need to be a literal step back. It can be going for a walk, drink or eat something, whatever. You know that, if you ever feel stressed and you can keep going on, relax, but you seldom do that. At least, I don’t.

So, today, I was programming something, but it didn’t work. I was 100% sure, I understood what I needed to code, but it wasn’t still working. I decided to brush my teeth and drink water; meanwhile I was summing up what I had done. I rethought the whole problem for a moment, and I got it! I was focused in the details, instead of the whole picture.

150 Self-Discovery & Reflection Journal Prompts

1. What is going well in your life right now? 

2. Think of the last time you had a really great day. What was the best part of it? 

3. Write about a time you felt brave. 

4. How will you enjoy creativity and nature today?

5. List as many things as you can that make you happy. 

6. How can you take a break today? 

7. When is the last time you lost track of time? What were you doing? 

8. What is the last thing you created that you were proud of? 

9. When is the last time you were excited? What was happening? 

10. When do you create the best results or make the best decisions in your life? 

11. How do you enjoy spending your free time most? 

12. What are your greatest strengths? 

13. What values are most important to you? Are you living true to these values? Why or why not? 

14. If you could make a difference in the world, what would it be? 

15. If you had no fear, what would you do? 

16. What is the biggest barrier between you and your full honesty in journaling? 

17. What would you do with $10 million? 

18. Write a letter to your teenage self. 

19. What have you learned today that will make tomorrow better? 

20. What are you most grateful for? 

21. What would you do if you had no fears? 

22. Do you own things, or do things own you? 

23. What happens when you let go of expectations? 

24. What are you currently worrying about? 

25. Who are you? 

26. Who do you want to be? 

27. Write about a difficult time in your life when you showed strength. 

28. What makes you unique? 

29. Write a letter to someone who has supported you through the most difficult time in your life. 

30. What do joy and wellness look and feel like to you? 

31. What qualities do you look for in a friend? 

32. List your accomplishments and successes. 

33. Who made you feel good in this past week?

34. What activities make you feel energized? 

35. Reflect on the happiest moment of your life and write down how you felt, what you heard, etc. 

36. What is your most treasured possession and why?

37. What is the greatest life lesson you’ve ever learned? 

38. How do you feel about your body? 

39. Do you consider yourself a victim of your circumstances or a survivor? 

40. How does journaling help you? 

41. If you could run away, where would you go? What would you bring with you? 

42. What are two unforgettable moments in your life? 

43. Share your innermost secret; something you’ve never told anyone before. 

44. What is one thing you can do today to improve your health? 

45. What is the driving force in your life? 

46. What is your personal motto? 

47. Write a letter to someone you need to forgive. 

48. What are you angry about? 

49. How do you want to be remembered? What do you want to be remembered for? 

50. Choose a number and write a gratitude list. 

51. What do you need right now? 

52. Who or what means the world to you, and why? 

53. Share your favorite positive affirmations. 

54. What are you passionate about? 

55. Reflect on an old photograph and write about it. 

56. Write your own obituary. 

57. How do you manage stress? 

58. How does it feel to be the age that you currently are? 

59. What does authenticity mean to you? 

60. What is the best piece of advice you’ve ever received? Who was it from? Why is it the best? 

61. Do you practice any time management techniques? If not, do you think you could benefit from some? 

62. If you could relive any experience in your life, what would it be? 

63. Are you addicted to social media? Honestly assess yourself. 

64. Reflect on some of the changes you’ve seen in yourself over the last 5 years. 

65. What is your earliest childhood memory? 

66. Write a review of a book or movie that had a huge impact on you.

 67. What does growing older mean to you? 

68. What is your guilty pleasure? 

69. Write a letter to your future or current child. 

70. Look in the mirror and write about what you see. 

71. Where do you see yourself in 5, 10, 20 years? 

72. Write about your family members. 

73. Why is it important to embrace your inner child? 

74. What excites you about your future? 

75. List 5 short-term and long-term goals. Explain the steps you’ll take to achieve each of those goals. 

76. Share your bucket list. 

77. What bad habits do you have? 

78. Write about the place you grew up. 

79. Discuss an important and controversial topic that is relevant in the world right now and explain your stance on it. 

80. Write a letter to a pre-teen about body image. 

81. How do you maintain your mental, physical, and spiritual health? 

82. Are you honestly happy with how you have lived your life so far? 

83. What do you really, truly want? 

84. How can you amplify what you’re currently doing in your life? 

85. How can you make someone’s day today? 

86. What are you currently fighting or resisting? 

87. What does life want from you? 

88. What do you need to give yourself permission to do? Write a permission slip for it, as long as it is healthy. 

89. What do you want to learn today? 

90. What would happen if you forgave yourself for doing something you regret? 

91. How can you do more? 

92. How can you do less? 

93. Do you ever get in your own way? How? 

94. On this long journey of self-discovery, what do you hope to achieve or find?

95. What do you think shaped you into the person you are today? 

96. Knowing that you must let go of some things in order to move forward, what do you need to let go of? 

97. Is there anything you need to get off your chest? Write it out. 

98. When do you feel free and the most confident? 

99. List questions you need answers to. 

100. When you’re old and gray, what do you hope you remember about your life? 

101. Do you have depression or anxiety? If so, write about what it feels like, what it looks like, etc. 

102. What is motivating you to journal for self-discovery? 

103. Write a list of people you can trust or go to in times of need. Note contact information. 

104. If you lost everything, what would you do? Where would you go? 

105. If you knew you had a month to live, who would you call? What would you say? What would you do? 

106. How is your relationship with your parents? 

107. What is your dream job or profession? 

108. What is your stance on religion? Do you consider yourself religious? 

109. What is the most outrageous thing you’ve ever done? 

110. What is worse: never trying, or trying and failing many times? 

111. What is the worst thing that’s ever happened to you? 

112. What would you change about your body? 

113. What does success actually mean to you?

114. How do you express your anger? Is this a good or healthy manner of expression? 

115. If you had 3 wishes, what would you wish for? 

116. List some of your favorite songs and note why you like them. 

117. Do you have any sexual fantasies? 

118. What is the biggest mistake you’ve ever made? 

119. Write a letter to someone you strongly admire. 

120. Do you procrastinate? When? What could you do to stop procrastinating?

121. What are your weaknesses? 

122. Describe your favorite season and why you like it. 

123. Write about how your sense of style has changed over the past 5 years. 

124. What is the meaning of life? 

125. What is your life’s purpose? 

126. What are you currently craving? 

127. What is something you would love to do, but aren’t sure if you can do? 

128. When do you feel the best about yourself? 

129. When do you feel the worst about yourself? 

130. Who are you not? 

131. How does your intuition or conscience speak to you? 

132. What aspect of your life do you need support in? 

133. What gave you great joy today? 

134. Did you feel lovable today? Why or why not? 

135. What expectations of yours haven’t been met recently? Why or why not? 

136. When you think about your future, how do you feel? 

137. Write about some of the negative things your inner critic says to you, and then disprove them with rational thoughts. 

138. If your life could be summarized or exuded in one word, what would that word be? 

139. Write about a moment experienced through your body. It could be making love, eating breakfast, laughing, etc. 

140. What couldn’t you live without? 

141. What does unconditional love look like to you? 

142. What do you wish others knew about you? 

143. If your body could talk to you, what would it say? 

144. What do you love about life? 

145. What emotions do you feel or associate with confidence? 

146. What are some things you’d like to say no to? 

147. How can having a positive attitude change your life? 

148. Write a pep talk to yourself for use the next time you feel upset or depressed. 

149. Write a letter to your future self. 

150. What have you learned by journaling for self-discovery?

There’s Nothing Wrong With You

One of the best pieces of advice I ever heard was “There’s nothing wrong with you”. 

It was a Monday morning and I was relaxing with friends in a hotel pool after playing Lollapalooza. A lady bobbed opposite me sipping a ginormous glass of rose, and we started chatting. She was a stylist and told me that, when her clients tried outfits on and looked at themselves in the mirror, she would tell them “There’s nothing wrong with you”. I asked her why and she said, “because we all think there’s something wrong with us ”. It was such an odd, simple notion, but I felt like a little flower had opened up inside of me. It hadn’t occurred to me that it could be a universal feeling. There was always something so wrong with ME, I hadn’t considered that other people might feel the same. The comment stuck with me like glue for the next year. 

Illustration by Lan Truong

 I lived most of my life feeling like there was something deeply wrong with me. Everything I did was somehow geared towards fixing the parts of myself I thought were bad or ‘broken’. There was also an odd safety in being broken. I could quietly blame it for anything that went wrong in my life: “It’s not my fault: I’m f**ed up and I am very sorry!”. For a while, I had counselling, and though it was extremely helpful, I started to feel uneasy at the idea of chatting about my problems, potentially for years, if I chose to. Like, really… When would I be fixed?

For me, life =  Experiences + reactions to those experiences. The only power I have is choosing how I react to them. So, though I might have uncomfortable emotional reactions, I can choose to a) accept these emotions, instead of resisting them, and b) not interpret my thoughts as the Solid Gold Truth. Whatever your problems may be, (diagnosed or not), they don’t equate to you being broken. In my own life, it’s been unhelpful to think of mental health problems in this way, particularly when you’re struggling. You are who you are at this moment in time, and you’re doing your best. Brains are plastic. People can, and do, change.

Illustration by Lolrel

  If you follow my music, it probably won’t come as a big surprise to know that I’ve dealt with mental health issues for a long time. There have been 3 things that have helped me decrease periods of depression though. For anyone in the same position, I hope this helps.

1. Meditation

This changed my mind + my life. I started doing meditation in 2013 after Electra Heart had ended. I was burnt out and desperate for change. I took no classes, read no books - just looked at a 5 minute explanation on the internet. I didn’t even do it every day. Just 20 minutes in the morning or evening. In the beginning, I felt a little dubious about the idea of “wasting 20 whole minutes” on meditation each day. But here’s the thing: Meditation is like a vacuum for your mind. It sucks up all the dust and rubbish thoughts. I can easily waste 20 minutes looking at something on the internet that I’ll never think about again, so I can invest 20 minutes in something that changes the quality of my life. This blog described Meditation as “one of the best responses to modern information overload”. I truly believe it can be an antidote to our digital lives.

Illustration by Lolrel 

2. Exercise

I know, I know. When you’re depressed, the last thing you want to do is go outside INTO THE REAL WORLD! But if you’re bottom-of-the-barrel depressed, you have nothing to lose. For years I loved to declare that I “didn’t have a body that could run”  (in order to escape ever having to actually run). But when I start meditation, the negative thoughts about myself decreased and I started to want good things for myself. The motive of exercising was not to lose weight, so it had a different energy to it.

3. Identifying With Thoughts

The reality is, I still deal with depression, but my reaction to it is different. I am more aware of its mechanisms so I don’t take my thoughts as seriously. I try not to identify with a thought and interpret it as truth just because it came into my mind. Why? Because the way I think and respond to events is largely based on my past experiences, so how can I know that my thoughts are my own and not coloured by my past? This is why I don’t always trust my thoughts, particularly when they are of the negative variety. A book I hugely recommend on this is called “Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle. 

I’ve wanted to write this post for a long time for people who struggle with similar issues. Our culture has taught us to see happiness as some kind of end goal, but for me, the best thing about it is that it doesn’t stick around forever. Human beings need to experience some level of suffering in order to evolve emotionally and consciously. And though depression often feels like you’re stuck, or stagnating, it can also be a healthy way of your mind telling you that something isn’t quite right, and that it’s in the process of changing. We tend to view sadness as something unnatural, or negative, but perhaps viewing it as a necessary process might help us accept the low periods, and move through them more easily.

Before writing my last album, I honestly thought that I had just been born unhappy and that depression was a permanent part of me. I don’t believe that anymore. When I was writing ‘FROOT’ I felt like I was kissing goodbye to a big chapter of my life. That portion of my youth was heart-splitting and lonely at times, but it was also dazzling and beautiful. And that’s how life is for a lot of us. If only I’d known all those years that it was just part of being human.

Ask a question or share a thought here.  

Love, Marina


I think the best piece of writing advice I ever got was from an author of locally popular novels that visited my school when I was in grade eight. He said that when you want to write a novel, or any kind of story, the typical system of “What is my story about? Who is it about? What will happen?” are pretty much the worst thing you can do.

Writing is far simpler than that.

His advice was to ask yourself three questions that I’ll never forget:

Who is the character?

What does the character want more than anything?

And how can I prevent them from getting it?

The single best piece of writing advice I ever got was from a professor teaching a playwriting class, who told us that in every scene, especially scenes that were just dialogue, every character should want something. Making every character in a scene have a goal is an easy way to avoid dialogue that’s just exposition, and to make sure your dialogue drives the plot forward and/or reveals characterization. 

It doesn’t have to be complicated or super weighty–as long as the characters have a goal, there will be tension in the scene even if the goals are small. Character X wants to borrow a pen, and character Y wants to make a good impression on character X. X wants to insult Y until they go away, and Y wants to annoy X by pretending not to notice the insults. X wants Y to give them the last slice of pizza, and Y is super full but still doesn’t want X to have it. No matter what your character’s goal is, it will reveal something about who that character is to the reader, and the conflict between your characters’ goals will give the scene momentum.

i read this post on here once but i can’t find it again, it basically said to learn to write unique dialogue for your characters you should take a single unrelated line for example “i am going to the store” and and write how each one of your characters in the fic or in general would say it and honestly that is so true and this is the single best piece of writing advice i’ve ever received on this website

glamourcat28  asked:

I just found your blog and love it already! I thought I would contribute the best piece of writing advice I ever got. A prof of mine said to "kill your children" - writers think of their work as their kids. When you "kill your children" you take out all the description, all clever dialog gets removed, take away everything you like about your work -if the bones you are left with aren't solid and the plot doesn't stand without the flourish - it wasn't good writing.

Great advice, especially for those who have trouble with plot!

Originally posted by samisoffthewall

100 Questions About Your Original Character

I have always loved lists like this! They help me flesh out characters I have created so I decided to make one that leans a little more fantasy. Enjoy!

  1. What is your OC’s race?

  2. Does your OC have any powers beyond what is normal for their race?

  3. What is their gender?

  4. What is your OC’s favorite color?

  5. Are they religious?

  6. Do they have a favorite outfit? If so what?

  7. Do they have a spirit animal?

  8. Does your OC have a favorite time of year?

  9. How does your OC travel around?

  10. Does your OC have a best friend?

  11. What is your OC’s biggest secret?

  12. How does your OC feel about violence?

  13. Does your OC have a favorite time of day?

  14. Is your OC in a relationship?

  15. What does your OC smell like?

  16. How old is your OC?

  17. What is your OC’s weaknesses?

  18. Has your OC ever killed someone?

  19. What languages does your OC speak?

  20. Can your OC swim?

  21. Who is your OC’s biggest hero?

  22. What social class is your OC from?

  23. What country was your OC born in?

  24. How does your OC prefer to have their hair?

  25. Is your OC introverted or extroverted?

  26. Does your OC enjoy nature?

  27. What is your OC’s morning routine?

  28. Does your OC drink or do drugs?

  29. What’s your OC’s eye color?

  30. Does your OC have any extra limbs? Are they missing any?

  31. What’s your OC’s sexual orientation?

  32. Does your OC have any scars, moles, etc?

  33. What turns your OC on?

  34. Does your OC regret killing anybody?
  35. Are there any smells your OC really likes?
  36. Are they an honest person?

  37. What’s your OC’s favorite food?

  38. Does your OC like to travel?

  39. What’s the farthest your OC has ever traveled?

  40. Who is your OC’s favorite family member (if they have any)?

  41. Does your OC have any siblings? Who?

  42. What makes your OC angry?

  43. Does your OC have a pet?

  44. Can your OC use magic?

  45. Does your OC want to use magic?

  46. Where is your OC’s favorite place to be?

  47. Has your OC ever destroyed anything sacred?

  48. Would your OC ever use sex to get what they want?

  49. Does your OC care about hygiene?

  50. Does your OC like to take directions?

  51. How would your OC react to getting lost?

  52. What are 3 things your OC always has on them?

  53. Who is the most important person to your OC?

  54. What is your OC’s biggest fear?

  55. How would your OC react to suddenly being told that they are now King/Queen, President, Ruler, etc?

  56. How would your OC react to suddenly having everything materialistic taken away from them?

  57. Does your OC believe in spirits?

  58. What’s your OC’s favorite weapon?

  59. How does your OC feel about the government?

  60. Is your OC able to travel off world?

  61. How does your OC feel about ships?

  62. Can your OC fly?

  63. Does your OC have any phobias?

  64. Is there any delicacy your OC hates?

  65. What is your OC’s favorite memory?

  66. What’s the best way to make your OC happy?

  67. What’s your OC’s favorite way to relax?

  68. How does your OC feel about being nude?

  69. Is there any trait your OC despises in themselves? In others?

  70. How far along has technology advanced in your world?

  71. Would your OC ever kill a loved one to save the world?

  72. How does your OC feel about races other than their own?

  73. How does your OC feel about their own race?

  74. How does your OC feel about religious people?

  75. Can your OC make a good meal?

  76. Can your OC survive in the wild?

  77. Does your OC prefer the city or the country?

  78. Did your OC have any schooling? Did they enjoy it?

  79. How would your OC feel about being naked in public?

  80. What are your OC’s feelings regarding sex?

  81. Does your OC play any instruments?

  82. Does your OC like music?

  83. Does your OC like art?

  84. Has your OC ever had a painting or photograph taken of them?

  85. What is your OC’s favorite thing to talk about?

  86. Has your OC ever made clothes?

  87. What’s the best piece of advice your OC was ever given?

  88. Does your OC want to fall in love?

  89. What does your OC want to do with their life?

  90. Does your OC believe in ghosts?

  91. Does your OC wear any jewelry?

  92. How will your OC die?

  93. Does your OC believe in an afterlife?

  94. What is your OC’s favorite part about being alive?

  95. Does your OC fear death?

  96. Does/Will your OC ever have children?

  97. How does your OC feel about traitors?

  98. What’s the craziest thing your OC has ever done?

  99. How does your OC feel about killing animals?

  100. What is your OC’s name?

20 Questions for Ed Sheeran, January 25, 2017.
  • Interviewer: What's the most exciting thing in life right now?
  • Ed: Uh, the new album. Coming out third of March.
  • Interviewer: What are you completely tired of right now?
  • Ed: Uhh... I dunno. Walking Dead. I can't seem to get into it. I'm on season four and it's just, I haven't-
  • Interviewer: I'm there as well! Which episode are you on right now?
  • Ed: I'm on like episode five? They're all ill and they're coughing up blood, and-
  • Interviewer: Oh, yeah. It gets better though. Keep on watching it bro.
  • Ed: See, everyone's been saying that, but I've watched like sixty episodes now, and I'm like, I can't quite... so yeah, I'm trying to get through it.
  • Interviewer: What song took you the least amount of time to write?
  • Ed: Thinking Out Loud.
  • Interviewer: What's the first thing that you do when you get an idea for a song?
  • Ed: Uhh, I shut the doors and go away from people.
  • Interviewer: If you could teach one subject at a school, what would it be?
  • Ed: Music. I'm actually going back to teach music at my old school soon.
  • Interviewer: Beautiful, I like that. Did you ever have detention during growing up and going to school?
  • Ed: 'Course, all the time.
  • Interviewer: All the time? Every day?
  • Ed: All the time.
  • Interviewer: What's your favorite drink?
  • Ed: Uhhh... beer. Ale. Like ale. Good, good English ale. Does Finland do good ale?
  • Interviewer: I don't know about that. Not so good. It's okay, but I think it's better in England.
  • Ed: Yeah. You can't drink too much of it though 'cause it's so heavy, it just, I just fall asleep. So I have three and I fall asleep. But the first one is like... glorious.
  • Interviewer: What's your favorite food?
  • Ed: ...Fish and chips? I reckon. Fish and chips. If you give me a fish and chips and an ale, pfft, game over. That's my day.
  • Interviewer: That's perfect. That's heaven. What's one thing you need to have in your fridge always? No matter what-
  • Ed: Ketchup.
  • Interviewer: Ketchup? With fish and chips.
  • Ed: I've actually refused to eat fish and chips when there wasn't any ketchup. I just think it's a travesty.
  • Interviewer: I get that. What's your favorite movie of all time?
  • Ed: Goodfellas.
  • Interviewer: Oh that's a good one. Classic. Favorite TV show?
  • Ed: A show called Love/Hate actually. It's an Irish TV show, like Gangland Dublin. It's amazing.
  • Interviewer: What's the funniest thing you've ever read about yourself on the internet?
  • Ed: That I introduced Adele and her husband Simon. Um, 'cause I do - I now - know them, but like when that came out I, well I'd met Adele, but I'd never met Simon. So I don't know how I could've introduced them.
  • Interviewer: Would you love to work with Adele?
  • Ed: Yeah. I don't think anyone's going to work with Adele. I think Adele kind of doesn't want to work with anyone. I think she does her own thing. So yeah, I think I'd say yes but I don't think it would ever happen.
  • Interviewer: What's the best way to relax for Ed Sheeran?
  • Ed: Sleep. Always a good way, yeah.
  • Interviewer: That's what I do as well. Name one thing you can't live without.
  • Ed: Um. My cats.
  • Interviewer: How many cats do you have?
  • Ed: Two. And they're GREAT.
  • Interviewer: Are you thinking about getting a third one?
  • Ed: I think it'd be unfair. They're sisters, so if you add another cat into the mix it might get weird.
  • Interviewer: What scares you the most?
  • Ed: Uh, heights. Yeah.
  • Interviewer: Me too, I'm afraid of heights. Have you ever done a bungee jump?
  • Ed: I did, yeah. I hated it. Have you done it?
  • Interviewer: Really, you did it?! So you've probably beat that then.
  • Ed: No, no it's made it even worse. Even worse, yeah. Never do it.
  • Interviewer: Really? Okay, I'm not gonna do it then. Thanks for the tip man.
  • Ed: Oh god, I'm just remembering falling down that, like oh god, it was horrible.
  • Interviewer: What was your first job?
  • Ed: My first job, I worked in a pub. I washed, I did the washing up in a pub.
  • Interviewer: If you could travel to any place in the whole world, where would you go?
  • Ed: ...Iceland. Iceland again. I love, I love, I love Iceland.
  • Interviewer: So you've been there, like-?
  • Ed: Once. But it was one of the best places I've ever been to.
  • Interviewer: Have you ever been to Finland?
  • Ed: Yeah. I've been to Finland, yeah. I think I played a small show in Finland once.
  • Interviewer: If you were in a boyband, what would the band's name be?
  • Ed: Wrong Direction.
  • Interviewer: [Laughs] Wrong Direction, I love that. What's the best piece of advice you've ever received?
  • Ed: Always be nice to people.
  • Interviewer: That's cool. It works out every time. If you could work with any artist in the world, who would it be?
  • Ed: Beyonce. Beyonce. I have worked with her before, but not on an original song.
  • Interviewer: Could you name three things that make you happy right now? This Wednesday.
  • Ed: Uh, my cats. Pictures of my cats. And hearing about my cats. I like my cats. Three things.
  • Interviewer: [Laughs] What's the biggest no-no purchase you've ever bought?
  • Ed: No-no? Astin Martin. Astin Martin, yeah. I only drove it a couple of times.
  • Interviewer: Really?! How much was it?
  • Ed: It wasn't cheap. I feel like, I felt... I got it, and I felt cool. And then I felt like an idiot. I don't think sports cars are for me.
  • Interviewer: Do you still have it?
  • Ed: I do still have it, yeah. I let my manager's wife drive it. She uses it.

daedricsheep  asked:

best piece of dialogue advice i ever got, i'm not sure from whom, but i loved it. They said, and i'm paraphrasing "You don't need to write how people actually talk. Have you ever listened to people actually talk? It's boring, they repeat themselves, often times conversations go nowhere. What you have to do is write how people /think/ people talk, and hold the audience's attention with that."

An excellent tip!  Thank you for sharing it.  <3

Fanfiction Writer Appreciation Day

This kind of snuck up on me, but I would like share a snippet from a writing blog I just started, because it’s apt. (Slightly edited.)

I’ve been writing for most of my life now. I don’t think I could imagine not writing. But am I a writer? When does one become a writer? Do I have to be published before I can call myself a writer?

I’ve come to the conclusion that if you write, you’re a writer. It doesn’t matter if it’s fanfiction, or a blog, or a story you’ve been working on for years. You may never be published, but you’re creating something.

I’ve find that that the biggest barrier, other than time, is yourself. One of the best pieces of advice I ever recieved was to just write. Write every day. Don’t stop even if you know what you’re writing will be in the bin at the end of it. You’re not going to create something without blood, sweat and tears.

I know I have days where I struggle, where everything I write is awful. For me, I think it’s made me a better writer.

I will continue to write and enjoy telling my stories along the way.

So to all you writers out there, keep on writing. :)

anonymous asked:

this is not a request, I just want an advice on how to boost my self confidence. I don't like my body, my face, my voice, everything about me is not good. I am skinny at the top, but like, my butt and tights are fat. I never looked in the mirror and said that I like what I see. People always stare at me, and it made me not to go out of the house (now for 2 weeks). I don't want to change the way I look, I just want to love the way I am, but I can't. I need an advice. Thanks in advance

Ugh, girl, this is so hard, and we’ve both been there for sure. Learning to love yourself inside and out is a continuous process that requires serious effort. It’s different for every person and we can only speak to our experiences.

Before you can love yourself you have to accept all of who you are for face value. Recognize that you can’t change the body/voice/etc that you were given, but also recognize that every part of you does what it’s supposed to do, what it was literally made to do. Those thighs may be thick but they carry you everywhere!! You may not like your voice but it enables you to communicate and make friends and love people with words!! It’s all about changing your perspective instead of actually changing anything about who you are or what you look like.

I (A) was very unhappy with the way I looked and who I was for a looooong time. To be at the point where I am now (loving myself more than I ever have), it took a lot of reflection of what I focus on when I see myself. I would focus on every seemingly negative facet of my personality/body instead of the good things, like what my friends would describe me as if they were asked about me. It took lots of time (and therapy which is totally helpful and would recommend 10/10) to totally flip my perspective on myself and turn my attention to my positive attributes instead of my flaws. This didn’t mean I started to just ignore my flaws, though. I had to learn to love (or at least accept those too). A very eye-opening moment in this journey of self-love was when one of my best friends at the time first expressed her hatred of her body to me. This came as a huuuuuge surprise to me considering I had always seen her body as my ideal body, and I always thought about how lucky she is to be this standard idea of what beautiful was (though I didn’t want to admit it). When I told her this, she had the same reaction and told me that she felt the same way about my body. We were both so taken back, and I realized the truth of the phrase “everyone wants what they don’t have.”

One of the best pieces of advice I (L) ever received about self love was to look in the mirror every morning and talk to yourself as if you’re talking to your daughter. When I first heard this I thought it sounded pretty weird and sort of dumb, but then I started doing it, and it’s actually been one of the greatest things in the world. What do I (one day when I have children) want my daughter to think about herself when she looks in the mirror every morning? I tell myself that. This was not at all something that immediately altered the way I see my body, but after a lot of time it really did help to change the way I treat myself. I’m not a cookie-cutter “beautiful” person (who is??) but I’ve learned to love my body because it’s good to me. I’m healthy and I can do anything I want to if I work hard enough. And that fact itself is beautiful. That doesn’t mean there aren’t days that I wake up and don’t like what I see in the mirror, but they’re a lot fewer in number than they were when I was in high school.  I would say I’m more confident now than I’ve ever been, because telling myself over and over and over again that I am beautiful and sexy (and smart, and a good sister, and a loyal friend - these things are important to remind yourself of, too) and also just a cool person in general has honestly made me believe it.

Put all ideas of what you think your body should look like out of your mind. Unfollow instagram models, don’t stress about clothing sizes, get all that bullshit out of your life. Focus on what you have, and slowly try to shift the way you see each part of yourself that you feel isn’t good enough. Your body, your voice, everything - they’re all more than good enough. Own what you’ve got!!! And never let fear of what other people think keep you from living your life, because it’s yours and there’s so much to see and do and experience and people to love and places to go and you only get one shot!!! Fuck everyone else. Don’t expect things to change overnight and keep working at it. We love you just the way you are and we’re positive so many other people do too!!!!

xoxo, L & A