bereavement

It quickly dawned on me that in losing her, I had lost that enveloping sense of unconditional love. The remaining few people who loved me did so in a conditional sense, meaning that it could be withdrawn at any moment. I think that’s when my fear of abandonment intensified severely; based on past evidence that everyone who I love leaves me eventually, and the removal of the reassurance of unconditional love, I became fearful that unless I did my utmost best to make those important to me happy, their love for me would wither up and die, and then they would be gone, just like she was.
—  The Consequences of Losing a Mother Too Young #1
You will lose someone you can’t live without,and your heart will be badly broken, and the bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.
—  Anne Lamott

May you learn to trust grief and let it take you where you need to go to heal.

May your heart heal of old wounds and regrets so that it may open to greater love and joy.

May you celebrate—every day—the wonder and mystery of being alive.

—  Honoring Grief by Alexandra Kennedy, MA

FORGET ME KNOT TO ALWAYS REMEMBER

FLAME IN OUR HEARTS

 

Memories are our comfort in the glimmer of a flame,

Knotted emotions to unravel and obtain,

Together, forever to be in our hearts, the aim.


You had to leave, nothing will be the same,

Your wisdom, great heart, laughter was our gain,

Memories are our comfort in the glimmer of a flame.


Never to hear your voice, is such a shame,

To move on, as you wish us to, an awful strain,

Together, forever to be in our hearts, the aim.


No more visiting and calling your name,

The world two dimensional, colourless and plain,

Memories are our comfort in the glimmer of a flame.


Our rampaging grief, we will eventually tame,

Fond memories of you, minus loss and the pain,

Together, forever to be in our hearts, the aim.


In our minds eye, your qualities we revere and frame,

How much you meant to us, we hoped we’d explain,

Memories are our comfort in the glimmer of a flame,

You are together, forever in our hearts, again.


- source - Lisa Lopresti