What exactly is the point? What is the end goal? You can't actually help Ben.
Who says I can’t help him? I know he lurks. Sometimes all you can do to help if offer emotional support. And I know I’ve helped others who found my blog. They were able to realize they were the victims of narcs and were able to get help for themselves. And that is reason enough to keep going. Besides, sometimes you just have to do the right thing, just because it’s the right thing. I don’t expect to gain anything but satisfaction that I did the right thing and was able to help a few people along the way.