I feel like the fandom is being too quick to judge Xe'ra’s prophecy. I mean, no part of it has come to fruition yet and people are already claiming it ruined Illidan’s character when the only impact it’s had on him thus far is that it strengthened his beliefs. Who knows, maybe this could play out in a way none of us expected. I just wish people would give it a chance.

-Syn: I just didn’t like the way Xe’ra was like “Oh your redemption for killing Illidan will come with his revival,” like yeah okay bitch, I helped kill him, but he WAS being an asshat. I don’t need to be redeemed, you’re (Xe’ra) just being overly judgmental, or too forgiving, a bit of both really, you hypocrite. 

Stop fitness shaming!

I am so sick of people being so judgmental about other people’s personal decision. You want to eat high fat? Go for it! Want to count calories? Go for it! Stop judging what other people do! It is so much pressure to feel like you have to be someone that wakes up at 5 am every morning to go jogging then comes back home to make an instagram worthy acai bowl with produce from a local farmers market. Sometimes fitness means just parking a little bit farther away or taking a walk on your work break and having a frozen healthy meal. Be proud of your everyday changes and don’t be afraid to not be perfect.

How to Start Loving Who You Are

1. Start by being kind and gentle with yourself. There are plenty of people who would love to criticise … So be your own protector and your own best friend.

2. Choose self-love over self-hatred. Many people find they veer between these two extremes – but over time gravitate more towards one or the other (through automatic thinking and their inner dialogue) … So actively reject self-hatred, and then exercise self-love.

3. Stop being harsh and judgmental, and accept your imperfections. We’re all flawed and broken, and we all make bad mistakes.  

4. Start enjoying who you are, and being alone with yourself. Embrace solitude, and the chance to be with “you”.

5. Think of all the different things you’re grateful for in life, and the people who have loved you, and have seen the good in you. As you do that, you will start to value who, and what, you are.


Blackwall Greatly Approves


Absolutely brilliant article. Worth to read it. And couple Cait’s pic just in case you forgot how “ugly” she is. 😡 Seriously look at this Beautiful woman. ANYONE who can pick her apart IMO has huge issues themselves. When you shine from within & have beautiful physical features you are going to threaten those who do not. Caitriona is a Class Act from Head to Toe! ❤️


The gift of a great name. Sometimes that’s all one needs.

When people you love are mean

So, in a recent post in which I referenced “You’re ok, they’re mean” as a response to ableism, I got responses along the lines of:

“But what about when it’s my parents? Or people who are really nice in other ways? Or my friends? Or people I respect? How can I say they are mean?”

The short answer: people are complicated. 

It’s possible for someone to be mean sometimes, but not always. Actually, most people aren’t mean all the time. (Even if they are mean to *you* all the time).

Hateful aspects of someone’s personality or behavior don’t cancel out the parts of them that are loving and respectful. They coexist.

And it cuts both ways - the loving or respectful aspects of their personality or behavior don’t cancel out the parts of them that are mean. 

When they are being mean, it’s important to recognize that they are being mean, and that it’s wrong for them to be mean to you. Even though they aren’t mean all the time and you respect them in other ways.

Sometimes, when people who you love are mean, it’s possible to talk to them about it and show them that it hurts you. Sometimes they don’t realize they’re being mean, and sometimes they stop once they realize. But not always. Sometimes they don’t believe you, or don’t care. You have to use your judgement about which kind of situation you’re in.

And in any case, it starts by recognizing the mean behavior or attitudes as mean. If people think less of you because of your disability, or who you love, or anything else like that, they’re being mean. It’s a reflection on them, not you.

You’re ok. They’re mean.

  • me:English is ever-evolving and pronunciation is regional and arbitrary and there's not really a single correct way to speak so we all need to stop being so judgmental!
  • other person:"eck-spresso"
Total asshole! Probably the worst asshole there is. You wouldn’t know it right away because I guess he doesn’t yell at people like me? But that probably makes it worse. He just goes on and on about the most sanctimonious, incomprehensible garbage you ever heard. He thinks he’s better than everyone but then dresses it up in this bogus hyper-academic humility. He tries to defend people with “problems” but just winds up insulting those people in backhanded ways. He lectures people endlessly, and whenever he rises to the “defense” of his friends he usually ends up giving them a big fuck you by being implicitly judgmental.
—  Hamilton about Jefferson
Stop making ‘skinny’ girls feel bad just for the sake of 'bigger’ girls — you’re not making anyone feel better. Stop thinking that relatively 'pretty’ girls have never been insecure – stop getting angry at them whenever they decide to tell you about their insecurities because it probably took them a lot of guts to tell you. Stop slut-shaming just because of the clothes a person wears – how much sexual activity you’ve had isn’t defined by the length of a skirt or the tightness of a dress. Stop being so judgmental – as humans, it is practically wired into our brains to judge others but what can make you better than the rest is using the power of self-control to not say anything about someone before you actually get to know them.
—  k.m. (tyrades)
To have genuine sincerity is absolutely necessary in the spiritual life. Sincerity encompasses the qualities of honesty, genuineness, and integrity.

To be sincere does not mean to be perfect. In fact, the very effort to be perfect is itself insincere, because it is a way of avoiding seeing yourself as you are right now. To be able and willing to see yourself as you are, with all of your imperfections and illusions, requires genuine sincerity and courage.

If we are constantly trying to hide from ourselves, we will never be able to awaken from our illusion of self.

In order to be sincere you must let go of being judgmental toward yourself. Being judgmental covers over your access to true sincerity and at times even masquerades as sincerity.

True sincerity reveals a powerful form of clarity and discernment that is necessary in order to perceive yourself honestly without flinching or being held captive by your conditioned mind’s judgments and defensiveness.
—  Adyashanti

Taureans are not judgmental, despite being stubborn. They are quite open   to listening to another person’s point of view, possibly ask questions… even give the impression of conversion. But Taurus will go home and keep believing what he believes - they are ingrained and deeply attached to their beliefs. He may just go home and have a warm, endearing laugh about it, ‘oh she’s so cute. she really does believe in astrology. what a mystical head… lol’ 

the dramione fandom is always attacked and it is pissing me off, to say the least.

we’re constantly criticized by the rest of the fandom for a ship we’ve defended and justified logically time & time again. we’ve been nicknamed “ron bashers”, “nxzi-apologists”, “homophobes”, and who knows what else. we’re called out for being too picky by authors who get mad when people ask for a story with accurate characterization (which might help the previous point tbh). jk rowling mocks and dismisses us as “girls who fell in love with draco because of tom felton” (LITERALLY, NO). we are ALWAYS on the defense when we’re going through our own tag because people are intent on being judgmental.

i’m tired of the hate and i’m tired of the in-fighting. dramione is one of the most popular ships in the fandom, so honestly, people need to get used to it. i promise, most dramione shippers are genuinely nice people and we GENUINELY do not think that an unredeemed draco would ever be worthy of  hermione. we don’t hate ron, we’re not racists, we’re not homophobes, we can appreciate drarry, we can appreciate romione, we can appreciate drinny and drastoria and drapple, too. we are all human beings and no one deserves to be constantly reamed for liking a ship that you don’t. i’ve never posted hate about someone else’s ship, i’ve never depreciated a character to inflate draco or hermione, and i’m just frustrated.