being defensive

Somin vs Jiwoo

This gotta stop man. I was thinking to wirte this since KARAD released Don’t Recall but then I thought everything has already cool down but nope… when they upload the dance version there were a lot of dissatisfaction. Sigh.

Like seriously guys? They didn’t debut yet and you all fighting about “equalism”. Geez.

before I start let me clarified myself first. Yes, my bias is Somin. I’ve known her since Puretty and till now I’m still rooting for her. Never miss anything new or updates about her activities . So, excuse me for being defensive over her. But, doesn’t mean that I didn’t like the other members of KARD!

First of all, Oh Nana. Poeple said that it’s unfair that Somin sang a lot and JIwoo has so little part. Come on guys. Obviously DSP going to give the limelight to their most famous trainee/artist. Somin is popular and a lot of people look up amd support KARD in the first place was because Somin is in the group.

Somin is also the most experience. We are not talking about seniority here okay guys. We are solely talking about EXPERIENCES.

In Oh nana for me between the girls they got equal lines. They sang the chorus part together. And yes, you can hear Somin’s voice more in the song but maybe because Somin’s voice suited more compared to Jiwoo’s voice (gosh i freaking love her husky voice TT). Even when you see the live version when they perform Jiwoo sang with Somin but then ended up only let Somin sing and Jiwoo focus n dancing. Maybe she still not comfortable and need the courage and be more ease on the stage in terms of singing (we know she’s really good in dancing, that freaking charisma <3). It also gained Jiwoo more fans as people start to know the group which makes me so happy TT.

Then I saw someone commented on one of the video that the more she/he watch Somin the more that person doesn’t like her. Reason? Because she’s so touchy/clingy to the boys. SERIOUSLY? Like seriously -.- They’ve known each other for freaking 5 years. they were in the dungeon together… what did you expect???Somin is a tye of person that like to smile, laugh and very affectionate.

The Don’t Recall came out. geez guys. *facepalm*

obviously the same problem, not equal line between the girls! Like come on.

This time obviously DSP gave Jiwoo to shine! They gave the really badass and cool line in the beginning to Jiwoo! she can show off that husky sexy voice! obviously that part suitable for Jiwoo so they gave it to her. The same thing when they gave the chorus to Somin because it suited her voice. Even if you watch the live version and see their singing parts it is faitly distributeed between the girls!

and yes, it actually makes me sad that people commenting about Jiwoo and so little thing about Somin. But, it’s their right. is that who you like then go ahead. But then don’t get bitter when someone do/say the same thing about Somin that she didn’t get enough love like Jiwoo in Oh nana. Don’t says that “Oh! Somin already shines in Oh nana and a lot of people talks about her and no one talks about Jiwoo bla bla bla” Like seriously? Obviously people will talk about Somin because they don’t know Jiwoo yet! and people keep comparing them. Gosh!

They both obviously have different style! Jiwoo with more powerful, edgy and husky dance/voice.Whereas Somin with powerful, sexy and smooth dance/voice. Both of them have differemt aura okay! They compliment each other. There obviously something that Somin is weak at and there is somthing that Jiwoo weak at. They help to fill the gap that both of them don’t have.

I just don’t get it why can people not fight about the boys and can fight about the girls. Instead of comparing and complaining, support ALL OF THEM. There will always be a time where on person will shine more but they can take turn! there will always be a time whereby Somin sings more or Jiwoo sings more. but it’s not the end of KARD! in fact, DSP is really good when it comes to line distribution along the way. ex: KARA. Yes, I’m sure April will be soon TT. At lest their b-sides they gave the members to shine XD

So yeah, I apologize if I hurt any of you fans’ heart. Can’t help it when it is the truth. It needs to be said. Sorry for the very lengthy post.


What needs to happen in Infinity War

- Thor finds Avengers in Wakanda and asks where the Man of Iron is only to find out Tony is cleaning up the mess the Avengers left with no help at all.

- Tony rebuilding and trying to get his life back under control after being betrayed by virtually every member of Team Cap.

- Team Cap needs Tony’s help and they have to ask for his help.

- Fury telling them to fuck off because Stark is still cleaning up their last mess don’t bring another one.

- Tony telling Steve that if he wants his help he’d better get an apology, and be treated with respect, and not be alone with any member of Team Cap.

- Sam finds out that Tony gave Steve multiple chances to get help and not create the mess that was left.

- Sam finding Rhodes and making sure he’s okay and they bond over military experiences.

- Rhodes telling Sam about how Tony knew where they were and kept Ross away from them, yelling at him about how Tony had to clean up their mess even after watching his parent’s murder walk free.

- Sam being confused and asking what that means so Rhodes tells him about the tape and how Tony watched the Winter Soldier beat his father and strangle his mother. About how Cap KNEW but didn’t tell Tony, even lied to his face. About the 24 hours and how Steve said no because Tony ‘locker Wanda in her room’. About two Super Soldiers ganging up on Tony who shouldn’t have reacted violently but Sam you’re a councilor how would you have reacted to watching your parents murder with the murderer right next to you?

- Sam confront Steve about the tape, the lying, the not telling Sam about the deal that could’ve helped, about how Tony was LEFT IN THE COLD ALONE WITH A DISABLED SUIT STEVE WHAT IN THE HELL YOU DO NOT LEAVE A MAN BEHIND.

- Sam understanding that maybe Tony Stark isn’t what everyone describes.

- Sam apologizing to Tony and telling him he didn’t know any of what he’d learned.

- Tony not feeling guilty because he did the right fucking thing.


- Captain America finally getting his ass chewed for what he did to Tony and how he’s treated him over the years, accusing him of holding back secrets and being a liability when Steve didn’t tell the team the whole story!!!


- Somebody seeing Tony trying to rewrite the Accords because they were going to happen with or without him but at least he was trying to get to a point to where he could alter them!


How each Zodiac Sign react to being embarassed:

ARIES: sudden burst of big laugther then smacks everyone to shut up.

TAURUS: freezes and doesn’t move or hugs the nearest thing/person they find safety in. 

GEMINI: turns bright red and tries to embarrass everyone else.

CANCER: crying a flood of tears

LEO: silently crying in the inside with a little smile to mask their pain.

VIRGO: is super chill or gets really really angry because it’s someone elses fault that they got embarassed in the first place! 

LIBRA: laughs and cries at the same time.

SCORPIO: anyone who laughs is now considered an enemy

SAGITTARIUS: being super defensive that it wasn’t their fault

CAPRICORN: standing in a corner with head tilted down

AQUARIUS: hides their face

PISCES: thinks about it for the longest time and occasionally remembers from time to time so they randomly trigger themselves.

6 Ways to Build a Strong Relationship

1. Relationships aren’t about having another person satisfy or fulfil you. They’re about building each other up, and appreciating each other’s uniqueness - whilst also enjoying togetherness, and a degree of interdependency.

2. Although the first flush of love can blind you to their flaws, you need to see your partner for who they really are. That is, we all have our shortcoming, our weaknesses.

3. Be willing to learn and grow with your partner. Instead of being defensive, or demanding your own way, take the time to understand your partner’s perspective – and, hopefully, your partner will learn from you, as well.

4. Learn to appreciate solitude. We need to be comfortable being alone, and to accept and be at peace with the unique person we are, in order to be healthy in relationships.

5. When it comes to arguments, look for the real reasons why you fight and disagree. Often there’s a pattern to when and why we fight – which points to buried issues, to hurt and unmet needs.

6. Embrace the ordinary in your relationships. In time, the fairy-dust will settle and things will feel humdrum. But the day-to-day has meaning when it’s shared with those you love.


endless list of favorite characters + Mary Stuart

“ I will let no one, not Elizabeth, not any usurper, take my country from me. Since I was a babe, I have been a Queen. Since a child, I have been alone on foreign soil. I know how to keep my life, my crown and I will. “

Helpful Tips for Handling Criticism

1. Try and understand the other person’s perspective. They may just be feeling down, or be having a bad day, or there may be some truth in what they have to say. Don’t write them off, and dismiss them right away - but listen and process what they have to say.

2. Don’t jump to being defensive. Try and learn what you can. But also weigh what they are saying – as they could have got it wrong!

3. Don’t accept criticism from those you don’t respect. They’re view’s not trustworthy – don’t take them seriously.

4. Work on delaying your immediate reaction. Don’t respond right away – work on feeling more detached. That will lessen the emotion so your mind stays in control!

5. Where appropriate … admit that you were wrong as we all make mistakes. It makes you seem more secure as well as more self-confident. Also, it removes the emotions and will calm the person down.

6. Be proud of yourself if you’ve taken a risk. Even if it went badly, it is good that you have tried!

Why I Liked DBS Ep 65:

Goku: “You know what? I’ve taken a lot of shit from this series.”

“I’ve been made stupid. I’ve been called selfish. And I’ve taken it all.”

“Vegeta saves his son from a blast, loses half his armor”

“and is called the greatest dad.”

“I’ve willingly

and purposefully

took a hole through my chest

to save my son and 

I’m a terrible father.”

“So you know something?”

“Fuck this fanbase.”

“FUCK this script!”



here’s the biggest problem with SU aside from the actual show: the creators refuse to acknowledge criticism at all and are even vitriolic about it 

it creates a fanbase that refuses to acknowledge any and all problems because let’s face it, they know their audience and they know it’s not just kids because if it were then they could talk about it without being overly defensive– i think it’s really because SU knows it’s no longer impressing its audience as a whole, it’s no longer getting away with anything based on the sole notion of being psuedo-progressive (bc honestly, a love of the appeal of SU is the novelty of being included… but treatment matters too)

SU becomes more and more like TTG every day and we’ve seen it in episodes like Historical Friction where the opinions of the crewniverse (namely matt burnette who’s been particularly hostile to criticism) have inappropriately taken over for an entire episode of guilt-tripping 

however, unlike TTG’s philosophy of “well it’s just a kid’s show!!” they’ve taken to guilt-tripping the audience and underestimating our intelligence by saying “we’re the ONLY ones making complex female characters, YOU think they shouldn’t be, YOU’RE the one who doesn’t see the value in kid’s media” 

so instead of taking criticism like Adults, they shame their audience for daring to say anything and effectively silence them and then create a model for the fandom to act like there’s nothing wrong with it and beat down anyone who says otherwise, it’s not really responsible at all and it’s particularly nasty to guilt your audience (especially since i can guarantee it’s not just teens and adults who are starting to see the problems… or maybe the creators themselves think kids are too dumb to catch it too :/)  

You know, I deleted this, because I was just going to ignore it, but the more I sit here the more this festers in my mind.

They are not ‘both correct’. Yes, in a general sense the name can be spelled with either a C or a K, but they are not both correct for Victor Nikiforov.

My name is Allison. I have seen it spelled Alison, Allyson, Alyson, Allision, etc, etc. These are are valid spellings in a general sense. Only one is correct for my name though and that is Allison.

And yes, people spell it wrong constantly and I ignore it, because they don’t know better, but to willingly misspell my name after I tell you the correct spelling?

That’s rude and disrespectful.

The spelling of a person’s name is not an opinion.

Every piece of canon information says Victor Nikiforov. There is no canon material with a K, because that is the incorrect spelling.

You are willfully ignoring canon for your own aesthetic.

The Spider-Man: Homecoming trailer has been out for less than 12 hours and I get on Tumblr to see endless posts of people complaining about Tony Stark, a post comparing Tony Stark fans to Donald Trump supporters, and anonymous hate mail in my inbox because I’m excited about Tony being in Spider-Man.

Like honestly let us like what we like guys, I’m so tired of this fandom. It’s okay if you don’t like Tony Stark, you don’t have to, but please stop trying to bring down and hate on the people who do. It’s like some people think we’re genuinely fundamentally bad people for liking a specific fictional character, and I don’t get it.

A primer for the coming hypocrisy:

Now that Mitch McConnell has announced that Americans won’t stand for Democrats doing what his Republicans have been doing since March by obstructing hearings on a Supreme Court nominee, and Donald Trump is draining the swamp by filling it, a primer for the coming hypocrisies:

–when deficits explode (after years of declining under President Obama), it won’t matter, because as Dick Cheney famously said, “deficits don’t matter.” Except when run by Democrats.

–when, after decades of being the “strong on defense” and “anti-Soviet” party, the Republicans suddenly embrace Vladimir Putin and dismiss Russian hacking of an American election, it won’t matter because Trump will be “good” in negotiations, while Obama rolled over repeatedly.

–when, after decades of being the “pro-CIA,” “pro-muscular foreign policy” party, the Republicans dismiss intelligence analysis because it leads to unfortunate conclusions, it won’t matter, because Trump knows more about hacking than the NSA does.

–when, after decades of being the “free trade,” “free market” party, Trump makes political deals to protect some jobs and industries (but not others), it won’t matter because he is “saving jobs for *real* Americans” … and you know who “real” Americans are.

–when other presidents have sought to free themselves of even the appearance that their actions might have business implications for their “real” lives, while Trump remains utterly entangled in his “real” job (as opposed to his presidential hobby), it won’t matter because … well, fuck it: because he says so.

In all these and many more, it can all be explained with a simple truth: #It’s Different When We Do It. 

  • Rin: *can't find Haruka in the crowd* Where is he? Well, time for drastic measures...
  • Rin: *cupping hands around mouth* RIN MATSUOKA IS SUCH A JACKASS, NO ONE NEEDS HIM!
  • Haruka: *from across the street* WHO SAID THAT?!
  • Rin: There he-
  • Makoto: Why would you say something like that?!
  • Nagisa: Say that to my face, you jerk!
  • Rei: I've never heard something so rude!
  • Nitori: Senpai is a good person, how could you?!
  • Momo: Shut up, YOU'RE the jackass!
  • Seijuurou: Who's the asshole saying stupid things?!

I’ve gotten:

  • Percy calling Whitestone Castle “his sister’s”
  • Percy pulling Vex aside to do the do in the Castle’s Treasury
  • Percy being super defensive of his own tinkering skills in the face of Opposition
  • Percy flirting openly with Vex’ahlia
  • Percy showing Rich Boi With Daddy Issues around his workshop (senpai)
  • Percy teaching Vex about money and spending it and being a legit member of royalty