being a person is complicated

You’ve lost someone you thought was the love of your life and I know you think it will hurt like this forever, but I promise you it doesn’t. I’m not saying you’ll suddenly wake up one day and it’ll be like it never happened – because it won’t…
There will always be a loss, there’s no if’s or but’s about that. If you lose an amazing person from your life – that leaves a hole in your heart that nobody else can ever fill… You can find happiness, you can find other people and things to fill your heart in other places… but the space that belonged to that person will always be empty. Because human beings are unique and complicated creatures, and when you combine two of them together you get a love that is just as unique and therefore irreplaceable. So don’t try to replace them because you can’t… and get out of the mindset that you’ll never love anybody as much or that no other relationship will compare to what you’ve lost. You don’t love people ‘more’ or ‘less’ than each other – you just love them differently.
The way you love somebody else will be different yes – but it will not be ‘more’ or ‘less’ or ‘better’ or ‘worse’… just different… and that’s okay. You will find love again, but it’s never going to be the same love… and it’s only when you’re able to accept that and open yourself to the idea, that you’re finally ready to move on.
—  Ranata Suzuki | Don’t say you’ll never love again

To love me means also loving to hear all the raging thoughts in my head at one in the morning when all of my frustrations suddenly burst; it also means embracing all the quirkiness wrapped around my entirety like adoring how beautiful the stars up above midnight or how the clouds move in a slow motion to form warriors and knights; it may as well mean coming with me at Mcdonald’s when I crave for some fries and sundae at two in the morning; it’s also defined as listening to my senseless and repetitious stories about my dreams, fantasies and everyday life. To love me means swearing that you would listen to the songs I would tell to you in the middle of the day because I assure you, you’d be hearing from me talking about them from time to time.

Loving someone like me isn’t easy for I am someone scarred badly in the past. My whole system is composed of heartaches, pains, sorrows and miseries—I am imperfectly flawed but that made me who I am. To love me is to embrace those imperfections stitched through my veins. To love me means allowing me to have solitude once in a while since I have these moments that I want to shut my world down from everybody else; I have those dark times that I never wanted to talk to anybody at all and just want to lock myself in my own world. Just give me some time to think, at the end of the day I will come back to you. To love me is to tell me how much you care for me even in the slightest way—I will surely appreciate that even my form of appreciation and gratitude is to tell how corny or annoying you are, but deep down, your words mean a lot and warmed my heart. To love me means staying with me no matter how messy and difficult I could be. All I ever want is someone who will stand right behind me during my darkest and worst moments of my life.

To love me is to tell me your thoughts and opinions about the things I keep on telling you about even they mean nothing to you. To love me is to allow me to grow with you as a being physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually.

I am a complicated and difficult person. I am crazy, wild, freak, easily hurt and gullible. So tell me you love me when you only mean it. I don’t have time for some franks or what. I have had enough of heartbreaks in my past. I am aging and all I ever want for now is a stable and long-lasting relationship that would make me choose to stay no matter how many rocks were thrown at us or no matter how turbulent and bumpy the roads may get.

To love me means a little bit of sacrifice. But I can guarantee you that I could make you feel you’re the best person in the world and you didn’t make the wrong choice by choosing me over them. With me, I can make you feel disconnected from the rest of the galaxy. I will surely make tons of efforts for our relationship to keep going and last. It will be a tough ride for the both of us but I can assure you that it will be worth it and filled with so much fun. To love me means needing and wanting me like the way I do to you.

—  redserpent42, To Love Someone Like me
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pairings: klaus mikaelson x reader; kol mikaelson x reader.

warnings: fingering, oral sex (female receiving), sex, teasing, swearing; NSFW +18.

A/N: writing this challenged me a lot, so the feedback is really really important. i want to know if y’all enjoyed this. :)

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Lily Evans was a constellation of a million beautiful and complicated things, and James, being the person he is, could point out a whole bunch of them by now. And yet, he felt as if he didn’t know her at all. This girl with flaming red hair and a voice that never wavered… He had known her for six years now and yet each time he laid eyes on her he felt as a mathematician faced with a new puzzle. But James wasn’t a mathematician, and Lily was not, in any way, a puzzle to be solved. He didn’t want to either. He didn’t want to solve her and then put her away like a closed case. He wanted to know her. He wanted to learn all the things she was and all the things she was going to be. He wanted to see her grow, and change, and be. But even if he was fortunate enough to get that, he knew that he would never know her. Not fully, not completely. And that’s why he was in love with her, he supposed. Because Lily Evans was as infinite and ever-changing as the universe itself

[excerpt from the Trace of Mischiefs: The Story of the Marauders – coming back soon]

Being Davina's Magicless Twin Sister would include..

• Being the wild one.

• Being the badass one.

• Marcel having a lot of trouble looking out for you.

• Staying in the church, only for your sister.

• Thinking you’re the less interesting one.

• Secretly being the poetic one with a poetic sense of music.

• Hating being normal so, you hide your pain with carlessness.

• Everyone mistaking you for her.

• Always being the bait in plans.

• Klaus thinking you’re special.

• Klaus offering you to come live with him when he restores New Orleans from Marcel.

• You agreeing to his offer.

• Venting out to Klaus.

• Rare Nik hugs.

• Cuddles from Klaus when you have nightmares.

• Elijah thinking you’re the more adorable female version of Nik.

• Elijah giving you free hugs when everything is too much to handle.

• “Hugs are free, you know.”

• Klaus and Marcel taking you out for your first drink.

• Being BFFs with Kol.

• Being sarcastic and cold, like Klaus when angry.

• Finn understanding your “complicated” personality.

• Finn not understanding how you still tolerate Davina after everything you went through because of her.

• Finn not understanding that you went through everything, you did, for her.

• Rebekah being there for you.

• Rebekah thinking your tantrums are more tolerable than Nik’s, even though there’s no difference.

• “Us girls need to look out for each other.”

• Mourning Davina’s death with Kol.

• Acting cold after her death, that everyone thought you’ve somehow managed to flip the switch, despite being human.

• Klaus seeing right through you.

• “You’re not fine.”

• Hayley understanding having to lose your family.

• Hayley looking out for you.

• Gia teaching you how to play the violin.

• Gia leaving you her violin.

• Trusting Freya from the beginning, because you understood how she felt.

• Kicking ass with Freya.

• Jackson teaching you some combat skills.

• Everyone expecting the worst of you but, a few - Kol, Klaus and Freya.

• Esther treating you like Klaus.

• Mikael kidnapping you.

• Mikael wondering how you can be so brave, yet so broken.

• Mikael thinking you’re a lot like Klaus but, never admitting it.

• Being the only person besides the Mikaelsons that knows of Hope.

• Protecting Hope like you did your sister.

• The witches attempting to poison you, later on with a poison so strong, that nothing can cure you.

• The Mikaelsons taking turns, trying to heal you with their blood, but failing.

• The poison killing you, slowly.

• Freya finding a spell to take most of your pain away.

• The Mikaelsons taking shifts, nursing you.

• When Nik’s shift comes, you look at him and smile.

• “What?”

• “Are those tears for me, Tough Guy?”

• Being surrounded by the remaining Mikaelsons, Hayley and Marcel in your last moments.

• “I-I’m p-proud of you .. All of you .. Proud .. O-of us.”

• Klaus having a coffin made, especially for you.

• Rebekah dressing you in a black dress, she never worn and that you always thought was awesome.

• Klaus swearing he’ll find a way to bring you back.

• Coming back as a vampire hours later in your badass glore - Black dress, styled hair and all.

• “I’m back, bitches!!”

• The Mikaelsons staring at you in astonishment.

• Them smiling at you in disbelief.

• “One can never get rid of you, can’t we?”

• “You all actually cried.”

• Teasing them about their, previously shed tears.

• Them not hearing the end of it from you.

anonymous asked:

I really want the touken talk to happen, not just because I ship them. It's also because I feel like kaneki needs someone to confined to someone who knows him so well, it's good for his system.... what do you think? Also do you think kaneki will tell her that he didn't kill arima??

I’ve been talking about that with a friend a lot recently. Kaneki needs someone in whom he can trust, in a personal way. I dare to say that not even with Hide he showed that much confidence considering that he lied to him about his ghoul nature, which is natural but still, you can see that he still keeps a lot inside whether because it’s hard for him to trust in others or because he doesn’t want to bother them with his problems.

I have to point out one scene that I think can give more relevance to the touken talk and their relationship in general.

Yoshimura & Touka.

“if you are able to listen to their heart”

in the bridge she completely exposed Kaneki’s true selfish personality and even if it was harsh, everything she said about him was true. She listened to his heart and understood what he was trying to do, daring to say that she knows him better than he knows himself; the difference is that she couldn’t act in a mature way and maybe tell him those things in a different way, like Yoshimura was trying to teach her. 

But then we must consider that Touka, now, has changed a lot. She learned from Yoshimura and know she knows how to speak with someone in a rational and wise way. Everything she told to Amon was perfect, and you can see that her words had an impact on him because in the last chapter he went to see Akira, like she told him to do so. She was patient with Ayato, she knew what Tsukiyama was trying to do by wanting to get Kaneki back, she knew what Kaneki was about to do in chapter 72 and that’s why she told him I’ll see you later. She knows how to read other people’s hearts.

And then:

I don’t think Kaneki is aware that she’s there. That she has always been there, waiting for him, making a home for him. He doesn’t know how much she has changed, not completely, and at some point, in chapter 120, Kaneki opened up to her. He told her how he felt, that he wanted to protect everyone, to become stronger, that he was unsure of whether he should return to Anteiku or not… he didn’t actually lie to her until she got aggressive and then he touched his chin. He was being kinda honest, but Touka’s complicated personality ruined the moment. I feel like at some point Kaneki doesn’t have that confidence of telling her things because he’s afraid of her reaction (ESPECIALLY after the last punch). 

Hide also shared with Touka a lot of personal information about Kaneki. He told her about the play, that he’s always putting on a mask and “pretending to be someone else”, that he never “fights back” when people hurt him, I think he wanted for her to know, hoping that she could help him somehow. 

I think it’s been hinted quite enough that Touka has the ability to analyze/help others and many characters point that out to her constantly. And she learned, it’s just that Kaneki hasn’t been there to see that change, and after the punch he must think she’s still the same irascible girl from the past. This talk is extremely important for Kaneki to see that she has changed, and because I think Touka is the one who can help him fight his own demons. I’m not sure if they will talk about Arima, I’m not sure if Kaneki will dare to bring out that topic, but it’d be nice if they talk about it in the future in order to build a strong confidence. Right now I’m more interested to know why Touka hit him. But yeah, Touka knows Kaneki and she has a great advantage because of that.

anonymous asked:

why is bolas the big bad? why was him chosen and not another being?

It’s complicated. This is my own personal interpretation, not anything I’ve taken from any official explanation.

Pre-Mending, the Elder Dragons were introduced as these enormously powerful beings who rivaled planeswalkers in strength. Problem is, three of them were killed off in the comic books before Wizards took over the story internally. The fourth, Palladia-Mors, was put into an eternal sleep beneath the town of Mors Ridge.

That left Nicol Bolas, the nerd dragon. As best I can tell, propelling Nicol Bolas into awesome god-emperor status was entirely the doing of Author Scott McGough. Legends was the only magic set that didn’t really have any lore associated with it (I.E. it didn’t get a story, mostly because many of the characters were just the D&D characters of WotC employees), so the two Legends cycles of novels set about to give most of those Legends a home in the lore. The Legends II cycle used Nicol Bolas as the god-emperor of Madara, and inserted a bunch of other characters from Legends as well. It was basically used as a sequel trilogy to the Kamigawa novels. Bolas was killed at the end, but he seems pretty confident as he goes out that he’ll be back.

Soon afterward, the Mending comes and Bolas is revived. There aren’t a whole lot of oldwalkers left from around this time, and the two big bad planeswalkers that managed to survive the Apocalypse and whatever else the story had leftover were Leshrac and the newly revived Bolas. They, of course, fight it out for who is the biggest and baddest at the end of the multiverse (Leshrac wants whatever the rifts will do to the multiverse to happen, Bolas does not) and Bolas wins.

The reason he’s picked for the big bad over the rest of the story is for pretty good thematic reasons. Bolas was literally a god, he was nearly as strong as a planeswalker before his spark ignited, and afterwards he was so powerful he needed to anchor himself to leylines on a plane or risk destroying it by his mere presence. What does someone like that do when they lose all that power? His story and Liliana’s are parallels in that regard, and to a lesser extent all the other pre-mending planeswalkers. Bolas, by his nature as an Elder Dragon, is just a step above all the rest from the start, and what we’re seeing is his attempts to recover his power. Not just his personal power, but his ability to enforce his will.

MD's Top Med School Interview Tips

All of these tips are based on my own experience with 3 Medical School Interviews this year, if you have any more suggestions feel free to reblog and add them. My askbox is also open if you have any questions. 😊

{Interview Prep - A couple weeks before}

1. PREPARE WITH A FRIEND 👯: Try to find a person you trust and get along with to help you prepare. My friend and I met up once a week for a couple weeks to go over potential interview questions and MMI scenarios. We pooled resources and each looked online and in prep books for possible questions. Together we went through a ton of ethical situations and talked about pros and cons of everything. It was great to have a safe space with a friend to explore healthcare issues and just by having these conversations I felt more comfortable with the language and opinions that are associated with medical topics. [Note: make sure you and your friend aren’t coming up with the SAME answers for questions. The point of this is to practice expressing your point of view and answers with a person you are comfortable with]

2. KNOW YOUR CV 📄: Pretty much every interview (no matter what format) will have questions about YOU. So in addition to knowing answers for the basic questions (Why do you want to be a doctor? Etc..) make sure you can articulate your experiences, what you’ve learned from them, challenges you’ve had and why these skills and experiences will help you with a career in Medicine. Some schools release lists of attributes they look for in prospective applicants, so try to figure out how your experiences exemplify those qualities.

3. KNOW WHAT THE INTERVIEW FORMAT WILL BE 🔎: You will likely want to prepare differently if you are doing an MMI or more situation based interview compared to a panel interview. Also it’s good to know if the interviewers will have access to your application information or not.

4. PRACTICE WITH A PRO 💼: If your school has a career centre or Pre-Med club, try going to an interview workshop to get individualized feedback from someone who has practice interviewing lots of people. Another option is to ask your boss (wherever you work) if they would be willing to run through a mock interview with you. I know this may not be possible everywhere but it was super helpful for me to get feedback from my boss because she has interviewed hundreds of people over the years. Even though she isn’t involved in anything medical there are certain things that can make or break any interview and it’s good to have someone point that out to you. I felt super prepared after doing this!

5. READ LOTS 📚: Stay informed about current issues, healthcare related and otherwise. You may be asked for your opinion on something and while you may not need to know exact details it’s a good idea to have a general sense of big events/issues happening in the world. Also if you’re interested in Medicine it’s a great idea to read some books about it! I personally loved the following Atul Gawande books: Being Mortal, Complications, Checklist Manifesto, and Better. Don’t forget to read whatever it is YOU find interesting, not just Medical stuff, it’s important to pursue other interests too. [ps. Following lots of Medblrs helped me to be aware of a lot of topics that may or may not have been discussed in my interviews]

6. THE OUTFIT 👔: Find something that makes you feel professional and awesome. Whether you are buying an outfit, borrowing clothes from a friend or wearing something you already own, make sure it fits and you are comfortable. My parents bought me my first suit for Christmas for me to wear to my interviews. I wore a black pencil skirt with a black blazer and a white blouse (it didn’t have a collar but it had a conservative neckline and a ruffle detail in the front), black heels and stud earrings. I looked kind of plain, but I felt professional and confident. I knew my personality would show through in my attitude not my clothes, however other people may want to wear something more stylish and that’s okay - but I’d advise staying on the more conservative side.

{The Interview}

1. ORGANIZATION ✔️: Make sure you’ve made appropriate travel arrangements so you can get to your interview early in the *least stressful* way possible. You may or may not want certain family members to be around you during that time and that’s okay. Do whatever is going to make you feel the most calm and confident.

2. MANAGE YOUR ENERGY 😴: Do your best to relax and get a good night’s sleep before (easier said than done - I know!!). Do a light work out the night before or the morning of- whatever you usually do! Schedule the day so you’re doing a tour of the school’s campus AFTER your interview if possible so you can just relax and won’t be tired for your interview. Eat a good breakfast and potentially bring a snack with you in your bag if you’re allowed to and you’re going to be there for a long day. I didn’t realize how long I would be without food for one of my interviews and I was SO HUNGRY and almost lightheaded by the time my interview got started because I didn’t realize we would have to sit through 2 hours of presentations beforehand. Thankfully I made it through the interview but I felt pretty weak and shaky after because I hadn’t eaten for hours.

3. OTHER APPLICANTS 😊: I was pleasantly surprised by how nice and friendly everyone else was. It was actually a highlight of the whole interview experience to talk to the applicants and hear about their backgrounds. I met engineers, theatre majors, athletes, pharmacists, research prodigies, 30 year olds switching careers, applicants from small towns and big cities, people working on Masters, PhD’s and other undergraduate students with traditional and non traditional degrees. Everyone was great and it was cool to feel like we’re all in this together. I could totally see these people being my future friends and colleagues so it was great to chat, but obviously if people prefer to be quiet and focus on their interview that is okay too! Do what’s best for you, but be nice to people. [ps. Don’t be intimidated by other people’s accomplishments if they bring them up. The admissions committee wanted YOU to be there for a reason. Another person’s awesomeness doesn’t make you any less awesome]

4. THE INTERVIEW 🌻: Go in there with confidence knowing that you’ve made it so far in the application process. This is a big and exciting step and no matter what it’s a huge accomplishment just to be invited. The admissions committee wants you to be awesome, and you’ve been preparing for this moment for a long time so relax and try to enjoy it as much as possible! This is an exciting day!! You get to talk about Medicine and yourself and things you are passionate about! You get to meet other great applicants who could be your friends and colleagues one day! You get to meet current students and faculty at the school and learn about their experiences and ask questions!! Despite stress, nerves and anxiety YOU GET the chance to interview at a medical school!! This is awesome and exciting and I am proud of you!! ✨✨✨

My mom was like “dating a NB person seems really complicated”


No mom dating straight cis men and having to expertly tap dance around their fragile egos and all the insecurities they refuse to confont is fucking complicated. Being with a man who represses emotion and actively avoids any personal growth is fucking complicated.


Being with someone who’s taken the time to reflect on themselves/their identity and can thus actually express their emotions and needs in a meaningful way is the least complicated & most refreshing thing I’ve ever experienced in my stupid life

Need vs Want, Angel vs Human

I was talking with lizbob about this post she made:

https://elizabethrobertajones.tumblr.com/post/161737003368/something-i-dont-think-ive-ever-seen-anyone-talk

And I sort of went off on a tangent about Cas. And I wanted to finish the thought through to the end and inflict it on the rest of y’all. We were talking about the Tommy-Cas parallel between 1.02 and 8.02 (and really all of Cas’s experiences in Purgatory), and what the key differences were:

elizabethrobertajones: yeah :P he didn’t have any massive guilt that staying to be eaten by a wendigo might lighten >.>

mittensmorgul: yeah… :P

elizabethrobertajones: probably a romantic storytelling thing too

mittensmorgul: nor was he trying to sacrifice himself to the wendigo to keep it from going after his loved ones
yeah

elizabethrobertajones: to have what should be such a simple request refused for more high fling miserable, emotionally elevated reasons
it doesnt’ make sense to Dean because it should
*shouldn’t do
wonder if you could spin it far enough that Cas is rejecting typical sibling behaviour
like obviously he doesn’t stay in purgatory because he loves Dean
but casting the simple rescue as something family would do for each other
and having Cas reject it but out of love and guilt and his own personal arc being in the wrong place
that’s too complicated for siblings :P

mittensmorgul: ooh… yeah, and his Angel family saved him against his will, only to use him yet again

elizabethrobertajones: oooh no
ooooooh no

mittensmorgul: and on some level, that’s possibly what he was thinking Dean was asking him at the time with the “I need you”
Thinking of Dean in the context of his angel siblings, and that they had similar “needs” for him
because that really was the beginning of Cas’s arc toward humanity
and that was one of the first differences he needed to learn

elizabethrobertajones: aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh

mittensmorgul: oh no
This is also very shortly after Cas’s experiences as Emmanuel


For the first time in his existence, Cas had spent time believing he was a human, just one with some exceptional gifts. He had no memories of being an angel, or of Sam and Dean, or anything else. Like Dean in 12.11, he was stripped down to the essence of who he is, and without the burden of responsibility and duty to Heaven or saving the entire world, what he chose to do was spend his time healing people.

He’s barely had a chance to process ANY of this with the recovery of his memories in 7.17, because he spends the next four episodes in a coma induced by taking on Sam’s hell damage, and then being awakened by the Leviathan Tablet being revealed and the Prophet being chosen. Which was all tied directly to the fact that Cas had been the vessel for the Leviathan having broken into the world in the first place.

But while Cas had lived as a human, believing he was human, he was never truly human. He was still trying to process human things via observation and emulation, sort of the way Hannah did during s10. He was trying to understand humanity while not understanding that he wasn’t human.

When his memories were restored, he finally had a reference point for all his observations and experiences, as filtered through the perceptions of an angel with billions of years of knowledge… and thus conflating Dean’s “I need you” in Purgatory with the same sort of “need” Naomi and the other angels sent to rescue him had for him. As in, they needed to use him for their own ends.

This all got further sorted out after Cas did fall and become truly human, but  when he finally understood what it was to truly need something as a human, Dean was being blackmailed with Sam’s life, and was forced to push Cas away without any explanation.

The whole truth of the situation came out eventually, but by then Cas had already been pushed into a situation where he’d had to steal another angel’s grace in order to save himself. Need vs want.

But Cas has now seen those human things from the other side of the equation. Human need isn’t just an abstract concept or a theoretical observation to him. It’s now something he’s been struggling to reconcile against being an angel again. In a lot of ways, his late s7 experiences were the true beginning of his “who am I and what am I” arc.

All of the sibling parallels (not just Tommy in 1.02, but also Amara and Chuck in s11) that also creepily function as a “spot the difference” game alongside various romantically-coded parallels, only add layers to Cas’s struggle to come to an understanding about any of this. Especially while Dean’s still using the “family” and “brothers” lines on him.

But after 12.12, at least the need side of things seems to be clearing up. Cas finally got to see that Dean (and Sam) really feel a fundamentally different sort of need for him than his angel siblings do. He’s still trying to reconcile that need through what he can do for (Sam and) Dean via his powers and abilities as an angel. He’s still of a mindset that while they have welcomed him regardless of his ability to do stuff for them, he still feels that’s the way HE can express his own loyalty, devotion… love… for the Winchesters– the same way it’s always been expected of him to express that to his angel siblings.

Because Cas is still an angel, even if he does have his human experiences to guide him now. It’s really not something he’s been able to fully reconcile yet.

End meta, begin speculation:

I have my fingers crossed that however he’s resurrected in s13, this will be what FINALLY brings him some fundamental perspective on the true difference here. This is why I’ve got SO MUCH riding on the fact that it will be Jack’s 50% human/50% angel powers that will be what resurrects Cas this time, so he can reconcile his human feelings and understanding with his angelic feelings and understanding. 

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I’m a little over 8 months on testosterone and about 4 months post-op (top surgery), and I got misgendered today.

If Kate hadn’t been with me at the time, I probably would have had a full blown panic attack because my mental health has been spiraling out of control lately.

The above photos show how far I’ve come in just four years. I am a completely different person than I was before coming out, and I am happier now because of it. Being an out trans person obviously comes with its struggles (being misgendered, dysphoria, needle anxiety, surgery complications, etc.), but I am honestly so proud of how much shit I’ve dealt with while trying to live my own authentic life.

I don’t really know where I was going with this. At first, I just wanted a throwback post that I could use as proof of how male I look now, but it kind of turned into a mini therapy session that led to a much needed epiphany, and I’m okay with that.

anonymous asked:

What's your opinion over those who say you chose who you fall in love with & if you choose one who is married you are nothing else but a homewrecker?

That they are out of their minds, have no sense of reality & zero compassion, therefore they are closer to robots than they are to humans. How is it possible for someone to believe that you can choose who you fall in love with? If that was the case there would have been no heartbreaks, no divorces, everyone would be happy. All the harm that exists in the world would just evaporate because people would have had love and happiness in their life. Choice, that is the second stage. People always judge others based on stage two but everyone ignores & forgets stage one on their reasoning. State one, you fall in love with your heart for inexplicable really reasons. Will your heart ask if someone has signed a paper? Will it ask their status? Their job etc etc ? Absolutely no. Humans have no control whatsoever and that honestly so beautiful. The control appears on stage two, that is when you have choices but it’s really too late. If you fall in love with someone married depending on the situation you have a variety of choices but none of them will ever make you a homewrecker. If the person you fall in love with is in a stable loving marriage there is nothing that will destroy that. A third person playing around may bring some distraction but that will go away & so will the third person. That only time the term homewrecker applies is if stage one does not exist and the reasons one gets between a married couple are everything but love. It’s frustrating how judgemental people are over things like these & are always so fast to blame others. They see situations like these like a fairytale with the bad guy being played by the third person, when things are so much more complicated. Such an immature & childish way of thinking. There are people who instead of facing their reality they prefer playing the victim & blaming others for everything. That is why our society attaches labels like the one you mentioned to the wrong people. Most of those who call others by that label are uneducated cowards, people who pretend they have figured out everything. People who believe their morals are capable of ruling their life but jokes on them because they end up being close minded, humans without compassion. Their only difference from robots is that they don’t have a power button.

People need to be straight forward about who they want in their lives. Like don’t break up with me or stop hanging around me and tell me that you just need some space and then post a bunch of pictures with other people???or get in a new relationship??? Like literally just tell me that you don’t want me in your life anymore. It’s a lot easier to get hit with the one big heartbreak than a bunch in a row.

anonymous asked:

Mars

Mars: What’s your sexuality?

Ambiguously gay in all directions?

lskadjdkfj the problem with being nonbinary is that it’s hard to quantify your own sexuality, since so many labels are based on the binary gender system and your own relation to it–and while it might work for other people, I’m not personally comfortable using terms like “lesbian” as they imply you’re a woman attracted to other woman, and while my preferences run that way, I’m… not a woman, y’know?

I’d say bisexual with a preference for fem presenting/identifying people? One of my exes was a girl, the other was fem presenting nonbinary.

But honestly like… I’m just one of those people that likes people for people? For example, yeah I’m generally more initially attracted to/have a preference for fem people, but personality is more important. I’ve had crushes on masc identifying people as well, on occasion. 

Basically: It’s complicated and I’m generally just queer as all heck in many directions.