being a good mother

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we finally have a girl who does :”^) 

How Dan and Phil probably broke up #37
  • Phil: *gets Dan a whisk for Christmas*

After some thinking, I want to politely point out a few things to those of you saying Touka and Kaneki’s sex scene was rushed and meaningless.

Did kaneki and touka rush into having sex? Yes. But that’s entirely the point - in no way does that make it meaningless or perverted.

Kaneki and Touka have seen all of this happen before. Their hideout has been found. Their faces have been unmasked. Kaneki is the most wanted ghoul in Japan, and this is pretty much the beginnings of war for them. People are going to die. And they both know it can be either one of them at any time. Neither of them were going to wait for the “perfect moment, ” not when there’s a good chance that neither of them will live to see it.

What you’ve got to remember is that people don’t always make the best decisions when it comes to sex. More often than not, people get caught up in the moment and do it before they should do. This rushed nature is actually quite realistic. Even with Yorirko’s life hanging, Touka is keeping cool because she knows jumping to conclusions and being rash will do no good - she’s seen this before with Hinami’s mother.

Touka has experienced enough loss to know that she has to live for the living, and do whatever she can to keep those people alive. Sure, she’ll fight to protect kaneki, but that isn’t always what it’s about; with kaneki being suicidal in the past, she’s trying her best to give him an incentive to live. She’s letting Kaneki know that he’s loved even though she struggles to express anything other than her primal emotions. Kaneki needs to know that he’s loved right now. If there was anything more about Hide right now, it would be a bad turn for kaneki since he’d be living for the dead. It’s so important that he learns other people than Hide care for him that I’m shocked that people actually want Hide related stuff instead of this. Even though Touken wasn’t my favourite ship, I’m so happy because this is such an important hurdle for Kaneki’s character being overcome.

So yes, they rushed into having sex. However, I honestly feel this was a perfectly natural action for two broken people under pressure. They weren’t going to wait when there is a good chance there wasn’t going to be any other time for them. They both wanted to do it. Even if this is a sort of humorous thing to add remember they were virgins in their twenties as well; touka has done enough waiting on Kaneki, haha.

Please stop saying that their relationship is meaningless compared to his and Hide’s because it just isn’t true. The only other time Kaneki cried during a happy time was their first visit to :Re when he was so relieved to see Touka alive and he thought about what a beautiful person she was. After this, Haise gazed at her the same way Kaneki gazed at Rize - which Kaneki didn’t deny. If this doesn’t show how much Kaneki loves touka then I don’t know what will.

I’m honestly so proud of Touka for being so bold and collected here. She’s developed in so many ways. Sometimes, when written well, sex can really bond characters in books. While it remains to be seen, I’m really excited to see their relationship change and, hopefully, kaneki opening up to her by learning that people other than Hide love him. This is a good turn of events for both of them.

This is going to seem like a weird post but Happy Mother’s Day to the kids who brought themselves up. Happy Mother’s Day to the kids who didn’t have a mum there to help them for whatever reason and so had to grow up too fast when they should have been messing about and being children. Happy Mother’s Day to anyone whose mother isn’t perfect, but made mistakes and is learning to be better. Happy Mother’s Day to those who’ve decided to give their mum a second chance. Happy Mother’s Day to those who’ve made the decision to cut contact and stop hoping for a miracle. Happy Mother’s Day to the people who are scared of being mothers themselves because they never had a good example set and they’re scared of repeating the same mistakes (you don’t have to be like her, you can do so much better). Happy Mother’s Day to the young mothers who didn’t plan on being parents at this age but are dealing with that huge shock and doing their best under difficult circumstances. Happy Mother’s Day to those who are being made to feel guilty for not loving their mothers at all. Happy Mother’s Day to the kids that essentially brought up their younger siblings but will never have that acknowledged. Happy Mother’s Day to those that have lost a mother and miss her every day, but are pushing on regardless, trying to hold things together. I care about you all very much. 

Bts reaction to you being pregnant

Request 1: btspeach ,Bts reaction surprising them that you’re pregnant 💞

Request 2:   Could you do a bts reaction to their significant other telling them that they’re pregnant with their child if you haven’t already?


Jin

He’ll cry. He’ll just straight up cry. Without saying anything much. Hugging you, crying and repeating over and over again “I love you.” After he cried his heart out, he’ll smile really bright and tell you all about his plans if the baby was a girl and then if it was a boy. And the dinner of course burned. But that’s another story.

Originally posted by lavender-kills

Yoongi

A face of shock. Pure shock. And then slowly he’ll find the strenght in him to look at you and say “I’ll love this child. I’ll love you. I’ll be a good father. This child will become a good human being and his father will try to thank his mother by asking her to finally marry me.”

Originally posted by shittyoongi

Namjoon

Namjoon will laugh from disbelief. He knew it was true, because the test was standing right there in front of his eyes, but still. When his mind actually proceided he’ll hug you and tell you that no matter what, he’ll take care of you.  And thenout of nowhere tell you to pack, because you two were going back to your parents to tell them the nws and for him to ask you to marry him.

Originally posted by berry852

Hoseok

Hobi is a prankster, so he thinks you are pranking him too. He’ll laugh it off and say that this was a really good joke, before you gave him the first picture of the baby and say “They said next time to bring the father. So, I’m going to do exactly that.” And Hobi cried like a baby for the next hour or so constantly telling you how happy he is.

Originally posted by jinful

Jimin

Jiminie shouted and jumped up and down and hugged you so much and constantly told you how happy he is and how you’ll have the most amazing child on Earth and at the end of this whole rant, he just smiled to you with tears in his eyes and promised to be a father your kid will look up to. 

Originally posted by dailykpopmeme

Taehyung

Tae smiled and kissed you, and your tummy, before picking up his phone calling a number and shouting at the phone. “Mom, I don’t think you are ready. I am going to be a father. Yes! Yes, yes, she i right next to me. Yes, we will come as fast as possible. Of course.” he hung up the phone, hugged you tightly one more time, promising to be the best father out there and told you his mother wanted to see you, since your own mother wasn’t in Korea and you need support at the moment.

Originally posted by beatriceindre

Jungkook

You were scared honestly. You were both pretty young and him rejecting you because of his popularity and the fact he may not be ready for a child seemed as likely as unlikely. When you gave him the test with trembling hands, you were expecting the worst.  But instead you heard a “Call your parents and tell them to be here next Monday.” You were slightly confused about it “Jungkook, what are you talking about?” “I get one chance to marry the girl I love and to look at my child and I want to be a great father so pick up the phone and do what I say, I’m coming in 5 minutes.” He locked the door to the bedroom looked at the test and cried from hapiness for like an hour.

Originally posted by yourpinkpill


Masterlist

Request if you have the patience. Those who request one-shots, darlings, I’m working on them. I won’t write anything fast and shabby. I made that clear.

AND CONFESS YOUR SINS, LOVE OR WHATEVER EMOTION YOU FEEL TOWARDS WHOEVER. WHAT HAVE YOU IMAGINED? MOMMY,A.K.A ME, WILL LISTEN.

LISTEN I know everyone is freaking out about Lena becoming evil!Lena BUT the fact that she acknowledges her fear of feeling cold and being like her mother is a good indication that she WANTS to choose to be good.  She KNOWS she feels like she wants something awful to happen to that woman and admits that she is scared that she feels that way.

Kara is also very clearly there for her (!!!!!!!).  This is not about following in the footsteps of Lex-Superman – that’s been done.  I think the story is how goodness is often a CHOICE.  Kara’s light and goodness inspires Lena to make good choices even if she feels otherwise.  Supergirl wants Kara to have her own narrative (well… hypothetically speaking… but that’s another conversation), and what better way of doing that then subverting the Super-Luthor relationship.  

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fave blacklist scenes as i remember them + soft red & lizzy

  • Me: *Does something to indicate I don't hate kids as much as I make it seem*
  • Every adult in my life: WOW! YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE SUCH A WONDERFUL MOTHER SOMEDAY I CAN FEEL IT! WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO NAME YOUR FIRST BORN!?!?!?!
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Episode I: Qui-Gon Jinn:  << part I >> << part II >> << part III >> << part IV >> << part V >>

So I work for my local Child Protective Services...

And everyone’s response is the same when they hear this: sympathy, they could never do my job, ouch, etc. Very appropriate responses, but all of these are typically in regards to the families I work with.

I will be honest: many of the parents I encounter should never have been parents. Ever. Many should not even be trusted with a cactus, nonetheless another living being. However, most of my families AREN’T like this, and the ones which are like this I tend to give some slack, even as I’m working like hell to keep their kids safe. Many of them have severe mental health issues, and many have been told, despite not having a parenting bone in their body, that they SHOULD be parents and they needed to grow up and BE parents, without ever acknowledging that parenting is completely beyond their abilities.

Which brings me to the frustrating portion of the job: people who SHOULD know better and yet don’t. 

These are the supposedly mentally healthy, educated, intelligent beings who return to the children to the parents against all evidence pointing out how terribly this will end. These are the people who struggle to provide evidence against the parents in court because they want to be liked and they don’t want to bad talk the parents. These are the people who close their eyes against warning sign after warning sign because despite multiple HORRIFIC failures, they want to give these parents a chance, because they’re sure that these parents love their children and want the best for them…deep down. Really deep down.

There is a view on what parenting is supposed to be and what the relationship between parents and their children are supposed to be and don’t get me started on the myths regarding maternal instincts. It’s easy to get wrapped up in ideals and ignore the blatant evidence right in front of them, and the result is too many children being endangered…and in some cases, depending on the children, people AROUND the children being endangered.

I had one adoptive parent, who was related to the father, be so upset because the father couldn’t “man up” and take responsibility because he was signing away his rights to the child. I had to convince her that he WAS fulfilling his responsibility: by recognizing that he could not possibly parent the child and was allowing the child to grow up in a good home.

I’m childfree, and I’ve heard multiple times that I should have kids and I would be such a good mother and blahblahblah. Being childfree has given me a perspective a lot of people around me don’t have. These people believe that everyone should have children and everyone has the instinct to love, protect, and nurture those children. This can lead to actively dangerous situations for the children, and even when the parent states that they can’t do it, that they hate the child, that they want someone else to have the child, I still hear judges and counselors and service providers insisting that if the parent just had a LITTLE MORE HELP…

So, no. It’s typically not the parents which make my job so hard. It’s the people who should know better and get confused when everything goes to hell.

r-2-c-c  asked:

That doctor who has the corpse flower appears to have multiple ones, like there's one behind her and the trees around her look like ones in the tree phase

the lady in the picture is his niece! he was an orchid grower until the late 80s, when he got bored and wanted harder plants. the greenhouse in that pic is his own, and he originally had 13-15 seedlings when he started. imagine having a titan arum forest like omg

his names Dr. Louis Ricciardiello and hes a blessing like

from this article 

behold the titan arum mother

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Tbh, I saw Seolhee as kind of pathetic in the past episodes. She was just following Jooman around and not even able to stand up for herself. I saw her as a weak and fragile character. But this scene (plus the break up and the water slap scenes) brought her to a new light.

She is the way she is because of her dream. She did her best to be the best girlfriend because that’s what she needed to fulfill her dream of being a good wife and mother. She took care of all four of them and raised them while they all are away from their families. She has always been that silent support and foundation to all of them.

A lot of people (including me) had belittled motherhood as an occupation thinking that it is a “side job” for women nowadays. Society has made us believe that women in the workforce or corporate world are much cooler than women tending the home. But this opened my eyes that motherhood is indeed a legitimate dream and any woman can work on towards that dream.

Dreams are meant to make you strive hard to be the best that you can be and to make you feel alive. And being a mom can be all that.

Kudos to the writer for incorporating this to the story! Fight My Way is really breaking society’s stereotypes and allowing the smaller voices to be heard.

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Claire in every episode of Outlander2x05 Untimely Resurrection 

I know it sounds ridiculous, but I can’t help but wondering if I’ll be any good at it being a mother. Of course you will. Well, I’m a nurse. I know how to deliver a baby, how to feed one, how to take care of one when it’s ill, but that’s not being a mother. I only have a vague memory of my own mother nothing really to guide me. What you don’t ken, ye’ll learn. We’ll learn together. I do love you. I love you too.

with mother’s day coming up pretty soon let’s all keep in mind that not everyone has positive feelings about or a healthy relationship with their mother.

some people grew up with abusive mothers, some people grew up with absent mothers, and some people have mothers who they just don’t get along with because of personality clashes or a radical difference in beliefs.

while it’s completely okay to celebrate mother’s day and talk about how much you love your own mother, please keep in mind that there are people who are not going to be celebrating and who do not have the positive relationship with their mother that you do. try to refrain from making or reblogging shaming, guilt-tripping posts saying/implying that someone is not a good person for not being with their mother on mother’s day or for not having loving feelings towards their mother and consider tagging your mother’s day posts so that people can avoid seeing them if they want to. also, if you see someone you follow or someone you know having a bad time on mother’s day because it brings up negative feelings for them please consider reaching out to that person and offering them a kind word of support.

mothers are generally seen to be good and wonderful and most of them are! but mothers are not incapable of being abusive and they are not incapable of doing something wrong and unfortunately not everyone was lucky enough to grow up with a mother who loved them and treated them the way a good mother should. please keep these people in mind on mother’s day and do not treat people badly for not celebrating mother’s day or for expressing negative feelings about their mother. there’s a reason they’re not celebrating and a reason those feelings exist. please respect that.

I’m not exactly surprised to see the ever skeptical and ungrateful KHUX community slamming the circumstances of the new KH3 Sora medal, but I’m nonetheless annoyed, so a few key points to consider:

  • It’s an EX medal. It’s a monster. Of course they’re not going to let every single player guilt it.
  • It’s extremely useful without guilt. Guilting is a bonus on top of the bonus of getting a useful free medal.
  • Global now has copy medals in its system. A good number of us can get the same guilt effect by copying KH3 Sora with a guilted copy medal – which, by the way, I’ve been doing, and it brings me back to my first point that EX KH3 SORA IS A MONSTER OF A MEDAL. 600k+ damage by one medal is potentially gamebreaking.

“But JP will probably get it in just one or two weeks” I don’t care what JP does. I play the JP version as well, it’s designed as a whole to be much less competitive than global by allowing new players to catch up to veteran players very quickly and easily which means there’s little reward for being a veteran player in the first place, meaning it’s less balanced from a technical perspective. They’re two separate games. Even if JP gave out 7 free copies of this medal today, that’s because they consider it in line with their overpowered meta.

excuse me while I go and be grateful for generous handouts instead of demanding more and acting surprised that a company wants to make money

Thank you Emily.

Thank you for your loyalty, for seeing the good in the others, always.

Thank you for letting us seeing you know who you really were, for having the strenght to know yourself. Thank you for your bravery when you needed it.

Thank you for never forget Alison. For loving her so much.

Thank you for punching Sara.

Thank you for mature so much this last season, for taking the lead in some facets.

Thank you for being a good mother. We haven’t seen anything but I know you will be.

Thank you Miss Fields.

That rushed “bye” Jughead says before putting the receiver back quickly is heartbreaking. He’s crumbling apart; his dad (in his eyes, at that time) was a murderer, his mom had basically told him that he wasn’t welcome wherever she and Jellybean​ were, and the rushed “bye” is the culmination of all of Jughead’s hopelessness, disappointment, insecurity, lonliness and betrayal. “Forget I said anything,” he says, and he doesn’t want to bare that part of him to his mom, despite the fact that she isn’t anywhere close to being a good mother. So, instead, he takes a gulp of air, clenches his eyes shut and tries to keep it all in.
I’m not crying, you are.

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I sometimes wish I’d stayed inside


my mother.

Never to come out.