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The White Dress.

This story is about my friends MIL, and her wedding. Strap in guys, this is a wild ride in which I did THE THING that got me banned from any of her family functions. (Plus a few threats of dismemberment and bodily harm)

A good friend of mine from university was getting married! They had been a couple since Junior year of college, through her 2 years in the peace corps and currently her return to this continent. 6 years in total. She had been to all manner of family functions and always came back with a strange story about how she thinks her MIL secretly hates her. But she being a very quiet and sweet person pushed those thoughts aside.

Point 1: She is vegetarian and jewish, husband is not. She was invited and went to Christmas dinner and figured she would just eat sides, as well she brought a vegetarian casserole. MIL, after knowing her for THREE years, and being told by husband a few weeks before about not to forget friend doesn’t eat meat…proceeded to put meat in every dish. Friend drank water and ate her casserole the whole night while MIL cried to everyone that friend was so rude for not eating her cooking.

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anonymous asked:

Is it bad that I’m quite happy for Credence’s inner monologue to go from “help me help me help me” to exactly the same thing but for *entirely* different reasons as soon as he’s safe and warm and happy in the case and oh dear lord Newt’s got his shirt off again why is this man so damn pretty help me? Because… part of me thinks I’m being mean, and the other part is just sat here grinning because apparently tormenting Credence is a Good Thing as long as it involves unclothed magizoologists.

If it is bad then we are both bad my friend because people being tormented by their attraction to whoever I feel like making them attracted to is one of my favorite things in the entirety of ever. Especially if they are both suffering and upset about their attraction at the same time.

Newt is over there in eternal torment because of Credence’s cheekbones and hair and general state of Bloody Gorgeousness while Credence is just like.

This is fine. It’s nothing. I’m just confusing my friendship for him obviously. It’s a friend thing. There’s no reason for impure thoughts so it’s obviously NOT A PROBLEM ok it’s fine this is fine oh god oh no why is he taking his shirt off he doesn’t need to- did this man never learn what modesty is why is he- oh no. oh no oh no help. he has so many muscles and freckles and scars and what do they feel like oh- oh no nononono help help help. is it a friend thing to want to touch him everywhere im pretty sure that isn’t a friend thing. help it’s not a friend thing IT’S NOT A FRIEND THING HELP

The renowned actor as you’ve never heard him before. He has appeared in over 100 films, including Apocalypse Now. He’s best known on television as President Bartlet in The West Wing. But Martin Sheen, born and still legally named Ramón Estévez, has had another lesser-known life as a spiritual seeker and activist. He returned to a deep and joyful Catholic faith after a crisis at the height of his fame in mid-life. He’s been arrested over 60 times in vigils and protests. “Piety is something you do alone,” he says. “True freedom, spirituality, can only be achieved in community.”

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Kj seems like the guy who would totally go to church with you and that makes me feel all warm inside

One Day at a Time is the newest Latinx family sitcom which features a very important LGBT storyline. Latinx LGBT characters are still rare in today’s media even while LGBT stories are being featured more and more. One of the most recent Latinx LGBT characters was Santana Lopez from Glee. Santana Lopez’s storyline was one of the most amazing that I’ve seen in a long time. First off, Santana was played by Latina actor Naya Rivera. Something The L Word failed to do not once, but twice, casting non-Latinx actors for both Carmen and Papi.

Santana Lopez was a Latinx character, but unfortunately being Latinx wasn’t a part of her except for random references and poorly used Spanish that was played for laughs. The one instance that I think many gay Latinxs can relate to was her coming out scene with her grandmother. The first time I watched it (cause I have seen it more than once) was something many of us have either faced or dreaded. Coming out and having the person you loved the most reject you because of who you are and who you love.

In that coming out scene I found one common thread between many Latinx coming out stories. That part of being rejected was the religious part and how being gay was wrong, but also in being out. It became a problem when you told people and were out. For some gay Latinxs they are out to their families, but it isn’t something you speak about. The family pretends it doesn’t exist and instead your boyfriend/girlfriend/partner turns into your best friend of seven years.

This is where One Day at a Time deviates. Elena Alvarez is the daughter of Penelope and is seen as a smart young woman who understands what she wants from the world. Elena’s coming out process begins in the middle of the season when she begins to wonder how to come out to her family. How to explain that she might like guys and girls and eventually her acceptance that she only likes girls. Her fear of coming out and Penelope’s reaction to her is one of the most touching that I’ve seen. You understand it from both sides. Elena’s need to be accepted and Penelope’s fear for her daughter and their own relationship.
The line that hit me the most was when Penelope says “It’s just that now that it’s my daughter. It’s different,” because that’s how my mom reacts to gay things. In high school I had two gay friends, at least two that were out, and she loved them. The problem was that as I got older she began making it clear that other people could be gay, but I couldn’t be. I’m still not out to her because I know the problems it would cause. Penelope eventually talks to friends and  does research on Autostraddle to try and educate herself more so she can be comfortable with it, but it’s a process. The most important thing is that she makes it clear that she doesn’t love Elena any less, but Penelope worries about her Lydia will react.

Lydia’s reaction and eventual acceptance is one of my favorite parts because Lydia has been established as a devout Catholic. Being Catholic is a big part of her Cuban identity and homosexuality is considered a sin in Catholicism. But her own process is intertwined with her religious beliefs. She believes that God makes everyone in his image and he doesn’t make mistakes along with Pope Francis who stated “Who am I to judge?” She uses her religious beliefs to accept Elena instead of judging her and it shows a new side to the argument. One that Latinxs don’t usually face. One where religion is used to support them instead of shun them.

Storylines like these are important because Latinxs, and especially young Latinxs, need to see that they can be accepted and loved by their families. That when they come out they won’t be immediately kicked out of their families for who they are. One Day at a Time in the end shows that above all families love each other no matter who they are.

Lana Del Rey on Religion

“My understanding of God has come from my own personal experiences… because I was in trouble so many times in New York that if you were me, you would believe in God too. When things get bad enough, your only resort is to lie in bed and start praying. I dunno about congregating once a week in a church and all that, but when I heard there is a divine power you can call on, I did.“ 

“Well, I mixed it with my studies in theology, because it was the best school for the Jesuit faith and all of the Jesuits taught philosophy classes. There was just a lot of talk about going back to that basic question: Why do we exist? How did reality come to be? Why do we do what we do? And how not to become the butcher, the baker, the candlestickmaker, the guardians of the middle-class—that really interested me. I don’t know. Yeah, I loved being around people who wondered why we were here.”

“I guess I would say that the beautiful thing about feeling connected to something greater is that even at my lowest point I always have a feeling that I’m being taken care of. “

“And Jesus—I mean, being raised Catholic, it was just a way of life. Spirituality and religion were strong. I was in Catholic school until I was 13. Like a lot of other people, I think foundationally I was hymn inspired—musical hymns, not Him, Jesus. [Laughs.]”

“Like so many people, they always state the difference between faith and religion. The faith that I’ve come to find is a science of my own through lots of trials and errors. I’ve been through so many different walks of life that I’ve needed to ask a lot of questions that no human power can answer. I’ve had to seek a lot of guidance. I’ve had to pray a lot because I’ve been in trouble a lot. But it’s not until you do that that you realize there are answers out there to be found.”

To thine own self be true. Seek and ye shall find. There’s a science to prayer, I would say. I think sometimes when you’re really faced with a huge life dilemma or problem and you’ve turned to every sort of thing for answers, sometimes the last resort is to pray and to put out a question to the universe in your mind. Even when you put your question out there, you ask that invisible whoever “What do I do?” you sort of get answers; you forget the problem all over again.”

“I went to a Catholic school called St. Agnes and I loved going to church. I was very interesting and curious about the idea of a divine plan and that there was something bigger than us out there. I don’t have a traditional Catholic view of religion or God though – but I enjoy the feeling of being looked after in the spiritual sense.”

She attended a Catholic elementary school called St. Agnes, and was the cantor of the church across the street. “I loved church,” says Del Rey. “I loved the mysticism, the idea of something bigger, the idea of a divine plan. For me, the concept of religion transitioned into a really healthy idea of God–I don’t have the traditional views of a conservative Catholic, but my imagination was opened within the big blue-and-gold cathedral walls. I liked the idea of being looked after.”

I would say, ‘I don’t know what’s going to happen.’ She’d say, ‘God didn’t save you from drowning just to beat you up on the shore. All you really need is patience when you have persistence.”

“I feel a strong relationship with God and I feel my ties are with him. That’s how I honestly feel. Everything I do, I do it for somebody I’ve never met before, something in the great beyond. That’s my primary relationship, really, is with something divine. I feel a connection as real with that as I’ve ever had with anybody on this earth.”

“There’s one song called “God Knows I Tried” which has a little gospel feel to it.”

anonymous asked:

What are your thoughts on private vs public adoption agencies? I've been looking for jobs and have been thinking about working in adoption. Private agencies pay better obviously lol

(This is going to be my LEAST popular post) When I first started actually looking into adoption I was looking at all the wrong places. I was looking at adoption agencies, mainly private ones. I was reading stores about how families that had adopted babies or children, how happy and wonderful their lives were to have children because they were infertile or just because they felt called to adopt. I had heard all these wonderful stories from adopted children, how much they loved their parents who adopted them and how grateful they were to have families. It seemed like the perfect, most pure and good thing to do was adopt, especially as a prolife person, some unwanted baby who had escaped the possibility of abortion by people like me who wanted that baby.

A couple years ago I was scrolling on Facebook in my favorite Facebook group, a Catholic Homeschooling group. It was such a good place to go for comfort and prayers, from the daily struggle of being a Catholic Mother and Wife. I felt the urge to pray for some of these women who I considered my friends, and I came across a photo of a beautiful newborn baby with beautiful black skin and thick black hair over his little head, laying in the hospital bed just so tiny. “PRAYER REQUEST” it read. The first few sentences was about the babies health problems, as he was a few weeks premature, but the writer assured us that he would make it, being the strong little guy he is. She gave us a little background, how badly she had been wanting this baby for so long, she had children herself, but had always felt called to adopt. “Over 30,000” she began to explain, she spent on adoption fees and hospital costs! On and on she went. Then came the real prayer request. The biological mother and father wanted to keep the baby. After all this money she spent, after months of preparing the nursery, “he’s already mine” she yelled into the screen and into the many hearts of mothers reading who gasped at the idea of someone tearing their infant from their arms! The post went on about the biological mother and father, who clearly were “unfit” do to their age and financial instability.

“They aren’t able to take care of the baby, the world doesn’t need more thugs and drug addicts, the baby is already yours I will pray immediately that the laws are in your favor have faith!!!” That was the general voice of the over 300 women in the comments. Every single one of them busted out their rosaries and prayed with their whole hearts that this baby would be delivered into the arms of the adopted mother who so clearly loved this baby more than the biological parents, after all, she was the one that paid the hospital fees, the adoption costs, “Tell her she will have to pay back all the fees! That will make her change her mind! She just wants to use the baby to live off the government!!!” More and more similar comments came in.

I sat down myself, saddened by the situation and started to pray. At first I also began to pray that the adopted mother would win the child, but something didn’t feel right.

At what point does someone have the right to take an infant from the arms of their mother? After they have paid 30,000 dollars? After they have had the lawyers for their private adoption agency protect the adopted mother by packet of papers with laws and signatures? After finding out that the biological mother was a poor scared young woman? Who deserves their own child then? By most those terms certainly not me.

For a while I thought this situation was rare. I thought generally most women who gave up their infants were happy, or even grateful their children were adopted by warm wealthy families. I was wrong.

I started researching birth mothers, I listened to their stories, their stories of immense regret, loss, pain that only a woman who’s infant was living but not in her arms could feel. As a mother myself, I can’t even fathom the pain. I mean that from the very moment I hold my child, the bond is something you simply cannot understand unless you are a mother yourself.

See, in government ran agencies there are no lawyers. The primary concern is the best interest of the child, which professionals, psychologists, even our Catholic theology all agree over and over the best interest of the child is it’s biological parents, second choice being other blood relatives. I won’t go into detail on this, you’re welcome to research yourself.

If it was up to me, private adoption agencies would be illegal. That’s right. Illegal. In order for their doors to stay open, they need to make money. Their best interest is NOT for the child, although they may tell themselves that they are doing God’s work by “rescuing” the infant from the arms of a poor teen mom and into the arms of wealthy infertile parents. The fact is, the concern is not for the infant, the mother, or anyone. It’s for the paying customer, and the financial gain for the doors to stay wide open. Most of them with the loving intention of saving babies from abortion, completing families with infertile parents. Women (birth mothers) come to these agencies scared out of their minds, they don’t want an abortion, and they honestly believe (thanks to society) that an unwed mother, a teen, a poor woman, is undeserving of her own child. They go to these agencies and are are coerced. Lawyers work for these companies and are paid big money to work on behalf of the adoption company and the client-the adoption parents. The birth mother has absolutely zero protection herself. These businesses profit by taking children from the wombs scared hopeless young birthmothers and into the arms of paying customers. There is no turning back, once the money is paid, the baby is no longer belongs to the birth mother. At this point she is reduced to as the prochoice people say “an incubator”. We can deny it all you want, but in this business, is she anything else?

Did you know that government agencies almost never have infants available up for adoption? Do you know why? Because they aren’t making any profit adopting children out. They are working for the best interest of the birth parents and the child. Mothers are directed to help, and get the help they need to keep their children, or a biological family member is able to care for the child, because that’s the best interest of the child. The mother is also legally able to have her child returned to her, as long as she is not an addict, or has ever been charged with child abuse. In private adoption, this is absolutely never an option, unless of course the lawyers didn’t cover the company and the adoption parents well enough.

Slowly I began to uncover the real face of most infant-relinquishing adoptions, children desperate to know who they really are, forbidden by laws or their adopted parents to find the mother and father that they were created by to be loved and cared for them. Forbidden to have relationships with their birth parents. Then you see the birth mothers, who morn the loss of their child who’s still alive for the rest of their lives, shamed, guilty, hopeless. Look up their blogs. Read their stories, face their pain.

The worst part is, because this has a lot to do with religious, particularly Christian and prolife groups, we turn our cheeks and close our eyes to the pain. We tell ourselves that it isn’t our problem and we’ve done our part. I don’t believe that, and I’ll stand on whatever side against what is the best interest of both the mother/father and the child. I’ll never choose one or the other. And never on the side of profit, especially profit off human beings.

There was a story my priest told me about the importance in our Catholic faith about the relationship between a mother and child, being as were Catholics and we don’t dismiss the importance of Mary in the life of Christ like other Christians might. He said in Yakima there were many Latino immigrants who were there illegally, and were being deported. The problem is, the children they had, one in particular only days old, were legal citizens of the United States. In situations like this the children are actually forced to remain in the Untied States as citizens. The Bishop of Yakima, stepped in, firmly planted in the truth that a child should never be separated for a mother. The children were then able to be processed, released, and returned to the parents.

If we look at Mother Mary, a teen, unmarried (betrothed, but unmarried), she would probably be deemed an “unfit” mother by our society. We gasp in horror when prochoice people say heinous things about Mary aborting Christ, but we would support Christ being raised by any other woman than the Mother of Christ?

Why are we okay with signs at clinics where scared women go to have abortions that read, “don’t kill your baby we want it!” Why are we so obsessed with “choose adoption!!!”

Where is the rally for the “alternative” true and holy nature of keeping a mother with her children? Why is adoption seen as the solution to abortion? There are programs in place to help these women, in our country how is it possible that a woman is so scared she feels the need to abort or give away for her child? How is this still a normal mentality? Because both prolife and prochoice people feed the fear. Neither of us apparently has any faith or respect for the nature of human beings. We have those who are prochoice who stand solely on the side of the mother, and those who are prolife who stand solely on the side of the baby, but who protects the family? Isn’t that the divine nature, the most important structure of our entire society? Unfortunately even pregnancy crisis centers are required to educate mothers who have already chosen to keep and raise their baby, on the topic of adoption and how much better it is for their baby, before giving any sort of services.

So, is there a need for adoption? Yes there is. There is a need for adoption because although God has designed us to be raised by our mother and father there are still evil and sin in this world. Sin that abuses children, causes parents to become sick with addictions, and creating broken family and children who have not a single blood family member to turn too. This is where the need is, not in the wombs of scared women or young mothers.

Now, we can tell ourselves, as prolife or proadoption people, that “we’ve never done that!!” Or “I’ve never strictly advocated for a woman to adopt without pointing her to help as well!” But honestly that isn’t good enough to wash our hands free of guilt. If we aren’t actively seeking and speaking out about stuff like this, we feed the same mentality that feeds abortion. That an unwed, poor, scared, mother is unworthy of her own child. I see hundreds of prolife people state that “we need less adoption laws to make adoption easier!!” Easier for who? Adopted parents? Through the state adoption IS easy, for parents who are qualified based on the best interest for the child. It’s also little to no COST. Yep. You heard that right. What’s easier than that?

Since I’m not a birth parent, I would like if we could all actually read what the birth parents have to say about adoption.

Here’s a pamphlet created by birth parents on how adoption has affected them. In order for a woman to properly and willfully choose adoption as a choice for her, she needs to know these facts, she needs to hear the good and the bad in order to make an informed decision. I beg all people especially prolife people, to read the pamphlet and inform yourselves please! If we want to really protect woman and children we need to protect the family!

(Sorry for any grammar, spelling mistakes)

What I want to happen on season 18 of SVU:

In season 1, a psychiatrist came in to evaluate the squad, to see if any of them were close to having a mental breakdown (Det. Jefferies). They do that this season, since the squad recently lost one of their own (Dodds), they’re short-staffed, and there’s two single (new) mothers.  

We get to see each squad members’ session. Amanda is struggling with her sister and being a new mom. Carisi is struggling with his near-death experience, and with his sexuality (him being Catholic). Fin is struggling with being the only detective without a ‘life’, since his son’s surrogate had a miscarriage. Liv’s we don’t see. 

The psychiatrist says that there is someone that needs to take time off until a psychiatrist says they are ready to go back. Amanda and Sonny panic. Fin doesn’t show his panic. The three of them sit in the break room, and try to figure out who’s getting kicked out. They end up telling each other what they talked about in their sessions. They support and validate each other.  

Which squad member is the one getting forced time off? Benson. Because she has developed an alcohol dependency and still has PTSD, and can’t seem to form a boundary between work and home life. The squad is shocked. Declan Murphy takes Benson’s place. There’s a showdown being Murphy and Carisi, Carisi is pissed at Declan for pistol-whipping him. Murphy is pissed because he knows more about Jesse. Barba gets his spine back and doesn’t take every single case to court. He goes back to teasing Carisi. 

Mike Dodds comes back from the dead. The guy they thought was Mike Dodds was a UC, because Dodds was doing some secret anti-terrorism thing. Nick Amaro moves back to NYC because California ran out of water. 

NBC should just hire me. (Should I write the fanfic???)

• He’s totally awkward so you decide to have a sit down conversation.
• He’s a little stunned but completely understand stands
• He knows he’s gonna be with you forever so he doesn’t mind waiting
• when he tells his momma this, she loves you sooooo much
• he’ll masturbate when you’re not home
• but when yalls wedding rolls around
• he thanks God that he waited
• after the kiss, he can’t help but wonder how to take your dress off
• or if you can sneak off with him before the after party
• after all this puppy wants a lot of kids

•We all know about how the beast can be
• So you end up telling him in a very heated make out session
• this one is gonna be difficult
• he respects your beliefs
• but the beast!!!
• because he is so attracted to you, he doesn’t let you live with him until after you two are engaged
• but by then he trusts himself enough to cage the beast with you there
• wedding day rolls around, once the kiss happens
• he picks you up bridal style and carries you to a private room

• she’s cool with it
• like she completely understands
• it’s smart to wait
• so no complaints~
• she’s catholic
• so she’s supposed to wait anyway

•As a Christian, he’s got a chastity rule too
• So once you tell him, he tells you he feels the same
• it’s very important to you both
• So if you want to live with him before hand, he can completely control himself
• ~but it’s cannon how fast you two get married~
• the wedding is amazing
• and after it all
• you two have a very VERY romantic evening.

• he’s catholic
•but when you tell him you wanna wait
• he’s a little surprised
• he really wants to make you his
• leave evidence on you that he existed
• show off his sadist sexy side
• but he’ll respect it
• being such a devout catholic, he should wait too
• I mean of course you wanna wait
•angels have to wait for marriage
• you waited very patiently for him to get saeran and his act together
• so he’s sure as hell gonna wait for you to be comfortable
• he kept whispering dirty things in your ear all during your wedding day
• and at night he made sure those things came true

• he was sorta a Catholic
• sorta a Christian
• so he should’ve waited
• you told him when you were really upset one night
• you feel really bad that you can’t give him all the things rika did
• when he asks what you mean
• you tel him you wanna wait till marriage
• can you get anymore perfect to him???
• of course he doesn’t mind
• he definitely wants to take things slow cause rika left a big scar
• so this just helps prove how pure and honest you are
• he loves you soooo much and doesn’t mind waiting at all
• a very romantic wedding day and a beautiful honeymoon

Thank Y'all for your requests, I’m taking them the best I can. APUSH is whooping me so I can’t do much, BUT THANK YOU. ~Admin Faith


Brass Knuckles
Circa 1930’s Boston Massachusetts

One of the few items from my grandfather that I own. He rarely spoke about himself and never bragged so I don’t have any stories connected to these but I do know that they are from before he served in WWII. Being an Irish Catholic living in South Boston during some rough times I wouldn’t be surprised to learn that these were not just for show.

Witchcraft Around The World

Part 2: Latin American Witchcraft
(as requested by @staringdownthestars)


Among certain Hispanic and Native American cultures of the Southwest, the practice of Brujeria is feared as a manifestation of evil. Those who use rituals, spells, incantations, potions, and powders to work ill against others are known as brujas or brujos. Although that term originally described a negative form of witchcraft resembling black magic, it is nowadays used as an umbrella term for all sorts of witches with Hispanic roots.

A few manifestation of brujeria that are very common in Latinoamérica are curanderismo, a practice and a belief at the same time, based on the view that everything we do effects Mother Nature as a whole and that if we live life with conciencia (consciense), all our relations with nature will be beneficial for our own spiritual power and healing nature as a human. Curanderismo practices traditional, solely nature-oriented and spiritual medicine.

Santería, also known as Regla de Ochá , La Regla de Ifá, or Lucumi, is a religion and system of beliefs that merges aspects of Yoruba mythology that were brought to the New World by enslaved Yoruba people, along with Christianity and Indigenous American traditions. The Yoruba merged their traditional costums with Roman Catholicism. Santería characterizes these deviant Catholic forms of worshiping saints.

It should be mentioned here that almost 92% of all South American people are Christians, 84% being Roman Catholic.

My Coming Out Experiences

I think there’s something to be said about this comparison.

My great aunt, who used to teach at catholic schools:
*I come out to her a couple days ago*
“I had my suspicious, it’s not like it’s a choice you were born this way. Do what makes you happy.“
*she then proceeds to ask me questions about my identity in an effort to learn more*

My mother, who considers herself to be a very liberal parent and an ally to the LGBT cause because she had gay friends in the 90s:
*I come out to her when I’m 13*
“No your not, those people go through real struggles and you don’t. You’re too young to know that anyway.“
~fast forward~
*something about my odd behaviour comes into conversation when I’m 14*
*I come out to her again, explaining it has to do with my identity*
“Kay, no you’re not, you’re straight because (insert stereotype here)”
*from this moment on I decide I can’t talk to her about my identity and my feelings on it*
~fast forward~
* I am beginning to be active in my local LGBTQ+ community, I post political articles about it on my facebook, and I make a painting about erased queer identities for a social justice themed art show when I’m 16*
*I have my mom pick me up from the art show early, I’m upset about homophobic response to my art from the director. I wasn’t aware the show was being held at a catholic school*
*when we get home she lectures me*
“What is all this fixation you have with gay pride!? You post about it non stop on your facebook, family members are calling me wondering if you’re trying to convey something through all this! If there’s something you need to tell me, you need to tell me now.”
*I come out to her, noting that I’ve already come out to her before*
“Why can’t you just be normal!? Where did I go wrong!? I’m never going to have grandkids!” (That last statement doesn’t even make sense with what my identity is btw)
*she sends me to my room and looks up definitions on Wikipedia*
*She begrudgingly resigns to the fact of me being what I am*
*She sets up social restrictions for me, such as I’m banned from any sleepovers, and I’m not allowed to be alone with any of my friends. If I hang out with friends it has to be at my house and it can’t be in my room*