You know what I love about the old cartoon classics (W.I.T.C.H, Totally spies, Winx club)? The characters where allowed to be as girly as they wanted and still be completely kick-arse. Hay-lin and Irma could be flirty and giggly without being shown as in any way inferior to Will the tomboy. Bloom could be the keeper of the dragon flame and still worry about her hair and nails and boys. Because being girly does not automatically equal being weak.
It’s so fucking annoying whenever someone makes post about compulsive femininity (or even just “tomboy/butch women aren’t evil demons and pathetic failed women”), and it inevitably gets flooded with a bunch of brats saying “WELL I LIKE BEING A GIRLY GIRL, SO THERE’S NO PROBLEM!!!!”
like, fucking good for you, bitch, but if you got your head out of your bleached ass, you’d realize the world extends beyond your Sephora pallete, and there are women who just aren’t interested in makeup, or don’t want to get punished for not wearing high heels ND contouring to work, or are sick of constantly having to perform this hyperfemininity because society demands they do it to “compensate” for being WOC/trans/overweight/LGBT/etc. And yes, we’re Real Women™ too
I don’t make commentary posts like this but after the bomb I really want to say something about the interpretation of Lapis’ behavior in Raising the Barn.
I find it ridiculous that there’s lapidot shippers posting images and gifs from the bomb of Lapis desperately trying to taking Peridot with her to space and finding it cute. Like no, the point of the episode was to show that Peridot shouldn’t feel obligated to bend to Lapis’ every will, and what does Lapis do in response when she doesn’t get it her way? Steal all of Peridot’s things, plus the very place she called home, and bounced.
The message this episode SHOULD’VE conveyed is that Lapis isn’t emotionally mature enough to handle an intimate relationship. Peridot was probably one of the closest friends she had on Earth, and even after all that time she still expected Peridot to be the sole benefactor of their relationship. Peridot gives, and she takes. And the moment it stopped being like that, she left Peridot behind and took everything Peridot had with her (minus Pumpkin but she didn’t exactly want to go either, not like Lapis bothered to respect that).
The message is that Lapis can’t handle intimate relationships. She’s hasn’t grown much from the Malachite incident; the only difference was that she forcefully got her way with Jasper by bounding her at the bottom of the ocean and venting her hatred out on her, while with Peridot she was handed her way on a silver platter. But at the end of the day, indirectly or not, they both gave her a sense of control and entitlement.
Lapis can’t hold a healthy relationship (romantic or otherwise), at least not with the behavior she’s expressed towards Peridot in the bomb. She still has loose ends with Jasper, after all– and, in my opinion, until she goes back and fully take responsibility for the damage she left on Jasper (and pushing her away is definitely NOT taking responsibility) she’ll never be able to maintain a healthy relationship with anyone else.
So, please stop making any of her interactions with Peridot in the bomb ’cute’. They were borderline manipulative at best.
25 things women should never have to apologize for:
1. Her bodily functions
2. Not being feminine or girly
3. Loving how she looks
4. Having an abortion
5. Not wearing make-up
6. Being single
7. Not settling in relationships
8. Having body hair
9. Her bra size
10. Being outspoken
11. Having a high/low/non-existent sex drive
12. Putting herself first
13. Her body weight
14. Not wanting children
15. Saying no to a man
16. Having a pussy that smells like pussy
17. Being smart
18. Her age
19. Having a resting bitch face
20. Not wanting a relationship
21. Having a higher paid job
22. Her mental illness or disability
23. Not aspiring to be pretty or sexy
24. Demanding gender equality
25. Her womanhood
I fully support boys wearing pink and florals and other girly things. Don’t let anyone tell y'all you can’t wear what you want because you look great in those things. there is a long standing bias that pink is girly and being girly is negative but that’s not true!! Colors don’t have genders and genders don’t need to wear certain colors💕
“You tell me Y/N, do you want this?” he
brushes his thumb over your cheek “Do you want to kiss me?”
you could ever give your response to him, reality hits the shameless boy like a
train. What was he thinking when he asked you such a question? His sudden
tendency to take your feelings for granted by working his moves on you, wasn’t
how he ever wanted it to be. He was curious and quite greedy about having the
chance to win your first kiss. Was it still like a competition for him? Was he
toying with you or was he being serious?
Jungkook was your best friend and his
intentions were never ill to begin with. You knew from day one, when he held
your hand and decided to be your friend back then in kindergarten, that he was
anything but harmful. You were well aware of the fact that he could be trusted,
and all these years of friendship proved that he was a keeper. Maybe you could
trust him? But what would it change? Only jungkook had the answers and
decisions to take in this very moment, yet he suddenly stepped away from you
am I doing, right now? Jungkook would suddenly ask
himself as he eyed your lips up-close for the first time in his life
It’s actually so refreshing to see two guys in the public eye with a huge audience not be afraid to dress up and not say anything about being “too girly” while doing so.
This is not to imply what they were doing in the ‘pastel edits irl’ video was specifically ‘feminine’ or ‘traditionally female’ - I just mean it’s nice (and important) to see them be open to wearing clothes/colours people would typically associate with “girls” and instead just forget about that and enjoy themselves - whilst also being open about how it feels…even if some of their comments were exaggerated for entertainment - it’s still just nice and reassuring!
Generally (outside of the video too), Dan & Phil are very open-minded about a lot of things to do with gender, gender roles, gender presentation and expression etc - and speak about it often in recent years.
I know the video may not really be that…. ~deep~ to many but this is something that’s been on my mind for a while when it comes to D&P and I just wanted to talk about it more after that video posted tonight.
Overall, I’m very grateful to have D&P to look up too. I don’t think they realise what even their ‘silly’ dress up videos can do for viewers like me - who are questioning their assigned gender and the struggles that brings internally and from society - and even those who just have difficulties with embracing the gender expression/presentation they find most comfortable.
Just a reminder that being a “girly” girl is totally awesome and valid and to shame girls for being feminine is to give in to a patriarchal culture that demonizes femininity because it’s largely associated with womanhood in a world that hates women.
What’s holding me back? Guilt. Feeling unlovable. Feeling lovable but only to an extent, only on the surface. A lot of insecurity. Fear of how I come off to others. Fear of not being a lady or not being girly enough. Wondering if they think of me as often as I think of them. Wondering if he remembers as much about our relationship as I do. Fear of my future and not having found my passion just yet. Fear of failure. Regret. Self-doubt. Major trust issues. Lack of self-worth. Not being able to believe that I’m deserving. Worry. Constant anxiety about my family and their hardships. Constant. Fear. What’s holding you back?