some things i, a twenty-something, am still learning and hope y’all teenagers can learn way faster than me:
nobody gets to dictate to you what you like and why
other people’s opinions are theirs, not gospel that you should accept no matter how loud they are
being critical of something doesn’t mean you can’t love it, and loving something doesn’t mean you can’t criticize it
make your own judgement calls and decisions, based on your own set of criteria. be courteous and respectful, but not a doormat, not a wibbly wimp whose decisions and interests change with whatever everyone else says
two people can disagree and still have the highest respect for each other
you are allowed to cut people out of your life if their opinions and beliefs are harmful to you
you are allowed to be angry and sad and feel negative emotions. you’re allowed. they’re normal and you aren’t broken or rebellious or ungrateful for feeling those things
you can’t control your emotions, but you CAN control your behavior, and how you behave informs people around you how to treat you
no person, no movie, no tv show, no book, no ANYTHING is perfect. don’t let the imperfections spoil the experience for you if you enjoy the thing. be mindful, be critical, walk away if you have to, but expecting perfection and getting violently upset when it lets you down is unhealthy and you’ll spend your entire life miserable
self-care and recovery go hand in hand. recovery isn’t easy. recovery isn’t pretty. recovery is necessary and tiring and so, so worth it
you set your own pace. compare yourself only with your former self, not with anyone else, because you don’t know other people’s limitations and privileges as well as you know your own and comparison is worthless
loving yourself is an everyday journey, not a destination
This shouldn’t have to be said but please remember that your partners have lives outside of rping and other partners too. You can’t expect them to focus all their energy and time on you. Guilt tripping, possessiveness, and controlling behavior is uncalled for. Respect your partners and their lives outside of you.
This one hurt and I apologize in advance. I haven’t been in a good headspace for writing but I forced myself to late last night and this is what came out. This fic is (loosely) base on real life events, unfortunately, so it reopened a few old wounds. Kind of cathartic, though. The fic ends in a better place than I did. Anyway, let me know your thoughts! I’ll try to write some fluff next, I promise!!
Can you lie next to her And give her your heart, your heart As well as your body?
And can you lie next to her Confess your love, your love As well as your folly?
It was your own fault, really. You allowed this to happen. You let him into your life, into your bed, and somehow you had given him your heart in the process. Which turned out to be a mistake.
Bucky never really paid any special attention to you when you moved into the tower and became an Avenger. Steve introduced the former Winter Soldier to you and it turned out the still-used moniker on missions was incredibly fitting since all the response you got was a frosty nod from him. From then on, you kept your distance, conversing with him only when necessary.
Bucky was undeniably attractive, you weren’t blind to it or anything. That chiseled jaw, chin length chestnut hair, piercing blue eyes, and muscular build, not to mention the curiously sexy metal arm, how could you not notice? Your eyes tended to follow him whenever he entered the room and the ever-observant Natasha caught on to it quickly.
“I wouldn’t get involved, Y/N. Besides, he has a girlfriend or something.”
“I didn’t ask. And why should I care if he has a girlfriend?” you replied, offering a smile to the redhead.
“Whatever you say…” trailed off the redhead in disbelief.
Executive function is controlled by the frontal cortex. This is the area of the brain that develops the slowest. The frontal cortex also rules decision making, socializing, some aspects of memory, control of behavior, social behaviors, some aspects of personality, recognition of identity and self-awareness, etc.
This is an EXTREMELY brief summary of something that is very difficult to explain and understand, so please do not take this at complete face-value, because, in that regard, what I’ve written might be outright misinformation.
My point is, the frontal cortex is the part of your brain that is responsible for executive function and many parts of thinking and problem-solving and decision-making, and is also the part of your brain that makes you, you.
If you are under 25, there is a SIGNIFICANT chance that your brain has not finished developing in this area. It’s been hypothesized that personality disorders (in this example, cluster B disorders such as BPD) are caused by trauma affecting the development of the frontal cortex, for instance. Those suffering trauma prior to maturity of the frontal cortex are at a huge disadvantage compared to those who aren’t.
This is also why someone just a few years older can be capable of exponentially more than you, and why I’m very critical of the idea of 18 being considered “adulthood” in a lot of regards.
So, if you’re like me, and autistic, have ADHD, have a personality DISASTER (joke), are a trauma survivor, and are under 25? Cut yourself some fucking slack, you’ve got everything against you and you’re doing damn well regardless.
For my younger executive dysfunction people, this means that, yes, most likely, it does get better, in a very tangible way - your brain needs to finish growing. You will remember better, decide better, function better, etc, in years to come, not because of anything you can do or can control, but because your brain still has some growing up to do.
Does the rest of the world care, acknowledge this, or recognize this and stop telling you your value is decided by what you do and how well you manage yourself? Nope. But the frontal cortex is also the part of your brain that keeps you from thinking the world is on fire and you are going to die if people do not like you and find you satisfactory. That, too, can get better.
My point is, don’t flog yourself for this, chances are, it’s literally completely outside of your ability, because you have a brain that doesn’t do that on top of a brain that isn’t grown enough to be able to do that to its full ability. It’s not your fault and you can do something about it and
maybe you’ll still be staring at a pile of dishes and not knowing where to begin in 7 years, maybe you’ll be done putting them away and asking what’s next, but at least you won’t be constantly curled on the floor panicking and hating yourself for not being able to just get up and DO it because it’s overwhelming.
Anyways, in conclusion, brains are fucking bullshit. Hope this helps, feel free to correct me or add input. Good luck to you today!
Never trust a man who: Tries to justify sexual objectification of women with "men are just visual creatures :))))" bullshit
If men are just dangerous animals with no self control then they should be locked up. Men are either naturally predisposed to be rapists and therefore all bad or they can control their behavior and need to be held accountable. You can’t have it both ways.
And it’s funny how they call us man haters, when we’re the ones who believe they are not this way by nature but because of patriarchal society. But fuck logic right?
Guilt? It’s this mechanism we use to control people. It’s an illusion. It’s a kind of social control mechanism – and it’s very unhealthy. It does terrible things to our bodies. And there are much better ways to control our behavior than that rather extraordinary use of guilt.
- Despite being the most commonly studied and diagnosed psychiatric disorder in children and adolescents, the cause is unknown in the majority of cases
- It is classified as neurodevelopmental psychiatric disorder
- The World Health Organization estimated that it affected about 39 million people as of 2013
- Symptoms of hyperactivity tend to go away with age and turn into “inner restlessness” in teens and adults with ADHD
- ADHD is divided into three subtypes: predominantly inattentive, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive, and combined type
- the disorder is often inherited from one’s parents with genetics determining about 75% of cases
- Current models of ADHD suggest that it is associated with functional impairments in some of the brain’s neurotransmitter systems, particularly those involving dopamine and norepinephrine
- The dopamine pathways and norepinephrine pathways which project to the prefrontal cortex and striatum are directly responsible for modulating executive function (cognitive control of behavior), motivation, reward perception, and motor function; these pathways are known to play a central role in the pathophysiology of ADHD
- ADHD psychostimulants possess treatment efficacy because they increase neurotransmitter activity in these systems
- Symptoms of ADHD such as low mood and poor self-image, mood swings, and irritability can be confused with dysthymia, cyclothymia or bipolar disorder as well as with borderline personality disorder
- The management of ADHD typically involves counseling or medications either alone or in combination. While treatment may improve long-term outcomes, it does not get rid of negative outcomes entirely. Medications used include stimulants, atomoxetine, alpha-2 adrenergic receptor agonists, and sometimes antidepressants
- In children ADHD occurs with other disorders about ⅔ of the time. Some commonly associated conditions include: Learning disabilities, Tourette syndrome, Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) and conduct disorder (CD), Mood disorders (especially bipolar disorder and major depressive disorder), Anxiety disorders, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Substance use disorders (this is most commonly seen with alcohol or cannabis), Restless legs syndrome and sleep disorders (problems with sleep initiation are common among individuals with ADHD but often they will be deep sleepers and have significant difficulty getting up in the morning)
- It is estimated that between 2–5% of adults have ADHD. Most adults remain untreated
- Adults with ADHD may start relationships impulsively, display sensation-seeking behavior, and be short-tempered. Addictive behavior such as substance abuse and gambling are common
- Those affected are likely to develop coping mechanisms as they mature, thus compensating for their previous symptoms
Scientists Develop Therapeutic Protein, Protect Nerve Cells from Huntington’s Disease
A new scientific study reveals one way to stop proteins from
triggering an energy failure inside nerve cells during Huntington’s
disease. Huntington’s disease is an inherited genetic disorder caused by
mutations in the gene that encodes huntingtin protein. Approximately
30,000 Americans have mutant huntingtin protein which can impair
energy-producing parts of nerve cells called mitochondria. The mutant
protein destroys nerve cells and slowly chips away at a person’s ability
to walk, speak, and control their behavior. Xin Qi, PhD, assistant
professor of physiology and biophysics at Case Western Reserve
University School of Medicine has been looking for proteins that
interact with mutant huntingtin to better understand the initial steps
of Huntington’s disease progression.
“Because mitochondrial dysfunction has been proposed to play an
important role in the pathogenesis of Huntington’s disease,” said Qi,
“we investigated the binding proteins of mutant huntingtin on
mitochondria.” His recent study published in Nature Communications
characterized one protein, valosin-containing protein (VCP) that Qi’s
research team found in high abundance inside nerve cell mitochondria. Qi
and colleagues discovered that VCP is recruited to nerve cell
mitochondria by mutant huntingtin protein.
The researchers showed that mice with mutant huntingtin had
mitochondria full of VCP, as did nerve cells donated by people with
Huntington’s disease. The VCP inside mitochondria only interacted with
mutant, but not healthy huntingtin protein. According to Qi, “In
Huntington’s disease, the VCP-mutant huntingtin binding is greatly
increased. This abnormal binding causes more VCP accumulation on the
mitochondria,” Nerve cells with VCP-mutant huntingtin interacting inside
them became dysfunctional and self-destructed.
“We found that VCP is a key player in mitochondria-associated
autophagy, a mitochondria self-eating process. Over-accumulation of VCP
on mitochondria thus results in a great loss of mitochondria, which
leads to neuronal cell death due to lack of energy supply.” explained
Qi. The researchers worked to identify ways to prevent VCP from heading
to nerve cell mitochondria and interacting with mutant huntingtin
protein once inside. The team identified the regions of VCP and
mutant huntingtin that were interacting. They cleverly designed a small
protein, or peptide, with the same regions to disrupt the VCP-mutant
huntingtin protein interaction. In nerve cells exposed to their peptide,
VCP and mutant huntingtin bound the peptide instead of each other.
Nerve cells exposed to the novel peptide had healthier mitochondria than
unexposed cells. In fact, the peptide prevented VCP from relocating to
mitochondria at all, and prevented nerve cell death.
Qi wanted to determine if the peptide had more than subcellular
effects, and if it could be used therapeutically to prevent Huntington’s
disease symptoms. The researchers administered the peptide to mice with
Huntington’s-like disease and assessed mouse motor skills.
Huntington’s-like mice exhibit spontaneous movement including excessive
clasping, poor coordination, and decreased lifespan. Mice treated with
the novel peptide did not experience these symptoms and appeared
healthy. Qi concluded that the peptide reduced nerve cell impairment
caused by Huntington’s disease in the animal model.
The study successfully countered harmful effects of mutant huntingtin
and protected nerve cells in several models of Huntington’s disease.
According to Qi, the interfering peptide developed in the study
“suggests a potential therapeutic option for treatment of Huntington’s
disease, a disease with no treatment available.” The next step for the
researchers will be to optimize the potentially therapeutic peptide for
use in human studies.
Even if Billie wanted to quit smoking weed for whatever reason, I doubt Greg trying to control her and make her stop would actually get her to stop. Who wants to give into someone trying to control them like that? That’s what it’d look like if she quit, even if it wasn’t because of him. Even if it was her own decision.
Sagittarius women are fierce, flirty, clever, and in control. There is a forest fire swirling in their bones and dreams that stretch beyond universal physics. Life is full of excitement, spontaneity, thrill, and the need to explore far and wide, stomping in her stylish docs or archer heels through mysterious cultures and library shelves. She is a woman who refuses to be tied down, for possessive or controlling behavior is the ultimate turn off. To run beside her while the wind blows in her face, to seduce her with conversations about the meaning of life, to send her off to the airport with only trust and encouragement will be the ultimate aphrodisiac. She can conquer both the physical and metaphysical worlds, and she will keep up with you on the athletics court and in any activity that involves the brain. Not only can she move and compete with you, she will teach you more than you ever knew possible. She’s a fire dance of passion, love, laughter, and light. -Cherry
“…yeah I find psychology so FASCINATING, it’s like one of those concepts that really grasps your interest. One of the most interesting parts of psychology, to me, is that theory of social masks. Freud touched on this a bit, but basically we all go about life wearing social masks. We use these masks to ward off unwanted people and sometimes to gain influence. However, there are these rare people who you trust completely, people who you know would never betray you, and the kind of person you have a strong powerful connection with. You intuitively just know that you could drop the mask with this person, and as you let the masks fall (physical motion of removing the mask) you discover that everything is okay now, it’s like when you know you’ve made the right decision, and how all the little moments of your life have lead up to this powerful moment.”