behavior control

Characteristics of the Narcissist.

These characteristics apply to males and females

1. Self-centered. His/Her needs are paramount.

2. No remorse for mistakes or misdeeds.

3. Unreliable, undependable.

4. Does not care about the consequences of their actions.

5. Projects faults on to others. High blaming behavior; never their fault.

6. Little if any conscience.

7. Insensitive to needs and feelings of others.

8. Has a good front (persona) to impress and exploit others.

9. Low stress tolerance. Easy to anger and rage.

10. People are to be manipulated for their needs.

11. Rationalizes easily. Twists conversation to their gain at other’s expense.  If trapped, keeps talking, changes the subject or gets angry.

12. Pathological lying.

13. Tremendous need to control situations, conversations, others.

14. No real values. Mostly situational.

15. Often perceived as caring and understanding and uses this to manipulate.

16. Angry, mercurial, moods.

17. Uses sex to control

18. Does not share ideas, feelings, emotions.

19. Conversation controller. Must have the first and last word.

20. Is very slow to forgive others. Hangs onto resentment.

21. Secret life. Hides money, friends, activities.

22. Likes annoying others. Likes to create chaos and disrupt for no reason.

23. Moody – switches from nice guy to anger without much provocation.

24. Repeatedly fails to honor financial obligations.

25. Seldom expresses appreciation.

26. Grandiose. Convinced he/she knows more than others and is correct in all he/she does.

27. Lacks ability to see how he/she comes across to others.  Defensive when confronted with his behavior.  Never his/her fault.

28. Can get emotional, tearful. This is about show or frustration rather than sorrow.

29. He/She breaks woman’s or men’s spirits to keep them dependent.

30. Needs threats, intimidations to keep others close to him.

31. Sabotages partner. Wants him/her to be happy only through him/her and to have few or no outside interests and acquaintances.

32. Highly contradictory.

33. Convincing.  Must convince people to side with him/her.

34. Hides his/her real self.  Always “on”

35. Kind only if he/she gets from you what they want.

36. He/She has to be right. He/She has to win. He/She has to look good.

37. He/She announces, not discusses. He/She tells, not asks.

38. Does not discuss openly, has a hidden agenda.

39. Controls money of others but spends freely on himself.

40. Unilateral condition of, “I’m OK and justified so I don’t need to hear your position or ideas”

41. Always feels misunderstood.

42. You feel miserable with this person. This person drains you.

43. Does not listen because they do not care.

44. Their feelings are discussed, not the partners.

45. Is not interested in problem-solving.

46. Very good at reading people, so they can manipulate them.  Sometimes called gaslighting.

some things i, a twenty-something, am still learning and hope y’all teenagers can learn way faster than me:

nobody gets to dictate to you what you like and why

other people’s opinions are theirs, not gospel that you should accept no matter how loud they are

being critical of something doesn’t mean you can’t love it, and loving something doesn’t mean you can’t criticize it

make your own judgement calls and decisions, based on your own set of criteria. be courteous and respectful, but not a doormat, not a wibbly wimp whose decisions and interests change with whatever everyone else says

two people can disagree and still have the highest respect for each other

you are allowed to cut people out of your life if their opinions and beliefs are harmful to you

you are allowed to be angry and sad and feel negative emotions. you’re allowed. they’re normal and you aren’t broken or rebellious or ungrateful for feeling those things

you can’t control your emotions, but you CAN control your behavior, and how you behave informs people around you how to treat you

no person, no movie, no tv show, no book, no ANYTHING is perfect. don’t let the imperfections spoil the experience for you if you enjoy the thing. be mindful, be critical, walk away if you have to, but expecting perfection and getting violently upset when it lets you down is unhealthy and you’ll spend your entire life miserable

self-care and recovery go hand in hand. recovery isn’t easy. recovery isn’t pretty. recovery is necessary and tiring and so, so worth it

you set your own pace. compare yourself only with your former self, not with anyone else, because you don’t know other people’s limitations and privileges as well as you know your own and comparison is worthless

loving yourself is an everyday journey, not a destination

This shouldn’t have to be said but please remember that your partners have lives outside of rping and other partners too. You can’t expect them to focus all their energy and time on you. Guilt tripping, possessiveness, and controlling behavior is uncalled for. Respect your partners and their lives outside of you.

Aries might try to “keep” you with their confidence/cockiness and dominance.

Taurus might try to “keep” you with possessive behavior and passive aggression.

Gemini might try to “keep” you with lies and by being unpredictable, negatively keeping you on your toes.

Cancer might try to “keep” you with possessive behavior and with co-dependent manipulation.

Leo might try to “keep” you with bossiness and by putting you down.

Virgo might try to “keep” you by deterring others from getting close to you and by tricking you into thinking you need them in someway.

Libra might try to “keep” you with passive aggression and by creating quite the maze of deception.

Scorpio might try to “keep” you with intense manipulation and mind games.

Sagittarius might try to “keep” you with bullying and with misleading communication/empty promises.

Capricorn might try to “keep” you with controlling behavior and emotional blackmail.

Aquarius might try to “keep” you with a lack of reassurance to make you desire something more and with spellbinding persuasion and charisma.

Pisces might try to “keep” you with guilt-tripping and highly ingrained and intimate manipulation.

White Blank Page (reader x Bucky One-shot)

This one hurt and I apologize in advance. I haven’t been in a good headspace for writing but I forced myself to late last night and this is what came out. This fic is (loosely) base on real life events, unfortunately, so it reopened a few old wounds. Kind of cathartic, though. The fic ends in a better place than I did. Anyway, let me know your thoughts! I’ll try to write some fluff next, I promise!! 

Song Inspiration:    White Blank Page by Mumford & Sons

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White Blank Page (reader x Bucky One-shot)

Characters: reader, Bucky, Steve, Natasha, Sam.

Summary: Reader is caught in a messy situation when she falls for an emotionally unavailable Bucky. 

Warnings: super angsty, sex mentions, controlling behavior, heartbreak.

Tags at the end

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Originally posted by wintersthighs

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Can you lie next to her
And give her your heart, your heart
As well as your body?

And can you lie next to her
Confess your love, your love
As well as your folly?

It was your own fault, really. You allowed this to happen. You let him into your life, into your bed, and somehow you had given him your heart in the process. Which turned out to be a mistake. 

______________________________

Bucky never really paid any special attention to you when you moved into the tower and became an Avenger. Steve introduced the former Winter Soldier to you and it turned out the still-used moniker on missions was incredibly fitting since all the response you got was a frosty nod from him. From then on, you kept your distance, conversing with him only when necessary.

Bucky was undeniably attractive, you weren’t blind to it or anything. That chiseled jaw, chin length chestnut hair, piercing blue eyes, and muscular build, not to mention the curiously sexy metal arm, how could you not notice? Your eyes tended to follow him whenever he entered the room and the ever-observant Natasha caught on to it quickly.

“I wouldn’t get involved, Y/N. Besides, he has a girlfriend or something.”

“I didn’t ask. And why should I care if he has a girlfriend?” you replied, offering a smile to the redhead.

“Whatever you say…” trailed off the redhead in disbelief.

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Heads up to my fellow executive dysfunction ppl

Okay, so,

Executive function is controlled by the frontal cortex. This is the area of the brain that develops the slowest. The frontal cortex also rules decision making, socializing, some aspects of memory, control of behavior, social behaviors, some aspects of personality, recognition of identity and self-awareness, etc.

This is an EXTREMELY brief summary of something that is very difficult to explain and understand, so please do not take this at complete face-value, because, in that regard, what I’ve written might be outright misinformation.

My point is, the frontal cortex is the part of your brain that is responsible for executive function and many parts of thinking and problem-solving and decision-making, and is also the part of your brain that makes you, you.

If you are under 25, there is a SIGNIFICANT chance that your brain has not finished developing in this area. It’s been hypothesized that personality disorders (in this example, cluster B disorders such as BPD) are caused by trauma affecting the development of the frontal cortex, for instance. Those suffering trauma prior to maturity of the frontal cortex are at a huge disadvantage compared to those who aren’t.

This is also why someone just a few years older can be capable of exponentially more than you, and why I’m very critical of the idea of 18 being considered “adulthood” in a lot of regards.

So, if you’re like me, and autistic, have ADHD, have a personality DISASTER (joke), are a trauma survivor, and are under 25? Cut yourself some fucking slack, you’ve got everything against you and you’re doing damn well regardless.

For my younger executive dysfunction people, this means that, yes, most likely, it does get better, in a very tangible way - your brain needs to finish growing. You will remember better, decide better, function better, etc, in years to come, not because of anything you can do or can control, but because your brain still has some growing up to do.

Does the rest of the world care, acknowledge this, or recognize this and stop telling you your value is decided by what you do and how well you manage yourself? Nope. But the frontal cortex is also the part of your brain that keeps you from thinking the world is on fire and you are going to die if people do not like you and find you satisfactory. That, too, can get better.

My point is, don’t flog yourself for this, chances are, it’s literally completely outside of your ability, because you have a brain that doesn’t do that on top of a brain that isn’t grown enough to be able to do that to its full ability. It’s not your fault and you can do something about it and

maybe you’ll still be staring at a pile of dishes and not knowing where to begin in 7 years, maybe you’ll be done putting them away and asking what’s next, but at least you won’t be constantly curled on the floor panicking and hating yourself for not being able to just get up and DO it because it’s overwhelming.

Anyways, in conclusion, brains are fucking bullshit. Hope this helps, feel free to correct me or add input. Good luck to you today!

anonymous asked:

Never trust a man who: Tries to justify sexual objectification of women with "men are just visual creatures :))))" bullshit

If men are just dangerous animals with no self control then they should be locked up. Men are either naturally predisposed to be rapists and therefore all bad or they can control their behavior and need to be held accountable. You can’t have it both ways.

And it’s funny how they call us man haters, when we’re the ones who believe they are not this way by nature but because of patriarchal society. But fuck logic right?

Guilt? It’s this mechanism we use to control people. It’s an illusion. It’s a kind of social control mechanism – and it’s very unhealthy. It does terrible things to our bodies. And there are much better ways to control our behavior than that rather extraordinary use of guilt.
—  Ted Bundy
just some quick ADHD facts

- Despite being the most commonly studied and diagnosed psychiatric disorder in children and adolescents, the cause is unknown in the majority of cases

- It is classified as neurodevelopmental psychiatric disorder

- The World Health Organization estimated that it affected about 39 million people as of 2013

- Symptoms of hyperactivity tend to go away with age and turn into “inner restlessness” in teens and adults with ADHD

- ADHD is divided into three subtypes: predominantly inattentive, predominantly hyperactive-impulsive, and combined type

- the disorder is often inherited from one’s parents with genetics determining about 75% of cases

- Current models of ADHD suggest that it is associated with functional impairments in some of the brain’s neurotransmitter systems, particularly those involving dopamine and norepinephrine

- The dopamine pathways and norepinephrine pathways which project to the prefrontal cortex and striatum are directly responsible for modulating executive function (cognitive control of behavior), motivation, reward perception, and motor function; these pathways are known to play a central role in the pathophysiology of ADHD

- ADHD psychostimulants possess treatment efficacy because they increase neurotransmitter activity in these systems

- Symptoms of ADHD such as low mood and poor self-image, mood swings, and irritability can be confused with dysthymia, cyclothymia or bipolar disorder as well as with borderline personality disorder

- The management of ADHD typically involves counseling or medications either alone or in combination. While treatment may improve long-term outcomes, it does not get rid of negative outcomes entirely. Medications used include stimulants, atomoxetine, alpha-2 adrenergic receptor agonists, and sometimes antidepressants

- In children ADHD occurs with other disorders about ⅔ of the time. Some commonly associated conditions include: Learning disabilities, Tourette syndrome, Oppositional defiant disorder (ODD) and conduct disorder (CD), Mood disorders (especially bipolar disorder and major depressive disorder), Anxiety disorders, Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), Substance use disorders (this is most commonly seen with alcohol or cannabis), Restless legs syndrome and sleep disorders (problems with sleep initiation are common among individuals with ADHD but often they will be deep sleepers and have significant difficulty getting up in the morning)

- It is estimated that between 2–5% of adults have ADHD. Most adults remain untreated

-  Adults with ADHD may start relationships impulsively, display sensation-seeking behavior, and be short-tempered. Addictive behavior such as substance abuse and gambling are common

- Those affected are likely to develop coping mechanisms as they mature, thus compensating for their previous symptoms

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Scientists Develop Therapeutic Protein, Protect Nerve Cells from Huntington’s Disease

A new scientific study reveals one way to stop proteins from triggering an energy failure inside nerve cells during Huntington’s disease. Huntington’s disease is an inherited genetic disorder caused by mutations in the gene that encodes huntingtin protein. Approximately 30,000 Americans have mutant huntingtin protein which can impair energy-producing parts of nerve cells called mitochondria. The mutant protein destroys nerve cells and slowly chips away at a person’s ability to walk, speak, and control their behavior. Xin Qi, PhD, assistant professor of physiology and biophysics at Case Western Reserve University School of Medicine has been looking for proteins that interact with mutant huntingtin to better understand the initial steps of Huntington’s disease progression.

“Because mitochondrial dysfunction has been proposed to play an important role in the pathogenesis of Huntington’s disease,” said Qi, “we investigated the binding proteins of mutant huntingtin on mitochondria.” His recent study published in Nature Communications characterized one protein, valosin-containing protein (VCP) that Qi’s research team found in high abundance inside nerve cell mitochondria. Qi and colleagues discovered that VCP is recruited to nerve cell mitochondria by mutant huntingtin protein.

The researchers showed that mice with mutant huntingtin had mitochondria full of VCP, as did nerve cells donated by people with Huntington’s disease. The VCP inside mitochondria only interacted with mutant, but not healthy huntingtin protein. According to Qi, “In Huntington’s disease, the VCP-mutant huntingtin binding is greatly increased. This abnormal binding causes more VCP accumulation on the mitochondria,” Nerve cells with VCP-mutant huntingtin interacting inside them became dysfunctional and self-destructed.

“We found that VCP is a key player in mitochondria-associated autophagy, a mitochondria self-eating process. Over-accumulation of VCP on mitochondria thus results in a great loss of mitochondria, which leads to neuronal cell death due to lack of energy supply.” explained Qi. The researchers worked to identify ways to prevent VCP from heading to nerve cell mitochondria and interacting with mutant huntingtin protein once inside.
The team identified the regions of VCP and mutant huntingtin that were interacting. They cleverly designed a small protein, or peptide, with the same regions to disrupt the VCP-mutant huntingtin protein interaction. In nerve cells exposed to their peptide, VCP and mutant huntingtin bound the peptide instead of each other. Nerve cells exposed to the novel peptide had healthier mitochondria than unexposed cells. In fact, the peptide prevented VCP from relocating to mitochondria at all, and prevented nerve cell death.

Qi wanted to determine if the peptide had more than subcellular effects, and if it could be used therapeutically to prevent Huntington’s disease symptoms. The researchers administered the peptide to mice with Huntington’s-like disease and assessed mouse motor skills. Huntington’s-like mice exhibit spontaneous movement including excessive clasping, poor coordination, and decreased lifespan. Mice treated with the novel peptide did not experience these symptoms and appeared healthy. Qi concluded that the peptide reduced nerve cell impairment caused by Huntington’s disease in the animal model.

The study successfully countered harmful effects of mutant huntingtin and protected nerve cells in several models of Huntington’s disease. According to Qi, the interfering peptide developed in the study “suggests a potential therapeutic option for treatment of Huntington’s disease, a disease with no treatment available.” The next step for the researchers will be to optimize the potentially therapeutic peptide for use in human studies.

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I guess I forgot to post the two commissions I did before the holidays over here? Huh! Go figure.

Anyway, here’s some post-pacifist bad-end-pacifist vague Flowriel/Papyrus. Turns out having a soul (or seven) again doesn’t stop you from being an unsettling creep!

Thanks again, Crawly! This was an interesting prompt!

Sagittarius women are fierce, flirty, clever, and in control. There is a forest fire swirling in their bones and dreams that stretch beyond universal physics. Life is full of excitement, spontaneity, thrill, and the need to explore far and wide, stomping in her stylish docs or archer heels through mysterious cultures and library shelves. She is a woman who refuses to be tied down, for possessive or controlling behavior is the ultimate turn off. To run beside her while the wind blows in her face, to seduce her with conversations about the meaning of life, to send her off to the airport with only trust and encouragement will be the ultimate aphrodisiac. She can conquer both the physical and metaphysical worlds, and she will keep up with you on the athletics court and in any activity that involves the brain. Not only can she move and compete with you, she will teach you more than you ever knew possible. She’s a fire dance of passion, love, laughter, and light.
-Cherry

What to say when you use the technique:

“…yeah I find psychology so FASCINATING, it’s like one of those concepts that really grasps your interest. One of the most interesting parts of psychology, to me, is that theory of social masks. Freud touched on this a bit, but basically we all go about life wearing social masks. We use these masks to ward off unwanted people and sometimes to gain influence. However, there are these rare people who you trust completely, people who you know would never betray you, and the kind of person you have a strong powerful connection with.  You intuitively just know that you could drop the mask with this person, and as you let the masks fall (physical motion of removing the mask) you discover that everything is okay now, it’s like when you know you’ve made the right decision, and how all the little moments of your life have lead up to this powerful moment.”