been sitting on this

I came across a tweet today that read, “why pansexuality is anti-bi; a thread”, which had 50+ likes and retweets. the thread explained that since pan means all, and bi means two or more, then that means pan = bi. the thread went on to explain that if you use pan to refer to bi people, you’re overshadowing bi people and thus being anti-bi. also noteworthy, the thread had a disclaimer, telling people not to reply with hate or debate, because they don’t want to argue with anyone who thinks pansexuality exists.

and I honestly just don’t know where to begin explaining how disheartened and tired I am by this. I guess I’ll just try to break it down.

1. pansexuality is not inherently bigoted against other identities. it just isn’t. individual pan people can be bigoted against other identities, just like anyone else, but the identity itself, is not.

2a. bi can and does mean all for some people. but that doesn’t mean pan is a useless, unneeded label. pan is useful and needed for people like me, who don’t identify with the bi label and never have, because it just doesn’t feel right for me or fit me. and that is okay! that doesn’t hurt anybody, that doesn’t hurt bi people. just like someone who is attracted to all genders or whose attraction is not determined by gender identifying as bi, does not hurt pan people! it is a personal preference that should be respected.

2b. identifying as either bi or pan would still be a valid, personal choice, even if the words did mean the exact same thing. there are tons of words that mean the same or similar things, and they’re all valid words, and people’s choice to use whichever word they want to is valid. there are a bunch of different terms to describe women who are attracted to women, and everyone will have one they prefer over others and that’s okay and accepted in the community, so why can’t pan be accepted by the community, even if you think “bi already covers it”?

3. if calling bi people pan is overshadowing bi people and anti-bi, then surely calling pan people bi is overshadowing pan people and anti-pan, right? oh yeah, I forgot, according to you, we don’t matter or exist *eye roll*

4. you don’t get to post a bunch of ignorant and bigoted shit, and then reject any kind of criticism or discussion and ignore the people calling you out.

I’m just so tired of this. queer people like this are always calling out bigotry against their own sexuality, while spreading hate about another.

do they honestly see nothing wrong with telling pan people that their identity isn’t real or valid and that it’s harmful to id as it? when will fellow queer people stop accepting anti-pan shit as a legitimate opinion? when will fellow queer people start showing up for pan people and having our back? when will fellow queer people start being as inclusive and accepting as they claim to be?

Can I just say that I have never been more happy in my life? Hamilton brought me and my wife closer – it got us through one of the worst traumas of our lives, and it brought me here. Where I get love and support for just being my dorky ass self and drawing my little doodles of these amazing and wonderful characters.

Thank you guys, all of you, so much for being so sweet and supportive of my fun little hobby and continuing to encourage me. You guys are all beautiful and amazing and just

thank you. For showing me personally that being myself is okay. That me and my wife are #goals, you guys are goals, all of you beautiful wonderful people akdhlgs;

I just get so emotional thinking about it I love you all so much ;___; Thank you for being here and existing and being you. <3

Entry #16: Ragging

FFXIV Write 2017 prompt #16: Ceruleum

A/N: WHO WANTS SOME NERDS INSULTING EACH OTHER because that’s how they express their friendship. :D Prompt inspired the setting more than anything.

“Does no one who ever attended the Magitek Academy know how to write a fucking paper?” Synnove’s voice was laced mostly with disgust, but there was an underlying thread anyone who’d known her long enough would recognize as her being very grudgingly impressed. In this case, mostly at the sheer horror that was the stack of papers she was currently reading through.

The Ironworks manufactory in Revenant’s Toll was busy even past midnight, the engineers as bad as the arcanists of Limsa Lominsa in working at all hours of the day and night. Synnove had shown up at dawn of the day before, wild-eyed and twitching as Tyr carefully steered her around working machinery with his head at her hip, shoved a set of equations into Cid’s face, and demanded he check her math. Then she had curled up on top of a prototype airship engine in one of the workshops and passed out for most of the day under a pile of carbuncles.

Cid had given her back her perfect equations (now covered in red ink and question marks mixed with exclamation points and statements of, “You’re bloody mad, woman” and “WHAT,” frequently underlined multiple times) and then shoved a giant roll of his own blueprints into her hands with the statement of, “If you’re going to drink my coffee, make yourself useful and check these numbers.”

Synnove had done so with a disdainful sniff, covering the equally perfect blueprints in similar scathing remarks and the same red ink, and then moved on to an engineering paper Cid had been writing when not shoulder-deep in magitek. Which led to the scene now: Synnove sitting cross-legged on the same engine she’d slept on, Ivar in her lap, while Cid crawled around in the engine’s guts.

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