I came across a tweet today that read, “why pansexuality is anti-bi; a thread”, which had 50+ likes and retweets. the thread explained that since pan means all, and bi means two or more, then that means pan = bi. the thread went on to explain that if you use pan to refer to bi people, you’re overshadowing bi people and thus being anti-bi. also noteworthy, the thread had a disclaimer, telling people not to reply with hate or debate, because they don’t want to argue with anyone who thinks pansexuality exists.
and I honestly just don’t know where to begin explaining how disheartened and tired I am by this. I guess I’ll just try to break it down.
1. pansexuality is not inherently bigoted against other identities. it just isn’t. individual pan people can be bigoted against other identities, just like anyone else, but the identity itself, is not.
2a. bi can and does mean all for some people. but that doesn’t mean pan is a useless, unneeded label. pan is useful and needed for people like me, who don’t identify with the bi label and never have, because it just doesn’t feel right for me or fit me. and that is okay! that doesn’t hurt anybody, that doesn’t hurt bi people. just like someone who is attracted to all genders or whose attraction is not determined by gender identifying as bi, does not hurt pan people! it is a personal preference that should be respected.
2b. identifying as either bi or pan would still be a valid, personal choice, even if the words did mean the exact same thing. there are tons of words that mean the same or similar things, and they’re all valid words, and people’s choice to use whichever word they want to is valid. there are a bunch of different terms to describe women who are attracted to women, and everyone will have one they prefer over others and that’s okay and accepted in the community, so why can’t pan be accepted by the community, even if you think “bi already covers it”?
3. if calling bi people pan is overshadowing bi people and anti-bi, then surely calling pan people bi is overshadowing pan people and anti-pan, right? oh yeah, I forgot, according to you, we don’t matter or exist *eye roll*
4. you don’t get to post a bunch of ignorant and bigoted shit, and then reject any kind of criticism or discussion and ignore the people calling you out.
I’m just so tired of this. queer people like this are always calling out bigotry against their own sexuality, while spreading hate about another.
do they honestly see nothing wrong with telling pan people that their identity isn’t real or valid and that it’s harmful to id as it? when will fellow queer people stop accepting anti-pan shit as a legitimate opinion? when will fellow queer people start showing up for pan people and having our back? when will fellow queer people start being as inclusive and accepting as they claim to be?