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anonymous asked:

(1)You've said that men can't sell their stories and that women dominate the field, and while it is certainly true (women dominating the field), you think the reason for this is that women generally write kinky porn for women to enjoy and men do not. Have you taken into consideration the sheer amount of women writing m/m fiction, comparing to man? And that readers of those works are predominantly women? That men are generally not interested in romance genre, which m/m fiction mostly is.

(2)No one is keeping men from writing their stories. They just don’t do it much. In the m/m fiction section at least. Or maybe there is some gatekeeping movement going on, where women harass man out of “their field”. I have never heard about it, but if it’s true than I’ll be happy to be proven wrong. Maybe there are some hidden gems written by not women no one’s heard about because of that. Can you recommend some?

hi, and thank you for these asks. they pose an interesting question: are men stopped from writing erotica?

i want to say yes. but it might not be the way you think. 

i ran across this thread some weeks ago, and it has stayed with me for quite a while. though i do think the entire thread is important to read, i want to focus on what thebibliosphere is writing:

Oh my gods this. This is everything I try and fail to say when people ask me how to explain fetishization vs storytelling.

Do you know how many books by gay men I edited in my time at the erotica publishing house? One.

Out of literal thousands of manuscripts, there was One gay man writing m/m, the rest were all by women, and I feel safe in saying, the majority of them, not from within the LGBTQA+ community.

And boy howdy did they pitch fits when we turned to them and said “your manuscript does not meet our health and safety requirements please revise” because our house had a strict safe sane consensual rule, along with body positivity, which everyone LOVED when they were writing m/f stories. But when it came to m/m we had so many authors say “ew, but that’s not ~sexy~ :/” to which my reply was often a very politely phrased “literally don’t give a fuck Susan, you know what else isn’t sexy? Bleeding assholes, which coincidentally is what you’re being.”

But y'know, nicer. Because I’m a fucking proffesional.

Anyway. Do you want to know what happened to said singular man writing m/m fiction? He got dropped after a year. Because, and I quote, this is a direct line from our then marketing team, about a gay man writing gay erotica: “that’s not what women want to read”

And if that’s not one of the most precise and fucking infuriating demonstrations of what the fuck is wrong with the “but I write gay slash fic! I can’t be homophobic!” “~allies~” (spoiler: you’re not) in fandom and yes, even in “real” publishing, I dunno what is.

There is a Difference between storytelling and fetishization, and all y'all crying “kinkshaming!” when someone asks you to treat them with respect, need to stop.

emphasis mine

i also found this ask that thebibliosphere got, but i’ll only quote what i found the most important:

Which, there’s nothing wrong with women or people who identify as women, writing m/m stories. But when there’s an entire industry dedicated to gay male suffering aimed as cis straight women, there’s a serious problem. People are not objects, they are not dolls for you to play with. Anyway.


this isn’t some fanfiction, or fanart, or even a free manhwa found online. it’s published books, where the authors get payed for every sold book, and men - man in this case - can’t even get a deal. because women don’t want to read gay stories written by gay men. a respectable erotica house lays off their only male m/m writer, becuase the marketing team doesn’t find that women are interested in it. 

if that isn’t keeping men away from m/m erotica (and romance), i honestly don’t know what else it might be. 

through this blog, i’m also constantly bringing up the fact that non-mlm’s voices are shut down in writing spaces where m/m is prevalent. i’m a fanfic writer myself, writing fanfiction with an mlm audience in mind, and i’ve gotten comments about how my sex scenes are unrealistic (”you don’t need to prepare an asshole that much!”), or boring (”why do you keep adding lube mid sex scene? and condoms?? ugh”), or outright wrong (umm, what?). 

i’ve had non-mlm writing partners tell me that i shouldn’t write for mlm, because i should focus on what women want to read instead. i’ve been told, when i voice my concerns over how the community is treating mlm creators, to “leave the m/m community if you hate it so much”. me, a gay man. leave the m/m community (which entail MY orientation, MY sex life, and MY relationships), becuase some women think their fetishization and objectification of gay men is more important than my comfort

this is why we say that mlm creators of m/m are shut down. and we, as both fans and consumers of published m/m media, needs to change this


to change the subject: i’m constantly looking for good gay books written by men, but it’s a long and hard road. most best-selling m/m books written by gay men are self published, just so you know. 

i don’t have a list i can recommend right now, especially on the happier side. they’re so hard to find that i’m, myself, still looking for more than one or two. a classic lgbt book, though it’s about internalized homophobia which manifests in misogony and abuse, is giovanni’s room (1956) by james baldwin (a gay black man), and it’s a good book to show that mlm should be the ones writing about male-related homophobia, rather than women. 

if anyone wants to add good m/m books written by mlm, send us an ask or reply to this; we’re aiming to keep a list of good representation on our blog in the future

anonymous asked:

How do you get more asks? And other stuff like that? I wanna be more active in my account

Me? Getting more asks? You chose the wrong blog, sorry XD

But well, I think it’s all how much you manage your blog, you need to be very active and post contents that people like and want to ask for them, it’s hard for me to explain, but I can give you this advice…
Do not give up and do not complain, in these years I never writed a post of complain in my blog, becuase I think it’s useles and not appropriate, just draw, or write, depend what your blog talking about, if ever is a blog or not, keep doing what you like and don’t stop.
Who cares if no one like your stuff or reblog, I never cares so much, but I like if it happen and I never tried to force no one to interact with me or my blog, I post and wait. How I said, I really like if people like and reblog, because at the end is what I created this blog for, let people love my drawings, but we are all different, so no everyone like everything.
All of this for just say: Don’t stop to create, draw, write or make photoes… JUST KEEP DO WHAT YOU LIKE AND LOVE! You need time and with time you improve your skills, do not give up, keep going.

dragaura  asked:

Um, if you're stil taking songs, there is one I discovered today that, while far more upbeat and hopeful than other songs, made me think of the two boys almost immediately. It'd be from Akira to Akechi becuase a lot of the lyrics describe Akechi pretty poetically in my opinion. Anyway, the song is "The Way I see You" by Joel Hirsch feat. Karra. And I hope you have a good evening! ^_^

Excellent! Always good to be an angst combo breaker (no really, it is: we need some levity in this).

OOOOH BAB YOU GAVE ME A DANCE TRACK

THANK YOU SO MUCH, I’M A SUCKER FOR THIS KINDA STUFF (see also: the post on my main blog where I said Jpop/trance was their song lol)

This is another track where basically all the lyrics match ‘em up so nicely, and I agree, it’s DEFINITELY Akira to Akechi. Especially this!:

Just listen and don’t turn away
I know you’re afraid
But just look at me
So you can see me
The way I see you

THIS KIND OF SONG IS WHAT I MEAN WHEN I SAY I WANT AKECHI TO HAVE A ‘COME TO USAGI/SAILOR MOON’ MOMENT IN P5 DLC. I want him to have Joker fight tooth and nail to break him out of an impossible situation, determined to bring that boy back to the light and freedom. I want him to have someone hold his hands and talk quietly and evenly, never looking away from his eyes. I want him to have someone hold him close and say that he is accepted, he is welcome, he is loved because not even the worst Sailor Moon villains at their worst didn’t get SOME chance to redeem themselves.

And this COULD HAVE BEEN DONE IN THE GAME but it flippin’ wasn’t and I Just. Ugh.

And listen, Persona users are just magical children of another kind, and I will damn well demand that they follow by Sailor Moon’s saving rules.

ty for the song!!

We hit over 500 followers?!?!?!?! WHAAAAAAAAT???

Oh my god, thank you guys so much for following! 

I do need to apologize for being so inactive the last couple of months, though. I haven’t had the motivation to make edits or just get on tumblr in general (becuase i really don’t know of any interesting blogs. If you have any recommendations for any Love Live or BanG Dream! Girls Band Party blogs I should follow, message me please!) until just now.

But anyways, if you have any requests for wallpapers or icons for me, drop by my ask box! It gives me things to do for edits that I wouldn’t have done without you guys!

Hi, I’m really bored and this usually take me a long time to make so im making yet another FF, there’s no really  a reason behind it, so   just wanna say thank u to the people in this list for not being too annoying or not shitting on BVB, because if u talk shit about Arsenal and Barcelona I’ll brush it off but BVB truly hurts my heart and u need to stop, only like 6 of u do it tho so i can tolerate becuase im a grown.

Also I followed a lot of new blogs in my attempt to keep learning korean even tho I got too lazy for it, but im still trying, to all of u, thank you for having such nice EXO blogs, I aprecciate u a lot even tho I’ve been following u for like 2 weeks, that’s it.
And some other extras i just follow becuase you’re rad/latinx/nice

Now cmd + F your URL to find urself down below becasue I’m bored but not as much to arrange everyone in alpahbetical order (:

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cappara  asked:

Wait, what's an anti blog? I'm sorta confused?? Is it like... anti-shipping? Anti-nsfw?? Please help me Sinmother

This is going to be long, but i suggest all my followers read.

Anti Blogs (or so my understanding of the situation is) are blogs dedicated to eradicating problematic or controversial content. This usually has to do with incest, pedophilia, white-washing, and abusive ships.

 Now in some instances this can be really good! I’ve seen anti-blogs take out other blogs who have been sending hate, re-posting, spamming underage users with porn, or deliberately trying to trigger abuse survivors. Some of the people who run these blogs really do have others’ best interests at heart and do all the can to make sure fandom remains a safe place for everyone it it. These are the blogs I support. 

Now, on the other hand, there a good number of anti blogs who have gone off the deep end. 

These are mostly people who thrive off of so-called “doxing culture” and have nothing better to do than create problems out of nothing. They can find fault in anything and practice a militant brand of social justice that attacks people for the smallest things. They like to condemn bloggers who do not tailor to their specific ideals, to the point where they themselves become a hateful blog. 

One blog in particular has taken root in the ml fandom, creating a number of posts ( x x x x x x) that do little but spew hate. This is just a small number of the many asks (most of which I would assume they sent to themselves seeing as though the typing style is the same) this blog has published bashing a number of ml blogs about what content they decide to put out. they even bashed Thomas Astruc?? like???

I’D LIKE TO MAKE ONE THING CLEAR: I DO NOT IN ANY WAY CONDONE PEDOPHILIA, WHITE-WASHING, OR ABUSIVE SHIPS. 

AT ALL.

But I also think there is a huge difference between pedophilia (sexual conduct between a minor and an adult), and two consenting teenagers exploring their sexuality in a safe way.

Here’s the thing: there is always going to be nsfw content. Always.

As fans of a show with underage characters, the only thing we can do as a fandom to keep tumblr a safe space for everyone is to make sure that content is:

  1. always aged up
  2. not tagged with main fandom tags and always tagged nsfw
  3. heavily warned about so anyone uncomfortable can look away
  4. CONSENSUAL

Everyone should have the right to see what they want on their dash. Some bloggers like nsfw, some dont. It it not my place, or anyone’s place to take that choice away. As a (barely) legal adult, I can’t rid the internet of bad things. I cant make it my personal journey to insure every person under 18 never encounters nsfw content… 

Because newsflash! There are going to be minors who *gasp!* are curious about sex!  

Teenagers have urges, and their curiosity is natural! I was literally in their shoes a few short years ago, trolling ff.net for smut because I was curious about sex but didn’t like porn!

 Censoring the internet is an impossible task, but what I can do is make sure I am showing examples of safe, sane, and consensual sexual relationships. Because 15 year old Bullysquadess- who grew up thinking that a boy kissing a girl to shut her up was romantic, or that your first time was supposed to be a bloody, painful experience- really could have used more exposure to content like that. 

Content that was real and honest. Content that was not sensationalized, not fetishized, but honest-to-God educational.

And when blogs like this arise- blogs that probably never even read my fic before branding it as evil, child corrupting smut- they ruin the fandom experience for those around them. They are taking away a source of learning and exploration for people who may not have many opportunities to explore their budding sexuality in a safe, non-judgemental space. Their holier-than-thou attitude and desire to condemn anything that they dont deem as “good” or “moral” makes sites like tumblr almost unbearable for the other 99% of bloggers who have the common sense to just look the other way when they encounter something they dont particularly enjoy.

As a little review, I am not necessarily against Anti blogs, but I feel a number of them cross the line onto being hateful.  

( Along that same topic, I dont want to see any of my followers sending the blog in question any anon messages, as hate does not put an end to hate. )

I need more blogs to follow!

If you post at least 85% Animal Crossing content, please reblog this! I need more blogs to follow becuase my dash is starting to be mostly content for my side blog!
I reblog ALL Animal Crossing games, & I’m also looking for blogs who post a lot of AC related art, & original content!
You don’t have to follow me back, but I would greatly appreciate it!

askirlmikasaackerman  asked:

Hello tiger! We havent met before. I'm sygnallost, a fellow anime illustrator. I really have to ask how you get your art out there? If that makes sense.

Hello!! This has been sitting in my inbox for sometime haha;; I had to give it some thought before I could answer it. I dont think i’m supremely popular or anything lol;; These are just based on my own experiences!

too long didnt read: I suppose it boils down to posting often and interacting with the community. Plenty of people seem to think that the internet is this giant machine that will automatically get you followers and fans the moment you post a thing. It’s not. 

longer version: Firstly, there are just way too many artists out there, so you need to constantly post (daily?? weekly??) or people..will simply forget about you. 

Secondly the internets is a two way thing. You can’t just post a thing and tag 9000 things and hope people see it, you need to get out there and interact with people. When I say interact I don’t mean go aroudn screaming HELLO PLEASE VISIT MY BLOG FOLLOW FOR FOLLOW  at every one lol. on tumblr perhaps, this is sort of harder becuase there isn’t a legit commenting system, but on places like facebook/dA, commenting on things or participating in forums can go a long way, and you might even make friends! I guess..being sincere is best tho haha I’ve seen my share of “OH U DRAW GOOD LET BE FRIEND xoxo follow for follow” and that’s…kinda : ^ )  to me lol

oh and lastly I guess a lot of people (myself included) feel that you need to be supER GOOD AND TALENTED to be noticed. While that is sort of true, there are also niches you can look into. Fanart is probably the fastest way (lol, i know plenty of people see fanart as whoring popularity but that’s a topic for another day) Keep up with the latest news and draw what people want to see I guess? but this brings me to my next point:

Remember to have fun! if you draw just for the sake of attracting followers and getting!! many!!! notes!!, well, go for it lol, who am I to judge?

but as naive as it sounds, I think that when you enjoy drawing a thing, even if you dont have Super Good Technical Skills™, that joy is what makes your work shine brighter.

Following spree!!

I am rewatching Merlin and you know that show is so good, and its making me feel things, and i need more of it on my dash. And some other shows too. So, if you post that, then please REBLOG or LIKE this. And follow me :) Becuase its easier for me to see your blog like that!

- BBC Merlin (The Adventures Of Merlin)

- Merthur // Arnevere (Gwen x Arthur) // Mergana (Merlin x Morgana)

- Shadowhunters

- Sizzy / Malec / Clace / Saphael (Ships from Shadowhunters)

- Teen Wolf (all ships)

- How To Get Away With Murder

And I will check your blog out and follow you. Have a great day.

i needed an excuse to make this and today is perfect becuase its my birthday yay! Bolded users are my favorite blogs! im sorry if i miss anyone. i judged urls names that involved 5sos to sort this out.  I follow you guys from asseaterlarry

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anonymous asked:

Hi I love your blog! So I have a hard time sealing to my parent mainly BECUASE we don't get along great but ever since childhood I suffered from great anxiety and I'm always scared of dying, and now that Ebola is in the US I'm scared a Fck, but I'm only 13 yrs old, and ever since a young age I felt a lump in my boobs and I'm scared I have cancer, like I said I have terrible anxiety 😔 so I'm scared to death since the beginning of this year it started hurting more.. I need some advice😔

Sometimes I think you can almost force symptoms if you think of it too much. I suggest talking to your school nurse, that’s something she can help with okay.

text → the one that got away.
  • dexter: i know it's 3 am but i just got ou t of a party and i had al ittle too much to drink and it rreminded me of the time we met
  • dexter: such a cliche way to m eet right/? at acollege party? so /stupid/
  • dexter: but i c ant i just can t loo kat anothe person becuase theyre not as ta ll as you and they do nt have that cute little wrinkled nos e laugh l iek you do and they dont have the right eye color and wow
  • dexter: god i fucekd up i know i did i /know/
  • dexter: but i miss you
  • dexter: and i need you to com e back