becomes better people

Reason to love Ali

Ali seven years ago. Top of the food chain, wreaking havoc and basically making people miserable. Yes, she was an awful person, but sometimes people are like that because that’s all they know.

After 7 years of hell, running away, having to deal with the harsh realities we call life, and basically missing out on being a teenager, this is the Ali we have now.

People can change, and sometimes you need to be able to see that they can. For those who hate her, I’m just going to say, you all must be saints in your life. We all have our moments, and sometimes some last longer than others, the point is sometimes we need someone to help us become better people. Don’t turn your back on someone just because you already passed judgement on them, you might be the one who makes a difference in them. Just saying.

A To-Do List for White Fandom

I’ve seen several posts circulating today about racism in multiple fandoms. The arguments and counterpoints I’ve seen are not unexpected. For background: I am writing instructor and I devote a significant portion of my classes to discussions of media representation. Why? Because I realized I was doing everything that these posts talk about: Ignoring characters of color, sidelining them for white villains or sidekicks with far less screen time, ignoring women of color entirely, etc. And all the while, like so many of you, I said, “I’m not racist.” I had in-universe explanations for why I liked this ‘ship over that one, this character more than that. I could defend and explain everything.

Racism is not who you are. It is what you do. And here’s a fact: All white people do racist things. We’ve been trained to, taught to. It’s in our culture, all around us. If you’re white, our culture has allowed most racism to be entirely invisible to us. Racism isn’t just yelled slurs and burning crosses. Often, racism is simply *not caring* about people who aren’t white. Racism is an inability to empathize with or care about the story of someone who is not white.

IF YOU’RE FEELING DEFENSIVE, PLEASE KEEP READING. I beg you. That’s exactly the feeling we have to push through. I’m going to give you a brief list of actions we can take. And I know these are important because I have to do them, all the time. Because the poison is in me, too.

If you truly believe in equality and want to be a better person, then here’s what we, as white fans, have to do:

1. BE BRAVE ENOUGH TO BE UNCOMFORTABLE. It absolutely sucks to realize you may have hurt someone, or that you might be wrong. Realizing you’ve done something racist is a stomach-churning reality check. Have the courage to face it. Don’t run from it.

2. INSTEAD OF LOOKING FOR WAYS YOU’RE NOT RACIST, LOOK FOR WAYS THAT YOU *ARE*. It’s comforting and tempting to itemize the ways in which we’re open-minded. See #1 again. Don’t let yourself be comfortable. Instead, look for what you do and ways you contribute to fandom racism. Maybe it’s reblogging or creating gif sets that leave out main characters of color. Maybe it’s forgetting to include them in your fanfiction, even when they would rightfully be there. Maybe it’s reducing them to stereotypes or caretakers for white characters. Maybe it’s ‘shipping the white leads with anyone but the POC around them. Maybe it’s accusing POC fans of “starting drama” when they discuss racism. Look at your actions and be honest with yourself.

3. PUT IN THE EFFORT TO FALL IN LOVE WITH POC CHARACTERS. Here’s the thing: It’s easy for us to fall in love with white male heroes and villains. It’s what we’ve been training for all our lives, with every movie, television show, and book we’ve ever enjoyed. Media *encourages* us to love white men. So yes, falling in love with a character of color will be harder, and it probably won’t “just happen.” So, truly look at Finn and Poe, at Cassian Andor and Bodhi. Truly look at Luke Garroway and Magnus Bane, at Luke Cage, at Iris West and James Olsen, at Michonne. Seek out ways to connect with their feelings and their stories. Look at them as full-hearted, three-dimensional human beings. Force yourself to become obsessed with them. If you do this, I would be absolutely shocked if you don’t fall in love with one of them.

4. LISTEN TO POC FANS. Yes, even if they’re angry and call you names. For my research, I spend a lot of time on blogs that talk about hating white people, hating white fans, hating white feminists. The language is furious and vitriolic. So what? They have every right to be angry. Instead of judging their anger, LISTEN to it. Try to be better. Don’t say “not all white fans,” or “not all white people.” Instead, try to be a better white person. Be a better white fan. Be a white fan who is brave enough to look at themselves and truly be an ally. Do not silence POC fans. I promise you: Listen, and you’ll realize they’re not overreacting.

5. REMEMBER THAT “ALLY” IS A VERB. Our thoughts count for nothing. It’s our actions that speak for us. Maybe you’ve read all this and you still want to insist that you’re not racist. Okay. But your actions might be. Challenge the stereotypes that exist in your head, learn to identify them as stereotypes and be willing to hold yourself and other white fans accountable.

6. REPEAT STEPS 1-5 FOREVER. We cannot cure our internalized white supremacy in a weekend. This is a forever gig. But it’s one of the most worthwhile tasks you can ever give yourself. Want to feel like you’re changing the world? Here’s where it starts.

Inevitably there’s more to add to this list. I’m always learning, but I thought it might be useful to share a few of these steps I’ve learned along the way. I love fandom. I believe profoundly in the transformative power of fanfiction, fan creations, and the friendships forged through our shared love of media.

I believe we can become BETTER PEOPLE through fandom. But it will not happen without our willingness to be transformed.

170304 Fancafe Update

“We are extremely sorry for our insensitive actions and use of blackface in our video while portraying Bruno Mars. There is no excuse for what we did and there are not enough words to explain how regretful we are. We are heartbroken to have hurt our international K-Pop fans so deeply.

We love and care so much for all people of every color, race, sexuality, religion, and gender. We love all our fans and are so sorry to have hurt our fans in the black community.

We understand now why our actions were wrong and we never meant to do harm with our video. We were extremely ignorant of blackface and did not understand the implications of our actions.

We will be taking time to understand more about our international fans to ensure this never happens again. We hope that you will help to educate us on these and other issues so that we can become better people and better artists.

Thank you so much for bringing this to our attention and allowing us to right the wrongs that we have done.”

— MAMAMOO 

I know that the majority of people hate it… but Sonic Boom is one of my favorite shows of all time.

Not only is it wonderfully clever while still managing to be simplistic, the characters are hilarious, and it is wonderful at cheering me up whenever I’m down. Whenever I start feeling just a little too angsty for my liking, I go to Sonic Boom for support.

Originally posted by shinyfroakie

Like this gives me actual joy.

Life suddenly seems a little brighter knowing that Sonic Boom is around, a glimmering gem in the middle of all the hate and negativity. The show doesn’t let other people get it down. It keeps going strong.

And that’s something I admire about it.

Also, it gave us this.

Like I’ve said it before, but I’ll say it again in a separate post: a ton of people on this site are teenagers and young adults. We are all still in our formative years. We are all learning new shit all the time, unlearning old shit, improving, forming ideas, and becoming the people we are going to be when we are older.

Which means all of us, every last one, is going to make mistakes. Repeatedly. And not that older folks don’t either, but young folks in particular are still being heavily shaped by ours.

So this happening, trying to develop and become better people all while in a toxic environment that literally will screenshot your every last mistake and hold it against you until you delete, is going to achieve literally the opposite end.

This warped mentality people are starting to aggressively pursue that everyone has to be perfect all the time and that if they have a failing you ATTACK, is so fucking twisted and detrimental.

If you think for one second that pulling up a post that’s 3 years old and doesn’t reflect the current beliefs of a person to spread around and get others to harass them won’t come back to hurt you too, you’re unfortunately ignorant.

One day you’re going to accidentally say the wrong thing, use the wrong words, or say something that can be manipulated or mistranslated, and you’ll be fucked. One or maybe all of your followers will screenshot you to and spread that around, because guess what?

Its not, and never has been about sussing out and protecting against dangerous or bad people. Its has ALWAYS been a game of “I’m morally superior and every call out I make validates my moral superiority.” So the chance to one up even an “ally” is not going to go unpassed.

And the inevitable mistakes a developing kid will make will be recorded and used as evidence and justification for social isolation and harassment, and they’ll find absolutely no reason to align themselves with your political beliefs or learn why their mistakes were wrong.

The goal is not and should NEVER be about continually minimizing and purifying social justice groups as you banish and abuse people for every misstep. Its about building larger and stronger communities by correcting mistakes and educating to avoid them.

NO ONE should be spending their time in fear of making a mistake. Being alert and conscious of what you say and do is NOT the same thing. And teaching young people that even the smallest of mistakes will have serious consequences is a horrific thing, in particular to nd and other already disadvantaged youth.

Call out culture is garbage and if THIS is the result of you trying to deal with truly nasty people, you’re not a good person either.

I think my love is too intense.. I require raw passion and basically your soul tbh. I expect honestly and loyalty as a default. I’m highly ambitious and I’m driven by grinding and building so we can achieve a financially free future together. I love growing with someone, helping each other become better people. I live for spontaneous shit, goofy jokes and over the top romance. I just wanna build an empire with someone whilst being in the most sincerest deepest form of love and devotion.
For some, going to work and coming home - curling up in front of the TV is enough. For me that’s great, but I still prefer the unconventional life - where we might not see each other every day because we are building but when we do, we create life long memories and just embrace. I know it seems like a lot to ask but it isn’t impossible.

  • otp: both have a severe case of abandonment issues that they don't discuss and use anger or jokes to avoid talking about them.
  • me: yes...
  • otp: hate and annoy each other at every turn and have an overtly antagonistic relationship yet have more in common than they think.
  • me: niceeeeeee
  • otp: form a begrudging friendship that they deny to other people while still obviously caring about each other.
  • me: incredible
  • otp: fall in mutually beneficial love where they subconsciously help each other become better people just by being together.
  • me: I WILL FLIP THIS TABLE RIGHT NOW!
Listen UP

Instead of pointing fingers and only complaining about Julie and how she depicted Sana this season, maybe think about it? The show is literally called Shame, each season we saw something that the main character was ashamed of doing and/or thought was shameful.
Sana’s season takes place right in the holy month of Ramadan - while you all applaud her for “spilling tea” (and not gonna lie, I did too), we all know how much Sana values her religion - she repeatedly says that it teaches not to judge, she literally tells Isak that Islam teaches us “that no person should be talked about behind their back, violated, judged or ridiculed”.
And especially in the month of Ramadan we are supposed to take these values to heart, to learn to appreciate all that we have and to become better people. What Sana is doing goes against all of this - and that’s the whole point. Yes, she is a muslim girl in a non-muslim country, a strong, smart, independent young woc with strong beliefs and an iron will to show the world that she is not like the picture painted of muslims by the media and the people, that she is her own person - but she’s also still a teenager who’s feelings are hurt and who doesn’t know what else to do but to lash out in order to protect herself.
So instead of crying “racist” at Julie for portraying a poc with all her goods and bads and with all her faults, try to understand first before jumping to conclusions.

that being said it’s also really funny how me and other muslims are actually more or less quite satisfied w this season but white people blow it out of proportion and think it’s racists af ??

Shout out to everyone who has ever been abused.

Shout out to everyone who has ever been abused by people who should be family.

Shout out to all abuse survivors.

Shout out to everyone who’s ace.

Shout out to everyone who’s aro.

Shout out to everyone who’s non-binary.

Shout out to everyone who’s trans.

Shout out to everyone who’s queer in any way, shape, or form.

Shout out to everyone who has ever had to deal with their family having internalized racism that results in abuse.

Shout out to everyone who is mixed-race whose families give them shit about their identity because of internalized racism.

Shout out to everyone whose family has ever delegitimized them because their family thinks who they are ‘isn’t real’ or is ‘unacceptable’.

If you need it, I am your family now. I’m the enby battle-ax sibling/cousin/aunc who has your back, and if you need a shoulder and a listening ear I’m here. Things will get better. I can’t promise that your abusers will become better people, but I can promise that if you get away from them and when you do that things will get better.

a few thoughts

that “you said you would come with me” from watson hit me really hard and i haven’t been able to put it aside for quite a few days now. here is joan watson for all her life internalising her feelings, repressing her emotions and putting aside her grief all to help others. she’s been through so much shit, SO MUCH, but every time she decided to pick herself up, to start afresh, to put these feelings aside until later on. along came shinwell, and she saw something in him, like she could do something right again. shinwell wanted to change, wanted to help and that beautiful, beautiful and golden heart of joan’s wanted to guide him along the way with sherlock, her best friend, her partner, the person she trusts and loves the most. eventually, shinwell decided to do something that he knew would disappoint her, but she hung on because despite the “lesser evil” part, she still believed in what he was doing and why he was doing it. he wasn’t getting away with anything. they both knew that. she might’ve not trusted shinwell anymore, but she sure as hell supported him. and then, he got killed and she was the one to lay her two fingers to find a pulse that wasn’t there. she was the one who had to see his lifeless body being covered by a bag and wheeled away.  she was the one who had to fight for what he was doing, to finish what he had started and the internalised feelings and emotions were finally being sent up to the surface. it was finally starting to overwhelm and drown her, pulling her back in, so she asked sherlock to just be there. mind you, she had probably never really asked someone to just stay like this; just to be there beside her, someone she could hold onto. she trusted sherlock and she would always trust him so she knew that he would be there for her. but still, she asked will you go with me with such a heartbreaking vulnerability, and looked at him like he was the light that would bring her back in from the storm that had surrounded her. she still had that longing hope that she would get justice for shinwell and sherlock would still be here despite all the issues they were having, next to her and they would be okay and everything else and everyone else would be okay.  but he didn’t come and she was so fucking hurt because she thought that he abandoned her all because shinwell hurt him a few months ago and he wasn’t able to get over it, DESPITE the fact that she quietly asked him to go. and then tyus wilcox dropped it on her that shinwell died because of her, because her name was in his contacts. another name got added on the list of people that died because of her. gerald castoro, andrew mittal, emil kurtz with two innocent civilians and now shinwell johnson. but she sat in front of all those monitors listening to carmen, listening to her screams and yells and pleads and that shot itself was so fucking heart-wrenching I had to pause for a moment to continue on. she still gave him a chance to answer the question when he came to the room but the words I forgot, from a man WHO NEVER FORGETS was full of such betrayal and absolute agony, she had to get up and walk away from him. that absolute pang of hurt on her face was there because she now knew that sherlock never wanted to come and took pity on her when he said of course and was using an excuse of all things to get out of a situation that shouldn’t have been created in the first place. and then he tried to berate shinwell thinking it would solve the problem, a man who was dead because of her and a man who at least tried to do something right. she literally had no one left at that moment in time, she really believed that. joan watson believed she was alone and that she was now back to square one. something so sacred and intimate between them had been broken and there was no going back and sherlock was too confused to even stop her from heading out and closing the door on him. god, the writers could’ve done so much with this, so much with joan and everything she’s been through. the imagining dead people trope would’ve worked so well on her. i’m so sad. this is the saddest, and the most heartbreaking finale I have seen. bring on all the angst fics. let’s give joan watson and the partnership between sherlock and joan what it deserves, SOMETHING EQUAL, because the writers sure as hell won’t.

Lesson 11.4: Soul Relationships

Our souls come here to grow. We cannot grow in isolation and different souls cross paths in order to help each other and all of humanity to evolve. We do this through different relationships: karmic relationships, soulmate relationships, and twin flame relationships. A lot of the time we confuse these relationships and misinterpret their meaning, because they all do have overlapping attributes. However, all kinds of soul relationships are unique in their own way. 

Karmic Relationships

Karmic relationships are relationships with people who teach us lessons we didn’t master in our last lifetime. They usually don’t work out, but that’s because they’re not supposed to. Lasting forever would defeat the purpose of a karmic relationship. Your karmic soulmate should come into your life, teach you/challenge you through different experiences, and then leave. This sounds harsh, but it’s not bad. They are called “karmic” relationships because their purpose is to help both of the souls balance mutual karma. That’s why karmic relationships often form based on strong attraction (whether it be physical, mental or emotional), because both souls know that they need this connection in order to balance karma from a past life. There will be good times in these relationships and the end is not always abrupt or through heartbreak, especially if the two souls involved are mindful. It takes strength to be in these relationships, as sometimes it’s hard to let go. 


We may want to hold on for some reason, maybe there’s something in the relationship that we can’t let go of, but we have to understand that letting go is learning our lesson and afterward we will move on to better things and new lessons. Like any soulmate, you can have karmic relationships with your friends as well.

Soulmate Relationships

Soulmates are souls who teach us lessons as well. The souls we’re with in karmic relationships often teach us things that influence our perception of reality and help us to grow our perception. Soulmates often teach us things that help us to grow internally. 

“Soul mates share a common mission and comparable stage of spiritual development. They come together because they are working on the same type of karma and the same chakra simultaneously.

So soul mates have an attraction that is based on the sacred labor and on the path of self-mastery.

A soul mate is like the echo of oneself in Matter working at the same task to fulfill a blueprint for God.” – Elizabeth Clare Prophet

Soulmate relationships experience hardships just as any other relationship does. The difference is that in soulmate relationships, the hardships we face are usually centered around growth. The challenges help us to change and when we experience difficulty with a soulmate, we turn to introspection to see what we can do internally to help the situation. This is because soulmates are here to help us do that, to be introspective and see how we can grow. Soulmates often focus on you and how you can become a better person, whereas karmic partners focus on themselves. See, karmic lovers won’t directly encourage us to grow. Through their actions and the flaws in their personalities and our ability to let go of them, they help us to grow. Soulmates directly try to help us become better people. They even help us with self-awareness and realizing our greatness and our purpose.

Half of our soulmates won’t even be romantic. The purpose of a soulmate is to help us grow and evolve in this life and become better versions of ourselves, which doesn’t have to be romantic. A soulmate can even be a stranger you encounter for a few minutes, but within that encounter something will happen that helps you to grow. We often have “soul circles” or “soul families”, a group of other souls who we travel through lifetimes with. These will be good friends of yours who you become friends with in each lifetime. If you have friends who feel more like your family than the people you’re actually related to do, then they could be your soul circle.

Twin Flames

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Mamamoo’s apology

“We are extremely sorry for our insensitive actions and use of blackface in our video while portraying Bruno Mars. There is no excuse for what we did and there are not enough words to explain how regretful we are. We are heartbroken to have hurt our international K-Pop fans so deeply.

We love and care so much for all people of every color, race, sexuality, religion, and gender. We love all our fans and are so sorry to have hurt our fans in the black community.

We understand now why our actions were wrong and we never meant to do harm with our video. We were extremely ignorant of blackface and did not understand the implications of our actions.

We will be taking time to understand more about our international fans to ensure this never happens again. We hope that you will help to educate us on these and other issues so that we can become better people and better artists.

Thank you so much for bringing this to our attention and allowing us to right the wrongs that we have done.”

— MAMAMOO

I’d be overjoyed if they characterized Sonic the way they did in Unleashed and Black Knight.
A Sonic with a strong sense of morals. A Sonic with a short fuse, quick to anger at anything unjust. A Sonic who cares deeply for his friends, and is willing to spare his enemies in the hopes that they will become better people. A Sonic who values fun and freedom over all, but is willing to sacrifice his freedom or even his life to protect those he cares for. A Sonic who is affected by loss and sadness, but won’t let it prevent him from fighting on. A Sonic who refuses to let the constant evil around him corrupt him.

nurseydex harry potter au

ok so i don’t know if anyone’s done this yet… probably… but i thought up some nurseydex hogwarts house things and wanted to share

so i thought a lot about dex’s house and my first thought was slytherin due to his ambition and resourcefulness, but then i immediately thought of hufflepuff. hufflepuff value hard work and dedication, both of which dex is not short of, as well as fair play, which dex values greatly. i debated whether or not dex would be placed in hufflepuff because of his quick temper, but the sorting hat considers which house would be best for the student to work on their weaknesses and become better people because of them. being surrounded by other students with lots of patience would definitely improve dex’s temper.

you can bet your ass nursey is from one of those old pureblood families but he isn’t stuck up about it, he’s actually super “chill”. nursey is sorted into ravenclaw, which values knowledge, wit and intelligence. nursey’s extensive knowledge of languages and literature help him into ravenclaw, but other traits such as his creativity, surprising amounts of wisdom and most of all acceptance secure his place.

they meet in a potions class. dex is brilliant at this subject : potions follow a systematic recipe and require a certain amount of inventiveness to work at their best. nursey is pretty awful, so dex begrudgingly offers to help him.

when they start dating the school finds out because of their ties. after a night in the room of requirement the two hurry to breakfast pretending to be simply friends, until dex sits down at the hufflepuff table wearing a ravenclaw tie and nursey does the same with a hufflepuff one. the great hall is in uproar. bets have been going on for weeks. lardo in slytherin collects over £200. dex’s ears are a walking gryffindor advertisement. nursey loves it.

okay but i know a lot of people are on the knight jeremy train, but hear me out for a second

king jeremy

one of the youngest kings out of the current kings to rule. he may not know a whole lot, but he tries his best to learn all he can so he can run a successful kingdom. who always puts his people first and is one of the kindest rulers. who creates beautiful buildings and structures either for people to live in or to decorate the kingdom. who is fair and kind and courageous. a man who is a nightmare on the battlefield and can destroy armies with little effort. a man who charges into battle with hell’s fire in his veins. who, after every battle, weeps for the lost lives and goes to the homes of the knights who gave their lives to say his condolences to the families, should their families be alive. a king who gives it his all to protect everyone, even if they have committed crimes.

literally just give me king jeremy who tries his best and is always optimistic and trying to make his kingdom a welcome place for all to come to.

Personally?

I don’t think Marinette had many close friends, if at all, before the miraculous were introduced.

That is to say, I don’t think she was isolated or that she didn’t get along with her classmates (aside from Chloe and Sabrina, obviously, who we will get to), but she just didn’t belong to any one group. She was friends with everyone, and no one at the same time.

As I’ve said in a previous post before, I think it’s fair to say that while the Marinette we know is pretty confident and not afraid to back down, she’s also still a teenage girl who was/is plenty insecure. We all saw her in the origins episode, which is very important to both Marinette and Adrien’s characters especially when we compare them to how they are now.

Marinette was so convinced she would be a terrible superhero, looked down on herself, and pointed out her clumsiness again and again. When she got to class, she intended to sit in her usual seat, where no one was waiting despite everyone - or nearly everyone - already settled in. That usually means she doesn’t know anyone well enough to sit by them, and that I know from experience.

Then in comes Chloe, who Marinette has already complained about to her mother, and kicks her out. And Marinette argues a bit before she looks resigned - until Alya steps in, of course. This leaves us with the implication that Marinette is either used to being harassed by Chloe (which I think everyone reading this lines) or she just doesn’t see the point in defending herself more.

That doesn’t mean she has a fight in her; we see her not-so-resigned when she sees Adrien and assumes he’s sticking gum on her seat. She had plenty fire, but she’s so used to being separated and singled out by Chloe that she just didn’t have much fight in her (although we can also say Alya defending her the day before gave her a little boost of confidence).

Even when she first meets Chat Noir, she’s a total mess in the beginning, doubting herself again and calling herself a Mega-Klutz (or something along the lines).

But her confidence grows when she realizes she needs to step in, that people are counting on her. And that sticks with her as Marinette, which is why she proudly stands up to Chloe the next day.

Throughout the season, we see Marinette bonding with all her classmates, being the confident ray of sunshine we know her as. But I sincerely think that’s a recent development, her reaching out more and building stronger friendships.

If she had been that close with them or as confident and sassy before being Ladybug, like I know some people believe, she would have been voted class president before. Is that a leap? Maybe, maybe not.

Think about it; you can generally tell when a classmate you’ve known for a few years (and the kids have known each other for a few years, as we see from their class photos) is good material to be your class representative and such. You get a good feel of their character even in the few weeks you’re in a class with them.

Marinette wasn’t like that before. Being Ladybug helped her grow; gave her the confidence she needed to reach out, defend herself, and become a better friend to people (not to say she was a bad friend).

But that part of her - the one who calls herself a Mega-Klutz - is still in her. It’s been, what, a year or less since gaining her miraculous? That is a core part of who she is; it doesn’t go away.

She’s still scared of people finding out Ladybug is really Mega-Klutz, and being disappointed. That’s why it’s so popular in reveal fics, because it makes sense, as tiresome as it can be for some readers.

So, yes; Marinette is a wonderful, confident character full of burning fire and sunshine. But she wasn’t always like that, and we have to remember that.

{ note: every example came from memory alone, so please forgive me for any incorrect info }