become an expert

7 Steps for Maintaining Motivation

1. Grasp that it’s YOUR life, and no-one else’s life.

2. Decide to “live on purpose”.

3. Recognise that achievement has a price tag attached to it – and decide you’ll pay that price.

4. Work on constantly maintaining your focus.

5. Chose a skill or a field and become competent, or an expert, in that area.

6. Find other people who will hold you to your goals – and will believe in, and encourage you, to strive to reach your dreams.

7. Consciously notice the progress you are making, and remind yourself “it’s worth it” as you’re further on the path.

Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
—  “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel Van Der Kolk
how Disney finally got it right with Moana, a post by me

well, it took the better part of a century, but with Moana, Disney appears to have, at long last, created the quintessential ur-text of what’s required of a princess movie

disclaimer: i’m an east coast Jewish girl, so any claims one way or another about the depictions of Pacific Islander culture are way out of my lane. would love to hear the thoughts of any Polynesian followers!

thoughts under the cut, to protect from spoilers

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Artist: Fidelia Bridges


Fidelia Bridges was an American painter and illustrator of the Pre-Raphaelite movement. She one of the very few female artists of the 19th and early 20th centuries to achieve widespread success

Her paintings focus on nature and environments, and are notable for their striking realism and attention to detail

She began painting in oils, later moving on to watercolor and becoming widely accepted as an expert in her field

She attended the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts and was named one of seven notable 19th century artists by the American Watercolor Society - the only woman in that category

When your child is LGBT they are part of a minority. If you are like most parents and heterosexual, this is a minority that does not include you. Most of the time that’s not the case. Most minorities are based on race and religion – things that tend to run in families. History and stories are told from generation to generation. Politics are discussed over the kitchen table where everyone has the same stake. This is different. You may not be LGBT, but it is now your job to become an expert in this minority. You need to learn LGBT history, LGBT current political issues and LGBT controversies. Because you need to know your child’s history, your child’s issues, your child’s reality. This might feel uncomfortable to you, maybe even a little alien, but this is not about you. This is about your child.

Open Letter to Parents of Gay Kids: This Is Not About You | Amelia for the Huffington Post Gay Voices 

Tip: Don’t read the comments. Some of them are encouraging and heartfelt, but some of them are just…not. 

10 Of The Most Effective High Level And Nitty Gritty Tips For Getting Rich

There are a million paths to getting rich. But there’s unlikely anyone out there successful who wouldn’t emphasize the value of people skills in succeeding. So back to your question, how do you get rich quickly:

1. Learn relentlessly.

2. Become a people person.

3. Work hard.

4. Take risks.

5. Get a job in a high growth industry.

6. Work for the best and most recognizable company you can work for.

7. Become an expert.

8. Create multiple income streams.

9. Be too busy to spend money.

10. Finally, start a company.

Here’s why these tips are so effective.

My favorite part of having ADHD is when you talk about it to someone and suddenly they become an expert and know more than you do about how it works

Like okay Kyle, manager of a cracker barrel, you’re right, you have bested me in knowledge of mental illness and you alone decide what is and isn’t actually adhd

Mindblowing facts about SDR2


I was happily fooling around on (it’s very good when you want to read something totally random or interesting about any fandom possible) and I decided to read something about SDR2… There are many things (from tearjerking, to nightmarish, to funny, things of any kind, really) that I never noticed and these are the ones I personally find to be the most interesting. 

WARNING: Long post.

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Aedion headcanons

He usually wears his hair in a bun but he also often allows Evangeline to braid it. After a few years she becomes an expert with different and complicated hairstyles and she uses him as an example.

Once Lysandra told him he looks good with eyeliner and since then he often wears it to parties and at special occasions.

His first kiss was a boy that smelled like salted caramel and had embers in his eyes. Aedion cried all night after he saw him dead on a battlefield.

He secretly read all of Aelin’s cheesy romance novels. Once Dorian saw him but promised he won’t tell anyone after Aedion threatened his life.

His favourite colour is green.

He absolutely can’t cook no matter how hard he tries.

His worst nightmare is being kidnapped and nobody coming after him.

this one goes out to all the blithering self-righteous crapspouts who think my opinions on hitting children, spying on children, or adults’ responsibility to respect children’s rights and human dignity generally will change when I “grow up” or become a parent myself.

I’m 30 years old. my understanding of the fact that children’s rights are not determined by parents has never been stronger than it is today. shut up.

I study and teach on children’s rights for a living. I have graduate degrees in childhood studies and psychology. in case this isn’t clear, that means I know more than you do. being an adult doesn’t make you an authority. putting years of hard bloody work put into becoming an expert does. shut up.

whether or not I have kids of my own doesn’t matter, because being a parent makes you an expert on children’s rights in pretty much the same way being a man makes you an expert on feminism (as in, it doesn’t, at all). but regardless, no, I’m not a parent. I have, on the other hand, been a teacher, a tutor, a nanny, a camp supervisor, a legal advocate, and in one instance, the temporary guardian/person solely responsible for a group of kids going through serious trauma as a result of parental abuse and an ongoing custody/CPS battle. through all of it I’ve managed not to be a shitty human being who treats people like they don’t deserve the same basic dignity and respect I demand from others. the fact that you can’t handle responsibility without turning tyrannical doesn’t mean others have the same failing. shut up.

even if younger people’s views were automatically different from yours, that wouldn’t make them less important. that would make your views less important. children are the highest authority on whether or not something you’re doing to them is disrespectful or wrong. claiming that being a child means your view of how adults treat you can automatically be discounted is gross and abusive in itself. it’s gaslighting in the extreme. shut up.

finally, there are plenty of people your age who are capable of understanding that what you’re doing is wrong, and you do not get to lump us in with you and claim us as allies. that’s the same as the goddamn “it’s just locker room talk all guys do it” defense. I’m an adult, and I’m not on your side. plenty of adults - plenty of parents - are not on your side.

shut. the hell. up.


Despite advances in digital technology, the structural engineering syllabus has remained largely unchanged for close to a century. A degree still entails becoming an expert in things like load, leveling, tension, and stress—and students are expected to learn hand-drafting and model construction. But Brazilian architect Márcio Sequeira de Oliveira thought there was a better (and better-looking) way for wannabe-engineers to grok structural mechanics. He calls his solution Mola. It’s the first structural modeling kit you’ll want to snap a selfie with, regardless of your major.

READ MORE: The gorgeous Mola Modeling Kit will make a real engineer out of you.

10 Things that make you an INTJ

1. You have already visualized how the same thing could happen in a million different ways. 

2. You decided on the best outcome, set your mind to it, nothing will change your mind. Like you will literally walk over flaming hot coals, because that is what you decided to do. 

3. You become an overnight expert in the new thing that really interests you. While you are on team sleep, when you have a new obsession nothing will get in your way of knowing ALL OF THE THINGS.

4. Sticky notes are you favorite thing. You write everything you need to do on them, you place them on things, you cover up INTP’s mouth with them.

5. You like real calendars so you can write on them. You probably have a pretty intense relationship with that one calendar that has funny puns on it because it reminds you of INTP.

6. You plan ahead for everything. Even when its just hanging out with your friend. Literally, you plan the clothing you’re going to wear, the walks you are going to go on and things you can do, and then act like it was a casual plan because who actually does that?

7. Everyone annoys you, the way they breath, the way they walk, the way they eat, the way they drink water making that weird gulping sound.

8. Exceptions to number 7 include the few people you have built a bond with. For these people all rule breakers do not apply, you would literally love them despite their loud mouth breathing.

9. You don’t react appropriately to people crying. You sort of pat their backs awkwardly and make an ill timed joke. Their tears make you feel incredibly venerable, and you will do anything possible to leave the situation asap.

10. You get completely and irrationally irritated with something and will go on an hour long rant about the subject and why it is so dumb.

Can we please talk about how fucking amazing Emily was in the revival?

Regardless of your opinions on how shitty the musical was, or how awful Rory’s personality was, this bitch killed it. Seriously. Kelly Bishop deserves all of the awards for this outstanding performance she did.

I also have to give credit to ASP. This arc for her was truly moving. It reflected a woman finally being able to be herself, find her own identity outside of her husband and outside of being a wife, and being happy. It was so moving. While moving to Nantucket and becoming a whale expert was a bit weird for some of us, she found something she loved, and she pursued it.

And of course, this iconic moment…

I have never been so shook from Gilmore Girls before. Thank you Netflix for allowing our girls to curse.

This moment was so great in that she finally broke away from the societal norms that she had been held to for so long. She finally found the drive to set herself free from those biddies at the DAR, and the society that forced her to believe that her daughter was awful for not getting married after getting pregnant with Rory.

I could go on, but all in all, Emily Gilmore is one of the greatest and most well-developed characters I’ve seen in my life. Truly fantastic and amazing in every facet.

‘Boys will be boys’, that’s what people say. No one ever mentions how girls have to be something other than themselves altogether. We are to stifle the same feelings that boys are encouraged to display. We are to use gossip as a means of policing ourselves – this way those who do succumb to sex but are not damaged by it are damaged instead by peer malice. Girls demand a covenant because if one gives in, others will be expected to do the same. We are to remain united in cruelty, ignorance, and aversion. Or we are to starve the flesh from our bones, penalizing the body for its nature, castigating ourselves for advances we are powerless to prevent. We are to make false promises then resist the attentions solicited. Basically we are to become expert liars.
—  Hilary Thayer Hamann
the most true to their signs things my friends have said/done

Aries: “buhhh i have a headache i was yelling too loud…..”

Taurus: “yeah i came home from work yesterday, saw my mom trying to seduce my stepdad and decided overtime was probably the best route”

Gemini: “like she’s super smart and i want to hate her but she’s really nice so i can’t?”

Cancer: “hell ye i’m the fun cousin when i’m not sobbing in my kitchen”


Virgo: *hears about something* *becomes an expert about the thing literally overnight and probably knows more about the thing than whoever came up with it* 

Libra: “things have been ok, family stuff is kinda str- ANGELO IF YOU LAY A HAND ON MY DOG I WILL CUT YOU”

Scorpio: “i mean i haven’t killed anyone yet so…. success?”

Sagittarius: ‘why do you talk to me im so awkward and uncomfortable’ 
“omg no it’s ok that’s how you know we’re related”

Capricorn: “aw no you’re not ugly you’re like…. a solid 7….”

Aquarius: *texts back after 2 months* “psst do u still want to marathon a:tla”

Pisces: *recieves a compliment* *gets down on one knee* “marry me”