Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
“The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel Van Der Kolk
how Disney finally got it right with Moana, a post by me
well, it took the better part of a century, but with Moana, Disney appears to have, at long last, created the quintessential ur-text of what’s required of a princess movie
disclaimer: i’m an east coast Jewish girl, so any claims one way or another about the depictions of Pacific Islander culture are way out of my lane. would love to hear the thoughts of any Polynesian followers!
When your child is LGBT they are part of a minority. If you are like most parents and heterosexual, this is a minority that does not include you. Most of the time that’s not the case. Most minorities are based on race and religion – things that tend to run in families. History and stories are told from generation to generation. Politics are discussed over the kitchen table where everyone has the same stake. This is different. You may not be LGBT, but it is now your job to become an expert in this minority. You need to learn LGBT history, LGBT current political issues and LGBT controversies. Because you need to know your child’s history, your child’s issues, your child’s reality. This might feel uncomfortable to you, maybe even a little alien, but this is not about you. This is about your child.
10 Of The Most Effective High Level And Nitty Gritty Tips For Getting Rich
There are a million paths to getting rich. But there’s unlikely anyone out there successful who wouldn’t emphasize the value of people skills in succeeding. So back to your question, how do you get rich quickly:
1. Learn relentlessly.
2. Become a people person.
3. Work hard.
4. Take risks.
5. Get a job in a high growth industry.
6. Work for the best and most recognizable company you can work for.
I was happily fooling around on tvtropes.org (it’s very good when you want to read something totally random or interesting about any fandom possible) and I decided to read something about SDR2… There are many things (from tearjerking, to nightmarish, to funny, things of any kind, really) that I never noticed and these are the ones I personally find to be the most interesting.
*Knows BARELY enough about cooking to keep myself alive and decently nourished*
Me Watching Cooking Show:
COME ON BECKY YOU'RE SUPPOSED TO SEASON BEFORE YOU COOK AND HOW COULD YOU FORGET THE SALT? SALT IS THE MAGNIFYING GLASS OF THE COOKING WORLD AND DON'T EVEN GET ME STARTED ON HOW YOU BUTCHERED THOSE FUCKING MATSUTAKE MUSHROOMS!
this one goes out to all the blithering self-righteous crapspouts who think my opinions on hitting children, spying on children, or adults’ responsibility to respect children’s rights and human dignity generally will change when I “grow up” or become a parent myself.
I’m 30 years old.
my understanding of the fact that children’s rights are not determined by parents
has never been stronger than it is today.
I study and teach on children’s rights for a
living. I have graduate degrees in childhood studies and psychology. in
case this isn’t clear, that means I know more than you do. being an adult doesn’t make you an authority. putting years of hard bloody work put into becoming an expert does. shut up.
whether or not I have kids of my own doesn’t matter, because being a parent makes you an expert on children’s rights in pretty much the same way being a man makes you an expert on feminism (as in, it doesn’t, at all). but regardless, no, I’m not a parent. I have, on the other hand, been a teacher, a
tutor, a nanny, a camp supervisor, a legal advocate, and in one instance, the temporary guardian/person
solely responsible for a group of kids going through serious trauma as a
result of parental abuse and an ongoing custody/CPS battle. through all
of it I’ve managed not to be a shitty human being who treats people
like they don’t deserve the same basic dignity and respect I demand from
others. the fact that you can’t handle responsibility without turning tyrannical doesn’t mean others have the same failing. shut up.
even if younger
people’s views were automatically different from yours, that wouldn’t make them less
important. that would make your views less important. children are the highest authority on whether or
not something you’re doing to them is disrespectful or wrong.claiming that being a child means your view of how adults treat you can
automatically be discounted is gross and abusive in itself. it’s
gaslighting in the extreme. shut up.
finally, there are plenty of people your
age who are capable of understanding that what you’re doing is wrong,
and you do not get to lump us in with you and claim us as allies. that’s the same as the goddamn “it’s just locker room talk all guys do it” defense. I’m an adult, and I’m not on your side. plenty of adults - plenty of parents - are not on your side.
Despite advances in digital technology, the structural engineering syllabus has remained largely unchanged for close to a century. A degree still entails becoming an expert in things like load, leveling, tension, and stress—and students are expected to learn hand-drafting and model construction. But Brazilian architect Márcio Sequeira de Oliveira thought there was a better (and better-looking) way for wannabe-engineers to grok structural mechanics. He calls his solution Mola. It’s the first structural modeling kit you’ll want to snap a selfie with, regardless of your major.
1. You have already visualized how the same thing could happen in a million different ways.
2. You decided on the best outcome, set your mind to it, nothing will change your mind. Like you will literally walk over flaming hot coals, because that is what you decided to do.
3. You become an overnight expert in the new thing that really interests you. While you are on team sleep, when you have a new obsession nothing will get in your way of knowing ALL OF THE THINGS.
4. Sticky notes are you favorite thing. You write everything you need to do on them, you place them on things, you cover up INTP’s mouth with them.
5. You like real calendars so you can write on them. You probably have a pretty intense relationship with that one calendar that has funny puns on it because it reminds you of INTP.
6. You plan ahead for everything. Even when its just hanging out with your friend. Literally, you plan the clothing you’re going to wear, the walks you are going to go on and things you can do, and then act like it was a casual plan because who actually does that?
7. Everyone annoys you, the way they breath, the way they walk, the way they eat, the way they drink water making that weird gulping sound.
8. Exceptions to number 7 include the few people you have built a bond with. For these people all rule breakers do not apply, you would literally love them despite their loud mouth breathing.
9. You don’t react appropriately to people crying. You sort of pat their backs awkwardly and make an ill timed joke. Their tears make you feel incredibly venerable, and you will do anything possible to leave the situation asap.
10. You get completely and irrationally irritated with something and will go on an hour long rant about the subject and why it is so dumb.
Can we please talk about how fucking amazing Emily was in the revival?
Regardless of your opinions on how shitty the musical was, or how awful Rory’s personality was, this bitch killed it. Seriously. Kelly Bishop deserves all of the awards for this outstanding performance she did.
I also have to give credit to ASP. This arc for her was truly moving. It reflected a woman finally being able to be herself, find her own identity outside of her husband and outside of being a wife, and being happy. It was so moving. While moving to Nantucket and becoming a whale expert was a bit weird for some of us, she found something she loved, and she pursued it.
And of course, this iconic moment…
I have never been so shook from Gilmore Girls before. Thank you Netflix for allowing our girls to curse.
This moment was so great in that she finally broke away from the societal norms that she had been held to for so long. She finally found the drive to set herself free from those biddies at the DAR, and the society that forced her to believe that her daughter was awful for not getting married after getting pregnant with Rory.
I could go on, but all in all, Emily Gilmore is one of the greatest and most well-developed characters I’ve seen in my life. Truly fantastic and amazing in every facet.
‘Boys will be boys’, that’s what people say. No one ever mentions how girls have to be something other than themselves altogether. We are to stifle the same feelings that boys are encouraged to display. We are to use gossip as a means of policing ourselves – this way those who do succumb to sex but are not damaged by it are damaged instead by peer malice. Girls demand a covenant because if one gives in, others will be expected to do the same. We are to remain united in cruelty, ignorance, and aversion. Or we are to starve the flesh from our bones, penalizing the body for its nature, castigating ourselves for advances we are powerless to prevent. We are to make false promises then resist the attentions solicited. Basically we are to become expert liars.