become oneself

Sometimes it’s good to just be alone. Think alone. Reflect. Experience. To truly become one with oneself is a beautiful experience that every human must feel during their life.

Becoming at peace with oneself takes time. It’s a journey, one that never stops teaching you and one you never stop learning from. A lot of people wish to be “woke” and conscious but they fail to realize that they become a slave to their own ego when they think they’ve reached enlightenment or an understanding. And that’s not what it is about. If you’ve become enlightened just to become a slave to your own ego that knowledge is fruitless. On the journey to awakening and learning oneself, it’s always a lesson, always something to know. The ego is the last thing to be involved

To become imperceptible oneself, to have dismantled love in order to become capable of loving. To have dismantled one’s self in order finally to be alone and meet the true double at the other end of the line. A clandestine passenger on a motionless voyage. To become like everybody else; but this, precisely, is a becoming only for one who knows how to be nobody, to no longer be anybody. To paint oneself gray on gray.
—   Gilles Deleuze, A Thousand Plateaus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia
Poem by the original night stalker

Excitement’s Crave

All those mortal’s surviving birth
Upon facing maturity,
Take inventory of their worth
To prevailing society.
Choosing values becomes a task;
Oneself must seek satisfaction.
The selected route will unmask
Character when plans take action.
Accepting some work to perform
At fixed pay, but promise for more,
Is a recognized social norm,
As is decorum, seeking lore.
Achieving while others lifting
Should be cause for deserving fame.
Leisure tempts excitement seeking,
What’s right and expected seems tame.
“Jessie James” has been seen by all,
And “Son of Sam” has an author.
Others now feel temptations call.
Sacramento should make an offer.
To make a movie of my life
That will pay for my planned exile.
Just now I’ d like to add the wife
Of a Mafia lord to my file.
Your East Area Rapist
And deserving pest.
See you in the press or on T.V.

When did loving oneself
become so infrequent,
that it’s gone
revolutionary to do so?
—  s.a., whispers to being alive
Political correctness is communist propaganda writ small. In my study of communist societies, I came to the conclusion that the purpose of communist propaganda was not to persuade or convince, nor to inform, but to humiliate; and therefore, the less it corresponded to reality the better. When people are forced to remain silent when they are being told the most obvious lies, or even worse when they are forced to repeat the lies themselves, they lose once and for all their sense of probity. To assent to obvious lies is to co-operate with evil, and in some small way to become evil oneself. One’s standing to resist anything is thus eroded, and even destroyed. A society of emasculated liars is easy to control. I think if you examine political correctness, it has the same effect and is intended to.
—  Anthony Daniels
To become imperceptible oneself, to have dismantled love in order to become capable of loving. To have dismantled one’s self in order finally to be alone and meet the true double at the other end of the line. A clandestine passenger on a motionless voyage. To become like everybody else; but this, precisely, is a becoming only for one who knows how to be nobody, to no longer be anybody. To paint oneself gray on gray.
—  Gilles Deleuze, Thousand Plateaus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia
One has to leave the parents, one has to leave the home, one has to leave the past, one has to become totally independent, alone… trembling in that aloneness, but one has to become alone. One has to become absolutely responsible for oneself, and then only can understand the mind. If you go on depending on others, your very dependence will not allow you to understand who you are.
—  Osho, Finding Your Own Way: The Discipline of Transcendence
METAMORPHOSIS

           The emergence of the young girl’s puberty announces the beginning of her adolescence. An intriguing and delicate moment where discoveries and asphyxia intertwine. Synonyms of life and blossoming, plants are metaphoric actresses of certain steps of this human and mental transformation. The body develops and blossoms without warning.

          From breast growth to the appearance of periods, this change of state becomes a fight with oneself: growing, accepting one’s metamorphosis, cutting through the chrysalis… In front of the incomprehension of all these things changing, modesty sets in. Malaise from a sometimes toxic upheaval. They become conscious of their appearance, and little by little, of their inner changes. They become curious, attracted to danger and risk. They get out of their cocoon, timidly and silently.

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          L’apparition de la puberté chez la fille annonce le début de son adolescence. Un passage de la vie intriguant et délicat où s’entremêlent découvertes et asphyxie. Synonyme de vie et d’éclosion, les plantes sont ici les actrices métaphoriques de certaines étapes de cette transformation humaine tant physique que mentale. Le corps se développe et bourgeonne sans crier gare.

           De la poussée des seins à l'apparition des règles, ce changement d’état devient un combat avec soi-même : grandir, accepter sa métamorphose, percer la chrysalide…  Face à l’incompréhension de toutes ces choses qui changent, la pudeur s’installe. Mal-être ressenti d’un bouleversement parfois toxique. On prend conscience de son apparence et, petit à petit, de ce qu'il se passe en nous. On devient curieuse, attirée par le danger, le risque. On sort du cocon, timidement et en silence.






Photography by Charlotte Abramow + Plants creation by Duy Anh Nhan Duc

Fashion by Caroline Nedelec / Make-up by Virginie Rascle / Hair by Jonathan Dadoun

The amazing 11-years-old is Thémis

To become imperceptible oneself, to have dismantled love in order to become capable of loving. To have dismantled one’s self in order finally to be alone and meet the true double at the other end of the line. A clandestine passenger on a motionless voyage. To become like everybody else; but this, precisely, is a becoming only for one who knows how to be nobody, to no longer be anybody. To paint oneself gray on gray.
—  Gilles Deleuze, A Thousand Plateaus: Capitalism and Schizophrenia
Thinking for Yourself

We live in a world of non-thinkers who have been deluded into thinking they are making their own choices.

“What!” you shriek in horror, not because you are shocked at the above statement, but because you can’t believe I would say anything so obviously false.

Oh, yes. Thinking for oneself has become fashionable. The entire population has never been more vocal about its open-mindedness and love for all things intellectual.

In fact, this wave of open-mindedness has resulted in a lot of people all trying to be themselves in exactly the same way.

This post is spurred on by a ridiculous advertisement for some women’s fashion which was inflicted upon my eyes by our marvelous internet. The advertisement appealed to the sense of self-identity that each person has, urging the women reading the advertisement to be themselves. And how were they to be themselves? Why, by following the top shoe trends of the autumn, naturally.

I actually laughed when I read that. Oh, yes. Let’s be ourselves by following the trend. I wasn’t certain whether the advertisement itself was funny, or the fact that it actually made its way through marketing without anyone spotting the obvious and glaring logical error therein.

But this is only one small example of how open-minded our culture really is. You see, if you are really open-minded, then stuff can fall out of your mind as easily as it can fall in. Being open-minded is not even close to the same thing as thinking for yourself.

And I believe that a lot of people don’t like thinking for themselves because it brings on a lot of responsibility. If you think for yourself, then you have to make decisions. For instance, is it easier to do what your friends are doing or to do what you want to do?

Believe it or not, the answer might not be the same for everyone. Because for me, it would be easier to do what I want to do. I don’t live with an inherent need for the approval of others. I have other problems, such as the fact that there are times when I really can’t stand people. And it’s actually harder to hang out with people than it is to stay in my room. If I’m not thinking, I can make the second decision in a heartbeat.

But what about when I start to think? Maybe these people actually want me around. I know my friends are here because they want a relationship with me, not for any malevolent reason. Am I really going to be so selfish as to keep from them a relationship that they might actually want?

At this point, I need to reject the really terrible advice to follow my own heart. In fact, I’ve hardly ever heard worse and more selfish advice than that of following your heart. Your heart is the most deceptive little organ in your body, because your feelings are temporary and because your heart can’t know all the circumstances. It only knows you, so it’s going to tell you to do what you want every single time. If I follow my heart, not only am I an idiot, I’m also an incredibly selfish idiot.

But when I think, I know that I have friends that want me around. The word does not revolve around me. I don’t have to follow trends to be myself, because being myself isn’t the most important thing to be. Being a kind, considerate person is way more important than being myself. Because when I’m myself, I’m gruff, moody, and difficult to live with.

This is, in fact, just one example. But it seems that catchy phrases such as “Follow your Heart” have turned a whole lot of people into non-thinkers following their most selfish and primal instincts. And, if you think about it, being a slave to your heart is a miserable way to live.

So please. I beg of you. Start thinking for yourself. Think about others. Don’t follow your heart. 

Be a thinker instead.

Talking about “peoplehood” [especially Jewish peoplehood] at the dawn of the twenty-first century may seem like an anachronism. After all, this is the age of the global village, knit together by instant communications, international travel, and mass culture. The alternative to a totally homogenized life on a shrinking planet is usually thought of in terms of radical individualism and personal freedom. But that philosophy tends to produce loneliness, isolation, and a hunger to belong to something larger and more durable than oneself. Becoming a member of the Jewish people is one way to satisfy that hunger because it gives individuals access to deep wells of continuity and community that transcend time and space.
—  “Choosing a Jewish Life: A Handbook for People Converting to Judaism and for Their Family and Friends” by Anita Diamant
To become imperceptible oneself, to have dismantled love in order to become capable of loving. To have dismantled one’s self in order finally to be alone and meet the true double at the other end of the line. A clandestine passenger on a motionless voyage. To become like everybody else; but this, precisely, is a becoming only for one who knows how to be nobody, to no longer be anybody. To paint oneself gray on gray.
—  Gilles Deleuze

Too few people understand what it means to be humble. Humility doesn’t mean thinking less of oneself or becoming a human doormat. Humility does not mean devaluing one’s humanity. When we are asked to be humble, we are not being asked to beat ourselves up or go on as if we are menial, undeserving, or lesser beings.

Humility does not have to with us…but more to do with others. We are being asked to let go of our pride, the pride that poisons relationships and corrodes reason. We are asked to think of others more (as opposed to our own interests) and recognize truth for what it is (rather than through the lens of our own desires). And it is through this humility that we flourish and grow.

Leaves of Fall 05 – Indian Land, South Carolina, November 18, 2015

Carl Jung felt that we must each, in our own way, learn the art of letting things happen, in their own way.

This is the Taoist principle of Wu-Wei, doing what needs to be done by doing nothing at all in an intentional, willful, forceful way, or “doing by not-doing.”

Letting things happen.

Seeing what path opens before us, and walking it to wherever it may lead.

Jung said, “Letting go of oneself becomes the key to opening the door to the way.”

We have to turn ourselves over to the psyche.

The left hemisphere has to recognize the central place of the right hemisphere, and place itself in accord with it.

The left hemisphere honors the right,

And collaborates with it–listens to it–aligns itself with it–

In the joint creation of a life worthy of us, a life worth living.

Jung said, “Consciousness is forever interfering, helping, correcting, negating, and never leaving the simple growth of the psychic process in peace.”

The left hemisphere no sooner says, “Okay. I’ll listen to my counterpart on the right side of our brain,” than it begins to edit, amend and put right, or dismiss, what comes forth.

The left hemisphere is the consummate One Who Knows Best And Must Be Pleased.

The right hemisphere is never more than the ragamuffin child who must always be overseen and put straight.

We have long since identified with the left hemisphere, so that as conscious egos, the way of the left hemisphere is the way of the culture, and the way of each of us.

It is asking a lot of us to “learn the art of letting things happen,”

To “Step back, stand aside, and see what opens before us,”

And, “Follow it out, wherever it leads.”

Perhaps, it is asking too much.

But, nothing less will do.

Our work is cut out for us, waiting on us to take it up.

We demur, and wait, ourselves, for something more like what we have in mind.