become an expert

anonymous asked:

How do you move on

you cry, you scream, you hurt, and then you breathe. being the one left behind is never easy and it doesn’t get any easier the more it happens, and it will undoubtedly happen again. the only benefit that comes out of being left in the shadows is the fact that you become an expert at finding your way through the darkness. read books, watch movies, take walks, go on adventures, discover hidden things in your surroundings, just go out and live. don’t let the pain and heartbreak consume you, consume it instead. the pain you feel is something you have, but it doesn’t have you.

7 Steps for Maintaining Motivation

1. Grasp that it’s YOUR life, and no-one else’s life.

2. Decide to “live on purpose”.

3. Recognise that achievement has a price tag attached to it – and decide you’ll pay that price.

4. Work on constantly maintaining your focus.

5. Chose a skill or a field and become competent, or an expert, in that area.

6. Find other people who will hold you to your goals – and will believe in, and encourage you, to strive to reach your dreams.

7. Consciously notice the progress you are making, and remind yourself “it’s worth it” as you’re further on the path.

Traumatized people chronically feel unsafe inside their bodies: The past is alive in the form of gnawing interior discomfort. Their bodies are constantly bombarded by visceral warning signs, and, in an attempt to control these processes, they often become expert at ignoring their gut feelings and in numbing awareness of what is played out inside. They learn to hide from their selves.
—  “The Body Keeps The Score” by Bessel Van Der Kolk

My favorite part of having ADHD is when you talk about it to someone and suddenly they become an expert and know more than you do about how it works

Like okay Kyle, manager of a cracker barrel, you’re right, you have bested me in knowledge of mental illness and you alone decide what is and isn’t actually adhd

Mindblowing facts about SDR2

[source: tvtropes.org]

I was happily fooling around on tvtropes.org (it’s very good when you want to read something totally random or interesting about any fandom possible) and I decided to read something about SDR2… There are many things (from tearjerking, to nightmarish, to funny, things of any kind, really) that I never noticed and these are the ones I personally find to be the most interesting. 

WARNING: Long post.

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Aedion headcanons

He usually wears his hair in a bun but he also often allows Evangeline to braid it. After a few years she becomes an expert with different and complicated hairstyles and she uses him as an example.

Once Lysandra told him he looks good with eyeliner and since then he often wears it to parties and at special occasions.

His first kiss was a boy that smelled like salted caramel and had embers in his eyes. Aedion cried all night after he saw him dead on a battlefield.

He secretly read all of Aelin’s cheesy romance novels. Once Dorian saw him but promised he won’t tell anyone after Aedion threatened his life.

His favourite colour is green.

He absolutely can’t cook no matter how hard he tries.

His worst nightmare is being kidnapped and nobody coming after him.

this one goes out to all the blithering self-righteous crapspouts who think my opinions on hitting children, spying on children, or adults’ responsibility to respect children’s rights and human dignity generally will change when I “grow up” or become a parent myself.

I’m 30 years old. my understanding of the fact that children’s rights are not determined by parents has never been stronger than it is today. shut up.

I study and teach on children’s rights for a living. I have graduate degrees in childhood studies and psychology. in case this isn’t clear, that means I know more than you do. being an adult doesn’t make you an authority. putting years of hard bloody work put into becoming an expert does. shut up.

whether or not I have kids of my own doesn’t matter, because being a parent makes you an expert on children’s rights in pretty much the same way being a man makes you an expert on feminism (as in, it doesn’t, at all). but regardless, no, I’m not a parent. I have, on the other hand, been a teacher, a tutor, a nanny, a camp supervisor, a legal advocate, and in one instance, the temporary guardian/person solely responsible for a group of kids going through serious trauma as a result of parental abuse and an ongoing custody/CPS battle. through all of it I’ve managed not to be a shitty human being who treats people like they don’t deserve the same basic dignity and respect I demand from others. the fact that you can’t handle responsibility without turning tyrannical doesn’t mean others have the same failing. shut up.

even if younger people’s views were automatically different from yours, that wouldn’t make them less important. that would make your views less important. children are the highest authority on whether or not something you’re doing to them is disrespectful or wrong. claiming that being a child means your view of how adults treat you can automatically be discounted is gross and abusive in itself. it’s gaslighting in the extreme. shut up.

finally, there are plenty of people your age who are capable of understanding that what you’re doing is wrong, and you do not get to lump us in with you and claim us as allies. that’s the same as the goddamn “it’s just locker room talk all guys do it” defense. I’m an adult, and I’m not on your side. plenty of adults - plenty of parents - are not on your side.

shut. the hell. up.

Here’s to the fools who dream

If you’re a fool who accidentally falls in love with any form of creation, this post is for you. You surely have experienced this feeling, hated your own creation and wished to quit because you feel you’ll never do anything better. I want you to know that’s wrong.

Because if at first it doesnt match what you have in mind, its because of your skill and skill is something needs persistent practice. And that’s it. No one become an expert right away, not even genius. Its persistence, determination and committment that are the ones create masterpiece. If you see Picasso, or Dan Brown when they’re a child and still struggled to improve their skills, you won’t believe they actually made legacy because of their creation. But they did. And all those years of struggling, hating their own piece, redrawing, unsatisfying with their art, regreting everything… the crowd just never knows. 

So if you ever want to trash something you create, please wait. Do you love it? Is it because of something inside tells you to do it? Is it because of your skill? Love it a little longer, don’t just give up. That’s not how love works, embrace the ugly part of your creation too, look into it, try to fix it. Keep that in mind next time you create. Unconciously next time you do it, your mind will focus double on that part. The change might be too small to see right away, but it’s there. Gradually, page 1000th will be different than the 1st, and 10000th will be more different, and 1,000,000 th will be entirely new. 

One day they will read/ watch your creation, the crowd will applaud.

calimera62  asked:

Imagine someone (a soldier, guard or tutor) taught Laurent magic tricks earlier tha canon and Laurent is just loving it too much he's using Auguste to practice his tricks. Like he would call after Auguste and says “Brother, you have something on your hair!” and Auguste bends down and watch as Laurent puts his hand behind his ear and then pulls it away to reveal a golden coin. Auguste is nonplussed, like “where did that come from??” Laurent is so pleased with himself. (1/2)

And then Laurent becomes an expert at magic tricks. He would produce flowers out from nowhere to give them to his mother, or pull out a rabbit from one of his father’s old hat (and Aleron “where… did that rabbit come from? Laurent, how did you do this??”). Auguste is loving it too much and begs Laurent to teach him. One day, ppl would say Prince Auguste once made pigeons and doves appear during a reunion and how they never saw the king and council this flabbergasted before (2/2)

im already weeping I love tiny laurent finding joy in just tiny things, wrapping people around his finger, confusing half the court I LOVE IT

WALKING ON THE BEACH

Good Morning sweet shipsters. We have made it through another day and night of Mr. Toads Wild Ride!! Amazingly enough….I am very calm again this morning. The thing about getting sucker punched ( weddings anyone?), is that you learn to guard yourself from future punches, and I am slowly becoming a Muay Thai expert without getting off my couch!!

Let’s talk about Cait, and the Oscar Wilde awards. This was another wonderful thing for Cait, and her recognition is a pleasure to watch. And, the fact that JJ Abrams presented her award touched me very much because he gave her the first real opportunity as an actress, and as she said herself…she felt she came full circle. And let’s not forget, he is a high powered mover and shaker in the industry, so what an honor for our Cait!!! It has not escaped my notice that Cait is really being noticed now, and to be honored with such esteemed company is impressive, at least to me.

I thought she looked beautiful and happy, and slightly overwhelmed. To be honored for your work while acknowledging your Irish heritage must have been special for her. I could not be more proud to be her fan, and she is so deserving of the continued accolades that are thrown her way. And, her team is doing one hell of a job, so kudos to them!! And yes, that includes Tony. If nothing else, his support of her without ever trying to overshadow her has become a little endearing to me, and she is lucky to have a friend and quiet supporter like him.

As for Sam, and the public lack of acknowledgement from the OL team….who the hell knows what is up with that! Since I am not privy to what goes on behind the scenes, it does seem very strange. And, who’s to say that they did not, or have not done something for her outside of this event. If they haven’t, then shame on them. She embodies the role of Claire so well that this show simply could not survive without her. And, they should count their lucky stars ( no pun intended), that she is part of OL.

As for the personal aspect of Sam….that is a conundrum isn’t it?!?. Was he there….looks like a no. Should he have been there….probably yes. Why wasn’t he there…it was not his night, and this wasn’t about him. And to be 100% honest, I didn’t expect to see him there. What IS most difficult for me to wrap my head around is his continued silence to Cait. It is very glaring isn’t it?? And, look at his SM over the past few weeks….nothing on anything when you really look at it. The raining cats pics were the only things that seemed to capture his attention, and NOTHING at all on OL, Cait, other fine and friendly banter ( not even with Cree), and let’s say it….the prom shot is not even posted on his IG. My take on all of this….since he “cannot” post about Cait, or with Cait he is not posting at all. It is his version of f*uck you to whomever shut them down. And make no mistake….someone shut them down….I am convinced of it more than ever. The only way to continue this farce is to keep Sam and Cait away from each other because as @cb4tb said after the Bafta’s…..Sam can’t sell it. And quite frankly, neither can Cait when they are together, either virtually, or personally.

So, I am walking on the beach watching the sunrise this morning, and the sun will rise. I do not understand this real life version of the “20 year seperation” we are seeing, but something is off, and it is not Sam and Cait. Cree’s post said it all. It will be very interesting to see them at ECCC, and since this is a non-OL event, their interaction will be front and center. I said last weekend that I was tossed from the ship. But make no mistake, I still have my cabin, complete with balcony and a view. I am just enjoying some beach time, and my walk on the sand just feels good on my feet.

Shipping on sweet shipsters, and let’s not create our own drama. Believe me, it is being written and played out right before our eyes, so I plan to sit back and try to figure out which idiot(s) are doing this, and why. Feels like S2!!

Happy Friday sweet shipsters, and look for the sun…it is still there somewhere!😎🤗😍

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Artist: Fidelia Bridges

(1834-1923)

Fidelia Bridges was an American painter and illustrator of the Pre-Raphaelite movement. She one of the very few female artists of the 19th and early 20th centuries to achieve widespread success

Her paintings focus on nature and environments, and are notable for their striking realism and attention to detail

She began painting in oils, later moving on to watercolor and becoming widely accepted as an expert in her field

She attended the Pennsylvania Academy of Fine Arts and was named one of seven notable 19th century artists by the American Watercolor Society - the only woman in that category

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[INSTAGRAM] 170206 Ryu Jina (Chungha’s manager) update

ryujina_m: 그녀는 결국 저렇게 빠져 나오지 못 해 굴캐기의 장인이 될 수 없었다고 한다 ㅋㅋㅋㅋ
(언니도 널 구해주고 싶었단다… 절때 웃겨서 웃은건 아니야…😆)
#김청하 #MC #EBS #기적의달리기
#일요일밤9시5분 #본방사수

That girl eventually said she can’t become an oyster expert after getting stuck like that ㅋㅋㅋㅋ

(I wanted to save you too… I swear I wasn’t laughing because it was funny…😆)

mini bawson smut fic

Originally posted by merlinss

When they first get together, they disappear into each other for a few weeks. They are that couple that do everything together, touch constantly, sit-on-the-same-side-of-the-booth sort of couple. The sort of couple that would be annoying if they weren’t so sweet. They also become the I-need-you-now-right-now-all-the-time sort of couples.

The day after he retires he shows up at her place and kisses her before she can greet him. It’s like floodgates open up. Like every intense look, every charged conversation, every touch had been building to this and as soon as they let themselves be together, they get addicted. He’s addicted.

Mike feels like he tastes nothing but her skin for days, like he’s living off her and her off him. 

They spend hours memorizing and learning, becoming experts in each other. Mike knows that Ginny will lose her mind if he whispers to her about how good it feels to be inside her; he knows that if he bites on her shoulder she’ll whine like she’s dying; he knows that if she’s riding him she’ll tune him out completely and do whatever she wants to chase her pleasure. 

It’s heady, intense, as beautiful as it is obscene. 

He’s on top of her, kissing her deeply, rocking into her body in a lazy way that makes her twitchy and impatient. But he knows she loves it just as much, loves to exist with him, connected and together.

She moans wonderfully and tries to buck her hips into his, but he stops his movement, muscles tensing with the need to thrust, but the sounds she makes are worth it.

“Impatient, Baker?” He says with a cocky smile.

“Shut up and do that thing I like, old man,” she tries to be assertive but she’s breathless and her voice sounds raw.

“What thing would that be?” He rocks his hips again, watching her eyes close and her head tilt back. He doesn’t mean to be smug, but there are a lot of things he does that she likes. 

“Mike! I swear to go-” she chokes out a breath when he starts rocking into her in earnest, hitting that spot inside her that makes her forget her name and inevitably leads to angry red marks blooming along his back from where she can’t help but claw at him in ecstasy.

He loves it, craves it, needs to make her feel this way. Needs to make sure she knows, deep down, just how well he can make her fall apart.

And he does, over and over and over again.

Like he said, he’s addicted.

The INTJ obsession™

-becomes an expert overnight (“I don’t need sleep, I need answers!”)

-always thinking about it (see how it connects with *other abscure theory*! Ideas! plans! projects!)

-always talking about it (Facts! And rants!)

-desperately looks for someone with the same interest

-changes his life plan accordingly to it (how about getting a degree in that field? Meanwhile I already booked 2 conferences about ut, wanna come?)

10 Of The Most Effective High Level And Nitty Gritty Tips For Getting Rich

There are a million paths to getting rich. But there’s unlikely anyone out there successful who wouldn’t emphasize the value of people skills in succeeding. So back to your question, how do you get rich quickly:

1. Learn relentlessly.

2. Become a people person.

3. Work hard.

4. Take risks.

5. Get a job in a high growth industry.

6. Work for the best and most recognizable company you can work for.

7. Become an expert.

8. Create multiple income streams.

9. Be too busy to spend money.

10. Finally, start a company.

Here’s why these tips are so effective.

When you believe without knowing you believe that you are damaged at your core, you also believe that you need to hide that damage for anyone to love you. You walk around ashamed of being yourself. You try hard to make up for the way you look, walk, feel. Decisions are agonizing because if you, the person who makes the decision, is damaged, then how can you trust what you decide? You doubt your own impulses so you become masterful at looking outside yourself for comfort. You become an expert at finding experts and programs, at striving and trying hard and then harder to change yourself, but this process only reaffirms what you already believe about yourself – that your needs and choices cannot be trusted, and left to your own devices you are out of control.
Highlight Talks About New Beginnings And How They Were Able To Stay Together Through Difficult Times

On March 20, Highlight made an appearance on SBS Radio PowerFM’s “Cultwo Show.” The group talked about their new beginning as Highlight, their MV shoot, and their close relationships.

When the group introduced themselves by saying, “Aigoo! We are Highlight,” the show’s MCs couldn’t help but ask the group why they included “Aigoo” in their introduction. Lee Gi Kwang replied, “It’s something that I decided to include because I think it’s an introduction that encapsulates our nine years of experience in the entertainment business as well as our desire to become ‘expert rookies.’”

The members talked about their MV shoot and Yong Junhyung revealed, “There was an incident on set. One of the adapters for the lights exploded so we had to postpone the shoot for a while.”

One listener said that they saw the Highlight members at the airport together last year and said it was nice because they were huddled together and all looked very close. In response, Yoon Doo Joon said, “We often get into group huddles like that.” Yong Junhyung continued, “When we go to the airport, if one member, for example, says that their pants are uncomfortable, we huddle up like that so that member can fix the problem. Isn’t that what teamwork is all about?”, which made the everyone in the studio laugh.

Furthermore, in a separate interview with another media source on the set of “Cultwo Show,” Yang Yoseob talked about how the group was able to stick together, despite the difficulties they’ve faced recently.

The singer demonstrated his affection for his fellow members and said, “The one thing that has remained constant with this group is that we respect one other. If there was something that a member wanted to try, the rest of us would all acknowledge that and support that member. Each of the members is more inclined to put the group before themselves individually, which is how we were able to stay together during trying times.”

Meanwhile, the group released their MV for their title track “Plz don’t be sad” earlier today and will be holding their “debut” showcase tonight, which will be broadcast live through Naver’s V Live at 7 p.m. KST. Plus, the group made an appearance on “My Little Television” and talked about how Highlight came to be their new group name.

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