because-you-are-worth-it

7/15/16 - 7/24/16

  • Discretion is always worth exercising. Just because you have the right and ability to do or say something doesn’t mean you should. Situational awareness is especially when your actions can affect others, even inadvertently. 
  • Building off the last point, know how much to say when revealing things. In the movie Interstellar, an artificial intelligence system named TARS reveals that it’s programmed to be 95% truthful with the human crew members of its ship and cites our emotions as the reason. It’s true, many of us can attest that more than once, we’ve slightly left out a detail or two when recounting a story or expressing a thought. Although I personally try to stick to being 100% truthful all of the time, I do support this cause like I previously said, discretion should be exercised. Just keep in mind that the people around you can also be 95% truthful with you by omitted whatever details they deem unnecessary at the time, and you can’t fault them for that if you yourself are the same way. 
  • Own your feelings and emotions. I’ve mentioned this before but you really  should accept and embrace your feelings. People still seriously feed into the whole “low key” thing and take it to heart but if you’re really trying to convince yourself that you don’t care for something or someone as much as you actually do, you’re in for really shitty wake up call. If you don’t like something, act on it, make it known if you’re questioned; and vice versa. 
  • Be you, and unapologetic so. Don’t fake interest in people or things you don’t like just to appease others. Don’t try to emulate someone else’s actions cause you think doing exactly what they did will net you what they have/had. If you’re trying to achieve something or capture someone’s attention or interest, you really might as well do it while being as genuine and true to yourself as possible. 
  • Communication will always be the most essential aspect of accomplishing anything dependent on more than one person. From an 8th grade group project to marriage, it’s the one true make or break factor. Closed mouths don’t get fed so if you have something to say, say it, and don’t let pride or fear of the answer stop you. It’s baffling to see two people that really like each other have some silent stand off because of miscommunication. You’re not gonna get anything accomplished by spending hours, days, or weeks, avoiding each other waiting for the other to crack. As for fear, it’s not easy to ask tough questions, especially when you have an answer in mind that you’d like to hear but your gut tells you you’ll hear exactly what you fear the most. 
  • Going after what you want vs. letting things play out. Things will work out, just let it be, let go and let god, what’s meant to be will be. All things I’ve heard at some point, and that I’ve said to others as well, usually when struggling with wanting a particular outcome that we have limited control of. While I respect this stance cause it promotes patience, there’s only so much standing by and letting things play out a person can do. For the most part, you do have the ability to alter certain situations in your life. Yes, there comes a point when you’ve done all you could and you’ve no choice but to leave it alone but even thing, situations aren’t always gonna stay in that state. They waver between that and giving you the chance to have input and influence, so remain vigilante and on top of things if you want to have as much say as possible. 
  • You’re under no obligation to be the same person you once were. You’re changing by the second, information alters our stance and opinions and for someone to accuse you of being fake or any less genuine than you actually are because of a shift in views, is nonsense. You’re supposed to change and adapt with time, it’s called growth. On the flip side, integrity is a hell of a nice thing to develop. Saying something and sticking to it time and time again proves to others, and more importantly to yourself, that you’re capable of making good on your word. Finding the middle ground between these two attributes really boils down to not rushing to make claims and giving yourself room for setbacks.

I used to be a super optimistic person, then I went through some stuff and that was shot. For the past couple of years though I’ve been slowly reclaiming bits and pieces of the old me and it’s really about counting your blessings, no matter how small. Cherish the people who continue to display their investment in your wellbeing, the ones that always answer your calls and reply to your texts faster than the screen can go off. If you don’t have any of these things then that’s just fine, time will grant you the opportunity to have them, and they’re very much worth the wait. Someone asked me today what I wanted for my birthday and I told them I have a friend visiting me soon and that’s really all I could ask for. Then came the brigade of questions. Is that your girl, she your best friend, what are you guys? I didn’t answer because I refuse to put a label on something that I honestly find solace in. I don’t like titles or classifying my relationships, platonic or not, with anyone. The point I’m trying to make is that on an occasion where many people, rightfully, go all out and spend a lot to make their special day as they picture it, I’m simply looking looking forward to enjoying someone else’s company. 

I saw a screenshot of a tweet earlier and I can’t remember exactly what it said but it was something like “create the life you want with the love you have.” I found it really genuine cause it’s kind of a catch all saying that you can have the life you want with your own brand of love. We all love and express our love for others in different ways, and as hard as we try, we sometimes slip into thinking our form or affection and care isn’t enough. It’s enough, often times it’s more than enough, but we compare ourselves with our peers, many of which aren’t in the same predicament as us and facing the same struggles. Who you are as a person, flaws and all, is enough. White, black, dark, light, tall, short, skinny, big, rich, struggling, it’s doesn’t matter. Metrics are just that, categories and measurements created to help us advance as a species but we label and confine ourselves so much we in turn create mental boundaries and somehow convince ourselves that we’re not deserving of what we want. So no matter how much you’ve been through, or how little, wherever you are along your personal journey, you’re worth it, and you’ve got just as much to offer as the next person.

Sizzy wedding..xD
  • Isabelle :You don't think I can fight cause I am a girl.
  • Simon :I don't think you can fight because you're wearing a wedding dress. For what it's worth, I don't think Jace could fight in that dress either.
  • Jace:Perhaps not. But I would make a radiant bride.

Etsy seems really hard to operate but i want to give out these last 9 really small itg zines…

if i sell itg zines, i want them to have a lot of content in them because i want you all to get your money’s worth… so more would be better in the future, with more content in them and i want my readers to get work with substance.

however, i want to get rid of these 9 small ones (they have 2 comics in them, some doodles, and a playlist- 6 pages) first, im not sure how i would do so but i want to somehow

I’m getting real peeved at certain people in certain fandoms and tumblr in general, especially this past week. Why do people go bananas when they read or hear or see something they don’t like, like an opinion, headcanon, ship, fanart, etc? And why do people feel like they have to send hate mail, say derogatory comments about others, and make others feel horrible for not agreeing with them? It’s juvenile and stupid. If you don’t like what someone has to say, don’t bother with them, just block them and don’t respond to them, because quite frankly, they aren’t worth your time and you’re wasting yours in the process as well.

insaneskye  asked:

Alex: "I'm gonna overcharge you for a shitty product!" Me: "........ Wyd? Because we charge for the product we have. Our hotel is superior and therefore we charge more. Because we're worth it. What you're making isn't worth the money people are gonna pay." Alex: "u dumass u just compared my gaem 2 a hotel."

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motivational varric

Varric would immediately lift his head at your approach and stand to embrace you, if you are comfortable with touch, before drawing back to pull you into a chair beside you, keeping your joined hands between you. “Things are… hard right now, I know,” he would say, giving your hands a gentle squeeze. “But you aren’t alone with it, not now or ever. I have no intention of leaving you alone, certainly not when the world seems too big and too loud. Just remember that you are real. You exist. You are my friend and my confidant, and I am and have always been yours, whatever you need. Anything you have trouble telling to anyone else, I am here and listening, because your thoughts, you, are worth listening to.”

He would shift to bring your hands to his lips in a brief, fierce kiss. “You are loved. Always have been. That’s true, too, and nothing that may happen, nothing your brain says, will change that. That I can promise.”

He would draw back slightly, but only to give himself enough room to shake his head slowly before falling still to give you one of those old crooked smiles. “Let today be the start of something new. Every day you need a reminder of just how close and how surely you sit in my heart, you come right here and listen to me, the same way I have always listened to you, when I need a reminder of just what true strength is. And I found it, in you. Just where it’s always been.”

One of the most insidious messages we receive as aromantic people is the idea there is nothing to be gained from a platonic relationship that one can’t get from a romantic relationship. The media we consume every day tells us that what we have to offer would be somehow better if it were given in a romantic, rather than platonic context. It tells us things like emotional support, laughter, care, and love are more valuable within the confines of a romantic relationship.

This can leave an aromantic person feeling as if they have nothing unique or valuable to offer, and the things they could provide to the people they care about would be better had from a romantic partner. That they themselves are superfluous and unnecessary.

These are lies. You are beautiful, and valuable, and you have more to offer than you will ever know. You may never see it yourself, but every person who chooses to have you in their life sees something in you that is worthwhile. There is something they receive from you they don’t get from anyone else, and it’s likely something different for every person who knows you.

You are special. You deserve to be loved. You deserve to feel like you’re enough, because you are.

You are.

Repeat after me:

  • You’re still bisexual if you’ve only ever been with women. 
  • You’re still bisexual if you’ve only ever been with men.
  • You’re still bisexual even if no one believes you.
  • You’re still bisexual if you’re attracted to nonbinary people.
  • You’re still bisexual if you’re in a relationship with someone of a different gender.
  • You’re still bisexual if you’re in a relationship with someone of the same gender.
  • You’re still bisexual if you never have the chance to be with a woman.
  • You’re still bisexual if you never have the chance to be with a man. 

As someone who identifies as bisexual, I chose to spend the rest of my life with a man, because he is the love of my life. I’ve never had sex with a woman, and due to these circumstances, probably never will. But that doesn’t make me any less bisexual. Don’t let circumstances erase your validity and self-worth. You’re important, and just because you never had an experience, you can still identify the way that you want. 

“Why are we doing this?” he whispers. His voice is shaking.

His voice never shakes. He never cries.

“You’re leaving,” he tries to reason. “Why are we putting off the inevitable? Why are we giving ourselves even more reasons to break when…” he falters.

The pain in her chest grows a little bit more, just like it has every day since she met him, but her voice is strong. “Because loving you right now, right here, in this moment, is worth it. It’s worth breaking for.”

“Loving you is worth every piece I’ll lose,” she breathes.

—  For you - you will always be worth it, 16/07/2016

Anyway BPD is an awful and evil and consuming and self-destructive illness that will drive you to loathe your entire being so much that you feel like 1/8th of a person. It will make you not feel like you are worth the same as people around you because you’re abusive and nasty. It’s a constant cycle of saying “I’m worthless because I’m awful, I’m awful because I’m worthless”. BPD is not an illness that should be romanticised by people without BPD. You can’t sit there and say “people with BPD are so brave and loving and they will give you their all” - because if you actually had BPD you would understand the reason you give your all is because you feel guilty for existing, guilting for breathing, guilty for taking up space, guilty that other people have to look at you, guilty that somehow you are manipulating the people in your life purely by being alive. BPD is tiring and consuming and will ruin your whole life so stop trying to say that this illness is secretly a gift.

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L'ORÉAL Asgard - Because you’re worth it. It looks like a commercial. Flowers and stuff. The sparkle is missing though. Making Of eines Bildes :) Behind the scenes! Sieht aus, wie frisch aus der Werbung mit all den Blümchen^^ Photographers: www.facebook.com/gudrun.brenker.1 + www.facebook.com/tenguphoto Loki: www.facebook.com/shironekocosplayart

You know what you deserve? You deserve so much better. So many things have happened to you whether its a bad break up, family issues, friends, whatever it is.. you pulled through. You have made it this far and I’m proud of you. You truly deserve the world and since no one can give you that now, find someone that will, apologize, forgive but don’t forget, find new friends. Ones that make plans with you and free their time to give you attention. You deserve all good things and don’t for a second think you’re not worth it because you remind me of the sun, you hide away but always come back even more beautiful than before.