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anonymous asked:

Even before I had any idea what my romantic orientation was, I was a social outcast because I was "too much of a prude" and always got told that I needed to get laid. Only straight people who've never been around asexuals think we're anything like them. We get called out for being different. We're dehumanized for it, too. I certainly was. Never ending jokes about me being a 'robot girl' followed me for years. We aren't straight. We never have been. Why can't people just see that?

Real answer? Because accepting that we’re not straight would upset the model they’ve constructed about…the entire world, more or less, and force them to reevaluate and revise their worldview and the models through which they understand it, and that’s a scary prospect, so people who are unwilling to do it instead cling desperately to their old ways of thinking despite the overwhelming and mounting evidence that they’re wrong.

-Dew

an-actual-stone  asked:

Hey can you tell me why some su critical people don't like lapidot?

mostly because the pairing feels like it came out of nowhere. which… yeah, i have to agree. honestly, amethyst and peridot had more chemistry before lapis came along. i personally wouldn’t mind lapidot so much if we actually got to see how they came to like each other… and if they could give lapis a more defined personality. the poor writing for lapis’ character is a big detriment to pairing her with peridot. their chemistry and lapis’ personality needed more time to grow naturally, but too late for that, sadly. so now they just feel rushed and awkward.

- mod b


Because it is forced, clunky, fanservicy, and stupid. 

- mod s

I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, Kiss me harder, and You’re a good person, and, You brighten my day. I live my life as straight-forward as possible.
Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.

Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.

But there is nothing more beautiful than being desperate.
And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.
We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.
We never know when the bus is coming.

—  Rachel C. Lewis, Tell The People You Love That You Love Them.
  • British taxation on America without sufficient representation: *results in Boston Tea Party, revolution, etc.*
  • White reactionary: These acts of property damage and militant resistance are justified and good =) because Britain was clearly tyrannical =) liberty needs to be fought for sweaty =)
  • Eight people control more wealth than half the world's people, climate change threatens to bring catastrophic damage to the planet, and a proto-fascist sexual predator was just made most powerful man in the world: *results in some shattered windows and limo bonfires, calls for revolution, etc.*
  • White reactionary: Um =\ violence is never the answer =/ protest is good and all =\ but this is taking it too far =/ can't you see you're just hurting any credibility you had =\ protests shouldn't interrupt my day =(
TO THE GIRL WHO LOVES HIM NEXT
Take care of him. He has the kindest heart, he may not always seem like it though. He try’s to hide it with sarcasm and side comments, pretending that he has not one care in the world. If you can look past it though you will see how much love he has to give.
He won’t always text you back, but he will still think of you. Unlike the rest of us he is not glued to his phone, just because he sometimes takes an hour to answer doesn’t mean he doesn’t love you.
He sleeps, a lot. There are nights where he sleeps more hours then he spent awake that day. He just sometimes needs to not be anything. Being no where is easier than being himself sometimes. Although he hates sleeping with people you’ll know he loves you if he asks you to join him.
Love to him is the scariest thing on the planet, if he tells you I love you do not take it lightly. Know that saying it took every inch of courage he has. if he disappears after know that he is just scared and hopefully he will find his way back to you. Just give him time, give him all the time in the world. He is more than worth it.
Please, just love him with everything you have because had I have been given the chance I would have given him every single part of me. Love him the way I only wish I could. If you are lucky enough for him to love you, please love him back.
—  4am

There were countless Princess Leia posters at the march today, young girls walking around in her iconic buns. I think this is the importance of film. Because if a character stands among protesters at a march of resistance and unity and hope, it means something. Art has power and we need it now more than ever, I just wish Carrie Fisher could see all she’s inspired.

I love being horribly straightforward. I love sending reckless text messages (because how reckless can a form of digitized communication be?) and telling people I love them and telling people they are absolutely magical humans and I cannot believe they really exist. I love saying, Kiss me harder, and You’re a good person, and, You brighten my day. I live my life as straight-forward as possible.
Because one day, I might get hit by a bus.

Maybe it’s weird. Maybe it’s scary. Maybe it seems downright impossible to just be—to just let people know you want them, need them, feel like, in this very moment, you will die if you do not see them, hold them, touch them in some way whether its your feet on their thighs on the couch or your tongue in their mouth or your heart in their hands.

But there is nothing more beautiful than being desperate.

And there is nothing more risky than pretending not to care.

We are young and we are human and we are beautiful and we are not as in control as we think we are. We never know who needs us back. We never know the magic that can arise between ourselves and other humans.

We never know when the bus is coming.

—  Rachel C. LewisTell The People You Love That You Love Them.

It’s 2016

- Victor gives Yuuri Eros: Sexual Love as his Short Program, and said multiple times to seduce him with the said program. He wolf-whistled the first time Yuuri publicly performing it.

- Victor asked Yuuri what Yuuri wants him to be. Does he wants Victor to be his boyfriend? (He’ll try his best.)

- Yuuri declared in National Television that he has feelings for Victor that cannot be simply described as romantic or platonic love, it’s more than that, but Yuuri’s gonna label it as love anyway.

- They hugs multiple times. The hugs is initiated by both of them.

- Victor is only clingy to Yuuri. He still keeps personal space to people that is not Yuuri.

- They kissed. Publicly.

- Yuuri sent Victor away to see Victor’s dying dog that has been with him for years (12+ years, I think?) despite needing him to perform his best. Yuuri sacrificed his chance because he didn’t want Victor to experience not-being-there-for-your-dog’s-last-breath that happened to him last year.

- They had intense romantic reunion at the airport. “Until I retire, please take care of me.” which is equivalent to Japanese marriage proposal.

- In which Victor acknowledge it. He kissed Yuuri’s ring finger and said that he wishes Yuuri never retires.

- They exchanged rings in front of the cathedral. Later, Victor confirmed that the rings are engagement rings and they’ll get married once Yuuri wins gold.

- Yuuri looks motivated af to win the gold.

BUT THERE ARE PEOPLE THAT NEEDS MORE CONFIRMATION THAT THEY LOVE EACH OTHER.

LIKE.

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This goes out to all the fandoms out there, to everyone who is either part of the lgbtq community or a supporter, and to everyone who has always wanted to see more diversity on tv …

… the EYEWITNESS fandom really needs your help! I constantly see posts on Tumblr from people who want to see more diversity in media - books, tv shows, movies - and yet here we have a show that has a ton of diversity … but it’s about to be cancelled because of low ratings!

EYEWITNESS is a really great new suspense drama about two boys, Philip and Lukas, who witness a triple murder but have to keep it a secret because one of them is scared that people will find out he is gay. One of them happens to be the foster son of the local Sheriff (who, btw, is a woman!) who is investigating the murder. From there on the show has multiple plot strands that all tangle together at some point, but the romance between Philip and Lukas is at the heart of it all.

Speaking of which … these are the boys:


Reasons why you will love EYEWITNESS:

  • Complex and complicated love story between two boys (one comfortable with his sexuality, the other deeply closeted) that feels honest and real
  • Doesn’t shy away from showing physical intimacy between the boys (seriously, they are making out shirtless 7 minutes into the first episode!)
  • Tough kick-ass female characters
  • Lots of POC & LGBT representation
  • Defies gender stereotypes
  • Positive portrayal of foster kid with foster parents
  • Deals with important issues like PTSD, drugs and the challenges of coming out in a realistic way
  • Suspense and lots of plot twists you won’t see coming
  • A killer who is creepy as hell
  • An amazing cast!!!

Oh, and did I mention it’s actually well-written?

Unfortunately diverse shows never have it easy, especially if they focus heavily on LGBTQ characters / couples. Add to that the fact that USA Network has basically done nothing at all to promote this show, and you can imagine that ratings are really low. So low in fact that the show will get cancelled if ratings don’t go up drastically!

EYEWITNESS deserves better! And we as a fandom are trying to make that happen. We are trying to get more people to watch to increase ratings.  

So PLEASE … if you live in the US then please watch EYEWITNESS tonight (and the next few Sundays after that) at 10 PM on USA Network. If you can’t watch it live then please DVR it and watch it the next day. Or you can do both which according to the show’s producers will count for two viewings!!!

If you want to catch up on the first 5 episodes you can do so on the USA Network website or app, or you can get the episodes on VoD (iTunes, Amazon Video, etc).

For people outside the US, if you buy the show on iTunes or Amazon Video (if your country has it) then this will also contribute to ratings!!!

If you like the show, please tweet some love for it to @USA_Network and use the hashtags #Eyewitness and #Philkas!

Let’s show the world that we WANT tv shows with diversity, and that shows which feature said diversity CAN be successful! Let’s show them that people will tune in for these kind of shows so that they will continue making them!

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“The relationship with Rick and Carl was also a rebirth of a family she had lost, and it turned out that Rick was the love of her life. That progression has been very interesting to play because she went from someone who spoke very little and didn’t trust people to someone who’s far more level-headed and willing to help people who she sees in the same place she was in.” - Danai Gurira

Turn ask replies into threads.

If you like a response I made, you are more than allowed to just take it and make it into a thread. Some of you do this already, but others might need a bit of a verbal confirmation to let them know that they are more than allowed to do so. When I put a lot of effort into something, I really do enjoy when it sparks the need to turn things into threads with people. Whatever random situation I put our muses in normally something that I’ve wanted to write for a while, and I assume that you do too because you sent me the thing in the first place!

Write out a thing and tag me or mention me. I want to see where things go from there. Plus, who knows, if you wanted something with our muses, breaking the ice tends to make it easier to get that thing.

Fandom PSA - on Anti Behavior

I’m finally addressing what needs to be said given the behavior of fandom over the last few weeks. It took me a while because I wasn’t entirely sure what to say that didn’t have me go off on a tangent with my point hiding like a needle in a haystack.

I’ve been seeing a lot of horrific actions from fandom lately, but what’s even worse is that a lot more well-meaning fans are getting sucked into anti rhetoric because they are terrified of being wrong and becoming a potential target. That’s insidious.

Accusing people of something as strong as pedophilia because their ship has an age gap is not social justice. Sending people disgusting images of gore and child pornography because you deem their ship immoral is not social justice. Creating block lists of “problematic” blogs because you don’t agree with their content is not social justice 

AND ALL THESE ACTIONS DO IS TURN PEOPLE INTO TARGETS AND CREATE MORE VICTIMS VIA MOB RULE.

It’s disgusting and such actions aren’t fooling anyone. Because this isn’t about protecting fandom and survivors, this is about dictating fandom behavior to feed their own inflated sense of self-righteousness. This is the reason we call these people “antis”. Their motivation lies entirely with disliking a certain ship or content creator, and using social justice buzzwords that Tumblr thrives on in order to spread fear and discourse. 

Trust me, I’ve been in fandom longer than a fraction of you have even been alive. Morally policing fandom has NEVER ended well. NEVER. All it does is just create victims, and once one innocent person is driven away, the mob then turns its teeth on another, and the vicious cycle continues until the entire fandom just falls apart. It probably stems from a form of jealousy, a narcissistic need to have fandom enjoy things the way they do, and if they can’t have their fun then no one can. Then again, I’m not really here to rationalize such irrational actions. 

So for those who find themselves caught in the middle and unsure what to do, I’m going to ask that if you see this kind of “anti” behavior to please recognize it for what it is: just someone who is using buzzwords to wave around their superior sense of morality and nothing more. Like, seriously, what kind of person sees an event that specifically talks about dedicating a week filled with nothing but positivity for fandom and they immediately start tearing it down? What kind of person makes callout posts and block lists that call for fandom to rally against a single individual just because they don’t agree with said individual’s content? What kind of person thinks it’s okay to slander and accuse others of heavy crimes like pedophilia just because a certain ship is in competition with their own? 

Such sanctimonious behavior isn’t unique to fandom, either. As a parent, I see this shit all the time in the, erm, “mom fandom” I guess we can call it. I’ve seen people accused of child abuse for using formula instead of breastfeeding. For letting their kids watch more than an hour of TV per day. For not feeding their kids organic food straight out of the dirt. Ridiculous? Yes, and this whole “anti” behavior is ranked right up there on that ridiculous level. And both these groups of people are coming from the same exact sanctimonious place. So you’re damn right I don’t buy into anti rhetoric about how they are just “looking out for fandom”. Bullshit. And that bullshit is the same everywhere. 

Nobody here is saying you can’t be uncomfortable with things, of course not. But there are a lot of things in this world that you are going to be exposed to that you don’t like, that make you uncomfortable, that will trigger you. There are only two healthy ways of dealing with this: 

One, you can engage that person in a conversation, explain your stance, and then listen to their response. No, this isn’t tone-policing. You don’t know anyone’s story or their motivations. Nothing in this world gives you the right to be abusive to another human being that sits behind your screen. 

Two, simply don’t give that person your support anymore. Unfollow, block, and move on with your life. Don’t turn someone into a target of abuse. Don’t create a victim.

Hi. I hate seeing anyone cry (especially Hobi because it’s heartbreaking), but I think it is important as fans that we remember these people we see as perfection are in fact just actual, regular humans like me and you (just with a lot more social cred and talent).
They aren’t always happy.
They aren’t always sexy.
They aren’t always thug.
And they don’t always wear their true emotions. In fact, most of them wear a facade.
We, as fans, need to remember that no person is perfect, no matter how close you can get, and that these idols are allowed to have human emotions like the rest of us. They are allowed to feel anger, pain, loss, depression and anxiety.
They are allowed to be vulnerable too.
And we HAVE TO LOVE THEM STILL.
Because if you don’t love them when they show you their true colors, you just love the facade, not the person behind it.

THEY ARE NORMAL HUMAN BEINGS TOO AND DESERVE TO BE TREATED AS SUCH.

Dear idols,
Please show us your true emotions so that we may empathise with you and love you on a whole new level.
You don’t have to be strong and perfect all the time.

- Your Loving Fans.

(Not my gif, all credit and rights reserved to the rightful owner)

ONE MORE because people think they’re so smug when they point this out but whenever I see someone going like ooomg ur style hasn’t changed in x months/years!! I laugh bc yeah congrats on noticing, I like drawing in this style so generally speaking it will improve but look the “”same”” to you, I don’t feel the need to be inconsistent and jump styles all the time lmao

(not to mention whenever people say this stuff they usually expect artists to “step up” and draw everything in a realistic/more detailed style which is not something I’m usually into and really disrespectful to cartoon artists)

what I’ve /actually/ been trying to change/get better at is anatomy, the general movement and flow, and I know it’s been getting better

so I don’t need you to tell me what /you/ think I should be changing, I CAN draw in other styles, I simply use this one because it’s what makes me happy

so miss me with all that bullshit

Something Y'all Really Need To Note About Chapter 18

Sangwoo, was the last one to text Jieun, it WILL show on her phone records from her phone company. If police look into her case after she goes “missing” they’ll check them and see Sangwoo was the last txt message. They’ll probably question him, but knowing how lax they are, how outwardly Sangwoo is a “good boy”, and how some of them like him as soon as he comes up with an excuse they’ll probably believe him.

But! As I said in a previous post, guess who won’t? Officer Seungbae, if he hears of it I bet he’ll once again be suspicious of Sangwoo and start REALLY looking more closely/watching Sangwoo.

This is something people really need to note because this could very well be the start to Sangwoo getting caught.

  • What he says: I'm fine
  • What he means: love triangles completely swamp the film industry and are an extremely overused trope meanwhile actual non monogamous relationships are hardly ever shown because they make monogamous people uncomfortable™ because they think polyamory and polygamy are the same thing but in the popular 80s film Ferris Bueller's Day Off, we see three teenagers who never get envious or possessive (except over a car) and take care of one another without making Cameron feel like the third wheel when they could of easily made jokes about that and we need more poly or hell even just healthy friendship triads that work desperately because they exist in real life.
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'Moana' Actress Grew Up With The Polynesian Myth That Inspired The Movie
Hawaiian actress Auli'i Cravalho says she grew up hearing tales of Maui, the Polynesian demigod who could pull up islands with his magical fishhook. Now she stars alongside him in a new Disney movie.

On the role Maui played in Cravalho’s childhood

Cravalho: “I grew up with his mythology and those stories of him literally pulling islands out of the sea and slowing down the sun. Those were my bedtime stories. And it was really interesting being able to see those and to hear those in this story because, I mean, I know them, but the fact that the directors and the story team took that time to really find something true to my culture like that, that was incredible to me.”

On the importance of depicting a strong female character like Moana

Cravalho: “I think Disney films are reflective of their times. And I think in this day and age, especially, we need more heroes and heroines and we need more empowered young people who will journey out to, yes, figure out who they are, but also just journey because that’s what they want to do. And, yes, … her curly hair blowing in the wind and her athletic build makes her just fully ready to kick some butt. I think it’s absolutely amazing. And she’s a character that even I look up to as I’m going to be continuing in my junior year on to senior year [of high school]. And I hope that she inspires others as she’s inspired me.”

Read the full interview here