because knowing you has become a great source of comfort in my life

anonymous asked:

Hi! New around here... May I ask what do you like about Madancy? Mads sure seems to fancy Mr. Dancy, Hugh.. not so much )=

My dear sweet baby fannibal, I need to stop you right there. 

Since you say you’re new, I’ll help you out.

“Well, it came about because one of the things that was very important was that Will Graham and Hannibal Lecter have a likeability, not only on screen but with each other. The fact that Hugh Dancy and Mads Mikkelsen are very good friends in real life cinched the deal, in my mind. That was important because I knew it was going to translate to screen. We wanted the audience to like these two men liking each other.” — Bryan Fuller on how he ended up casting Mads Mikkelsen (x)

“Hugh Dancy was the first actor cast and that made the project all that more appetizing for Mads Mikkelsen, who knew Hugh and worked with him in the past and rightfully adored him.— Bryan Fuller (x)”

“Me and Hugh (Dancy) were two of the knights (in King Arthur). So we were sitting for half a year on horseback and we became friends way back then. It’s just been a gift. We’re doing a show like this where you’re working so close together. It’s nice to be comfortable with each other, and that was just a gift that it turned out to be me and Hugh”— Mads Mikkelsen 

“Mads is a remarkable combination of things. He’s more than capable of fighting for what he wants. He’s amazing.”— Hugh Dancy

“Well obviously what I’m going to miss is just sitting down in a chair and having chit-chats with Hugh Dancy.” — Mads Mikkelsen on Hannibal S3 (x)

“It’s great. The very first time we sat down, talked about the show, Mads came up at the conversation. I worked with Mads nine years ago now on ‘King Arthur’. Completely different. Could not be more different. But during that period I got to know him and really like him. As a man as an actor. And had followed his career ever since then. I knew it was going to be great. That relationship is so complicated and interesting. It has to be believable. That’s one of the highlights of the show for me.” — Hugh Dancy

“So, spending that much time with a fellow actor, as I knew I would do with Hugh, it was just a fantastic gift that we knew each other. We are not only in the room, but to a degree, we have to be emotionally naked in certain situations.” — Mads Mikkelsen spoke about friendship with Hugh and cast (x)

(Mads Mikkelsen from Red Dragon Con, post)

(Hugh Dancy, The Path interview, post)

He’s worked with the actor Hugh Dancy previously and agrees that such a genuine friendship lends something special to their on screen relationship. “It was a great gift for both of us, that we were able to spend some much time together on the show. We were kind of in a boat of insecurity from the beginning, but it was nice to have a friend there, if you go down or you stay up. To be able to be comfortable with someone in a room, day in, day out of filming, 12 hours a day, was an extreme gift for both of us. We found a way of working together really fast. Hopefully I’ll get to spend time with him during the third season as well, but if not I’ll just have to go drink some beers with him!” — Mads Mikkelsen (x)

“I would say an actor like Mads, but there aren’t any, there’s just Mads.” — Hugh Dancy during the SAG Foundation interview (x).

And finally:

“Collaboration with Mads, who I love, who’s a wonderful actor and incredible partner in that respect “ — Hugh Dancy on what the show means to him

Hugh has become one of my very, very, very good friends. We knew each other from before, but it’s been so intense to spend three seasons together. I was there when he had his first little baby. It’s been a fantastic journey. We were just very, very lucky that we ended up with each other. Imagine if we had ended up with someone we didn’t like.” — Mads Mikkelsen (post)

Mads Mikkelsen and Hugh Dancy are friends. I’m not sure where you got the impression that they aren’t or that one dislikes the other.

Mads likes Hugh. 

Hugh likes Mads. 

They’re friends.

And their amazing chemistry and friendship (and various aesthetic reasons) is why I ship the fleet of ships that belong to Hugh and Mads and their characters.

So, after all of this, if you’re interested in some more Mads and Hugh liking each other and goofing around together goodies, check out my tag ‘danish crumpet’.

CURLY HAIR MASTERPOST

I’m starting this list because as a born and bred Curly Top, I know first hand what a struggle it can be to figure out how to manage/become comfortable with your hair (and do so on a budget). So, please feel free to add, reblog, and share with the curly heads you love (Please don’t delete the source.) 

1- Kiss sulfates goodbye.

I didn’t even know sulfates were a thing until it was brought to my attention. Basically, they are chemicals inside many of the shampoos and hair products that you know and love, ie; Aussie, Suave, Garnier, etc. 

A couple of the biggest problem-causing sulfates are called Sodium Lauryl Sulfate and Sodium Laureth Sulfate, they promote bacteria, reduce proteins, and basically leave your hair covered in a thick layer of wax that sucks all of the natural oils out of your hair. I have been sulfate free for about a year now, and anytime I am forced to use a shampoo with sulfates in it, I can immediately tell the difference in the texture of my hair. As someone who will never spend a dime over the necessary price for beauty products, I’ve compiled a small list of my favorite Sulfate free or low sulfate products that you can find just about anywhere and that will not break the bank:

  • -L’Oreal Paris EverCurl
    This was the first product I tried after making the switch and I love it. It averages about $10 at places like Walmart and it lasts a while. They have a bunch of different options in this line like gel, style milk, etc. It’s cheap and it smells REALLY GOOD!
  • -Shea Moisture
    My favorite is their Coconut Hibiscus line, where they also offer several different types of products. This is probably my favorite out of everything that I’ve used (I’m partial to the Curl and Style Milk and the Hold and Shine Moisture Mist.) They also have a wonderful set of Shampoo and Conditioner, each product also averaging about $10.
  • -Miss Jessie’s
    This one is a little more expensive, each bottle averaging around $22, but it’s definitely worth the money. I love the Pillow Soft Curls product, but right now I’m working my way through a bottle of Multi Cultural Curls and it’s great, though not my favorite. 
  • -Suave Professionals
    Now, I know that I mentioned Suave earlier in the ‘bad list’, however, they have a line of Keratin Infused shampoos that are really low in sulfates AND in price! I usually never buy the shampoos and conditioners from the lines listed above, because it’s a lot of money for a little bit of product, and, let’s face it, in a Curly Haired’s world, there’s no such thing as ‘Family Size’! I can usually hit up Walmart or CVS and get a giant bottle of both this shampoo and conditioner and pay around $9 TOTAL! THAT, my friends, is a deal!

2- Find a good oil.

I’m partial to a salon quality Argan oil, but you can use whatever suits you best depending on your type of curl. You’re probably going to pay a little more for the oil than you would some of your other products, but at a couple of pumps a few times a week, one bottle can last months. 

3- Develop a solid after-shower routine.

This was a hard one for me to figure out, but once I got the hang of it, what used to be an hour long process now only takes about 15 minutes. Each routine will vary from person to person depending on your curls/resources/etc., but here is mine:

  • -First of all, I never wash out all of my conditioner. I don’t walk out of the shower with my hair still sudsy, but I leave just enough in that it makes the next 15-20 minutes a smoother process. 
  • -I start by squeezing all of the excess water out of my hair, (honestly, I’ve learned that my life post-shower is so much easier if I just stand on a towel) making sure that it’s still pretty damp, but not dripping down your shoulders. It’s a fine line. 
  • -Then, I rub a little bit of whatever curl milk I’m planning on using later into my hair (I only just learned this about a month ago and it has SAVED MY LIFE!) this seriously makes the whole brushing your hair out thing eight billion times easier. I know that people say you’re not supposed to brush your hair when it’s wet, but most of those people have board-straight hair and no actual valid opinions. You can brush curly hair when wet, or not at all. There is no in-between. 
  • -Brush it out. I start from the ends and work your way up to avoid as much breakage as possible.
  • -Now I add my oil. A few pumps of Argan into my palm, and I make sure to rub it all over my hands so no matter how I touch my hair, the oil is making contact. Try to avoid the roots, just because you have your own natural oils living there and they get kind of angry (greasy) when you invite other people in. I’ve found the easiest method in doing this is to start at the highest point you plan on putting the oil, and then twisting your hair into sort of a faux-pony tail, it spreads evenly and you don’t have to worry about your hair tangling again.
  • -Flip and scrunch! Put however much curl milk you feel necessary into your palms, flip your hair and get to work! I like to start in my biggest problem area, which is the base of my neck. I put a little more product there than I do anywhere else because it dries out so quickly. Once I’m done, I flip my hair back and scrunch up the curls on the crown of my head a little more, just because I have an issue getting a lot of volume up there.

4- Satin pillow cases are expensive.

It’s true. I know everyone says that the way to keep moisture locked into your hair is to sleep on satin pillow cases, but they’re expensive and my head slides around. No bueno. So, I’ve found a loophole! The messy bun! It’s a life saver, really. I usually wash my hair before bed, so when I’m done putting the products in, I flip my hair over again, collect it all into a bun at the very top of my head and tie it off (I use scrunchies. They don’t leave those annoying hair-tie lines in your hair). Make sure you’re not tying it too tight though, or else it could ruin the curls and you’ll wake up with a frizzy head. This locks in the moisture and protects your curls from those pesky cotton pillow cases.

5- Stop hurting your hair!!

It’s okay. We’ve all done it. Spent hours in the bathroom with a fan and a flat iron trying to look like Megan Fox. (and proceeded to sweat out all of that hard work in a matter of hours). Stop it. Throw out the flat iron, the curling rod you use after the flat iron to get those pretty beach waves, and the hair dryer- YES! I said the hair dryer. Even with a diffuser, you’re causing unnecessary damage to those beautiful curls of yours! Be nice to your hair!

6- Vitamins.

Biotin. I’m not kidding. It keeps your hair long, curly and most of all- Healthy! It’s cheap at any Walmart or drug store and as a bonus, it helps out your hair and skin too!


That’s all I’ve got for now. If I think of some others, I’ll come back and add them, but if you have any opinions or tips that I didn’t mention here, PLEASE add them! Let’s have a discussion, learn and GROW together! (See what I did there?)

L’Officiel Hommes April 2017; Chanyeol’s interview (Part 1)

L’Officiel Hommes: EXO has since outgrown their previously cute and naive personas, to adopt the current “High Profile” celebrity status that we know of today. What are your personal sentiments about holding such a title?
Chanyeol: I believe everyone has had that particular dream about being able to stand proudly above all the legacies that they have built for themselves. However, personally i feel that albeit having yet acquire that level of prestige as a group, i’m able to find solace and confidence beneath our ability to put up an impressive stage performance that everyone will enjoy. Having said so, there’s also an underlying sense of unease along with it as well. Hence in order to prolong and maintain our current statuses, no actually, a better way to put this would be to call this the driving force towards our desire to constantly show you the improved and better sides of us, which explains the need for us to find ways of improving and developing ourselves. Another way to go about it would also be to spend whatever personal free time I have fruitfully, by engaging in activities that would not only be solely for the sake of enjoyment, but also be able to aid the process of further developing myself as a person.
L’Officiel Hommes: What type of role do you think you play in EXO? Aside from the usual roles that you associate yourself with during your introductions, or the Chanyeol that the fans identify with. Instead, talk about what you personally think your role is inside of EXO.
Chanyeol: An interesting person. To put it nicely, i’m the mood maker/ happy pill of the group; acting as my fellow members’ source of energy. Because i want the members to thoroughly enjoy the times we share together. Moreover, we all started off aspiring for the same goals and dreams, even going as far as being fated to be debuting in the same group is something i really feel should be deeply cherished. Which is why i’m constantly cracking jokes with my members, as this is also one of the ways i feel i’m secretly able help the leader manage the group better behind the scenes. An advantage i have would be both my age and training period, as i’m mainly in the middle when it comes to these aspects, hence it makes the task of getting along with my fellow members a lot easier.
L’Officiel Hommes: You’ve recently displayed your television personality to us. How has the overall experience with regards to acting been for you so far?
Chanyeol: Prior to embarking on the television series “Missing Nine”, i have had previous exposure, having previously given the opportunity to star in various online drama series and even a Chinese movie production. Having said that, i still received the support from my fellow casts members. I felt really comfortable with the role assigned to me, hence i was hoping for a positive reaction (from the viewers). To conclude it simply, i find acting very interesting. Coming from a background where when it came to the aspect of acting, i didn’t have exceptional skills per say, neither had i previously undergo any vigorous trainings for acting, i made sure to always clarify my doubts with the director whenever possible, even going down to the nitty gritty details of my fellow senior’s expressions and the way they orchestrated their dialogues. I’m gradually realizing the charms of the acting industry as i’m exploring it.
L’Officiel Hommes: Who is your favorite actor then? Also, what would be your “Life” movie?
Chanyeol: My favorite actor would have to be Jack Nicholson. I’ve pretty much watched almost every single one of his movies. In the movie “One Flew Over The Cuckoo’s Nest” where he portrayed the character Randle Patrick McMurphy, Melvin Udall in “As Good As It Gets”, Warren R. Schmidt in the movie “About Schmidt”. He has greatly displayed his outstanding ability to portray each and every single one of his roles distinctively. Although my favorite actor is the former, my favorite movie is one that he unfortunately did not star in, it’s “School Of Rock”. I would go as far to say that this movie bears a great influence my decision towards my current life path. I started learning more about music back in my high school days, but back then, it was purely out of interest. But during my 6th year, i watched the aforementioned movie, which became the decisive factor towards my choice in pursuing music as a career. The movie’s main protagonist, Jack Black, is seen having the time of his life whilst balancing his career as both a musician and actor. Upon watching this movie during my younger days, it fostered the dream of my desire to become a singer in the future.
L’Officiel Hommes: Amidst starring in movies, participating in variety shows, being a singer, composer and performer on stage, what sort of activities do you often engage in during your period of short breaks in between? Do you continue participating in activities or do you just completely lay off everything temporarily to take a good rest?
Chanyeol: To me, composing serves as both a form of entertainment as well as relaxation. I would describe it as my ideal form of healing time. I particularly enjoy composing in hotels when i’m overseas. When i have some extra time off in the dorms, i’d usually spend them by playing computer games with Baekhyun. I would always have a particular activity that i’ll be engaged in at any given span of time. By that i mean that i would devote my time and effort to being able to really grasp, hold and master the task at hand or until i reach the standard of my personal expectations. Recently, snowboarding has become one of my favorite forms of past time. I remember being exposed to snowboarding back when i was a toddler, but i was never truly able to experience snowboarding during the winter back then. I’ve even been on a midnight snowboarding escapade before. In fact, this past February, i was at one of Hokkaido’s skiing resorts (Kiroro). Not long ago i had the same passion for both pool and bowling.
L’Officiel Hommes: Well then, amongst all of them (his hobbies), which one still holds a special place in your heart?
Chanyeol: I’d still have to give this to composing. I’ve always harbored a strong, underlying passion for lyrical composition. I’m constantly engaged in a cycle of experimenting with various forms of music, through the process of success and failures. Through this repetitive process, i think i’ve developed and found my own personal style of music. Although i’m always striving to compose something great, as of now, even if it falls short of that, i’m cool with it. I enjoy the process of learning and exploring whilst i’m self-composing. I find the process of venturing into various genres of music that i’m previously not familiar with, thoroughly refreshing. I find the conversations i have with the new people i meet extremely precious. Hence, i’m always carrying a small notebook (laptop) around, so that i’m able to jot down any inspirations that i may have along the day, which explains why it’s always an essential item i always carry in my backpack. Even with a short period of 10-20 minutes of spare time, i’m always looking to brainstorm about new lyrics.
L’Officiel Hommes: Amongst all of EXO activities, which, in your opinion, left the deepest impression on you?
Chanyeol: I still vividly remember our very first debut showcase back in 2012. That was my first time experiencing the true feeling of nervousness. History was our very first song, and i remember we had our backs facing the stage in preparation, as we heard the loud screams of many. The loud screams coming from a group of 3000 people, really overwhelmed me with the feeling of nervousness from head to toe. After the performance, i asked the members about how they felt and they all felt the same. That experience was truly memorable, and has since been engraved in my memory.

Translation by Soojung @ fyeah-chanyeol
(Please take out with full credits)

The Best Friend Personality broken down by a Best Friend Personality: A Shallow Portrayal of a Deep Character

Ok so I have honestly had enough of people talking shit about this so I’m going to explain it better than the games and shows can.

So this isn’t a new thing for me. I am used to getting the characters I love and relate to shat on for how they are portrayed in media. It’s been long going on ever since I started getting involved with fandoms and I always wondered why this was. I realized that after some time that it might be that many people can’t see these characters in the perspective that I can. Also because these characters are often short lived in a plotline or are just never actually developed like they should. However, I didn’t blame anyone until people (fans) started changing this personality into something completely different or overlooking this deep personality completely.

This is brought up a final straw with 2 recent characters getting more backlash than I have ever seen this personality ever get.

Lance McClain from Voltron and Ryuji Sakamoto from Persona 5.

This post isn’t about bashing people who dislike the characters. It’s about getting to understand them which I can clearly see people aren’t getting from the get go of their introduction.

I’m doing this because their life and experiences are extremely similar to how I feel and live in my own life and to see these two be bashed for some of the deepest portrayal I have seen of this type hurts me greatly.

I often hear and see people write that they are annoying, boring, selfish, egotistical, or even downright mean to others. This lack of understanding hurts me because I realize that I myself in society might be seen this way or this wide idea will spread into a live issue.

I’ve also noticed that boys are really the only ones that get these traits. I am not sure why but I would love to see girls with these problems and see if this outcome would be different. (I could argue that Chloe Price falls into this but the position of what I speak of is dominated by Warren Graham)

This character type is a best friend to the rest of the team or the protagonist and is often the wingman or the go to guy for everything. They don’t necessarily all have the same personality but they all have a key features that make them fit into this position. It seems that these key features however are the things that get judged and, for me, I cannot quite see why.

First impressions mean everything. These characters are often brought into a story immediately down on their luck AT ALL TIMES. I can give you some examples of this from characters that are this type:

Lance is in a simulator that he ends up crashing and is scolded by Iverson and it is brought up that he isn’t cut out to be a pilot along with all of the students pointing out his flaws blatantly, Ryuji Sakamoto is late for school with the protagonist in the rain and not only that he is the crap of the school before the protagonist comes along. He is held responsible for destroying the track team and believed to be a delinquent afterwards, Yosuke Hanamura literally rides his bike into a trash can and needs the protagonist to help him out and later he gets his ass kicked by Chie for breaking her DVD and gets his date turned down by Yukiko, Armin Arlert is being beaten up by a group of bullies and takes the beating not making an effort to fight back until Eren and Mikasa come to save him, Alistair Theirin is back and forth being harassed and harassing Mages and all around not really wanting to be in the camp, etc.

You know the character I’m talking about.

Now I get more into their backstory. Most of them are happy-go-lucky fun loving people on the outside but have some inner turmoil. It is a broken record of they never feel good enough and they never feel loved. It doesn’t quite always start out that way when you meet them, they are often full of confidence no matter what is going on. However this changes when they realize that they make friends with people they aspire to be. They are jealous but they are happy they have friends that are great people. It is a mixed confusion that they will have and it is often haphazardly patched up with something like one occurrence or a line. This is not true to real life and honestly it is something that they will continue to feel no matter how early or late it is “fixed”. There is also a possibility of it becoming a problem again if they aren’t supported.

These characters usually have something going on at home or personally that they don’t make public to others easily. Some examples are:

Lance misses his home where he got his support and many people on his team fail to realize that he really is the only one that gets criticized on a day to day basis, Junpei Iori has an alcoholic father and doesn’t want to be around him much like Ryuji Sakamoto where his father would end up beating him and his mother (Ryuji is honestly a character I relate to the closest to out of many since me and my mother were victims of domestic violence and his actions and thoughts reflect a lot of what I have done and think about), Prompto Argentum feels extremely basic compared to his friends who grew up in noble and royal households which is then worsened when he finds out more about his past which I will spare those who still haven’t played.

These experiences and constant reminders that they will never be good enough by anyone especially by someone extremely influential in their life makes them believe that it is true and will see it everywhere. This is honestly a lasting impression because this started out when they were children and they were held to standards and are yelled and screamed at when they don’t make it there. They have no comfort going anywhere because they usually get it at home and they get it with friends. Now this may not be on purpose but as someone who relates it is an extremely impressionable word or dare I say trigger that often will bring back the source of where this fear originated from.

One thing I have noticed about all of them and myself is that we are snappers. We don’t mean to snap at people but when you hear something over and over or they bring up something you don’t want to talk about you get fed up with it. This is honestly what drives people away and it hurts because seeing people want to leave is nothing at all what we want. Expressing our feelings easily is not something we can do so we avoid it as much as possible resulting in what we hate the most.

I can see this is where the mean and maybe selfish comes from. We are angered by seeing things happen to others and will take it on because it means something personal.

When someone compliments us or says we did a good job we are deeply touched. None of that “for an idiot” crap because that is still holding the standard that we still are nothing and cannot progress past that trope. When we hear something genuine and invested we want to emphasize it because we did good and maybe people will see us better but people see this as: “Wow they are so full of themselves. Ok you did a good thing you don’t have to rub it in my face or anything. So annoying.”

Because people don’t make an effort to understand us or the characters they see it this way almost always. After being told so much that we suck and will never do good things when it happens and we say we are happy about it people crush it as “not a big deal”. It is to us. It’s a big deal when they say you’re no good all the time. We will close ourselves off or brush it off with haha joke if this happens. No one will really genuinely be interested or celebrate it with us.

I relate with these characters in an extremely personal level and understand them a lot better than most people do for how they are written. People will often warp this into a bad boy or crazy personality that honestly doesn’t exist which not only makes me confused on why but it hurts to see this character be ripped up and made into something they’re not. It is extremely depressing to see a character that I relate so much to destroyed by a fandom who doesn’t understand them properly. But-

I can easily see this character type influenced though. It stems from someone giving them what they want to hear and they can be manipulated. THEY MAY EVEN KNOW THEY’RE BEING MANIPULATED but it feels so good to finally hear what has been denied for so long. This isn’t done with this type often though. This is why I am such a fan of dark Lance just being manipulated by the Galra because it could give a depth that is missing from characters like him. With an arc like this you get into more of what they desire and what is missing in their lives and how much they want to be seen as more than they are made out to be.

Despite their detailed problems they really only want love and to be told that they matter and that they are important. It is an extremely easy solution that is almost never addressed in any game, show or media.

The whole “Lance is being shoved down my throat” and this whole that isn’t Lance I’m tired of! This “Ryuji is so mean to Morgana” (Morgana I low-key hate because Morgana is just fueling the fire by calling Ryuji dumb and an idiot in every other sentence and not one person has spoken ill of this fact) and “he’s just and idiot” IM TIRED OF! People change them so much and make them out to be these righteous and self absorbed people who are rude IM TIRED OF!

These characters cannot say anything or do anything to change what people see them as nor had I until now. I want people to understand that this is not the character you make them out to be. There are so many reasons behind the things that they do. They aren’t dumb They just think differently. They aren’t full of themselves they just want to prove they aren’t worthless.

Being someone who cannot even get a character that I can relate to who is cared for properly hurts because this is a problem I have seen over and over again. This is never fixed and if I don’t explain it these characters will forever be underestimated and made into something they aren’t. I want to work to a complete character. Not this consistent trope of the dumb hasty best friend. I want them to be loved and recognized for who they are, for what they struggle with, for how they think, and what they are looking for to complete their life.

I’m sorry but it had to be said. I want this because I see myself and to see them hate what my life is. I cannot take it anymore. I hope that you take time to understand and invest more into them. To not see them as shallow or bland.

Thanks for reading.

Things I have learnt as a revert in the past 6 years

I took my shahdah at 17 and entered the beautiful world of Islam. I have grown and learnt so much since then, and have so much that I look forward to learning yet. Here are some things I noticed that may or may not be of help to someone. (I am not the perfect muslim, you may not agree with me on everything).

1. The grey area.

When you revert, some of us have an urge to want to know/do everything perfectly. It doesn’t help that some people like to throw information at you and expect you to automatically do all your fasts, cover up etc. I call it the beautiful grey area. If you rush into everything it may be overwhelming. I’ve seen fellow sisters find it too much and leave Islam due to it. Take comfortable baby steps. Its not a race, do what you can and don’t compare yourself to others. What I personally found was the more you learn and fall in love with Islam, your outwards appearance and actions will reflect it. So read, listen and pray.

2. People won’t always understand.

You will find a ton of people who mean well and want to help. My mum once screamed to me in a rage of fit that no-one will accept me because I won’t fit in. Now this isn’t true. I’m sure people will accept me, my beautiful friends have. But I won’t fit in, not fully. It’s a feeling of being an outsider to your own and to other muslims sometimes. Find a good base of people, friends, reverts. People with whom you don’t need to fit in but will accept you anyway. At the end of it don’t rely on people too much, you have been chosen by your Lord- who better do you have to turn to?

3. Don’t answer any questions you don’t want to.

Muslims are beautiful and accepting and I cannot tell you how much help I have received by beautiful Muslims around me, But don’t feel the need to answer everything. People are curious, they find revert stories as a source of inspiration and love to help. A question I get a lot is “how did your family react?” I hate it. Personally it fills me with dread to have to explain to this stranger how my life is falling apart, I tend to laugh and say “not great” and change the subject. I’ve had a lot of invasive and more personal questions thrown at me which looking back I shouldn’t have been pressured into answering. Some people want to help; others just want an entertaining story. It is not your duty to give them that or share anything that you don’t want to.

4. You don’t have to tell your family straight away.

I personally struggled with the guilt of hiding it from my parents. I’ve been doing it for 6 years now and it has become easier. I wouldn’t suggest doing it as long as me but I have my reasons. But you don’t have to deal with it all straight away. It’s a bit overwhelming to revert and then have to deal with the reaction of others. I’d say take your time; tell people when you are comfortable enough with it. (I am aware that not all families will react badly)


5. The guilt.

Now I’m from a Hindu family where Islam is taboo and doing what I’ve done makes your family socially outcast. This plus the guilt of hurting the people I love can be a bit much. I have caused unbearable amounts of pain to my parents by accepting Islam and in turn hurt them more then any child should and the guilt of that weighed on me for a very long time. The way I had to see it and the way I hope others would is that by accepting Islam and unleashing this pain onto them. I have introduced them to Islam. Now whether they hate it or not, they are aware of it, and time changes things in ways we can’t imagine. Yes I’ve hurt them but if it turns out they learn a little about Islam and accept it one day and then it will be worth it.

6. The fear.

One thing I struggle with as a Muslim is the fear that my parents will die without Islam. Knowing the punishment of the hellfire, no –one could ever want this for their parents. I’m sorry I can’t offer advice here, all I can say is Allah knows best. Make dua for your parents every day. Make your actions be the best dawah possible, and the rest is left to your Lord.


7. Ramadhan.

Ramadhan is a beautiful and daunting time for a new Muslim. What I would advise is don’t try and do everything at once. Do a few fasts before so you are prepared. Don’t feel disheartened if you don’t manage to fast all of your fasts for the month. Do what you can and take the time to learn and enjoy the peace that comes with this blessed month. A tip a fellow revert gave me to was to eat slim fast bars and have nourishment for sehri. Now it sounds odd and can be sickening. But it releases energy through out the day and curbs your cravings, I found it helped for me but it may not for everyone. Also it is an easy thing to have snuck in your room and quietly munch!


8. The creeps

Now I wish there wasn’t but there a few guys who will take advantage of a revert sister. You are new to this world and at your most vulnerable, just be on a look out. Not all brothers have bad intentions but a fair few might. Don’t believe anything you are told without checking it out and do not feel pressured into something.


9. Good Vibes.

I keep a tiny (miniature) Quran hidden on my top shelf in my doll house. I feel like having it in the house protects me. In the past while I sleep I have got a Quran app on my phone and played it out all night. I plugged my headphones in and kept volume low and just left it on my bed. It soothes me to just know it is being played and there even if I am not listening to me.



10. Pray.

I know it isn’t easy for everyone. I hide behind the door and pray, half listening out to people approaching. But pray, and talk to your Lord it helps everything. If you can find a local mosque or uni prayer rooms but make sure you keep praying or at least trying to.


I wish I could say it is going to be easy, it’s not. It’s a rollercoaster of emotions, and it really does test you. But you’ve been chosen for this path and if Allah thinks you can do it then no-one can tell you that you can’t. Learn, ask questions and just enjoy it. It is so beautiful if you let it be. I am nowhere near being the perfect Muslim, I mess up and sin so much. Repent and don’t feel like you’ve ever done something so bad that you can’t repent. He forgives all. This is such a beautiful gift that you have been blessed with. It will be your own journey, your own experiences, probably very different from what mine has been so far. But I hope that maybe this helps at least one person out there.

I’m here if anyone wants to message me and if I’ve said something that offends you or you disagree with then please accept my sincere apologies!

x

anonymous asked:

Autistic people are often framed as having only a singular, heavily involved "special interest", or perhaps 2 or 3, to the absolute exclusion of anything else. While I know this is likely true for some, I can't imagine that every autistic person ever doesn't have multiple hobbies or interests pursued with varying degrees of engagement. The sense I get from the NT-written things I've encountered make autistic folk seem very one-dimensional. I'd like some help clearing this up, please!

This is one of those topics that hasn’t really been researched, as far as I can tell, so I’ll be sticking to my usual method of speaking for myself and inviting autistic followers to add their thoughts. I can in no way claim to speak for everyone, but am happy to share my perspective.

First off, let me explain how a special interest works for me with a simple metaphor: falling in love. When I first come across a new special interest, its eyes sparkle at me from across the room. I get a tiny taste of it, a fragment of information or a glimpse of a picture, and a spark flies, and a fuse lights, and a bomb of euphoria goes off in my head. This thing, this thing right here, is quite clearly the most amazing, important thing I’ve ever come across. This thing is frigging incredible, the best thing that’s ever happened, and the world needs to know.

I become obsessed. I gobble up information wherever I can find it. I learn everything there is to know as quickly as I possibly can. I become an expert on this thing in a remarkably short amount of time. This is LOVE, man. Well, more accurately, this is infatuation. Puppy love. That drug-like rush of chemicals in your brain when you feel you’ve found THE ONE. I talk about it constantly, much to the annoyance of those around me who just don’t quite understand why this thing, this one thing, is so amazingly great that I need to rant about it to the exclusion of everything else in the world. (Especially since they’ve heard it all before.) Just talking about it gives me a rush of euphoria. Sometimes I can see that those around me aren’t interested, but I just can’t stop. The words pour out of me, the excitement radiates off of me, I can’t be ignored, can’t be interrupted. This is like nothing that has ever happened before! Surely, if I can explain it well enough, everyone else will see, too, right? Right?

If you’ve never been in this kind of love, you might not have learned this lesson yet, but here it comes, folks: that kind of love doesn’t last. That euphoric high that results when your brain decides to take a bath in happy chemicals - it’s just physically impossible to sustain it. Eventually, the high, the firey passion, wears off. For me, this usually takes about a year. I’ve read and watched and learned everything I can about this thing. It’s been the center point of my life for a long time, the thing that gets me out of bed in the morning. And one day, suddenly, it just… doesn’t hold the same appeal. It’s not that I don’t love it anymore! I will always love it. But the love changes. It becomes the old, familiar love that comes with time. You don’t get that high from being together anymore, but that doesn’t mean you don’t enjoy each other’s company. You no longer try to persuade the world that this one is the one, is the best thing ever. You no longer need to. This love just settles into the back of your mind, always there, always a comfort, always ready to give you a hug when you need it.

The expertise I’ve gained from all my intensive research, that stays. I will always know just about all there is to know about that thing (at least, all there was to know when I was researching it). I’ll always be able to call that knowledge to mind later on, when it’s useful. And I’ve developed quite the reputation for being a “know-it-all”. I always seem to have some random, obscure fact right on the tip of my tongue, and it’s usually debunking some common misconception that my friends would just as soon keep on having rather than feeling like they’re constantly under attack by that one girl who just HAS to know EVERYTHING.

But it doesn’t feel that way for me. A key difference I’ve noted in communication between autistic and allistic people, and the source of a large percentage of our miscommunications in life, is this: allistic people communicate to bond emotionally and to establish and display power and dominance or submission. Autistic people communicate to share information. When I correct someone, it’s because I know that if I was wrong, I would want to be given the correct information, so I could stop being wrong. But when an allistic person is corrected like that, they take it as an attack on their status, a display of power, and a denial of their feelings. The “golden rule” doesn’t always work. It’s a constant problem.

In any case, I have always been described as someone obsessive. Someone who finds one thing (although it’s often two, three, even four things at a time) and just obsessively learns everything about it and won’t shut up about it for months and months on end. And that really does seem to be true, in a sense. I have very extreme levels of interest. Either something is amazing and I need to know everything about it, or it just doesn’t catch my interest at all. There isn’t much in between.

On the other hand, due to all the many special interests I’ve had over my more than three decades of life, I have built up quite a broad range of interests. I never lost any of them. All of those things still interest me now, and when someone brings one of them up in conversation, I still get a spark of the old obsessiveness deep inside. As a result, I now seem to have a wide range of interests, some of which I’m overtly obsessive about, and others which I keep on file, ready to pull out whenever they’re needed. When I was young, that probably wasn’t the case. It’s likely that I may have been viewed as somewhat one-dimensional as a child, obsessed with just a few things and completely uncaring about everything else. (And when my parents, trying to make me act “normal”, tried separating me from my special interests, the pain was as crushing as being forced to leave your True Love because the rest of the world doesn’t want you to be together - and only made my obsession stronger.)

What I want you to understand is that I don’t see that as a negative thing in any way. An allistic person might see that narrow range of interests and think “oh the poor thing, it’s like she lives in a tiny world and is missing so much of life!” But from my perspective, it’s allistic people who are missing out. Allistic people never seem particularly interested in anything, not by my standards. From where I’m standing, it looks like allistics just drift through life, dabbling in a little of everything but never mastering anything, never finding any real interest, never getting any real, intense joy out of any of their hobbies. An allistic person might say to me, “Yeah, I do a little crocheting, but I’m not really that into it.” And in my mind, I’ll think… then why do it at all? How horribly unsatisfying must it be to go through your entire life, never falling in love with anything you do? Never feeling that euphoria that I get to experience over and over again every time I find a new interest?

Autistic and allistic brains are specialized differently. Allistic brains are best at navigating social rules and structures and internalizing broad strokes and large categories. They look at a table for the first time and think: “That’s a table.” And that’s pretty much as far as they go. They might spend a few seconds to note the material or color or overall condition of the table, but that’s it. 

Autistic brains are specialized in details. It means we have more information to process, all those details without any mechanism for discarding the ones that aren’t important, but it also means we get to see everything about something. I see that new table and I can get lost in tracing the patterns of the grain for hours on end. Sure, it takes me longer, but I get a lot more out of it, and I get a joy from that which allistic people just don’t seem to get.

It’s similar with our interests. Allistics have broad interests, dipping their toe into the shallow ends of a thousand different pools but never really diving in. Autistics have narrow but intense interests. We absorb every detail, and in doing so experience an intense and wonderful euphoria. Honestly, sometimes I feel sorry for all the allistic people in the world who never get to experience that. The poor things… ;)

-Mod Aira

For me, I can have both special interests and normal-level interests. Just because I have stuff that I really really love and am passionate about doesn’t mean I can’t also have other interests, that I’m not quite as passionate about but that I like to dabble in from times to times or as a part of my routine. I do not feel however the urge or will to research them in more depth. There is joy that I can derive from it, but there is not the same “drive” to pursue it. I’d say that’s the main difference between a regular interest and what we call a special interest: a drive to learn about it, talk about it, read about it, build projects about it, engage with it, that is much stronger. So one person can have one or a few special interests, but I’d say it’s not always to the exclusion of everything else.

I think the intensity of special interests, their “obsessiveness” and whether or not the person likes to engage with other subjects that their special interests depends a lot from one person to the next. My special interests sound less intense than what Aira is describing, and I may have more varied non-special interests. So really I’d say this is something that depends a lot from one person to the next.

I also want to add that just because someone has a narrow range of interests doesn’t mean they’re one-dimensional: I’ve seen a special interest described as a lense through which you understand the world. The world is large, and even if you have only one such “lense”, that’s a lot of things to discover with that unique point of view.

-Mod Cat

Hiatus and ‘Unintentional’ Plagiarism

In light of recent ugly events in the fandom, I hope you can forgive me this moment of indulgence. I don’t mean to rehash past issues, but after ruminating on it for a long while now (hence the silence on my end) I would like to keep people apprised of what’s happening, especially those who have been so kind as to continue correspondence with me despite my silence. 

Firstly, let me apologise to those who have not heard back from me. I’m really sorry. It’s inconceivably rude, and I’m ashamed. I haven’t been feeling it recently, so I haven’t been online. I hope you can forgive me. 

Having said that, I will be taking a break from Tumblr. 

[To Salty ‘Fidget Spinner Moving Ass’ Anon: beware. This is one of those long, long, long posts you so despise. Save yourself the trouble and don’t read on, asshat.]

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The Definitive Guide to Hollywood’s Most Under-the-Radar Couples From Eva Mendes and Ryan Gosling to Taylor Swift and Joe Alwyn


E News // July 17th - [Excerpt]

For other celebrities, they have simply been there, tried that. From the time Taylor Swift dropped her first verse about the high school boys who “thought they would be cool and break my heart”, her relationship status has been of unique interest. When she wasn’t being labeled as a serial dater, outsiders were speculating about why she didn’t have a man.

And then there was the breathless coverage of the relationships themselves. Whether she was walking down a Brooklyn street with Jake Gyllenhaal or strolling through Central Park with Harry Styles, there was a need to know exactly where they stood: Was it love? A romance that could end in engagement? Or simply fodder for her next album?

By 2014, Swift had enough. “I feel like watching my dating life has become a bit of a national pastime, and I’m just not comfortable providing that kind of entertainment anymore,” she told Rolling Stone. “I don’t like giving comedians the opportunity to make jokes about me at awards shows. I don’t like it when headlines read ‘Careful, Bro, She’ll Write a Song About you,’ because it trivializes my work. And most of all, I don’t like how all these factors add up to build the pressure so high in a new relationship that it gets snuffed out before it even has a chance to start.”

So when she crossed paths with rising actor Joe Alwyn… uh, somewhere, at some point after she split with Tom Hiddleston in September 2016 and before their relationship was uncovered in May 2017, she decided it best to adopt a courting method that can only be described as covert.

In the early months, she and the British actor went into what a source calls “lockdown” mode, an approach that involved a series of private jets, UK customs officials willing to check her passport on the tarmac, blacked-out sedans and dates spent in private locales “where they could really get to know each other without the pressure of being in a public relationship and people making judgment calls.”

Even after The Sun revealed “Taylor’s Secret Brit Love” last May, they maintained their cloak and dagger routine. Though they’ve since been captured by photographers a few times, they’re hardly posing hand-in-hand on a red carpet. And the closest Swift has come to gushing about Alwyn was pointing in the direction of his VIP seat before launching into her single “Gorgeous” at the May opening of her Reputation Stadium Tour.

Such efforts may be viewed as extreme, but they were certainly effective. “Being low-key and staying out of the spotlight has really helped their relationship,” an insider tells E! News of the 10-time Grammy winner and the Mary Queen of Scots actor. “It’s made things more special and sacred.”

nykoload  asked:

Heeyyy birb lord do you know (or do you do?) any art tutorial stuff for people trying to get back into drawing? Idk where or how to look for anything.

I know you already found some stuff but I figured I’d throw in a little advice anyway! This is gonna be a bit long and include some links and technical + motivational help. Most of this is what I’ve learned at school + uni and from my years as a hobby artist.

First of all, if you’re starting up again after a long time of no drawing (or even if you’re a beginner) I’d recommend:

  • Starting completely from scratch. It’s tedious, but it’s always good to start with the basics, sort of “relearn” drawing.
  • Drawing from life! Real life is THE BEST foundation to build on, before you focus on having a personal style. Try croquis drawing if you can, if you can’t you should check out some of the sites I’ll link to at the bottom of this post.
  • Studying proportions and anatomy!! A lot of the drawing process is memorizing proportions - it’s always completely necessary if you want to develop your own style. Simple help sheets can be useful! You don’t have to master anatomy to start experimenting tho, but there’s never an excuse to not study it. You have to know how the body connects before you can start drawing it!
  • Always focusing on what’s underneath. A problem with a lot of new artists is that they want to make something that just looks good on the outside. Try drawing “skeletons” and helplines for faces (links below).
    Tip: Try dividing the body into several different shapes. What I usually do is that I draw a circle from the head, line for the spine and plot in the hips and shoulders as shapes before I start on the actual figure.
  • Not undermining the importance of composition. As with proportions, everything in an art piece has its place. It’s all about individual pieces working together to form the whole. You can detail as much as you want, but the way you’ve composed the picture has a HUGE impact on how good it will look. 
    Tip: study your pictures from afar - if it doesn’t look good, it won’t look good up close.
    Another tip: Use composition to create a focus point - this is what will catch the viewer’s eye and guide it through the rest of the painting. (here are some examples of how I create focus points, but it’s not very in-depth). Focus points can be created with colour, light and placement, often by using harmonic composition principles (links below)
  • Studying colour theory. Colour can be used in so many ways, and knowing very basic colour theory can really help you find colours that fit!
    Tip: Don’t use pure black and white for natural shading/highlighting, it often looks dull, shadows have colour too, and often in a contrast to the colour of the light source (see links).
  • Use references! There’s no shame in using references, they can be excellent to remember proportions and shading. Just remember to credit the photographers/models (unless it’s you) and don’t trace them and post your tracings!!

When it comes to getting back into drawing, here’s some advice that’s worth thinking through: 

  • Try to understand why you quit in the first place. If it was anything but just not having the time, it’d be good to try going in a different direction than you did the first time, figure out why you quit.
  • Try finding a reason to keep going. I create art because it makes me feel accomplished and productive, it’s relaxing to work on (most of the time), and it’s a way I can make people happy. Make sure the positive effects outweight the negative. Try surrounding yourself with things that inspire you, you could for example keep folders of inspiring works (or watch speedpaints) that just makes you eager to start creating.
  • Challenge yourself! An artist should ALWAYS strive to improve. It’s a journey with no destination. You can never be perfect, which is both terrifying and comforting. Never shut out legit advice - the feeling of accomplishment will only last if you work for it.
  • Experiment! A way to stop feeling stuck or like you want to quit is to try out different and new techniques (i.e. different brushes, watercolour, charcoal, etc.) You might find a medium you really enjoy but wouldn’t consider working with before.
  • Keep in mind that drawing should be enjoyable in one way or another. It can be stressful and make you feel bad if things don’t turn out the way you want to. This is normal, but if it becomes a source of crippling anxiety instead of an enjoyable activity that makes you feel accomplished, it’s probably not a hobby you should pursue.
  • Be aware that things take time. Working on a craft will always be tedious - don’t lose hope if you feel like you’re not good enough, you can only get better with time and practice.

Here are some resources I’ve bookmarked and looked up (it’s not a lot but can be good to get started):

REFERENCES AND GESTURE DRAWING:

  • ManStock - Reference pics of male models (contains nudity)
  • dAPoses - Reference pics of all models (contains nudity in some folders) 
  • Posemaniacs - A LOT of 3D models of people you can rotate (sadly doesn’t take things like bodyfat into account, but is great for basic poses and proportions)
  • Posemaniacs Handviewer - 3D models of bodyparts you can rotate (contains nudity)
  • Pixelovely - Recommended site for gesture drawing, easy to customize and good if you wanna avoid slacking off!
  • Quickposes - Another timed gesture drawing site.
  • Hand Challenge - A LOT OF HANDS
  • UKhairdressers - Hair / facial hair / face references
  • SketchFab - A lot of different and sometimes stylized 3D models

ANATOMY AND PROPORTIONS:

COLOURS:

COMPOSITION:

I wish I had more links but I hope it helped at least a little! DeviantART has a lot of tutorials, but sadly a lot of them are bad or too stylized for beginners so it can be difficult to find useful ones. Youtube however has a lot of stuff made by professionals, and I’ve personally learned a lot from videos when I was a beginner. I hope most of the ones I’ve found can help you, and don’t be afraid to ask if there’s something specific you need help with.

anonymous asked:

How would the bros respond to their s/o trying to do some PDA? As in holding hands or a quick kiss?

Ohhh, this sounds delightfully fluffy, doesn’t it? 😚 This is right up my warm, fuzzy, feelings alley. Grab a soft blanket and wrap yourself up real tight - because this one is gonna be mushy as hell. 

(P.S. I threw in some music reccomendations for each one to help you get into the mood and vibe of each headcannon if you feel so inclined!) ❉

NOCTIS✧


  • Song: “First Day of My Life” by Bright Eyes
  • Even though Noctis is usually portrayed as an awkward, boyish, and somewhat nervous kind of guy, when it comes to his s/o he finds reassurance and confidence
  • Before becoming exclusive with his s/o, any of the guys would have bet mad gil that he would rather run through Pitioss for an eternity in platforming purgatory than be caught sharing an intimate moment in the presence of strangers and their ever wandering eyes
  • The first time Noctis kissed his s/o he was so nervous he accidentally kissed their nose instead of their lips due to the fact that his eyes were clamped shut in fear

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Favour of the Gods

So, I wasn’t going to say anything about my recent experiences here, but then I saw all the utter shite @lady-feral has been getting over the last few days, and well, I think it may actually be worth mentioning.

As background, I’ve been part of my local Heathen moot since its inception. It’s actually a regional one, meandering gently across the NW of the UK, so that all its members can get to one or two. Its purpose is for Heathens to get together, to chat and get to know each other - just generally be able to spend some time around other Heathens, and exchange knowledge if you’re new. We maintain a Facebook group for comms purposes, so we often get people wanting to join who we haven’t met first and have to make a judgement call based on FB profile. etc.

I was recently made a co-mod, because the founder and chief moderator was on holiday. We’re friends, have been for years, and he trusts my judgement. I’m also a cripple - I have Cerebral Palsy, use a wheelchair, and recently had to have half my foot amputated after it ulcerated for Some Reason.

Recently, we had a guy join, and it soon came out that he identified as Folkish.

Now, as a rule, that’s potentially a Red Flag. I say potentially, because sometimes someone doesn’t know it descends from Völkisch and associated movements. Sometimes they are just new, unaware of the toxic stew of racism, nineteenth century Romantic Nationalism, and pseudoscience. Unaware of that word implies, in many quarters. So we have two choices, being as our group requires that:  you respect the right of other group-members to be Heathen, regardless of sexuality, gender, or ethnicity or ‘race’.

1. We can instaban  and potentially alienate, isolate, or drive further into the Folkish Realms, someone who might not know what’s dodgy about such things. 

2. We can enquire about this person’s belief, where they’re coming from, and give them enough rope to hang themselves - and in the process, watch for those who might ‘Like’  or post agreement with the ever-present post courting the very thinnest edge of respectability - or even those over it, posted when the mods are busy.

As a rule, we choose 2, for our FB group. It’s better they reveal their colours online than in person. Others might handle such a thing in another way, and that’s fine too. To cut a long story short, this person eventually launched into a classic anti semitic rant, not to mention mention a whole bunch of pseudoscience.

(That creaking sound you hear is the sound of someone hanging themselves on the provided rope.)
 
What has this got to do with the crap @lady-feral is getting? Well, I got a message from said arsehole - changing my message nickname to “Fake Heathen” and then informing me he was glad that the gods “[D]id not favour me in this life :D”

I assume he meant this as some sort of You’re not Heathen, because the gods hate you so much they allowed you to be crippled implication? I don’t know - it was confusing, because he’s obviously not read the Havamal, which pretty much suggests it’s better to be crippled, than, y’know, dead.

When you’ve got a combat veteran getting shit for activism from armchair warriors who think War and Warriors are Great, either because she believes in a world where things could be better for minorities and that Fascism and White Supremacy are ridiculous and dangerous and should be resisted, or because she happens to be a woman?

(Multiple sources suggest the Allfather was-as-a-woman on various occasions, just fyi.)

When you’ve got a disabled person being told the gods did not favour them, despite surviving things that kill thousands every year, having a loving family, partner, and just enough to live comfortably, in a place they own?

When that person could have died - and in fact pretty much did, but came the fuck back?

You begin to understand that for some of these folks will always  move the goalposts. You will never ever be right, or a proper/real Heathen unless you’re exactly like them. The things about you they dislike, that they are disgusted by so badly that they want you gone unless you fit their cookie cutter mould?

If you’re OK, if you gain continued life when you should be dead? That threatens the fact that they’re the favoured ones. If you, the supposedly degenerate, the vile  continue to prosper?  To face your wyrd  head on, and grin and smile, despite its bindings?

What would that say about them?

It might suggest that they were not supreme, favoured. That their vaunted, non-existent, genetic purity, is not enough

Because those other-than-them still exist, and despite the attempts to eliminate or cow those folks, we still exist. We remain and that bothers the shit out of them. Because an industrialised war machine couldn’t stop us; it could slaughter thousands, millions of us, even, but still we remain.

Nevertheless, she, and we, persisted. 

And still they beat us, still they try to kill us. Still they surge with the momentary high of destroying the things, the symbols, the people  they hate. “This is our world, our faith, our country.” they proclaim as they kick, they punch, they smash. It makes them to feel good to exert their power, gives them agency, because they feel outnumbered.

But the rush fades, the adrenalin drops. They look and see another target, and another and another. So they take a knife, a gun, a bomb and they kill many, knowing they’ll be caught, caged, or more probably killed. They dream, they beg, for their life to be filled with that agency, for their last moments to be making some sort of change.

They don’t want to be their ordinary selves, because their ordinary selves could be run over by a bus. They could die on the toilet for fucks sake, a stroke, an aneurysm, a heart attack. Cheek pressing tile, watching the dark unfurl amidst the pain, wondering what it was all for. Or, perhaps even worse, they could survive the stroke, become crippled, need a wheelchair, require someone to wipe their arse.

They could become one of us.

We are a reminder of what could be, what wyrd  might deal them. Might bind them tight as a weaver can. They dream of the onrush, perhaps desire Valhalla, or a martyrs heaven. Because it’s the same impulse that drove the Crusaders, the same that drives Daesh - filled with the rush, Us against Them. And truly, they feel alone, lost without it. 

Of course, a byproduct of such things, of any tight knit group is access to shared resources - the Templars grew rich enough to be a bank, PMC’s profit in warzones the world over and Daesh gains funding from drugs, from selling off stolen antiquities   

Money and power, weapons and land and numbers, exclusion and castigation. All ways to demonstrate agency when others have none, to demonstrate the favour of god(s), the apparent superiority of their group, their Way over another.

(Except gods, especially Heathen ones, are notoriously fickle  according to the lore - Odin’s heroes are often deserted mid-battle. One Eye’s spear flies over both sets of combatants, after all. Whatever happens, he wins.)

Both sides, Them, and Us, are defined by the other.

Those who claim superiority are constantly measuring themselves against those they deem inferior. Even if they exterminated, removed, or exiled themselves from the realm of their so-called inferiors? Then they would not be superior - merely all there was, to rise or fall on their own merits, their own ability or lack thereof to navigate whatever structures were in place - they would make their own scapegoats, would find others to blame, even within themselves.

Those they hate, fear, are disgusted by, are well used to the limitations, the way wyrd - that weaving of consequence, of action and reaction - might render the path you’re on crooked. Yet still we prosper - still some of us know the onrush of poetry and song, of word from word giving word from us.

Some of us are bound noose-tight, the limitations of our life allowing us a joy, a surging fury that infuses everything in our life. Perhaps this a god’s favour? To have joy despite being the the thing that so many fear, despite being the horrible reminder of what may be dealt to us, by a universe that is not, nor will it ever be, ours to control.

I know that I cannot control any hate slung my way after this. If and when any comes my way, I’ll shrug. If this gets reblogged, mocked and torn to pieces, so be it. If people choose to do that, if it makes them feel better, so be it. If leaving a reply gives you the rush of a need satisfied, or an urge to troll go for it. 

I really have had worse, and I’m still here. If you want to join the myriad people who’ve pointed and laughed, mocked, thrown stones both literal and metaphorical, be aware that this is nothing clever, that you’re not distinguishing yourself from anyone. You’re literally nothing new.

I remain. I’m here and now, and the fact is, some of you who hate me for what I am? Some of you may become like me. I look forward to the day when you finally bring yourself to look in the mirror and see me there too, waiting.

Waking the Dragon

In trying to understand Dany, a few things you can immediately take away from her POV chapters in the very first book, are illustrated through her mantras:

  1. “if I look back I am lost”
  2. “I am the blood of the dragon.”

She herself is aware of the actions the Dothraki do in her quest for the throne - they raid, and rape, and collect slaves. How does she respond?

“This is war, this is what it looks like, this is the price of the Iron Throne.”

She tells herself to paddle through it, albeit ultimately stopping the rapes, taking the girls as her own slaves.

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anonymous asked:

It bothers the hell out of me when people claim that Jon is the heir of house Targaryen. Like what, by a vague bloodline that he neither knows nor honors? What dragons has HE ever fucking woken what fire has ever given him strength the only Targaryen legacy Jon has is the advice Aemon gave him like what the hell fandom DAENERYS is the heir to the Targaryen throne and the legacy of Valyria her ancestors's choices are HERS to correct & emulate I don't give a damn about R&L's marital status

Greeting anon!

Sorry about the late reply but I received the message during my vacations and well, I was on vacation. But I’m back now and better than ever, I think.

My dear friend, I feel your pain. This has been a source of grief for a long time. As a fan of Daenerys Targaryen, The First of Her Name, I’ve had to deal with the relegation by these fans of Dany’s character and arc to a delivery service that will provide Jon Snow will the dragons and the armies he needs.

Let’s first look at Jon Snow’s arc; it’s most important theme is his identity and what he sees as his place in the world. Jon doesn’t just want to be legitimized he wants to be legitimized a Stark. To find out that he’s not a Stark and that his father is a Targaryen will be devastating. He has no connection to the Targaryen other than, as you mentioned, his relationship with Maester Aemon and what he has heard and read about them. So, he has no interest in restoring House Targaryen and becoming the Targaryen heir, that’s not what his story is about.

His story is about becoming comfortable with who he is as a person and what he has been able to achieve despite the fact that he’s a bastard. Being legitimate won’t change him as a person, won’t change what he’s achieve. Legitimacy would be for the benefit of other not him, not really. His character shouldn’t be defined by his “true parentage” it should be defined by what he learned from his father Ned and what he achieved on his own despite being a bastard. Finding out who his real parents are is the last step in pushing him to finally and truly come to term with being the bastard, Jon Snow.

Okay, sorry, I needed to get that out of the way in order to discuss the story of the true heir to House Targaryen, Daenerys Stormborn.

So, I’ve very briefly delineated what I believe Jon Snow’s story is really about, which is not House Targaryen. Jon being a Targaryen has way more to do with the magical aspects of the story than the political aspects.

Let’s talk now about Dany’s story and its major theme. Like Jon, the main theme in Dany’s story is that of identity*, of which the most important one is her identity as the last scion of House Targaryen. Dany was not born and didn’t grow up believing that she was the scion of House Targaryen and that it was her job to restore her House, that was her brother Viserys who had been crowned king by his mother in Dragonstone. So, Dany’s identity at the beginning of the story is as the meek little sister of the beggar king, Viserys. But because it’s the world of ASOIAF shit happens and Dany found herself alone in the world, the last member of the once great House Targaryen.

Her whole life her brother drilled into her how they had to take back what was stolen from them, that they had to avenge their family, and erase the disgrace they now found themselves in. Viserys’ death didn’t erase these things from Dany’s mind, it made them more urgent. Dany feels the weight of her entire family’s history on her shoulder. It is up to her and her alone, to take back the kingdom that was formed by her family, to restore her House and to avenge the death of her family. After all she was the last Targaryen, if she failed, her House would disappear, but worst of all, it would have disappeared in exile, disgraced and in ruins, a shell of its former glory. It is now Dany’s duty to do everything in her power to restore and redeem the Targaryen name. This is not an easy burden to bear for Dany, it is lonely and sad, and it forces her to put away any personal want she might have had, for the good of her House and family.

Dany being the heir to House Targaryen is not just something that she fell into by virtue of being the last know Targaryen but it also appears that it’s something that the “cosmos” has chosen for her. Why do I say this? Well, in Dany’s first chapter in AGOT she has her first Dragon Dream, in which she presumably sees Drogon for the first time. She goes on to have another Dragon Dream in which she is healed by Drogon’s fire. Then, she has a third dream (during her miscarriage) this is an incredibly important dream, it’s her Fevered Dream. In brief, during this dream Dany is being encouraged by her ancestors to become a dragon.

Shortly after this, Dany walks into a pyre of fire with her three dragon eggs and hatches them, these eggs that have been dormant for at least 150 years. She walks out of the pyre unburnt with three little baby dragons and feeds them from her own breast milk. Please note that she almost symbolically gave birth to her House sigil, which is a three headed dragon. Now, she hatched three separate dragons but the connection is there. She then goes on to bond with the black and red dragon, the dragon that bears her House colors.

Dany then embarks in her quest to gain an army and take back the kingdom that was stolen from her family. During this quest she encounters Slaver’s Bay; which exist in great part to the Valyrian’s enslaving that region with the assistance of their dragons. She then uses her own dragons to free the people of Slaver’s Bay. Basically, undoing what her Valyrian ancestor did. Along the way she begins to learn a little bit more about her family from someone other than her brother, Ser Barristan. What he tells Dany is a bit different than what she’s heard. She is confronted with the possibility that her family was complicit in its own downfall. She learns that her father was a mad man who committed any number of horrors. But this part of the story is still in progress.

Regardless of this though, Dany still sees it as her duty to restore her family honor and the throne that belong to her family. She has her armies and her dragons and will soon set sail to Westeros to reclaim her crown and restore her House.

Like Jon, Dany has to come to term with her identity and what it all entails. She is confident in her role as a Targaryen, but does she know and recognize what that truly means? The good and the bad and the really, really bad? We’ve seen hints of this in the show, when Dany says that she wants to leave the world a better place than her father did. But I think Dany’s push (like Jon’s push with the revelation of his parentage) will be when she is forced to chose between the throne that she has fought so hard for and the fight against the Others. She will have to make good on her promise that she wants to leave the world a better place than her forebears.

I think it’s important that this choice be a clean choice for Dany. If Jon were the true Targaryen heir it would diminish the importance of Dany’s choice, in my estimation. Because the throne wouldn’t have been hers in the first place and so therefore her entire arc was a futile exercise attempt to regain and restore a House she wasn’t even the scion of.  Hahahaha!

So, then what lesson do we take away from this, don’t be ambitions, don’t fight for your family, their honor, your own honor as the last member of your family.

Who do you think you are woman; move aside so that the real man of the House can take your place.

Had Dany not felt it her duty to restore her House she might not have hatched her dragons, she wouldn’t have gone into Slaver’s Bay much less free the slaves there. She wouldn’t have gather her soon to be very large army and brought it to Westeros (where most all other armies have been turned to pieces by the War of the Five Kings. BTW).

And I ask those fans who are so keen to disinherit Dany, where would Westeros be if Dany hadn’t accomplished what she has accomplished? Because if you think that the dragons and that large army Dany is bringing to Westeros (however much it is reduced after her fight with Euron/Cersei) are not going to be extremely important if not essential to the War for Dawn then you have not been paying attention.

This is why it’s important that she’s the legitimate heir to the Targaryens, because her turning her back on something that is hers by right, that is just within her grasp, for the greater good makes her choice so much more powerful and meaningful.

So be grateful that Daenerys Stormborn is the heir to the House Targaryen, that she had the guts, the courage, and the cunning to do what needed to be done to restore her House. And that she’s bringing all that to Westeros, all her fight, her fearlessness, her determination that she will prevail. Because if she wasn’t bringing that, the story we would be reading would be the story of the end of the world.

This turned out a lot longer than I intended it to be, because apparently, I’m feeling wordy today.

*Dany’s struggle with identity is a bit more complicated. She’s a mother; she’s a dragon, a Khaleesi, a queen, the duality of her character, etc, etc. But for the purposes of this ask I focus on her Targaryen identity because it’s the overriding identity, it’s the reason she’s doing what she is doing.

Cyber Crush Tuesday~The Post Irma Edition...

So…. when I first came to Tumblr I did something called Cyber Crush Wednesday. I was just so grateful for this incredible fandom of people that I wanted to spread the appreciation and, after this past week I’ve decided I wanted to spread the appreciation once more…

The hurricane that we called “Irma” blew through Florida. It left us with downed trees, power lines, endless gas station lines, structural damage, flooding and, boil warnings for those areas who lost their access to water. I was one of the lucky few who was only without power for about 27 hours; some in our state are still sitting in their homes with no power and possibly no water. My home was spared by the grace of God and, my place of employment re-opened this past Friday.

I was truly blessed and, for a small moment of time I saw strangers coming together to help other’s who were affected by the storm. I once again saw the beauty of humanity which reminded me that I’m lucky enough see it everyday. 

In July I traveled to Nashville for my third HVFF. Each time is more amazing than the last because each time you go your fandom friends become your fandom family and, now I’m going to thank a few of my fandom family members. 

Originally posted by moan-s

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anonymous asked:

I’m just starting to get into more “witchy” things, do you have any tips for a beginner?

💕Tips for Beginner Witches
There’s no exact order you need to follow. I’d advise you to be respectful to magick, to the elements, to the deities, and to mother earth. Start being more aware of all she gives us, if you aren’t already.

💕4 Things I Believe Beginner Witches Should Ask Themselves
Note that the answers to these things will change, but that a firm grasp of the answers at any point in your practice may be helpful to you. I recommend actually writing your answers down, and every now and again check back and see if your stance has shifted.

💖Is magick real? If yes, then what do you mean when you say, “Magick is real”. (Do you mean that you can effect reality with your will, intent, and energy? Do you mean like, Harry Potter real? What will disappoint you to realize might not be probable? What will inspire you to realize you can accomplish?)
💖Where are your lines? (What do you firmly believe is true/false, right/wrong? Violence, doing harm, controlling others, etc. Would you punch someone if they threatened a friend? Would you curse someone if they threatened a friend? What would you do, if your coven head told you it was right but you felt it was wrong?)
💖What are you looking for in a magickal path? (Pro Tip – no one has all the answers and there is no one right way.)
💖What are you prepared to do in order to accomplish your goals? (How many spoons do you have to give this practice? Can you devote one night a week, are you going to randomly pick stuff up on Tumblr, are you going to leave society to pursue your studies under a waterfall, etc.)

I recommend that no one make any oaths or vows in their first year of practice. Get to know yourself, how you feel about magick, and what you actually want to do before you do any big commitments. (Historic anecdote – this is what the original year and a day was for.) More strident, but still personal, recommendation: if someone tries to get you to oath to them within your first week of being a witch, run.

💕Things People Should Tell Beginner Witches, But Often Don’t
💖Never do anything you don’t feel comfortable with.
💖Never rush ahead of yourself. Take your time with learning about the craft, you will thank yourself in the future.
💖Use what you have! You don’t need supplies to be a witch or have a successful spell. Its all mental and about your flow of energy. You only need yourself, your intent, and a belief in magick. Your craft is your own, do not feel pressured to be more like witches you admire. Do whatever feels right to you. Unless you follow a specific tradition, there are no rules in witchcraft. There is a lot more freedom in witchcraft than you may realize.
💖Don’t ever shame other witches. Best example, some witches curse and some don’t. 
💖Be respectful. Always remember to thank mother earth for everything she supplies us with.
💖Always say goodbye to any entities you call into your circle.
💖Never be scared of spirits. They are all around us, all the time, they only make themselves known sometimes. Fear can feed them and help them grow in strength.
💖Don’t worry about a title, you don’t need to scramble to find out what kind of witch you are. You will just know based on what you do most in your practice, it will take some time.
💖Don’t be afraid to change your mind.
💖Don’t throw good energy after bad by continuing to do something that isn’t right for you.
💖Don’t be afraid to continue your education, even if that means learning something that was right for you before that is no longer right for you.
💖There is no one right way to do this.
💖There are as many bad people in Paganism and witchcraft as there are anywhere else. Don’t think that these people are all spiritually enlightened beings who mean you well and who will give good advice.
💖Yahoo Answers is not your friend. You have the internet – which has access to both all of human information and all of human misinformation. Look for credible sources. Anything that seems too easy or too good to be true probably is. Work on critical thinking.

💕You Should Probably Learn the Difference Between Paganism, Wicca, and Witchcraft
💖Paganism
Pagan is an umbrella term for a member of a religious, spiritual, or cultural community, other than those of the main world religions.

Some Pagans practice witchcraft, others do not.

💖Wicca
Wicca is a religion. Most people consider Wicca as falling under the Paganism umbrella, although not all Pagans are Wiccan. Not all Wiccans are witches and not all witches are Wiccan.

Wiccan is generally defined as:

Dualistic – There is a God and a Goddess.

Pacifistic – Wicca has a rede that requires Wiccan do no harm to themselves or others, though not all Wiccans (such as those who follow Doreen Valiente’s suggested guidelines) are Pacifistic, so there are definitely exceptions to this.

Earth-based – Having a respect for and acknowledgment of the powers of the Earth.

💖Witchcraft
The spiritual or secular art, craft, and/or practice of the witch, defined many ways by many different people.

Yes, male identifying and/or presenting persons can be witches.

💕Pagan and Witch Fallacies
There are certain ideas that most beginners in the witchcraft community will encounter over and over again. I’m going to run down some things with the reminder, that I can only speak for my personal tradition.

💖“You should remove all negative influences from your life! You should purge all negative feelings! Be positive all the time!” Not everything that is negative is bad. Not everything negative can be avoided. We can’t all just quit our jobs and live in a witch shack in the mountains. We have to endure negative things, both because it is healthier to experience the full range of human emotion rather than to ignore a large chunk of it, and because it isn’t possible. What we should do is stop victim blaming witches who are going through hard times and stop telling witches they can’t be angry when they encounter something that should be angering.
💖“But, tradition!” Just because an affluent white guy in the 1400-1600s said something, doesn’t mean you should do it. We don’t follow their medicinal advice anymore; we don’t have to follow their magickal advice either. Seriously, I don’t care if tradition says a trans woman shouldn’t be in a sky clad ritual that’s bullshit. We don’t put leeches on our bodies anymore let’s leave the past nonsense where it belongs.
💖“We have to make sure everyone feels included and welcome!” Not if they abuse the welcome of others, we do not. The problem with making some people feel included and welcome is that you make their victims feel excluded and unwelcome because you’ve made them unsafe.
💖“We have to support each other and love each other and be a positive force in people’s lives.” Okay, yes, in small doses, this is a great aim. It doesn’t work for everyone (some witches are spite and malice fueled and they are still witches), but okay, it’s a nice idea. Until it becomes ableist or demands free emotional labor from people, which it often does.
💖“We have to educate them!” Okay, it’s great that there is this effort in the community to educate others. But if you don’t have the spoons or if it seems like they’re using the demand for their own education as a way to still have access to a community they are abusing, then no, you have no obligation to put their education over your well being. None. They have access to Google (even if they have to go to a library to use it.)
💖“You have to earn your right to be a witch.” No, no you don’t. Seriously, though, from whom? Dusty white men in graves? A Llewellyn author who couldn’t fact check themselves out of a paper bag?
💖“You have to be ________ rank, degree, etc. to have an opinion on this topic.” Yeah, okay, I’ll be sure to wave my certificate in your face before having an opinion on my own tradition. No. Your opinion may be an uneducated one and you may be corrected for it, but that doesn’t mean that you didn’t have the right to it before you completed your O levels at Hogwarts.
💖As a corollary to above, “This is just my opinion and you can’t be mad at me for it!” People absolutely have a right to their opinions. And everyone else the right to decide those opinions make them a rude person.
💖“I’m super special and powerful because xyz, which means I get to tell you what to do.” People only get to tell you what to do if you let them. Sometimes, that’s an exchange we willingly make, but other times, people will feel they have the right to tell you what to do because they are a hereditary witch or because they’ve been practicing longer. Just remember their position doesn’t trump your humanity and you don’t have to kiss the feet of someone who kicks you.
💖“The person really wants _____ from you, and you should help them on their path. Helping them on their path helps you on yours!” Just because someone wants something from you, doesn’t mean they get it. Being a witch doesn’t take away your right to say no.  

Please remember that you don’t have to earn your right to be here. This one is tricky on some level to be the respected person in your community, you need to put in your time.

You don’t have to earn admission to witchcraft, but you do have to earn specific positions and other people’s trust. If you teach people not to trust you through your actions, they won’t trust you.

💕Research
This list is designed for the beginner witch, who keeps hearing the advice “Research!” but wants some better specifics on what exactly that means.

Now, you don’t have to be a complete expert on all of these or even most of these! You don’t even have to incorporate all of them into your practice. They’re just some stuff it’s good to have a basic working knowledge of in the craft.

💖Planetary Correspondences- Even if cosmic witchcraft isn’t your thing, a lot (and I mean A LOT) of correspondences in any other category are going to eventually lead back to the planets. Having a basic understanding of what each planet governs is extremely helpful when learning the correspondences of basically anything else.
💖Herb Correspondences- Herbs and spices are incredibly useful! They’re probably one of the most versatile of the “big categories” since they can be used in herbalism and kitchen witchery, as well as a great add-on to any other variation of witchcraft. It’s good to have a working knowledge of what herbs you can use in a pinch, especially the stuff you already have in your kitchen. When an emergency calls, it’s good to know how that chili powder can help you.
💖Crystal Correspondences- This is another great add on! Crystals can often be used to enhance and focus the energy of a spell, as well as cleanse any ritual tools you have. Besides, who doesn’t like pretty rocks? Crystals can be particularly great for the witch who has a tactile mind, and likes to have things they can feel and roll around in their hand.
💖Days of the Week- Knowing the right time to cast a spell can be very important! Casting a love spell on a Friday gives it an added boost, or at the very least creates a path of least resistance. Besides, there’s only seven of them, so it’s easy to learn quickly. You get a lot of bang for your buck!
💖Phases of the Moon- I have a really big collective crush on the moon, it seems. And for good reason! The moon is a great source of power and mystery even in a completely mundane setting! Understanding the phases of the moon and how it can affect your craft is extremely important. (Hint: you can cast spells even when it isn’t the Full Moon.)
💖Basic Mythology and Lore- This is an absolute must if you plan on going into any type of spirit work. Even if that isn’t your thing, it’s good to know a little bit. Firstly, because you may draw unwanted attention from spirits, and it’s good to know how to deal with them if it happens. Secondly, because if you draw from a path with any history behind it, it’s good to know how the rules go down on their turf.
💖Basic Divination- Not everyone has the money or the time to pick up and learn how to read a 78-card Tarot deck, but things like scrying and pendulums are pretty easy to figure out quickly. What’s more, they can be done on little to no budget. Divination’s a useful tool to have on your utility belt, and who wants to pay someone to use a pendulum for them when you can learn it yourself?
💖Religious Roots- You don’t have to be a religious witch at all, but witchcraft still has its roots as a religious practice! Lot’s of practices have a cultural context as well, which can be important to know in order to fully understand the action you’re performing. A lot of correspondences, traditions, and rites come from cultural or religious roots. It’s good to know not only what people did, but why they did it! Does x tool have some symbolic meaning or was it just what was available at the time? What was simply a product of the culture around them?
💖The History of Witchcraft- It’s good to know the history of witchcraft because you are now becoming a part of it.
💖Famous Witches- It’s up to you if you want to research this topic. It is by no means a requirement to know this. If your interested to know famous witches then by all means research it up!
💖Types of Witches- It’s great to know all the different types of witches not only to figure out what type of witch you are, but just to be educated about all the different types of witches.
💖Types of Magick- For example, white magick, chaos magick, etc. It’s good to research and learn about the different types of magick because then you’ll have a better idea of what type of magick you’ll be practicing the most.
💖Types of Spells- Such as curses, hexes, etc. It’s good to know the different types of spells because soon you’ll probably be practicing one of them.
💖Talismans vs Sigils- Its good to learn what each one of them are and how to use them because you’ll most likely be using them in your craft.
💖Witch Alphabets- It is not required to know this, but it’s something good to learn if that’s your thing. Some witches even use certain witch alphabets such as the Theban alphabet in their Grimoire/BOS.
💖Witchy Symbols- I have a tattoo of a witchy symbol on the back of my neck. It’s the triple moon symbol and it reminds me that my craft is valid and beautiful. It reminds me that I’m part of the witchcraft community. It symbolizes my faith and my love for my faith. I think it’s very important to learn all the witchy symbols because it doesn’t hurt to know them.
💖Deities- If your the type of witch who worships deities then by all means go for it! Research more and more about the deities until you have it down pat and you have it memorized.
💖Different Paths- Secular witchcraft and religious witchcraft. Witchcraft alone, is a practice. However, some paths are indeed religious, such as Wicca. Make sure you know the difference before you begin actively practicing and before you decide on your path, if you do choose to do so.
💖Color correspondences- This is something great to know for future spellwork.
💖Sabbats- Also known as esbats and the witches sabbaths. This is kind of a must-know because if your going to be a witch you must know your own witchy holidays such as Samhain, Yule, Beltane, etc.
💖The Basic Tools of Witchcraft- It’s good to know the basic tools of witchcraft for future reference in your spellwork or so you know what to find/buy for your craft. It is by no means necessary to buy these tools unless you absolutely want to. You do not need any fancy witchcraft tools for your craft. You only need yourself, your intent, and your belief in magick. I prefer to use tools myself though.
💖Altars- It’s good to know how to set up your own altar and what exactly is an altar.
💖Traditional Witchcraft Practises- Such as circle casting and how to cast a basic circle protection.
💖Safety- It’s very important to know what is safe to use/burn/touch/ingest. There are lots of poisonous and potentially fatal plants and ingredients out there. Remember to be safe when working with these dangerous ingredients.
💖Easy Magick/Witchcraft- It’s good to start off small with the easy spells rather than to start off big. So look up easy spells/magick/witchcraft to start with.
💖Elements- Elements are a huge part of magick it would be very good for you to know the importance and use of the elements in magick.
💖Dream Interpretation- Something interesting to know is dream interpretation. Study what your dreams mean, why they’re important, and how you can benefit from listening in to the deeper messages they hold. You can even keep a dream journal! Start recording everything you can remember as soon as you wake up.
💖Charging- Something that works in everyday witchcraft is charging! Learn how to charge your crystals, jewelry, objects, and sigils.
💖Enchanting Objects- Something that works in everyday witchcraft is enchanting! Learn how to enchant objects you use everyday.
💖Glamours- Something that works in everyday witchcraft is using glamours in makeup, cosmetics, and everyday wear. Learn more about how to use glamours.
💖Witchblr- Don’t underestimate witchblr there’s so much useful information on Tumblr. So research witchblr on Tumblr and read, read, read!
💖Grounding- I think everyone should ground themselves at least once a day, it makes you feel so balanced. So learn how to ground yourself and practice grounding yourself everyday.

💕Read
Before you even think about practicing magick, you need to study. It sounds tedious, I know, but witchcraft is not a trivial undertaking. 
💕Start A Grimoire/BOS
You’ll need a safe place to keep all of the information you’ve gathered safe, and a Grimoire/BOS, is essentially a journal for that exact purpose. It doesn’t have to be fancy (though you’re welcome to make it as ostentatious as you like.) It can be a bullet journal if that’s easy for you. Within your Grimoire/BOS you should keep all gathered information, spells, failures, successes, records of work you’ve done, anything that pertains to your craft, etc.
💕Don’t Pressure Yourself To Pick A Path
You might see a lot of witches who class themselves as one thing or another. For example, storm witches, kitchen witches, elemental witches, spirit witches, green witches, cosmic witches, etc. That is cool and their prerogative, but you will also see witches known as eclectic. Eclectic witches, are simply witches who choose to practice many different types of magick and forge their own path, instead of following only one, or following a pre-established path. Basically, there is no need at all, whatsoever, to label yourself. With many of us, our paths found us in time. 
💕Carry A Little Journal With You
You can’t always carry your Grimoire with you, so I personally like to carry a tiny little journal with me, for those moments when inspiration takes me, or if something captures my imagination or attention. You can add it to your Grimoire/BOS later.
💕Never Stop Learning
Oh, and one more thing, don’t ever stop learning, reading, and recording. Witchcraft is a path of continuous learning.
💕Grounding
Grounding is the act of centering your energy and focusing it within yourself. You can ground yourself by being out in nature and using visualizing techniques that tie your energies firmly into the ground (very traditional method), or by finding a quiet place that you are content in and meditating.
💕Keep Journals
Keep journals. Yes, plural. One for dreams, one for your general day to day feelings, and one for your craft. You cannot record too much! Take notes on everything!
💕Start Calling Yourself A Witch
The final steps are to start calling yourself a witch and start practicing witchcraft.

My asks are always open, if you have any questions just ask and I will answer. You can also send me a message. Hope I helped! Good luck babe!

Please add to this so any baby witches can see what you have to say and be informed!

regarde-la-lune-deactivated2018  asked:

Hi! I'm considering becoming vegan and was interested in reasons to be vegan/ways to get started from your perspective? Thank you!

Hey that’s awesome you’re considering going vegan! Thanks for the great question :)

We all say we’re against animal cruelty, so if there was a way for us to continue to eat in a way that eliminated this, without compromising the taste of our food and health I would be pretty keen to jump on board! Many people don’t agree with the ethical argument of veganism, but I know if I was ever presented with a knife and any animal, whether it be a dog, fish, chicken, pig, cow, calf, turkey…I would never be able to bring myself to take that animal’s life. Because of this, I would not feel comfortable paying someone do to this on my behalf so all I am confronted with at the grocery store is a neatly packaged, sanitised piece of meat. I have learned that there is such an unbelievable amount of suffering that goes into the production of a slab of cheese, a carton of milk, even a free range chicken’s egg, that my previous arguments revolving around taste, convenience, habit and tradition sound meek in comparison. There has never been a better time to go vegan in the developed world, we have plant-milks, tofu and an abundance of beans and lentils. Plants form the fundamental basis of all food chains, if you’re a plant-based omnivore; it you’re an adaptable generalist in that sense, you can easily get all the nutrients you need by eating a varied, whole foods, plant-based diet. Not only do you do less harm to animals, but you do less harm to plants inadvertently as well as so much of the plant-material an animal consumes throughout their lifetime is wasted in bodily functions-you put so much grain and feed in and only get so much out. You will do less harm to all life forms by going vegan, and it’s such an efficient and direct way to source the nutrients you need and fuel yourself. It can never hurt to be kind.

I’ve always liked to think I’m quite an environmentally conscious person, I recycled, I took 30 second showers, I used reusable bags at the supermarket, my family grew a lot of our food, I lived my entire childhood without a family car and cycled and walked basically everywhere I went. I grew up in Brisbane, Queensland, and I remember we had a terrible, terrible drought. It was scary; I took 30 second showers but I had no idea of the impact of me eating meat once or twice a day had on Queensland’s situation at the time, I had no idea that the production of 1 pound of meat is equivalent to not shower for 6 months. The environmental impact you have by going vegan is huge. By going vegan you can save 1.5 tonnes of CO2 every year. The meat, egg and dairy industry accounts for 65% of the world’s nitrous oxide emissions, animal agriculture produces more greenhouse gases than the entire world’s transportation industry combined, the production of 1 calorie of animal protein requires on average 11 times as much fossil fuels as that of plant protein, raising animals for food uses 30% of the world’s land mass, a varied vegan diet uses only 1/3 of the land required for the food production of a typical Western diet and there are so.many.more.statistics.like.these.

if you’re being selfless in this sense, you wouldn’t necessarily expect anything in return, but there are so many health and aesthetic benefits to being vegan. The foods you eat are nutrient dense, predominantly alkaline, and unlike many animal products, are not linked to disease. The only diet that has been shown to reverse type 2 diabetes is a whole foods, plant-based diet. This sounds a bit superficial, but it’s pretty effortless for me to now maintain my weight. I’m able to eat until I’m full and satiated as you can eat larger portions when you’re eating predominantly whole, plant foods. I don’t feel as groggy or sleepy after I eat, I’m still full, but I feel lighter and more energised. Being vegan is also cheap; the cheapest foods in the grocery store like rice, beans, vegetables, pasta, noodles, bread, oats, bananas, apples etc. are vegan. Vegan food is so delicious, and it’s so fun to discover new foods and recipes you probably wouldn’t have given a chance before :) I mean I didn’t even know what buddha bowls were, never tried a black bean burger or soy ice cream, falafel, banana nice cream, chia puddings, never gave dark chocolate a chance…basically there is so much good food and CAN SOMEONE PLEASE EXPLAIN TO ME WHY THEY DID NOT TEACH US HOW TO MAKE NICE CREAM IN PRESCHOOL

I went vegan gradually, I think it took be about 3 months. I cut out red meat and swapped dairy milk for plant-milk alternatives (I gave them all a try-oat, almond, soy, cashew, rice, hazelnut, coconut, my personal favourite right now is vanilla almond milk). It wasn’t a matter so much of me “cutting things out” I just focused on eating more fresh fruits and vegetables, more curries, more rice, more lentil soup etc. and overtime as I found more and more dishes I liked, there wasn’t any room for animal products on my plate :)

anonymous asked:

Hi! My native language isn't english but I would like to take part in the team effort to reach 100 fics until the end of 2017 !! I would like some ideas if you could tell me some!

YES I AM HERE FOR THIS here are a bunch of fic ideas for dianetti i thought of- and i haven’t even touched AU ideas yet. Pls write dianetti fic?? Let’s use the hiatus period to bring the number of fics in the Rosa/Gina tag on AO3 to 100 okay These aren’t the best ideas but i tried

  • Jake meets Rosa in the academy, and they become good friends. Gina decides to visit Jake at the academy to see if there’re any hot people worth her time in his group. She finds one. It’s Rosa.
  • Gina accidentally texts Amy for the first time, thinking that she’s texting Rosa for the first time, because she got drunk. Amy tells Rosa about it, and Rosa’s surprised because Gina didn’t seem to know anyone existed apart from herself, so she confronts Gina about it.
  • Gina and Rosa get drunk, watch basketball, and then….
  • How Gina finds out that Rosa’s into old movies AKA they watch movies together, and somewhere along the line Gina realizes there’s a pattern to Rosa’s suggestions. But it doesn’t matter to Gina what they watch as long as Rosa’s tipsy enough to drunkenly drape an arm around her shoulder or use her boob as a pillow. What? Rosa’s hot, sue her.
  • Just like how they had a huge debate on which pie was better, what other petty things can you think of that Gina and Rosa disputed over which got so big most of the precinct got involved?
  • Someone calls Gina out for drinking Rosa’s coffee/other food/drink item. This leads everyone to the realization that Gina is the only person that can/has ever gotten away with drinking/eating Rosa’s food/drink.
  • After Rosa and Amy put in better security measures in Gina’s apartment, Rosa teaches Gina how to use a gun so that she can protect herself. Except Gina’s hella reckless and eventually Rosa has to wrap her arms around Gina’s to guide her shooting. Oh wait, that was Gina’s plan all along?
  • Babylon. Anything regarding it. The story of how Rosa told Gina about her secret bathroom? How Gina and Rosa decorated Babylon together? Did they go shopping together for weird crystals and scented candles and 3-ply toilet paper to make Babylon the sacred place it is today?
  • “Forget your ex with meaningless sex.” How Gina offers this to Rosa every time a relationship of Rosa’s goes to crap. How it gets harder and harder for Gina to offer said “meaningless” sex because over time it means something to her and it hurts even more each time to see Rosa get together with someone that isn’t her after that, the only source of comfort being that they might break up and Rosa would yet again crawl into her bed over shared bottles of wine and lots and lots of tears that Gina secretly sheds but Rosa’s too drunk to remember.
  • When Rosa finds out about Boyle and Gina hooking up, she gets grossed out. And also very jealous.
  • Gina wills Rosa a statue of two jaguars making love because she sees it as a representation of them; or what they could’ve been. Rosa finds this out when she asks Gina why the hell she left Rosa anything in her will in the first place.
  • “I was insulting her. You know, flirting.”
  • Gina follows Rosa home after giving her the “Rosa’s Gonna Make This Flu Her Bitch” care package, because despite her fear of getting infected by Rosa’s germs she finds herself strangely overcome with worry. Rosa catches Gina following her home but she’s too sick to stop her. Gina feeds Rosa sips of hot cocoa and bites of crackers (from the care package she made) and she even tucks Rosa in her bed so she can sleep. Gina ends up with the flu- but when Rosa returns the favor and takes care of Gina it’s all worth it.
  • Gina and Rosa getting drunk together, because Amy’s not the only one who becomes a bit of a pervert after a few drinks.
  • Gina and Rosa teaming up to achieve a common goal, and how they slowly realize they enjoy their little plans and talks and banter more than taking down whoever they’re up against. Okay, maybe both alternatives are equally satisfying. But then sometimes when Gina’s describing a ridiculous idea Rosa gets this strong urge to kiss her. Which she acts on.
  • Gina invites Rosa to go to Beyoncé’s concert with her, since she has more than one ticket. “What? These tickets were my birthright, but we took Terry and Amy down together.”
  • How Rosa deals with Gina being gone when Holt gets transferred to PR and Gina follows him; Because Babylon’s just not the same without Gina, all those hours they spent hiding out there together, taking a break from being in the presence of losers- it all seems so far away and Rosa misses Gina a bit too much, the world seeming duller when Gina’s not there to light up the room.
  • Rosa and Gina unconsciously spending the entire day of the funeral together, neither of them willing to admit how much they’ve missed each other.
  • Gina and Rosa dressing up in matching costumes for that Halloween prank they play on Charles. They may or may not end up going trick or treating together in said costumes after getting drunk on Halloween night.
  • Gina and Rosa facing off in an illegal dance competition in an abandoned subway tunnel.
  • Alternatively, Rosa wins an illegal motorcycle race in which Gina’s love is the prize.
  • Rosa being very very worried about Gina during the hostage situation in the store, a bit too worried. Gina’s not complaining though. “Hey Amy gave Jake a kiss for not getting killed in that store. Don’t I get one too?”
  • When Rosa and the perp spend an hour “complaining” about Gina, Rosa realizes the dude’s a little hung up on her. Rosa can’t blame him, she has a little thing for Gina too. Who knew it took watching Gina slamming a few tables and her talking about Gina for an hour to realize it?
  • Gina and Rosa lock Amy in the back of her car for 47 minutes; 17 minutes longer than they actually needed to. What did they do during that time?
  • When Holt hires Gina to direct a video about their precinct starring himself and Rosa, Gina tells Rosa she has to sit on a wheelchair as if she’s riding a horse. “This is weird. Stop telling me to spread my legs wider.” “That’s only because I know you can spread them wider, Rosie.”
  • When Rosa starts dating Pimento, Gina gets a perfect view of the guy who temporarily takes over Jake’s desk. She hopes that if she glares at him enough, he’ll go away and stop dating Rosa like a jackass.
  • Gina runs away with a drugstore cashier on the night of Rosa’s bachelorette party. She’s tired of pretending to be happy about the love of her life marrying someone else, and sue her, but that drugstore cashier’s a splitting image of Rosa.
  • Gina may or may not have spied on Rosa while she did yoga. “I can see you, Gina.” “Good, I’ve been here for an hour- was starting to think you’re a bad detective.” “You’ve been standing there for two hours. And I’m a great detective.” “Oops, busted. Why didn’t you call me out earlier?” “I wanted to see how long my ass would keep you interested.”
  • When Gina falls and supposedly knocks out her two front teeth, Rosa gets very worried. Too worried.
  • Gina and Jake help Pimento find his grandmother’s earrings, except everything keeps going wrong and he sees it as a sign that Rosa and him aren’t meant to be. Gina encourages this, because she doesn’t want Rosa and Pimento to get married- oh wait sorry that’s exactly what happened in canon.
  • Gina gets run over by a bus, and this devastates Rosa to no end. In which everyone realizes Rosa’s in love with Gina before either of them do.
  • Rosa’s desk faces Gina’s head on. She stares at Gina more times in a day than she’d like to admit.
Star-crossed

» Star-crossed: frustrated by the stars

Genre: soulmate!au + reincarnation!au + good (?) ol’ angst; that’s it.

Word count: 3,681 | AO3

Summary: People always reincarnate with the age they first met their soulmate with, so they can age together. Once every 100 years, a pair of soulmates is cursed. In each reincarnation, with the help of clues left for them, but without any form of communication, one must find the other before they die. Otherwise, they lose the ability to reincarnate forever. Yoongi writes diaries hoping that, when he’s ready to show them, Jeongguk isn’t already gone. Not again.

Warnings: mentions of death

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Hetalia Fandom Hub Interview: @bubbleteahime!

She’s a content creator, Taiwan expert, and bubble tea connoisseur! It’s @bubbleteahime!


Hello! Can you introduce yourself for everyone?

大家好! My name is zen. I am a 17-year-old Taiwanese by blood (and American by birth) student living abroad in the Middle East. In the fandom, I used to post pwgbta art, but I’m mostly reblogging now. I write and make edits occasionally but, mainly, I serve as the resident Taiwan person– an all-around consultant, information source, and fan of APH Taiwan and Taiwan. I like predominantly historical and reality-based Hetalia and aim to spread information and awareness on APH Taiwan in order to give her the portrayal she deserves (and lacks right now) in the fandom. 

How long have you been in the fandom and how did you get into it?

My entry into the fandom had been a late one, in 2013, beyond the heyday of Hetalia. The story goes that I found PruHun fanart and found out Hetalia existed. I loved the idea of personified countries, but really, what mattered to me most was whether my own country was represented or not, and she was! To make it worse, I more or less shipped Japan and Taiwan before I even knew Hetalia existed. So after I immersed myself in all the incredible fanart on pixiv and fanfiction from Taiwan, I was already irrevocably sucked into the Hetalia fandom. In short, blame my love for Taiwan and its relations with Japan.

Taiwan seems like a really important character to you! Are there any ways, besides nationality, that you find her relatable?

She loves food and sassing people, and I find that really relatable. Food is my life, and I’m prone to having a sharp tongue sometimes. Additionally, I, too, have become more of an anxious type in recent years. 

What is your favourite thing about the fandom?

I like how it can be very educational in nature! When you find the right people, you learn so much about other countries and regions- their cultures, histories, politics. It’s a beautiful thing when done right, and I’m grateful to have found these people in the Hetalia fandom.

Why did you want to become an Ambassador for Taiwan?

I have always wanted to play a similar role in the fandom. In fact, I had a plan to become fandom famous so I can spread information about Taiwan and encourage portrayals of APH Taiwan that actually reflect a Taiwanese perspective. There has never been much knowledge on Taiwan in the fandom, and I know that from all the fanfiction and fanworks I’ve seen in the fandom. There has been a lot of misconceptions about her and Taiwan in general, and her fandom reputation hinges a lot upon portrayals that could use some actual Taiwanese perspective/research/criticism. I have wanted to rectify that ever since I joined the fandom. So when the role of Ambassadors was announced on the Hub, I jumped at the chance even before the details were even released. I’ve been ready all my life. 

What do you enjoy most about writing and editing?

What I love most about writing is how I can express my country through my words creatively. There are a lot of things that get lost in translation, but I aim to bridge those gaps with my writing. I can directly show people the Taiwan I know through writing, and that’s what matters to me. Additionally, I think writing Hetalia fanfiction is also very incredible when you put into a lot of research on it. You allow people to see and learn about the history, the relations, of different countries and places in a way that’s more subtle, more interesting than in purely academic language. With edits, I aim to do that visually, but admittedly, I am much better and more comfortable with writing than editing.

What do you find most difficult about writing and editing?

Finding the time for them would probably be my biggest challenge. I have so many unwritten ideas I had to discard because I know I won’t have time to finish them. Other than that, I would have to say researching for accuracy because it’s time consuming, and sometimes you just can’t find the information you need, and putting the information together also is not easy.

If people want to research a culture, where do you think is a good place to start?

On a surface level, CIA World Factbook is a pretty solid place to check out for basic facts about countries (though I would advise being cautious because it does have an American perspective) and checking out the country’s own government website to get the basic facts from the country’s own perspective (which, also, you need to be cautious with because this is only the government’s perspective). Next, I would say extensive research from trustworthy sources– true, blog posts may be cool places to look for observations, but more often than not they’re by tourists. The best thing would be getting publications from people of that culture, but I know that’s difficult to come by, especially when you don’t speak the language. I usually look for academic papers and feature stories about culture on news organizations from that country or culture itself because they usually have an ample amount of credibility and evidence. 

Additionally, @writingwithcolor is a wonderful resource if you have specific questions about portraying characters of certain cultures in your writing.

Do you think being culturally accurate is more important than being canonically accurate?

I think there are many ways of interpreting Hetalia, but personally, yes, I do think so. These are personifications of real countries, real people, real cultures– that in itself comes with a certain kind of weight. Sure, Hetalia is just a manga/anime, and people should enjoy it as they please, but it is important to remember that sometimes the canon depiction of certain countries do not match the actual countries themselves. Himaruya’s depictions of countries is colored by his personal views, and more often than not, a lot of them tend to lack depth in research. I mean, I can’t expect him to do that amount of research for every single country, of course, but I would like the fandom to understand that. Often, I see Hetalia being the way people gain exposure to other countries that might not exist in their daily lives, and I think that’s great. However, ultimately, I think the people of that country, that culture, would and should have most say in the way they are represented by their countries’ “personifications”– sometimes the Hetalia canon just doesn’t reflect their perspective. So it can be pretty harmful for people to have the Hetalia canon projected onto these countries in real life.

Who do you look up to in the fandom?

I must say, there are a great many bloggers I admire in the fandom, but the ones I admire most are mostly part of the @historicalhetaliacollective. There I have truly found the corner I belong in, and I have learned SO much from everyone in the collective. (It’s sappy, but I love you all so much.) To name a few, @stirringwind, @yelyzavetaart, @tomato-bird, and @ilaaer have been incredible sources of inspiration to me in how they’ve used their art and writing to express and portray their knowledge and research. A good number of them have also used their fandom fame to spread information and awareness about difficult and/or controversial real life issues and histories– something that really is NOT easy to do on this site. @excelsorum has also been an amazing friend and inspiration to me, too. He put so much research into all his roleplay blogs, and we’re in the same boat of trying to rectify our misrepresented countries. He has probably been subject to most of my ranting and has helped me clarify a lot on my portrayal and interpretation of Taiwan. @iuius has also been a wonderful friend and inspiration who has been subject to my long-winded Taiwan rants. I really admire her art and the thought she puts into her designs! Truly, there are a lot more people I have not yet mentioned, but the people in the collective are truly dear to me and inspire me to continue in my endeavors of writing and spreading information about Taiwan and APH Taiwan.


Thank you very much to @bubbleteahime for being our interviewee this month! Please check out her work as an Ambassador, writer, and edit maker!

anonymous asked:

SPACE GRAMMA(!!!!) is it okay to ask for some hcs for the Paladins + Allura? Like how would they deal with a s/o who was unconfident and worries too much? (I'm going through a slump rn ;; )

MY SPACE GRANDBABY NEEDS ME!! Of course it’s okay! If anyone wants ANY comfort asks, then that’s completely and totally okay. I answered this as soon as I could, sweetie, and hope this helps you out. Take care of yourself, alright? And my inbox is always open if you need to talk.

Shiro:

  • He is such a good listener. Like, he just lets S/O talk and talk about their insecurities and worries until they have nothing left to say.
  • Looking at them the entire time with the softest, most compassionate face. He doesn’t look away one; his entire attention is on them.
  • Even holds their hand and traces unending circles into it. Squeezes it when it’s clear they’re having a hard time getting the words out, letting them know he’s completely there for them.
  • Shiro is their Biggest Support, the one that S/O knows they can lean on.
  • Kind, reassuring words and touches. His voice goes completely soft when he presses his forehead against theirs and tells them how important they are, how wonderful, how they’ll make it through this.

“You’re one the strongest people I know. Ever since I’ve met you, you’ve been there whenever I or the team needed you. We’ll get through this together.”

Keith:

  • I can actually see Keith being really good about this because he just. shuts those insecurities down.
  • Like, wth? What do you mean you’re not enough? What are you saying? Of course you’re enough! You’re more than enough.
  • Keith’s a really good listener, too.
  •  He will also be really good at providing that Absolutely Certain reassurement when they need it. Not a hint of doubt or hesitance when he tells them that everything is going to be okay I promise you have to believe that
  • The best thing is that complete confidence Keith has in his S/O. They’re strong, they’re smart, they’re kind, they are more than good enough. He truly believes in his partner, and he tells them as much.
  • Also lowkey ready to fight anyone who puts those awful things in their head (but Keith is always lowkey Ready To Fight for his S/O)

“I’ve never had anyone in my life like you before. You’re…you’re incredible. I don’t understand why you’d think otherwise.”

Lance:

  • the Sweet Talker
  • He presses up against them and wraps those long arms around them in a loving embrace, resting his chin on their shoulder so he lips are right next to their ear.
  • Lance’s voice becomes this subdued, soothing one as he whispers to his S/O everything he loves about them and reminds them of how Awesome and Cool they are.
  • Drops little kisses in between those sweet words - on their cheek, their shoulder, their neck, everywhere just to communicate how much he loves them and wants them to feel better
  • Adds a nuzzle or two for good measure
  • Completely serious, very sincere. Lance may be a joker but he does not play around when it comes to things of this nature. He knows better than anyone what it’s like to feel like you’re “not enough.”
  • Really, really wonderful at empathizing with his S/O. Lance has his own insecurities and worries, so he relates to them on That Level. He is completely understanding.
  • honestly? I think Lance might be the best about this.
  • totally see these two have lots of private conversations about this and talking through each other’s insecurities and just growing together, supporting one another, and becoming better through their relationship

“Seriously? You’re the coolest, most awesome partner any guy could ask for in the entire universe. I mean, you are dating me after all. Ow! Kidding, kidding!”

Hunk:

  • First off: a big, comforting Hunk Hug (better than any bear hug from anyone don’t fight me on this)
  • Hunk just. Pulls his S/O close and doesn’t say anything for a little while. He understands when they only want to be held and sometimes that’s all a person needs
  • Complete with soothing back rubs
  • If his S/O starts crying or venting, Hunk will listen without a word and let them get it all out as he does this little rocking thing until they’re all out
  • He even hums a little bit, often a sweet song or maybe one of their favorites as a couple
  • His general responses are understanding hums and other soothing sounds like “I know” or “It’s okay” or “Let it out”
  • After S/O gets all those negative emotions out - and only then - Hunk starts speaking to them in this warm, comforting way. S/O can feel the rumble in his chest as he talks because he’s still holding them close.
  • Hunk offers a lot of kind words to his S/o. No matter how awful the situation feels to S/O, Hunk has a positive, uplifting thing to say that makes it seem not so bad. So much encouragement. Hunk gives them hope.

“Hey, it’s going to be okay. You’ve just going through a slump, that’s all. I know you’re great. You’re my best friend - just don’t tell Lance that.”

Pidge:

  • She’s just a kid who is really blunt and looks at things from her perspective a lot of the time, so she still needs to learn how to approach others while looking at their side of things and have a little more tact when it comes to other people’s feelings.
  • So, Pidge’s first response would be her immediate emotional reaction to her S/O lacking confidence.
  • What do you mean? Stop it - don’t say those kind of things! You’re wrong.
  • Not the best perhaps but hey, she’s upfront and honest. Her S/O can tell she really believes it when she tells them how funny and smart and pretty they are and they’re a really cool person and - and - and
  • Pidge has an entire list. She will ramble the whole thing off and more until S/O gets the message.
  • Once Pidge takes a moment to inhale, she stops and actually looks at her S/O and sees how upset they are so
  • She calms herself down and apologizes in a small, quiet voice while looking at the ground. 
  • Tells them how much she cares for and appreciates them, how they’re someone she really trusts and depends on, how it hurts when they don’t see what she sees ‘cause they really are that incredible
  • which is a Big Deal for Pidge because she’s still a little shy about those kinds of feelings and is private about them even with her S/O.
  • Reaches out to hold their hand and gives it a meaningful squeeze, finally looking them in the eye.
  • Pidge smiles, a little wobbly and shy, but so sincere.

“You’re honestly my best friend and I hate it when you - when you - I just want you to see yourself the way I do. I-I’m just really glad you’re here. With me.”

Allura:

Yessssss, someone finally requested my Space Queen.

  • Allura only has to take one look at her S/O’s face and she knows.
  • As soon as she senses that something is amiss with her S/O, the Altean princess is There and asking them if they’re alright, what’s wrong, are they ok
  • But not in a demanding way or like they’re being interrogated. Allura gently presses for them to open up to her but will absolutely give them space if they need. She only needs them to know she is Completely There For Them.
  • Sits down with them, maybe in a hologram similar to the flower-filled meadow she goes to when she talked with her father’s memory
  • Chooses an equally pretty, comforting “place” for them to sit together - maybe one familiar to S/O - and talk about what’s bothering S/O
  • S/O finds themselves laying back with their in head in her lap while Allura runs tenderly her fingers through their hair and listens, gently prompting them when they have a hard time getting the words out
  • Traces her S/O’s face, watching them with a gentle expression on her own
  • Allura is a strong, calming existence for her S/O as she listens attentively and tells them how important they are to her, that they are completely necessary and do so well in even the most impossible tasks. She’s a wonderful source of guidance for her S/O. With Allura’s commanding presence as a princess, her S/O can even believe the (to them) unbelievable.
  • Kisses them softly to emphasize those words

“Oh, my love. You are one of the kindest, most compassionate beings I’ve ever met. I just know you’ll do great things and am proud to have you by my side.”